I think lust is an important part of a relationship...meaning you would find them attractive. We also know that such attraction is mostly visual
K, so here could be one 'disconnect' - a person might be attracted to the text portion of a profile but not to the pictures of the poster.
is there a way to be sure we're comparing apple's to apple's? While it may be difficult to communicate such things in a profile
It's hard to be sure what a reader is taking from one's profile without direct communication from them. What might be humorous to the poster might be offensive to the reader, as one example.
there must be a way to swing a negative judgment to a positive one
I disagree. Values vary from person to person.
I don't think I have ever received a positive response (if any) to my e-mails from the people listed on my "Viewed Me" page; which would lead me to believe everyone who has visited my profile has run away screaming
The 'Viewed Me' thing could mean everything or it could mean nothing - it could mean that after viewing she decided you weren't a match, or it could mean that she viewed you because she saw your forum post, or she wanted to see your hat/shirt/background close up, or you looked like someone she knew, or you came up in her matches, or you viewed her first so she viewed you back. There's too much of a 'lookie-loo' factor to Viewed Me for it to mean much.
I can't update the age spread without giving a new e-mail, and I am reluctant to do so
So astrological signs could be an issue.
Are you saying that perhaps some women steer away from your sign?