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 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 19
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interestedPage 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
Send him an email telling him that the second date confirmed what you suspected on the first date: there is no "spark."

Or, if you feel comfortable enough call him and tell him or wait until he calls you.

Do NOT give the silent, no answer treatment. That is childish, selfish, and cowardly.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 21
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
Posted: 8/27/2009 2:29:51 PM

Yup. Just be honest and direct.

Leave out the wonderful guy crap. That's a tired line. If he was so wonderful, you wouldn't be moving on.


 tbuddha
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 22
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
Posted: 8/27/2009 2:54:03 PM


A phone call is the high road. An email the middle road. Ignoring the low road.


Agreed
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 26
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
Posted: 8/27/2009 4:26:32 PM
Why wouldn't you have the decency to call the man and tell him those things? People are so quick to do the easy thing. Grow a spine and call the man. It isn't going to kill you. I would much rather be told over the phone than in an email. And if you can't work up the courage to do it on the phone, at the very least, send an email as opposed to doing a disappearing act. That is the ultimate in cowardly acts.
 callmelori
Joined: 12/3/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 8/27/2009 5:18:23 PM
krisc76 typed...
"Just call him and tell him...Maybe he feels the same way. Don't be a chicken... Treat him the way you would want to be treated. "

If I've only been out with someone on two dates, I'd prefer the email over the call. Personally, I'd get the hint on the disappearing act, too, but I don't think email is that bad. After two dates, what is there to discuss really?
 TigerinCalifornia
Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:32:42 PM
I would like for her to have the common decency to let me know she isn't interested instead of letting me wonder what I did wrong. Does that make sense?
 TigerinCalifornia
Joined: 8/31/2008
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:40:16 PM
I agree Gerry, nothing worse than being ignored and leaving you to ponder what you did wrong. I had dinner with someone I met on POF last Thursday and it seemed like we hit it off well, she even told me I would get a second date. She sent me a text on Sunday morning saying she was thinking about me and hope we could get together soon and thanking me for the beautiful texts and emails, that I was sweet, a gentleman, and appreciated. Since then, I have heard nothing, not a returned text, phone call or anything. It is like she disappeared off the face of the earth. I sent her an email tonight, not sure if she will read it but, the gist of it was I thanked her for last Thursday night, apologized if I said or did something wrong, wished her the best in her search, and said if she needed anything all she had to do was call. This is the type of person I am. Oh well, chalk it up to experience. You would think the games would be over with when you are in your late 40s and early 50s.
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 34
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:15:03 PM
If you aren't really close, a phone call is appropriate. But if you've talked for weeks, emailed and immed forever, then you need to suck it up and meet him for coffee or a glass of wine and do it face to face. Proper etiquette demands you have enough respect for him to do it gently and personally.

Beth
 KinChandlerAz
Joined: 8/13/2009
Msg: 35
How to tell someone you have dated twice you are no longer interested
Posted: 8/27/2009 10:53:16 PM
Easy to answer. You don't need to do anything, unless he invites you on a third date. If he invites you then politely decline.

No need to make some big declaration. He may not even ask you for that third date! You'd look like presumptuous and arrogant.

Oh, I see now you already wrote him. Good luck with that. I would have called. Writing it in email is so inconsiderate no matter how many times you've seen someone!
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