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 BeautyInU
Joined: 12/14/2009
Msg: 101
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... when you can not attract anyone at all


Negative self-talk is a top attractiveness killer.
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 102
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At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/11/2010 5:22:09 PM

Negative self-talk is a top attractiveness killer

It is not being negative, it is being realist, and the reallity is that some of us can not get to attract anyone
And another fact is that by the time anyone get to 30 years old, if you have not found anyone you will never find anyone, and that is a proven fact
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 103
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Posted: 1/12/2010 5:32:17 AM
And again that is your opinion....My life experences tell me that majority of women like getting treated like crap...I mean why do you think after a woman leaves a abuser then she is back with another loser..I have yet in my lifetime see Mr.JERK/LOSER stay single...Women are waiting in line for these POS...More power to them...Personally i do not have time for screw up people..Got better things to do
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 104
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Posted: 1/12/2010 6:09:45 AM
WOW!!!I did not know i had to date a woman to know that she has been with losers...GOSH!!!!After i observe the men she has been with has no job,abuser,drug addict..Pretty much no life...I assure you i can take a hint what kind of man she likes..I mean she sleeps with this POS...Even has kids with this POS...It seems to me you have a problem with my post..So you can FLAME ON...I could careless with your sarcastic smily faces....Here on out i will not post any thing about your rubbish...SO FLAME ON!!!!!!
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 105
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:38:08 AM
you mean you didnt make it your resolution for New Years Eve?

This year I want to be more bitter, more jaded, more exclusive with my ever expanding list, I will be that Emo guy, the Bad Guy, the Nice Guy, the Old Guy and the Money bags. This year I resolve to only have casual meaningless sex with random girls that are younger at each iteration !

Or was that just my toast for the year ?
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 106
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/13/2010 1:57:52 AM
OP,
I've seen people's paradigms change in their 60's. Some just shrivel up and others are out having a great time now that they no longer work. Not sure how that would translate to kids at that age...except the kids would be grown or just about by then. Women are having babies later, but not much after early 40's (becomes more difficult for them to conceive) so you'd be in your early 60's when the kids were adults...would coincide well with retirement. You've got another 15 yrs (assuming she's a few yrs younger than you) or so left, so don't get so panicky now. The other thing is, by time you hit 40's what seemed so important in the 20's and 30's often loses its importance. You get a mind shift...very common. You kinda wonder who made all the rules you've lived by...and you start making your own rules and you feel a sense of freedom like you've never felt before. It's not a matter of giving up...

Anyway, if marriage and kids are in the cards for you (and statistically, it is), it'll happen eventually. You have plenty of time. LOL let's just hope the divorce part doesn't also happen as it seems to so often these days! In the interim, work on your career or education, and work on making a great life for yourself all other ways too. That's sort of a magnet for people to boot...they sense it and want to be part of it!
 BeautyInU
Joined: 12/14/2009
Msg: 107
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Posted: 1/13/2010 2:06:26 PM
The guy finally give up because the girl refuses to smile.

Watch this very funny video at

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao

 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 108
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/13/2010 2:48:42 PM
op,
it's a personal decision. people don't give up at any age when successful, and that aplies to almost any endeavor (not limited to the romantic only). i would suggest, if you're feeling beaten down, that you simply take some time off until you, once again, feel renewed and ready to get back into dating. a temporary hiatus can frequently be all that is needed to put life back into perspective. hope you're feeling better at this point. let us know!
 OneNuyoRican
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 109
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/14/2010 4:42:15 PM
You're never too young (or old) too find love. Never give up!!!!!!!
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 110
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Posted: 1/15/2010 2:52:44 AM
Oh i agree...That is why i would never have kids....Remember i am thinking about them...Why would anybody have kids knowing what is going on in the world today...WELL LOOK AT IT...IT is all around you....Just look how bad it has gotten in the last 10 years....
 m14shooter
Joined: 10/2/2009
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Posted: 1/15/2010 3:03:30 AM
At 45 is when I am going to think about ending the impossible quest, I got 3 months left of this torture.
 Tra C
Joined: 11/11/2008
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/17/2010 9:16:17 AM
I just turned 36 and I refuse to give up. Call me dumb...a hopeless romantic...or whatever you will but I believe there is someone out there for me...and for everyone. Momma didn't raise no quitter here and OP...i don't think you were raised to quit either. Keep your chin up!
 JessiemaeFL
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 113
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/18/2010 9:14:33 AM

