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 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 326
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Funny how this kind of logic works......If a guy in texas meets a woman online 6 hours flying time away in New York, its ok. But if she is 6 hours away in another country, then OOooohhhh, suddenly its considered taboo and only losers do that. WHATEVER!


You are not really reading what most of the men who are fans of this say about women in general. Most times you guys can't just shut up and go do it. No, you have to insult everyone who does not choose this and that's the issue most of us have with this.

You guys consistently "blame" women for this, but you never once look in the mirror to see if you might be lacking. It always comes across as someone else's fault. AND that is what makes you a loser.

I do know men who have gone overseas and I never once heard them say anything detrimental about women in North America. They just went and did it. They are certainly not losers to me because they are happy and don't feel the need to put other women or people down. That said, there is at least one man on here who is doing it and suggesting it without having to prove his point by posting derogatory remarks about women. No, he is making it about how it will make HIM happy. He doesn't feel the need to put anyone down.

Besides, this thread is NOT about foreign brides. Whatever thread you are in, you make it about that. Snoozefest.

As for your so-called facts, Dr. Laura is a radio celebrity. Many people like that don't necessarily believe everything they say - they are simply being the voice of dissent because someone's gotta do it and it brings them the $$$. Sorta like a politician.....Besides who the hell is she to even comment on this? She's not even a stay at home mom. She's probably the essence of the type of woman you guys hate.

There are plenty of women here like you seek. Only men like you don't want them because they aren't hot enough. You guys are just like everyone else, thinking you are entitled to MORE (i.e. the hot chick). Meh.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 327
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 6/16/2011 2:37:59 AM
^^^oh definitely, I'm the first one to say that however I've found that on here many people only contact the most attractive people and often contact people who are way more attractive than they have ever dated in real life. I'm not saying that people shouldn't contact people like this because you never know what one person will find attractive.

But sometimes you gotta wonder, especially for those folks who are pretty fit being contacted by men who do no physical activity and have a pot.

Myself, I gauged the men I dated in real life and always went for a similar type.
 Sexygurl1974
Joined: 3/31/2011
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Posted: 6/16/2011 1:18:34 PM
I view the question both ways. At what age do you give up dating alltogether? That would make for a great topic.

It is a broader subject but quite a frustrating one, considering some of the challenges that are faced.

Back to the OP:

I gave myself a certain Age and then didn't meet the deadline and had to change it several times. Now I am thinking I won't have children at all because I would want to have a solid and stable relationship first which I could forsee would last for a while. This seems SO HARD to come by these days. I wouldn't expect it to last forever, but just to FORSEE that it could last for "a while." I haven't had a relationsip where a marriage would have worked, so I haven't been married and haven't been pregnant. NOT ME.

Out of frustration of being judged I changed my profile to Divorced. I feel that I have lived so little ....sometimes.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 6/17/2011 7:00:24 AM
You hear about problems with "Russian brides" (fraud, etc). I wonder how many of them get here and legitimately realize that the man they married is not within their league in American society.

As to the OT:
You can date as long as you like. You can continue dating into your 70s or 80s, if you live that long. Often life is about compromises; if you meet someone in your 40s, you will never be able to have the "young couple experience" with that person. It is up to the individual whether such compromises are acceptable. As I've said before, I don't find the context of post 30s dating very appealing.
 GreenTabasco
Joined: 1/6/2011
Msg: 330
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Posted: 6/17/2011 9:37:11 AM
the whole paradigm is changing. Kids were popular in the 60's and 70's. Soulmates went out in the 90's. Now its meeting new people and keeping an open mind that counts,
beware of finding that right person, for the sake of settling down, it gets boring real fast.
You get tired of smelling his farts, he gets tired of your snoring.

 localsparkyMI
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 331
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Posted: 6/18/2011 5:46:15 PM
words to live by...awesome!
 rpmorri
Joined: 2/27/2011
Msg: 332
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Posted: 6/19/2011 12:12:31 AM
"no matter what age u are remember this like puppies kids are for life and cost a hell of a lot more money."

