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 1989jeff
Joined: 9/15/2009
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Im 20 and still a virgin the way i think of it is better a virgin than having an std imo. Plus its not all that bad you just have to get a hobby focus your energy else where. It will happen for us all just give it time be patient.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 1/25/2010 11:21:15 PM
You lucky dog....now if you can stretch it to sixty, you've won!
 TheGoob
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 8/15/2010 5:17:42 AM

I think I am WAY different than almost any guy I hear say this. Why? Because almost all of them say the same thing. I'm shy, scared of talking to women, etc.

The thing is I am EXTREMELY confident with women, no problem talking to them, getting there numbers, asking them out. The problem is almost any girl I meet, no matter how much we seem to gel always tells me I'm, "not her type."

It gets very very annoying. I'm still a virgin as well, mostly because of this. I have just some terrible luck and my friends believe I am cursed. Any girl that shows interest in me usually has a bf and I went through a crazy terrible time with a girl that almost left her bf for me. Thank god she didn't though because that would've been trouble.

I seriously think there's way more luck in things than we put stock into.


Hey... I'm 26, and still haven;t had a girlfriend, the problem that I have is that I've been on a few dates with girls, but they'll find a better looking man than me, how does that fell? Like crap. The best we can do is just keep trying, even if it's been going on for so long... BUt with the luck that we have, we better find the perfect woman one day!
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 8/15/2010 5:58:57 AM
someone needs to grow the f*** up. i am turning 21 next week and still single. i may never find my S.O. Oh well,
 popcultureloverguy88
Joined: 8/25/2011
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 2/7/2012 1:56:53 AM
I quote "F*cking grow a pair. Seriously, man up. You need to have a spine, NO ONE respects a door mat, and you'll NEVER get a relationship without respect. Realize that YOU are in control of your own destiny and women don't OWE you shit, not a relationship, a bj, love, respect, sympathy, NONE of it.

You gotta EARN it. EARN it by realising that you don't NEED to have a chick to validate your existance, realize that people try to help you all the time, but your LAZY ass ALWAYS blames society instead of taking initiative and making yourself more attractive the opposite sex. ADAPT! Don't cry about women not wanting you, find out what they want and use that to make yourself more attractive.

If you dig dogs? Volunteer at a shelter. Line dancing, learn a language, be a tutor for college kids, DAMN ANYTHING. Get involved in life, don't watch it from the back seat, maybe then a woman would want to be your co-pilot.

Oh, and Be a Man."

Man I would kick your ass for saying that to him, punch your lights out, he had every right to complain, be pissed off, angry, frustrated.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 4/4/2012 5:53:13 PM
Men will have sex with just about anyone given the right circumstances, women not so much. Plenty of people are late bloomers and all in life is timing. If you try too hard and come across as needy that is a big turn off.
Some people choose to wait for the right one rather than just having a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend".
We are all different and there are no hard and fast rules. I can understand you wanting a long term relationship but surely that comes up after you have met the person?? Why are you not looking for sex at your age? You should be.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 4/4/2012 6:02:10 PM
Sangrial

Your rant is very unappealing. You say you could be with a woman every night if you want but it is obvious you cant get anyone to take you seriously, from what you say. Why is that?? Look at your own behaviour I would suggest. At your age you should be experimenting and who knows how a relationship will progress? No one knows if a one night stand will end there or not really. You are too young to be sweating this stuff. Have fun.
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 4/4/2012 6:09:04 PM



This sort of rant will get you nowhere. Generalising and inaccurate. Of course you hate being rejected and you will be often, if you are using this site. The reasons for that are down to you and not women. Men outnumber women hugely and most of those gals are just cruising on by looking for Tom Cruise who is just not going to be here. lol!
 Mfforal3
Joined: 4/25/2010
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 5/7/2012 2:48:53 PM
"You lucky dog....now if you can stretch it to sixty, you've won!"

Lmao!...This is true in a sense. Just get a hooker when you get the urge, it's cheaper than a girlfriend!!! haha.

But seriously dude your 22 no time to worry it will come..