OP, you lived a quiet and trouble free life until now and you’re now wondering how you could make everything complicated? I’m 43, I have no kids and got a vasectomy yesterday. Do you know how crazy and difficult it is at your age to find someone to date? Never mind a long lasting relationship. Average relationship last 3 years and I’m sure it’s on the decrease. What do you want? Fall in love, make kids? Just so she leaves you for someone else in 2 years, drag your ass in court for all you have and have your pay checks garnished for the next 18 years? That’s if the kids choose not to go to post secondary school. Come on OP, Make sense, consider yourself lucky and snap out of it!


Seriously. Kids are overrated.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 114
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Posted: 1/18/2010 9:30:38 AM
I don't give up no matter what my age. I am 35 and will never stop looking for love and a life partner until I have found it.As for children well that can't ever happen for me now. That ability was lost to me long ago.
 Taztiger72
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 1/19/2010 11:29:17 PM
I keep hearing all these complaints from women about the Men playing games and wanting sex 0nly - well if you are only looking for those men - that's what you are going to get - Sorry.

In my case - I trudge along each day - some women talk, others don't. I've dated off here a few times and not everyone is the same - and there is always some reason - nobody wants to hook up - maybe it's because I'm serious and that fears too many women here - well if you don't want to know me - fine - but I am not listening to anyone other than myself and I don't need anyone here telling me to give up either - like I said before - I'm here and not going until I find a partner here or somewhere else....
 beatriceismydog
Joined: 1/10/2010
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/20/2010 4:13:18 AM
Why just pair up to procreate? Why not just be satisfied in not being married? Maybe its that you want to fit in and have some offspring to gab about like everyone else.
 Taztiger72
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2010 11:33:52 AM

After 35, people should just settle for someone they aren't all that into just to avoid being alone, and lead their partner on by saying how much they adore them, because that's what love is.


They do this before they are 35 - that is why there are so few women available - they basically tidy up to 1 Alpha Male and he covets between 7-10 women at any given time - yes there is no chance of marriage - but women consider this the best way to keep their freedom and makes this 1 guy the super stud.....
 Robster_craws
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 118
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Posted: 1/20/2010 9:25:16 PM
I gave up on anything meaningful a while ago. Occasionally I'll be socially programmed by our media to be duped into thinking my life wouldn't be complete without a wife and kids. Then, I see logically. If it happens, it will. If it won't, it's not a big deal. I have no trouble getting dates. However, several times my lack of income because I'm a teacher has become the issue. Maybe, I should shoot for ladies at a homeless shelter.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 1/21/2010 1:22:27 AM
Maybe, I should shoot for ladies at a homeless shelter.

