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 Bullies.Rule
Joined: 1/5/2010
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I am in my early 30s and I guess I have thought about this for a long time, what do you do when you are pushing 40 do you give up on starting a family? I know a lot of the ladies are having kids later on in life but serious I mean do you want to be in your 60s take care of a teenage child? When does the pickiness End, and you start thinking about really settling down with the Right Person or Do you Just Give Up? Your thoughts on this issue?


I'll give up on my family when 1. they've all died, or 2. I'm going to die in 3... 2...1... OH CRIMMINIES!!! There IS an Afterlife.... Awww sheeeeiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiittttttt lol

Seriously though, why give up? If you aren't picky, who will be?... and Mr/Ms Right isn't someone you settle for!!! Do you really want to be in your 60's looking at divorce?

The thing to focus on is you - do you want children? Why? For yourself, or because you feel that you should? If you want them, why not look at adoption? Lots of wee ones looking/needing good loving homes. Older ones too. If you feel like you should have children because of parental/peer/societal pressure... tell 'em all to p!ss off! If you just want to hear the sound of little feet pitter-pattering around... get a dog. I did
 SBM4U2
Joined: 12/22/2009
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Posted: 1/31/2010 3:00:22 PM
Oh, buddy. You are just entering the dragon! For the next 20yrs all you're going to meet are women who want to get married or start a family and not necessarily in that order. Enjoy "sanity" while you can because in a little while?...
 bsp71
Joined: 11/18/2009
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Posted: 2/1/2010 8:12:04 PM
I never give up since you never know when that right person may walk into your life. At the same time, I believe the key is to get out there and meet new people by doing fun activities you have an interest in. Me- I am learning how to surf after all, I live right in Surf City USA the mecca of surfing here in the OC so might as well enjoy waves, sun, and get fit as well.
 sammylg
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 129
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Posted: 2/2/2010 5:31:01 AM
When the viagra or cialis no longer work.

And no, I don't need either....

 minako79
Joined: 1/15/2009
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Posted: 2/2/2010 7:28:34 PM
i found this little quote from a pof forum member...
Life is too short to worry about if you are going to be alone forever.

Dont look for it, dont expect it. Just live. Live for you.
life is full of journeys, the rest is up to you to live it. :)
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 131
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Posted: 2/10/2010 8:47:22 PM
same here, men hate me because I'm too honest and I'm a black woman who doesn't look like Beyonce, lol!
Women don't want me cause I'm broke. But oh when that changes I'm sure I will suddenly become oh so "interesting" to many of them.

I just laugh.
 hamildo
Joined: 12/27/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2010 4:14:42 PM
46,47,48. Why bother when nothing to find.
 upper_west_side
Joined: 4/17/2009
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Posted: 2/13/2010 5:06:34 PM
...who HATES... I mean really detests Valentine's Day??

I suppose my views would be different if I were a smug married in a relationship right now, but I'm not, and very rarely have I ever even been in a relationship on V-Day, so I feel totally justified in my hatred of this big pile of crap.

I dread this day coming every year, despite trying desperately to find someone to share it with, so I feel totally justified in hating the complete kn0b who brings flowers into the office for his girlfriend who sits across from me, for hating the couples snogging on the Tube and for hating (although not as much) my married / coupled friends for wanting to spend the weekend with their SO instead of coming out with me to perhaps meet my own someone special.

This post will probably be deleted very quickly. Maybe it should be. Or maybe it should live, so other people can also post just how much they hate this sickly sweet day where couples get to rub it right into singleton's faces too?

Over to you....
 Taztiger72
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 2/13/2010 5:14:18 PM

Or maybe it should live, so other people can also post just how much they hate this sickly sweet day where couples get to rub it right into singleton's faces too?


Didn't anyone tell you when you grew up that as soon as you leave High School, College or Trade School - you are back in Kindergarten.

Bullying gets you everywhere you want to go.
Women want the Tallest Goon they can find.
Losers are Losers for Life.
And No not all men are created equal - the popular kids get to go to the amusement park while you are given permanent after school detention for not conforming.

And Valentine's Day - NOTHING PLEASES WOMEN and MEN more than rubbing S#!T in your face - because you are a Loser and will never make the grade.
 _allen_
Joined: 6/14/2009
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Posted: 2/13/2010 7:44:15 PM
I don't like Valentines Day either. It's a depressing day. :(

Well, I am planning on giving up within the year or 1.5 year, I too see that if I haven't found my special someone by the age of 35, I'm packing it up. Man, when I was young I just new I would be a catch and married, now my views on marrage has been considered "tragic and pointless" seeing that most marrages will not survive for no more than 3 years. Instead, I will take up more hobbies and constructive distractions in place of an marital bond.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
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Posted: 2/18/2010 1:44:26 AM

I am in my early 30s and I guess I have thought about this for a long time, what do you do when you are pushing 40 do you give up on starting a family? I know a lot of the ladies are having kids later on in life but serious I mean do you want to be in your 60s take care of a teenage child? When does the pickiness End
Just to reinstate the OP's comment. Good question about when does the pickiness end. For some it really says that there are so many people out there yet still after all this time none are suitable. Almost an insult to humankind. Like none are worthy of them. It makes me think. I really didn't know people were all that different but I guess when you live in the land of plenty people grow accustomed to the luxury of seeking their ideal. I'm pretty sure if the rest of the world was that picky the total world population would be much less than it is now.