Fixed.

Far as the original post: I'm 40 in a couple of months...I gave up a long time ago. Your mileage may vary.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 333
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Posted: 6/20/2011 3:36:14 PM
TODAY looks like a good day to give up, the nice thing is if you put it up on the fridge and wake up tomorrow .... it is now again TODAY and still a great day to give up -move on, move over, move out, opt out, quit the game.
 synfeld45
Joined: 11/21/2008
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Posted: 6/20/2011 8:27:06 PM
I'm in my middle 40's. I still hope, but honestly have given up also. I really, really wanted a great friendship then great relationship, but I guess it's not meant to be for me. It's a reality that I have found very difficult to come to grips with, because I know I would make a great husband. I do feel your pain. I have a lot to give someone, but you have to be "lucky" and find the person you connect with. I wish you well as I do others....good luck.
 bsmith1976
Joined: 9/24/2008
Msg: 335
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Posted: 6/20/2011 9:15:52 PM
Never thought about that, but I'm quickly approaching that time.
 MsSookieStackhouse
Joined: 4/26/2011
Msg: 336
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Posted: 6/28/2011 5:43:29 AM

I still hope, but honestly have given up also. I really, really wanted a great friendship then great relationship, but I guess it's not meant to be for me. It's a reality that I have found very difficult to come to grips with...


Ditto...it's a hard reality to face when you're certain that something you want so badly isn't in the cards.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 337
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Posted: 6/28/2011 5:16:28 PM
Depends on the person and all the crap that has been dealt to them..At some point in life you will fold.It does get kind of old after a while...
 Want_You_2010
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 338
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Posted: 7/1/2011 9:52:27 PM
We are not all destined to be with someone.
 avenged_temperance
Joined: 3/15/2011
Msg: 339
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Posted: 7/1/2011 10:29:08 PM
Agreed. Never settle for second best or to be second best, it's doomed to fail.
 jared1977
Joined: 6/9/2011
Msg: 340
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Posted: 7/2/2011 1:42:58 AM
I'm 34 with no kids and never in my life gave up and you should never give up for any reason.
 Want_You_2010
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 341
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Posted: 7/2/2011 10:52:10 PM
Who says giving up is not a good choice? Not everyone has the same experiences as the other person.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 342
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 7/4/2011 11:50:51 AM
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Seein’ nothing, still noticin its still empty’
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Kinda gettin down , kinda depressed
Gonna catch a mood, I see I have no friends :(

Kickin’ in my head in, what a dead beat
Dressin like a metro, a piece of meat
Gotta make my mind up
Which day should I give up?

It’s Today, Today
Gonna give the F' up Today
Everybody’s lookin’ and fishin and on and on and on
Today, Today
Gonna F'n quit Today
Everybody’s fishin’ just another lame weekend

Clickin’, Chattin’ (Bleh)
Searchin’, Mailin’ (Bleh)
DONE, DONE, DONE, DONE
Not another lonely F*cken weekend

7:45, Be communtin to a pointless job
Stuck in traffic, what a pedantic slob
Done, done, thinking its all over done
You know what it is?
I got this, stupid notion
My friend is already out every nite
I got this, this pathetic lonely life
You kNow what? DONE

Clickin’, Chattin’ (Bleh)
Searchin’, Mailin’ (Bleh)
DONE, DONE, DONE, DONE
Not another lonely F*cken weekend

It’s Today, Today
Gonna give the F' up Today
Everybody’s lookin’ and fishin and on and on and on
Today, Today
Gonna F'n quit Today
Everybody’s fishin’ just another lame weekend

Gettin’ down with it Today
Everybody’s trollin over another dumb weekend

Clickin’, Chattin’ (Bleh)
Searchin’, Mailin’ (Bleh)
DONE, DONE, DONE, DONE
Not another lonely F*cken weekend

