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 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 401
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I have "given up" many times. Eventually I always try again. My heart isn't always in it though.
 apinlondon123
Joined: 9/2/2010
Msg: 402
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Posted: 11/15/2011 9:44:53 AM
I am not going to give up ever. My mom told me to never quit and always try. besides no one likes a quitter.

lol
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/15/2011 11:42:31 PM
domo31 - you might be well-served to put up a better profile picture. The Halloween picture is cute, but you have no pictures of your face with a decent resolution. Get your hair done, put on some makeup, and have someone (preferably with experience) take some headshots in good lighting. My guess is that you will have many, many more interested men.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/15/2011 11:45:35 PM
and redfox21 - give me a break. You are obviously very good looking, though you do fall into a "type." My guess is that any failure to perceive you as hot is due to your bearing, attitude, and social charms.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 405
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Posted: 11/16/2011 7:47:17 AM
Here's my current thinking.
If you are genuinely unpartnered and have a profile on a dating site-you have NOT "given up".
You may indeed be highly selective in whom you date...or, you may be here to meet people for social/casual dating(with or without sex), or simply to evaluate "what's out there".
Yes, I acknowledge those who are "only here for the forums", either as standard operating procedure or "taking a break from dating",and those who have found a pair-bond yet stay for friendships, the forums,etc.

But, bottom line, there IS an interest in romance,dating, sex,etc,even if it is academic.

Otherwise( and I do recognize that PoF has many other forums that touch on sports, cooking, humor,current events,etc)-if one wants to debate and discuss politics, quantum physics, automotive engineering,or any other topic not related to dating, romance, pair-bond relationships. I'm fairly certain that they could find websites, chat rooms, blogs or other web locations structured as forums, that do not have dating, relationships and matchmaking as their CORE purpose,where they could discuss and debate to their hearts content.
In short, if you have a profile here on PoF- you HAVE NOT given up.
Res ipsa loquitur.
Cindy O
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2011 9:49:25 PM
Interesting that you jump to the extreme of "caking your face with makeup." One wears makeup for photographs for the same reason that one wears makeup when appearing on television: bright lighting and the manner in which the camera records images do not always produce the most flattering results.

The reason I suggested getting someone skilled in camera work - particularly headshots - is that most people aren't "good with photos." That is why a good photographer will make the environment conducive to displaying your best qualities, and take many shots to get the ones that show you off well. Photos are not like seeing someone in real life. When you meet someone in person, you can see different expressions, see how animated they are, see them from a variety of angles, and so on. Photographs omit much of the information that we commonly use to determine how attractive a person is, and emphasize or even add information that we would otherwise disregard.

And again, I never suggested "showing nothing" nor "showing everything." Nor did I suggest looking like a barbie. Why are you jumping to such extremes? Tasteful, light makeup, hair styling, a pretty top, and a decent photographer who can help you take and select a good picture.

Remember - YOU are the one complaining about the kind of men who are messaging you. YOU are the one complaining that you'd rather not be single. I'm giving you constructive criticism, which you just blow off and misinterpret. You know what they say - do what you've always done and get what you've always gotten.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 407
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Posted: 11/17/2011 6:45:18 AM
Some people are better looking from far away. And some people (very large people) probably are MORE sucessful without a photo.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 408
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Posted: 11/17/2011 6:45:59 AM
And the librarian look is EXACTLY what I am looking for.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/17/2011 9:32:16 AM
You're right - I should've specified a *creative* photographer. That would've made all the difference.

"A pretty top" meant something attractive *to you*. Not a t-shirt. And where did I say no makeup? Which is it? Am I telling you to "cake it on," or am I telling you to go au-naturale? Is "caking it on" dressing up like a "barbie" or is leaving it off "boring?"

Once again - I was trying to give YOU some assistance. But more and more, your problems seem like a self-inflicted wound. Good luck.
 StealthyNinjaKitty
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 410
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Posted: 11/17/2011 11:45:49 AM
I always said that I'd give up on the idea of having kids once I hit 35. But here I am, just a few months from turning 34, and not ready to resign myself to being childless. Now whether or not I find the "right person" to have a family with remains to be seen, thus far it's not looking too favorable, but there's always adoption or the turkey baster method if I decide to try single parenthood right off the bat. Or maybe I'll change my mind and decide that being the favored "aunt" is a role I'm perfectly comfortable with. I don't know, but I'm not ready to take the option of having kids off the table just yet. Everyone is going to have a different answer, of course, and what you decide should be what's right for YOU.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/17/2011 1:41:37 PM

Im not a prude and I dont deal well with people who are thats just me. Life is too short not to be openminded to a point


What does that have to do with the price of tea in China? You could take a picture in a bikini if you so chose - my suggestion was just that it be done professionally. Get your story straight. First you accuse me of telling you to tart up, then you accuse me of being prudish. My suggestions were all about marketing, and not at all about the specific look you should aim for, let alone moral considerations of said look.
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 412
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Posted: 11/17/2011 2:55:01 PM
Domo…. How many threads have you hijacked with your Woe is Me Pity Party? Enough already. Lots of people have given you excellent advice…repeatedly…. and tried to gently tell you that your attitude stinks. It's getting old, okay?