Ah well....hobbies.....I have hobbies. That's my life now.
 rat-7
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Posted: 2/18/2010 1:03:41 PM

what it's like to truly love someone

And just how do you
1) find that person
2) how do you know that you are in love

I have no clue on how to find (or find out) someone who might be interrested in me, and I presume that I am not the only one, and since I never found anyone I would not know what it is like to be in love
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
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Posted: 2/18/2010 7:40:34 PM

I can't believe how many 30-somethings are giving up. I've had my share of bad relationships but I also remember what it's like to truly love someone. I know my other half is out there some where so I'll never give up.
Cute women are not really ones that need to worry too much.
 Taztiger72
Joined: 2/26/2008
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Posted: 2/18/2010 9:20:05 PM
If you are a 6'0" Tall Man you get whatever you want - here or in real life without any effort - you are almost guaranteed any job or any women you want.

The Women's Golden Rule in the 21st Century:
1. NO MAN IS UNDER 6'0" TALL AND ONLY MEN GET SEX.
2. If No Man is available and the Males are Short under 6'0" Then:
A. Experiment in Bisexuality
B. If No Willing Women then See Rule #1

This is the Cold Hard Fact of ONLINE DATING NOW.
 duane28
Joined: 1/29/2009
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Posted: 2/19/2010 2:25:31 PM

If you are a 6'0" Tall Man you get whatever you want - here or in real life without any effort - you are almost guaranteed any job or any women you want.


While some might flame you for this statement there have been actual studies done that show how taller men generally earn more money and work in more prestigious jobs than shorter men, even when other variables such as education and work experience are taken into consideration.

If you're a short guy you are most certainly at a disadvantage from the start and will have to work twice as hard just to catch up and even the playing field.

It's the old "survival of the fittest" concept from biology 101.
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
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Posted: 2/19/2010 3:12:39 PM
^^^^Primemover pretty much nailed almost exactly my experiences/how I feel as well. But there are about 4 other tall/short guy/woman threads going on and I don't think we need to turn this into yet another redundant topic (I know it's tempting).
 StevieCashmere
Joined: 4/22/2009
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Posted: 2/20/2010 12:14:29 AM
Give up1...I din't know I was addicted!
The secret is in not trying at all

~sc~
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 143
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Posted: 5/29/2010 8:35:42 PM
I do think it's kind of unfair too the offspring to become a parent rather late in life. But these days it's more common. hsdkh kwjdk xsmjkkjx jsjs kxsj o x oss wsjsl xlkwjxx kjxjswkl. Hope that's long enough now...
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 144
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Posted: 5/31/2010 5:31:26 AM
I quote from a prevous post "I do think it is unfair too the offspring to become a parent rather late in life"...That has to be the most ingorant statement i have ever read...YEA!!!Like this young generation are having such great luck in having kids..In fact 90% people that i know under 35 have no business having kids..Lets see here...NO JOB!!!Doing drugs!!!Shucks..Mt neighbor has 3 with 3 different fathers..The last one is lock up in prison for raping his oldest step daughter(What a winner)...And guest what..The mother does not think there is no differnce between someone stealing and someone raping a child..I told her you got to be JOKING!!!!!And this woman is 35 years old..I swear..I really do not know about this world...
 nobrumski
Joined: 4/8/2008
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Posted: 5/31/2010 10:01:52 PM
28 is the answer or at least for me it was.
 jeepwmn
Joined: 8/14/2009
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Posted: 6/1/2010 9:52:05 PM
I completely agree with what one poster said about relationships not lasting for more than 6 months. .since I've come back to California, that has been the longest relationship for me. I've been on more dates than short relationships, and more bad has come out of it. So, maybe it's time to just not look any longer. I'll stay here for the forums, of course. The ones I have met and wanted to work out, said they either didn't feel enough or instant chemistry. So, I give up. And ones have written to me, but if I don't feel any sort of attraction, I don't want to meet up.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
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Posted: 6/3/2010 5:23:07 PM
Well actually if you give it some thought, remember birth control is something only we humans could invent. People were never meant too be able to control who can have kids and who cannot. Life was just meant to happen like most everything else. I could go really deep with this, but judgeing by what I've read from you, it would be pointless. All this control humanity has become acustomed too is in it's own way "evil". Animals living in the wild in a sense have defeated us! They lead a much more harsh life than us, but they still breed regularly, where is people are afraid too despite all of our advancments that could encourage pro-creation.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
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Posted: 6/5/2010 1:41:54 AM
When do you just give up ?..... maybe before reading all the posts... definitely afterwards.
So summer is coming ; Its a perfect season to just give up. get your shopping in now.
 mr.evil
Joined: 11/14/2009
Msg: 149
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Posted: 6/6/2010 1:24:28 PM
"At what age do you Just Give Up?"

Uh...let me see, how do I put this...the age isn't specific, the event is..."when they start shoveling dirt on you!"

PS Charlie Chaplin had a child at 72, think about it.
 minako79
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 6/6/2010 7:13:59 PM
i don't really care at this point... so be it.
im just focusing on getting my career started. my dream to become an rpn... im working 2 jobs at the moment to earn back the tuition i will be needing in the future.
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