Yesterday was Pointless, Worthless
Today i-is the last day, Last day (Deletin’)
Me-me-me so bored
Me so dead
Me so quitting it all today

Tomorrow is Saturday
And Sunday comes after...wards
I cant wait to blow up my computer
my flippin I phone, my black berry

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Fade to Black
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In the game seat (playin Halo cant be beat)
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Wit’ a mic hook up, maybe I play WOW
(C’mon) Rollin as the elfin Lord, Hoblin a Zork
Maybe some porn tickity d|ckitty dock, wanna scream
Check my time, it’s Friday, it’s a weekend
I gonna be this lame the rest of my weekends

It’s Today, Today
Gonna give the F' up Today
Everybody’s lookin’ and fishin and on and on and on
Today, Today
Gonna F'n quit Today
Everybody’s lookin’ just another lame weekend

Fishin’, mailin’ (WHY?)
Likin’, giftin’ (WHY)
DUMB, DUMB, DUMB, DUMB
Quitin this eff'n weekend

It’s Today, Today
Gonna give the F' up Today
Everybody’s lookin’ and fishin and on and on and on
Today, Today
Gonna F'n quit Today
Everybody’s lookin’ just another lame weekend

Readin’, postin’ (WHY?)
Quessin’, mopin’ (MEH!)
DONE, DONE, DUMB, DONE
Quitin this eff'n weekend

Come on, thats funny right there, I dont care who you are.
 SaucyArtist
Joined: 5/1/2010
Msg: 343
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Posted: 7/4/2011 3:13:24 PM
I'm too much of a poet to give up on love...no matter how battered my heart is. I think it depends on your core self. If you're comfortable being alone and totally independent than it's likely easier to give into cynicism.

I am okay with being alone, however, I know that the right person can make things so much better...I'll never stop looking. Once you've had a taste of love...it's just hard to give up the dream... :)
 lovelvbliss
Joined: 5/12/2010
Msg: 344
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Posted: 7/6/2011 12:00:01 AM
I just read this article the other day "No baby boom".
Like you, I'm in my mid 30's with no prospects at all for dating, let alone a family. So the thoughts of giving up that type of future has crossed my mind. Then I realized that just because we were raised to believe, you grow up, go to college, start a career, find a partner, start a family, retire. Doesn't mean we have to settle for that pattern in life. And according to this article, many of us are in fact changing that pattern.

Worth a Read:
http://www.details.com/culture-trends/critical-eye/201104/no-baby-boom-non-breeders?mbid=synd_yshine
 the_better_one
Joined: 6/3/2011
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Posted: 7/6/2011 12:56:44 AM
never..i am almost 40..next yr..and have been burned to the limit but i believe there is a true love out there for me!! there has to be!!! i am way to pretty to stay single forever!!!
 SapporoArtois
Joined: 6/9/2011
Msg: 346
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:33:16 AM
Ever consider adoption?
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 347
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Posted: 7/7/2011 3:56:34 PM
I have to respectly disagree^^^^The most happiest people i have ever met have never been preetty much single all their lives..The most miserable people that i have met are married.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 348
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Posted: 7/7/2011 6:41:17 PM
^^^did you ever consider that maybe your circle only consists of those types of people?
 redfox21
Joined: 6/14/2010
Msg: 349
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Posted: 7/7/2011 8:35:06 PM
I'm 22 and I've pretty much given up, especially since I come across way older than my age...so that combined with bright red hair pretty much kills my chances LOL

I actually had a girl tell me the other day out of the blue, "I'd never date a ginger, don't want ginger kids."
 BlueEyedGuy1974
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 350
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Posted: 7/7/2011 9:39:26 PM
All I can say is never give up, but also don't hold out all your hopes on the idea that you will get what you want. Always be happy with what you have and what you get. That way no matter what life gives you will always be happy about what life gave you.
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