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 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Ive given up at least until I get down to 120 to be able to date the guys that im attracted to
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/15/2011 11:42:31 PM
domo31 - you might be well-served to put up a better profile picture. The Halloween picture is cute, but you have no pictures of your face with a decent resolution. Get your hair done, put on some makeup, and have someone (preferably with experience) take some headshots in good lighting. My guess is that you will have many, many more interested men.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/15/2011 11:45:35 PM
and redfox21 - give me a break. You are obviously very good looking, though you do fall into a "type." My guess is that any failure to perceive you as hot is due to your bearing, attitude, and social charms.
 Coma White
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 604
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Posted: 11/15/2011 11:48:33 PM
I'm interested in Domo31 because she has a Halloween picture as her profile picture.
But on a serious note, I know people that have "given up" in the sense that they never leave the house and do social things anymore. I play in three bands, I joined a karaoke contest, and I do other things. You never know where you might meet some cool people.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/16/2011 4:30:00 AM
lmao I refuse to cake my face with makeup to look like a hoochie like most women do. Imnot good with photos anyways. My pic is different sorry if it isnt showing off everything or being like a librarian and showing nothing like most on here. if I need to look like a barbie to find a man forget it
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 606
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Posted: 11/16/2011 7:47:17 AM
Here's my current thinking.
If you are genuinely unpartnered and have a profile on a dating site-you have NOT "given up".
You may indeed be highly selective in whom you date...or, you may be here to meet people for social/casual dating(with or without sex), or simply to evaluate "what's out there".
Yes, I acknowledge those who are "only here for the forums", either as standard operating procedure or "taking a break from dating",and those who have found a pair-bond yet stay for friendships, the forums,etc.

But, bottom line, there IS an interest in romance,dating, sex,etc,even if it is academic.

Otherwise( and I do recognize that PoF has many other forums that touch on sports, cooking, humor,current events,etc)-if one wants to debate and discuss politics, quantum physics, automotive engineering,or any other topic not related to dating, romance, pair-bond relationships. I'm fairly certain that they could find websites, chat rooms, blogs or other web locations structured as forums, that do not have dating, relationships and matchmaking as their CORE purpose,where they could discuss and debate to their hearts content.
In short, if you have a profile here on PoF- you HAVE NOT given up.
Res ipsa loquitur.
Cindy O
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/16/2011 9:49:25 PM
Interesting that you jump to the extreme of "caking your face with makeup." One wears makeup for photographs for the same reason that one wears makeup when appearing on television: bright lighting and the manner in which the camera records images do not always produce the most flattering results.

The reason I suggested getting someone skilled in camera work - particularly headshots - is that most people aren't "good with photos." That is why a good photographer will make the environment conducive to displaying your best qualities, and take many shots to get the ones that show you off well. Photos are not like seeing someone in real life. When you meet someone in person, you can see different expressions, see how animated they are, see them from a variety of angles, and so on. Photographs omit much of the information that we commonly use to determine how attractive a person is, and emphasize or even add information that we would otherwise disregard.

And again, I never suggested "showing nothing" nor "showing everything." Nor did I suggest looking like a barbie. Why are you jumping to such extremes? Tasteful, light makeup, hair styling, a pretty top, and a decent photographer who can help you take and select a good picture.

Remember - YOU are the one complaining about the kind of men who are messaging you. YOU are the one complaining that you'd rather not be single. I'm giving you constructive criticism, which you just blow off and misinterpret. You know what they say - do what you've always done and get what you've always gotten.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 6:08:16 AM
Because I dont want to be like everyone else with the boring lame same type of photo. You must understand that much. A pretty top meaning librarian look for you right? And no makeup huh? Sorry most women dont want to be boring. Have you never noticed that
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 6:45:18 AM
Some people are better looking from far away. And some people (very large people) probably are MORE sucessful without a photo.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 6:45:59 AM
And the librarian look is EXACTLY what I am looking for.
 avatarak_
Joined: 12/8/2010
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Posted: 11/17/2011 9:32:16 AM
You're right - I should've specified a *creative* photographer. That would've made all the difference.

"A pretty top" meant something attractive *to you*. Not a t-shirt. And where did I say no makeup? Which is it? Am I telling you to "cake it on," or am I telling you to go au-naturale? Is "caking it on" dressing up like a "barbie" or is leaving it off "boring?"