hahaha!!! that was definitely great!!! i would think you'd be meeting a lot of single women teachers, no? if money truly is an issue for you, why not get a master's in adminstration to become a principal. it's not a great salary, but it's halfway decent (think it ranges about 50k-75k) and you'll be pretty well be in the same field if you enjoy it. if you're tired of teaching, then maybe you could get a master's in some other field (maybe an mba in one of the many business areas, maybe engineering (but keep away from the construction & civil end for now...too vulnerable to present economy ... electrical, nuclear, mechanical, etc still have lots of jobs (statring pay is about $50k as an inexperienced new grad with a bachelor's, new grad with a masters a few thousand more, and avg pay is around 80k/yr...can go up tp 90-130k for vairous levels of engineering management positions if you get far enough up into management... petroleum pays the best, but of course, everyone wants those jobs...up to 160k/yr, comptetition and number of jobs will have effect) although you'd have to pick up a semester or 2 of undergrad deficits w/engineering. the beauty is you can still look for & get the degrees for a new career while you're still teaching full-time. have you ever thought about applying to law shcool to get a jd? it's only 3 yrs and no residency to do afterwards...just straight out to practice...and easy to get school loans (they tend to think people getting doctorates will be in the position to repay the loan, and you have 10 yrs to repay and can write it off your taxes too) ...or what about nursing school? all you need is an associate's degree to become an rn (& you can usually pick it up at a community college although there are waiting lists, so do check that...and some community colleges have weekend programs so you could continue to teach while going to school. in addition, there are accelerated bsn and msn programs for those who already have a bachelor's or master's in other fields. even a 2 yr associates nurse with an rn will pay more than a teaching salary (starts close to $25/hr...everyone once in a while less, but i've never seen it under about $21 or so). anyway, the point is, you have a lot of options...including staying in teaching, if that's your proclivity. just some thoughts... lots of viable options out there... and a lot master's,etc. programs at amajor universities are online so not at all disruptive to going to school. (if nursing, you'll have to do clinicals at a hospital though...but as i said, some programs arrange it on the weekends.) if you got a msn and then became a nurse practitioner (pretty well the equivalent of a physician assistant), you'll make 60-80k/yr and if you take about another year's master's level work you can become certified nurse anesthestist making anywhere from 80-150k/yr (you're basically doing the same work an anesethiologist does but with weekly supervision from the anesthesiologists. computer science, you can get a assoicates degree to get you foot in the door and then move into a bachelors or you could just go straight into a masters (making up undergrad deficiencies as necessary)...one thing though, more CS is getting shipped to place like india and ireland and they're also bringing people to work into the country on visas, so check that aspect to find out where the actual jobs are & how many are available. lol i could go on and on...there's so much out there...wide variety 0f programs, lots online, widely varying prices (just make sure the school itself is accredited and also the particular program is also accredited by ABET for engineering, for example, can't recall what the accreditation board is for nursing or the other fields, but you can look them up). oh, and i know a guy who was a teacher and applied to medical school at age 37, he got into DO school instead of MD school, but he gets to do all the things the MD's do and he gets paid the same...all depends on specialty...orthopedic surgeons make $450k/yr while family practice doctors make 120-150k...also depends how many patients you see in a day...i know a FP doctor who is barely scraping and another is making twice the avg...got to have a nose for business and drumming up patients and patient referrals from other doctors (more applicable to specialists)...anyway, it's basically running a small business unless you're an employee of another doctor or a hospital, or something. as a said, many many options out there! best wishes!
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 120
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Posted: 1/21/2010 7:02:47 PM
And yes it is amazing how many women between 20 and 40 have kids with Mr>jerk/loser/abuser/druggy/ex-con so they can collect welfare/taxpayers money..In others words make theire living in the bedroom with losers of the world...
 intune64
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 121
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Posted: 1/21/2010 8:12:06 PM
When ever you decide your gonnna give in on wanting the whole nine yards.I have met both men and women alike,and they think they should only have the best looking,the most wealthy,and the most popular person to be with.I was alittle like that in my 20's,where I would only date girls that were a size 1,and were very sexy,and really didnt care too much for what the next day brought,but after living and learning..I have a whole new outlook on women....
I look more for attitude,and some looks,doesnt have to be a model,and has a good outloook on her life and the things she brought to the table as a real person...its not easy when you really care who you meet..not to say others dont,but just the way I came to where Im at now.
 bsp71
Joined: 11/18/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 1/21/2010 10:49:36 PM
Heck I am 39 and I never give up hope. I did stop looking actively and kinda just enjoy my life and go with the flow.

Works out better that way. Hobbies, get out and do things and meet people best way to eventually find someone. Online dating sites are not.
 Candi1977
Joined: 8/31/2006
Msg: 123
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Posted: 1/25/2010 3:54:41 PM
Never give up ! what's wrong with you? lol
 lunatiqfrinjj
Joined: 7/1/2009
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Posted: 1/28/2010 7:14:46 PM
>At what age do you Just Give Up?

Whatever age it is that you're standing at the cemetery gates, and you look down at the shovel in your hand and think..
 Pirate Mollie
Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 1/29/2010 8:04:45 PM
i am not 30 yet but i like to post here just to prepare myself. i call it constictave therepy.
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