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 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 2
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D: All of the above


Hell I dont know, ask the men "hitting" on you.
 Write Time
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 3
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Posted: 9/10/2009 10:41:24 AM
Because you're there.

Honestly, for some people I think it's as simple as that. You've gotta get in your million attempts if you're going to find your one-in-a-million score, right?
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 9/10/2009 10:46:09 AM
I think you get hit on because men are looking to meet someone. So they hit on you.

Am I missing something here?
 LovinLife_01
Joined: 4/1/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 9/10/2009 12:56:59 PM
You gentlemen's responses are cracking me up!


OP, take it as a compliment, don't worry about the "why's".....just because you are "hit" on.....doesn't mean you have to say yes if you are not interested.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 9/10/2009 1:11:26 PM

I meant hitting on us JUST for sex !


Yes and no. There are men that only want sex, and there are men that want a relationship. In a relationship there's also sex, but it's intimate and exclusive. Now, you're going to get hit by both, the key is trying to discern which is which.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:15:23 PM
Years ago I vowed never again to associate in any way with women who generally resents men who want sex. Invariably, those women who complain about a man "ONLY" wanting sex, have personal issues with sex that have nothing to do with the man giving her sexual attention. Healthy women know how to target the men who are right for them and politely ignore those who aren't.

OP, I suggest you look within.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:15:59 PM
I think some of these posters are having a wee bit of fun with your question. Mostly, though, I think it would be due to the way you look. Unattractive women don't get hit on very often, after all.

I may be "abnormal" in that I would only hit on a woman IF I thought there was potential beyond sex - even if I'm horny as hell. If sex is all there is, I won't cry over it, but I'd much prefer a deeper and more lasting connection than 6 inches (more or less).
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:18:03 PM
""Thank you, I'm flattered, now can you remove your dry humping willy from my leg?"

Sure, baby. Can I put it in your mouth instead?
 Mick4astart
Joined: 8/14/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:40:47 PM
What caught my eye was the term "hit on". You may mean specifically on POF or any dating site, or, you may mean ... all the time as you innocently go about your life.

Re: the latter, I met someone in an 'intimacy' workshop who deplored the fact that she has always been 'hit on' since she was a little girl ... she is now a grown woman, in her 4o's, very attractive, vivacious, intelligent, sensitive - I will call her "A" - she hates it when insenstive, ignorant males assume that beacuse of her natural attributes ("gee, luv, your just gorgeous ... ") they can come on to her ... she feels that she gets hit on quite unfairly & hates it! ( - and, yes, there was abuse in her very young years which may have a serious bearing on this).

Now .... from a male POV - when I was in my teen years, I was considered to be rather too 'faye' (do we know that expression in N. America? - rough translation is too pretty; 'gay' wasn't coined at that time!) so, I got 'hit on' a few times by what I now know to be 'gay' males. It made me very uncomfortable, scared and extremely protective and cautious.

At that workshop I spoke of above, I openly 'shared' my 'male' experience with "A" - we were both very emotional and knew that being 'hit on' is not something we should jest about - at least between sensitive, open & respectful adult people.

Hopefully, those on this site who chose to read & learn will take the experience of others to heart and recognise that some comments can be thought to be 'fun' but are read by others as very painful.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:46:51 PM
~OP~ I dunno. I think I just got hit on in the library, I think. If his approach was sexually motivated I really wish I would have caught on ~ he was the most "doable" man I've seen in a LONG time. I really need to pay more attention.

Seriously? Of course it's likely sex related. Probably NOT consciously, however. I think we (as sexual beings naturally) don't preface the vast majority of our meetings with thoughts of getting naked, but that's definitely something that goes with the territory of male/female interactions. JMO
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 15
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Posted: 9/10/2009 4:00:42 PM
"At least that's what I've found of the men in my age bracket. "

Boo hoo. More than likely you're failing to give them what they want even when you try. Deal with it. This is life. Sometimes, two people simply don't fit.
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 9/10/2009 8:02:54 PM
I'll go with E. none of the above..
 toobigandhard
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 9/10/2009 10:12:39 PM

What if it had been said this way...........
a-for sex,women will hit on any age/type man....as long as the wallet bulges.

i have to stronly agree
 jacob8088
Joined: 9/6/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 9/10/2009 10:21:32 PM
a-for sex,women will hit on any age/type man....as long as the wallet bulges.


^^^I think this option sounds about right..
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 20
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Posted: 9/11/2009 4:40:09 AM
LOL...

I'm not sure if you're complaining or bragging.

D--all of the above, none of the above, some of the above. I don't mind getting hit on most of the time--it's usually a compliment.

I guess I'm wondering why does it matter? If a guy does hit on you, and you ain't into him...move on.




(wondering why this thread didn't get deleted too).
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 23
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Posted: 9/11/2009 6:36:27 AM
Testosterone fuels the sex drive in both genders, we all know that (or should). on any given day amans testosterone levels are about 400x's higher than a womans. Think about how you felt on your HORNIEST day....those feelings were based on testosterone levels 400x's LOWER than a man's.
I hope that gives you some perspective.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 24
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Posted: 9/11/2009 11:15:32 AM
well since you are wondering men hit on you because they want to ask you about your nice looking best friend, lol, seriously you look a little mature you should know these things already, you know men hit on you for a number of things, and you love the way they hit on you everyday, so cut the coy school girl act.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 25
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Posted: 9/11/2009 3:37:11 PM
Good points oohlala21,
Especially the "hitting on dynamics". I agree. There's a way to do it so as not to make somone feel intimidated or weirded out.
On a check out line at the super one time, I saw an article on the cover of some tabloid reading: "Scientists discover regular sex makes you sleep better" I pointed it out the very attractive lady in front of me saying"Wow! amazing what science comes up with! " I wink at her and say"You look nicely rested today". we ended up going for coffee and having some nice conversation. I totally hit on her, but made it fun, not weird.
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