Once again - I was trying to give YOU some assistance. But more and more, your problems seem like a self-inflicted wound. Good luck.
 StealthyNinjaKitty
Joined: 11/8/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 11:45:49 AM
I always said that I'd give up on the idea of having kids once I hit 35. But here I am, just a few months from turning 34, and not ready to resign myself to being childless. Now whether or not I find the "right person" to have a family with remains to be seen, thus far it's not looking too favorable, but there's always adoption or the turkey baster method if I decide to try single parenthood right off the bat. Or maybe I'll change my mind and decide that being the favored "aunt" is a role I'm perfectly comfortable with. I don't know, but I'm not ready to take the option of having kids off the table just yet. Everyone is going to have a different answer, of course, and what you decide should be what's right for YOU.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 11:59:39 AM
Im not a prude and I dont deal well with people who are thats just me. Life is too short not to be openminded to a point
 avatarak_
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Posted: 11/17/2011 1:41:37 PM

Im not a prude and I dont deal well with people who are thats just me. Life is too short not to be openminded to a point


What does that have to do with the price of tea in China? You could take a picture in a bikini if you so chose - my suggestion was just that it be done professionally. Get your story straight. First you accuse me of telling you to tart up, then you accuse me of being prudish. My suggestions were all about marketing, and not at all about the specific look you should aim for, let alone moral considerations of said look.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 2:26:31 PM
Uh ok. I dont want to argue. Everyone likes what they like
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
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Posted: 11/17/2011 2:55:01 PM
Domo…. How many threads have you hijacked with your Woe is Me Pity Party? Enough already. Lots of people have given you excellent advice…repeatedly…. and tried to gently tell you that your attitude stinks. It's getting old, okay?

If you want some personal feedback start your own thread.
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 3:24:50 PM
I get it you are right but Im frustrated and for people being mean as hell like sexy how are you a good person for putting me down? Im frustrated and how dare you say I liked and asked to get beat you are a jerk
 Mikemiller2011
Joined: 10/31/2011
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:28:16 PM
I have known people who did not have kids until their late 30's and even early 40's and got married. I think in general most guys should wait until 30 or over before they even think of getting married or having kids. Get the wild oats out of system and get established with education, career, home, and other things.

Hey, I have had a "losing" streak lately, have got a lot of dates the past year (not off of this site), but never lead to second date. I am in that area of" if they are into me, and I not into them, and if I am in to them, they are not into me". Do not give up though and keep trying!
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
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Posted: 11/20/2011 6:37:11 PM
Same thing here. I send emails and get nothing back. I get very few emails when I do they are from either black guys or men over 40 and thats creepy imo
 trplfire39
Joined: 11/1/2011
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Posted: 11/20/2011 10:55:46 PM
guyd42...we're so happy you got a vasectomy! :D
 ABCLynn
Joined: 11/23/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:09:18 PM
I am now in my 50's and felt the same at your age. When you're in your 60's I think you'd rather be taking care of a teenager than no one. My 50-yr.old friend just adopted an 8-yr. old girl after an adoption with a younger couple fell through. She& her husband already have 4 grown children and 2 teenagers. So... I would work on doing things that make you feel good, join clubs and someone will find you...or you can always adopt.
 ABCLynn
Joined: 11/23/2011
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Posted: 11/26/2011 8:11:46 PM
I don't think you need to give up...maybe just think about other things to make you feel good. Appreciate friends and family if they're good to you. Get a hobby, take a night course...not to necessarily meet someone, just to feel good about yourself... Then, someone may come into your life when you're least expecting. At least you'll have fun in the meantime and know your worthwhile.
 WanderingRain
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Posted: 11/26/2011 10:09:20 PM
I would like to remain positive about my chances of meeting someone special.
But I gotta admit, it is hard.

I cannot say my life hasn't been blessed. I've just been in a relationship just earlier this year. We began in June of 2010 so I'd say the love lasted a while.

But after that relationship drew to a close, I really began to feel very bitter about the whole thing.

I don't want to visit the sins of past relationships on future ones, but I cannot help it at this point. I still have this baggage. I kept writing but got no answers except silence on the other end. Not knowing exactly why I suppose is the hardest part of this.

We are all just trying to find our way around this world. Hopefully, we'll love someone again.

but each time it is hard to get back on track and be happy and excited for someone new.
I guess it's because the growing cynic in me tells me it's not really someone new. That they're all the same when it comes down to it...

And that's what makes it harder and harder for me to stay positive about this.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
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Posted: 11/26/2011 10:38:47 PM
Do it tomorrow.

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Thanks

Since I have to be fair; I should tell you "I wouldnt".



and on....



and on..

Blame the beer and beats

You give up!?

Can I ask WHY?

Goals, dreams, kicks, legacy, prep for whetever lies next....keep practicin....even pretend!

<div class='quote'>We are all just trying to find our way around this world

God man.....AMEN!!


Hopefully, we'll love


Or recognize when we do not any longer hu.
 onio55
Joined: 6/30/2010
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Posted: 11/29/2011 1:10:08 PM
Do not give up. If you want to start a family, do it asap. My brothers have started a family in their 50's . I did have my son when I was 30 and I would not change a thing. however at fifty I HAVE NO INTENTION OF HAVING A CHILD. Your energy level diminishes with age and if you want a child find some one ASAP. the blessed trinity is the mom dad and child, mho
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