Good luck! Cheers!
 fivefingerspleaser
Joined: 5/4/2012
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 5/7/2012 3:35:42 PM
OP, maybe your 'type' is someone of the XY chromosome persuasion? admit it.. many guys up until age 22 , plus, have trouble coming to grips with the fact that they are gay
 Neil7741
Joined: 7/21/2009
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 6/2/2012 11:03:47 AM
I'm 35 and have never had a proper relationship. I freak out at being touched, I just can't handle it. I'd really love to find someone who is patent with me but most girls can't be bothered.
 ArticLife
Joined: 2/25/2010
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Posted: 6/3/2012 12:43:53 AM

OP: there are more women than men in almost every locale in the world. If you've never had a girlfriend, then it's apparent that you have thought and behavior patterns which are preventing you from pursuing a potential girlfriend and getting one. Period. One of the biggest stumblingblocks for a lot of guys is that they tend to be attracted to women they're not really compatible with. Review how you're screening the women you pursue, and see if you need to adjust whom you're focusing on for dates and relationships.

Another thing to remember is that as a guy, you need to be assertive. I'm not saying you're not assertive, but too many guys take a passive role in dating and wait around for girls to approach them, call them, etc. That doesn't work well for most guys. YOU need to approach girls. YOU need to get the numbers. YOU need to call regularly. YOU need to plan and initiate dates. YOU need to be prepared to pick the girl up at her house if you're not meeting her at the venue. YOU need to suggest exclusivity when you have rapport with a certain girl. You need to expect to do those things all the time, and not see it as a burden. The guy should consistently (but respectfully) take the lead in dating-----always. Guys who don't have relationships often don't realize that they need to take the initiative every time.

Good luck. If you really want a girlfriend, you'll get one easily enough.


It only takes a few people to break a pointless social tradition that is no longer useful or necessary.

It takes a few men to simply say no, I'm not going to do all the work. You're not worth it. Seriously. How can I, as a person who values himself, think a relationship where I not only have to plan everything but also hold the financial burden, is fair? I cannot. I refuse to accept that.

It's accepted socially as the norm, but it's unfair. It will keep going on though, so long as men value sex over their pride. Do take note that I am not in any way suggesting the roles be reserved, but merely that they be even. Fair is fair. There's no reason why it can't be.
 sooperguy
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Posted: 6/4/2012 9:30:19 AM
Sounds exactly like me at your age...always the friend but bottom line, not edgy enough to be boyfriend material.

My personal experience has shown me that women want a good man that has some roughness. Do not put the "**** on a pedestal". I did this when I was young...felt that women were practically perfect and psyched myself out. I never felt I could measure up to them.

After being burned a few times, I came to the obvious realization that women are no better or worse than me. I felt comfortable with being myself with an attitude of****/funny and have had excellent success. Mystery is incredibly important, don't play all your cards upfront!
 34mlancsuk
Joined: 3/28/2009
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 6/4/2012 2:46:33 PM
my god i wish i was 22 again.

iam 38 now and ive never and i say never had any type of relationshp with any 1 at all male or female.
always been single not for trying tho
 tr1290
Joined: 4/5/2011
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 9/4/2012 7:06:23 PM
Being 21...a virgin as well, looked as the "nice guy" honestly I know at this point what matters most is getting your act together. Get an education...better yet know your goals and aspirations in life. I still have very much to learn yet we as adults tend to think too damn deep into our own thoughts we get lost. We should learn from our mistakes and learn from others!
 Lionesse19
Joined: 3/30/2012
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 9/4/2012 11:10:56 PM
No such thing as luck. If a girl does not fancy you, she has a right to her preferences and we dont know what you look like or how you behave that may be putting them off. You are young yet and perhaps when you mature a bit you may attract a girl that wants to take your virginity. Some guys go to a prossie for the first and will show you the way of things. .
 PopCultureGeek
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 5/25/2018 4:58:04 AM
seriously, if it was legalized, I wish I could kill that ***hole who said that
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 5/28/2018 4:00:37 AM
Once you get over your fear you WILL be fine and once you realize we all put our clothes on one leg at a time things will get better....after being on some of these sights I find one things sure.....its a bust...and if the other sex makes you nervous its because that happens....good thing...makes you check yourself all the time...lol..look for single woman also...unless your a drama mongrel...….good luck and be safe!....being a virgins not a bad thing!
 sun_water
Joined: 5/26/2018
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22, Never had a girlfriend
Posted: 5/29/2018 8:15:44 PM
This post was from 9 years ago. I would hope the OP at age 31 has or had a girlfriend by now. LOL.
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