If you want some personal feedback start your own thread.
 Mikemiller2011
Joined: 10/31/2011
Msg: 413
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:28:16 PM
I have known people who did not have kids until their late 30's and even early 40's and got married. I think in general most guys should wait until 30 or over before they even think of getting married or having kids. Get the wild oats out of system and get established with education, career, home, and other things.

Hey, I have had a "losing" streak lately, have got a lot of dates the past year (not off of this site), but never lead to second date. I am in that area of" if they are into me, and I not into them, and if I am in to them, they are not into me". Do not give up though and keep trying!
 trplfire39
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 414
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Posted: 11/20/2011 10:55:46 PM
guyd42...we're so happy you got a vasectomy! :D
 ABCLynn
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 415
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:09:18 PM
I am now in my 50's and felt the same at your age. When you're in your 60's I think you'd rather be taking care of a teenager than no one. My 50-yr.old friend just adopted an 8-yr. old girl after an adoption with a younger couple fell through. She& her husband already have 4 grown children and 2 teenagers. So... I would work on doing things that make you feel good, join clubs and someone will find you...or you can always adopt.
 ABCLynn
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 416
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:11:46 PM
I don't think you need to give up...maybe just think about other things to make you feel good. Appreciate friends and family if they're good to you. Get a hobby, take a night course...not to necessarily meet someone, just to feel good about yourself... Then, someone may come into your life when you're least expecting. At least you'll have fun in the meantime and know your worthwhile.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
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Posted: 11/26/2011 10:09:20 PM
I would like to remain positive about my chances of meeting someone special.
But I gotta admit, it is hard.

I cannot say my life hasn't been blessed. I've just been in a relationship just earlier this year. We began in June of 2010 so I'd say the love lasted a while.

But after that relationship drew to a close, I really began to feel very bitter about the whole thing.

I don't want to visit the sins of past relationships on future ones, but I cannot help it at this point. I still have this baggage. I kept writing but got no answers except silence on the other end. Not knowing exactly why I suppose is the hardest part of this.

We are all just trying to find our way around this world. Hopefully, we'll love someone again.

but each time it is hard to get back on track and be happy and excited for someone new.
I guess it's because the growing cynic in me tells me it's not really someone new. That they're all the same when it comes down to it...

And that's what makes it harder and harder for me to stay positive about this.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 418
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Posted: 11/26/2011 10:38:47 PM
Do it tomorrow.

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Thanks

Since I have to be fair; I should tell you "I wouldnt".



and on....



and on..

Blame the beer and beats

You give up!?

Can I ask WHY?

Goals, dreams, kicks, legacy, prep for whetever lies next....keep practicin....even pretend!

<div class='quote'>We are all just trying to find our way around this world

God man.....AMEN!!


Hopefully, we'll love


Or recognize when we do not any longer hu.
 onio55
Joined: 6/30/2010
Msg: 419
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Posted: 11/29/2011 1:10:08 PM
Do not give up. If you want to start a family, do it asap. My brothers have started a family in their 50's . I did have my son when I was 30 and I would not change a thing. however at fifty I HAVE NO INTENTION OF HAVING A CHILD. Your energy level diminishes with age and if you want a child find some one ASAP. the blessed trinity is the mom dad and child, mho
 kevination
Joined: 11/17/2011
Msg: 420
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Posted: 11/29/2011 3:51:55 PM
My grandfather had his last child in his 50s.

The father of my ex 26 year old ex girlfriends child was 61.

Relax. you got time.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
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Posted: 11/30/2011 4:44:20 PM
I gave up a few months ago.
But one never knows when life gives you that little tantalizing nudge and makes you foolishly hope again... I won't discount that from happening...
Life has a way of throwing you that wicked little bone just as you think you're done. Sadomasochistic, really.

But yeah, one of the posters on here I agree with; those who have truly given up aren't even on this forum or even leave their homes or socialize in any way anymore.
They're just done and waiting for their number to be called.

 KatarzynaS
Joined: 1/17/2012
Msg: 422
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Posted: 5/31/2012 8:31:48 AM
Message: wow someone is slightly bitter on the post above mine.

It seems that people do not want to settle down anymore and just date 300 guys and it's unfortunate for us guys that want to start a family and have kids but hey you just have to keep chugging along and maybe someone special will come along.

as for me I want to be married by the time I am 30 (16 months away) and then in a year or 2 past that I want kids so I hear ya

Well I hear u mu ex fiancé left 2 mo before I turns d30 n now so hard to find one to find someone to get married and have family with all good a taken n even I I spot decent one he doesn't want me so yeah what is good time to give up?
 Phil72471
Joined: 2/18/2008
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Posted: 5/31/2012 5:46:11 PM
Havent you read her posts? She is SOOOOO open minded
LOL Yeah right...
 wildlifelover1979
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 424
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Posted: 6/2/2012 3:13:38 PM
I gave up about 16 years ago! LOL! Being 32 now and seeing how shallow most women are today. They may say they aren't shallow but they are. It is obvious when most women women e-mail you back or even read your messages. Literally it is true you have to have a bodybuilder body and/or have a huge house with alot of money before any woman will date you.
 ThusSpokeZarathustra
Joined: 4/24/2012
Msg: 425
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Posted: 6/2/2012 3:37:49 PM

Both men and women go after the few attractive people than both genders **** and moan. its a cycle

Then be one of the brave souls who breaks the cycle.
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