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Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 14
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If it were me, I would mean I actually wanted to meet you. I can't speak for anyone else. I say what I mean and mean what I say, no games or secret language.
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 20
secret languauge of dating?
Posted: 8/30/2009 12:06:16 PM
Meg, you're reading way too into it. It's a lot more simpler than what you may think...

I know it's "tradition" for a decisive guy when he's going to ask a girl out to already have a date, time & place set up when he asks. But in the "online" world, girls tend to be weary and shy to meet someone AND they tend to be trigger-happy in assuming a guy's moving too fast to meet.

Thus, many times, guys will throw the notion out there to meet up and see how she responds. He's seeing if you're going to agree to meet up or going to be classical "I don't know... it seems too soon!"

If you're cool about meeting up, THEN he'll work with you on the date, time, and place. It's very simple.
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 22
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Posted: 8/30/2009 12:51:48 PM

he says "we must meet up" does he mean it literally...

OP, if your online chat went well and you both progressed to text messages/cell~mobile phones and he suggested the above, then call his bluff & suggest where and what time!
Whether he is true to his words - time will tell.
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