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 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 76
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my date wearing sandals and white socks


You would have laughed withme this weekend. Walking down the streets, Saturday morning, 3 guys in IMPECCABLE tuxedos. One of them was wearin sandals and with socks LOL
 bluegreen14
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 77
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/16/2012 11:40:05 AM
Most women have to have that spark or whatever it's called. I've never given a woman that feeling in 38 years.
 AddHomonym
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 78
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/16/2012 10:51:12 PM

my date wearing sandals and white socks :)


Oh come on now, I thought it was black socks that were taboo with the sandals? I guess I gotta go buy some grey socks now?
 tuxqueot
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 79
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/16/2012 11:23:59 PM
hmmmm. Well, rejection doesn't count because the question is worst dating fear, so I assume this means we're past the initial stages and into actual dating...

probably have to say fear of getting too close to someone who would not be able to commit? I do want to get married again someday...

second fear would probably be finding out something that could be a possible deal breaker and should have been disclosed up front but hidden until much later. (like an STD or still married or terminally ill or something, heck I don't know.)
 chinadol6977
Joined: 6/24/2011
Msg: 80
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what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/17/2012 12:49:30 AM
That he's fathered enough children to start a little league team.
Has a credit score of -150, is over 40, and has roommates...
Has an addiction to drugs,or kiddie porn......
Likes****more than I do...........
 thecatrascal
Joined: 4/21/2012
Msg: 81
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/17/2012 9:55:13 AM
My greatest dating fear is finding out, after a makeout session, that - holy cow - it's really a guy! I should never have ignored that adam's apple. Why didn't I listen to that inner voice . . .
 catfa51
Joined: 5/11/2012
Msg: 82
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/17/2012 10:42:57 AM
No expectation=no fears
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 83
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/17/2012 11:01:56 AM

My greatest dating fear is finding out, after a makeout session, that - holy cow - it's really a guy! I should never have ignored that adam's apple. Why didn't I listen to that inner voice . . .


My dad told me a mean story like that, one of the cadets (he was a fireman) they brought to a meet up bar, and matched him with this girl. Now he was REALLY hot for her and all, and half drunk, so he went into the back room with her. That's when he realised how my dad and his friends were evil; the girl was REALLY a guy lol. I forget the term, transvestite? Anyways, he found out while groping between the legs LOL. My dad said he just walked to the table, sat down, and didnt say a word all night.
Talk about a bad dream
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 84
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 5/17/2012 7:06:05 PM
jan135135
my date wearing sandals and white socks :)


Last year I was wearing white socks and sandals in Chicago, guess my friends were right about it not looking good. :):)

My GF/now wife bought me a speedo, I had to explain no way in h@ll would I wear that at a beach.
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 85
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/24/2012 3:33:19 PM
Oh, wait!

I've already experienced my greatest dating fear

and lived to tell about it

Lessens the fear of it happening again. But, doesn't make it any easier to deal with it this time.
 WiseBurro
Joined: 11/25/2011
Msg: 86
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/24/2012 10:34:12 PM
That dating has become a job interview, and even if you are hired, the probationary period is an illusion. The job will never be permanent, you are hired temporarily with no chance for advancement.
 BlackJacket87
Joined: 4/13/2010
Msg: 87
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/24/2012 11:00:53 PM
Of all my years of dating, relationships, and even one-night stands, my only three fears have become...

- Will she get pregnant and will I be ready? (The only real protection is abstinence. The likely hood of me becoming that is 20/80)
- Do I really love her or do I love the idea of falling in love? (This has happened twice.)
- How do I reveal to her my weaknesses/insecurities without scaring her off?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 88
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/25/2012 2:06:13 PM
Granny panties.

That scares the bejesus out of me.
 JoseMadre
Joined: 1/9/2012
Msg: 89
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/25/2012 2:41:11 PM
Can't think of a thing. Perhaps I'm naive, but I see a date as a chance to get to know someone. If we hit it off, great. If not, it is a learning experience.
 TedJMill
Joined: 7/6/2005
Msg: 90
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Posted: 6/26/2012 7:06:17 AM
Becoming the "yes dear" guy, who does whatever the woman wants.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/26/2012 7:07:38 AM
Haha. ^^^ So true.
 DallasSBF
Joined: 4/14/2012
Msg: 92
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/26/2012 9:18:59 AM
being in a relationship with a guy who doesn't enjoy the same things I do. We have nothing in common. We live separated lives.
 jimbronson
Joined: 11/12/2011
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Posted: 6/26/2012 9:21:31 PM
Concerns rather than fears:
1. Having a sizable disparity between how I feel about her vs. how she feels about me.
2. Believing that she dated me for ulterior motives such as: using me in some fashion.
3. Dating an opportunist who is always looking over my shoulder to trade up.
4. Dating a really poor communicator or someone who says "I really can't discuss that" (more than once).
5. Getting involved with a druggie/user of any kind or anything.
6. Dating someone who read the book, THE RULES, and took it very seriously.
 runner_83
Joined: 6/1/2012
Msg: 94
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/27/2012 11:33:30 PM
I'll speak for the forumites and say most fear telling or hearing the truth as well as actually having to log off the site to meet people in real life instead... aaaand possibly leaving their computer to go out of their house for once in their life let alone on a date.
 happy_in_pink
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 95
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/28/2012 2:58:29 AM
I met a man in here about five years ago. I saw red flags waving every where. I got involved with him any way. Needless to say the relationship ended on a bad note.

So my biggest fear is that I will get involved with someone that is not nice.

This time is different I see the red flags and I get away from them ASAP.

Don't let being lonley or your fear of being alone make you settle.

No one should ever settle there are plenty of nice single people to choose from.
 wanderer1999
Joined: 2/10/2007
Msg: 96
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Posted: 6/28/2012 6:04:00 AM
My greatest fear would be to go on a date with that special woman, and not be able to recognize her for what she is because I let myself get distracted with my own crap.

We only get so many chances in life, and I don't want to waste any of them.
 NewYorkbiker
Joined: 2/10/2011
Msg: 97
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 6/28/2012 6:15:50 AM
Getting bored in the relationship and just taking the person for granted...

Said after my 20+ year marriage I would never let that happen again, but seems so easy to fall into that rut...
Just so many things in life to deal with sometimes, hard to stay focused on what is really important sometimes...
 Eagle Fish
Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 98
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 11/17/2012 3:01:25 PM

Men and women tend to perceive their own safety differently.

I have been particulary curious lately about a mans worst nighmare pertaining to dating or relationships. I have a fairly good idea what a woman's worst nightmare may be. Most often its fear of physical violence, rape or murder. Women also tend to fear for the safety of their children. Mine is the typical female fears. In no way do I want to underplay mens fears. I would like to find out Gentlemen, what are your greatest fears when it comes to dating and relationships? Women, please by all means share your fears if other then previously mentioned.

*Romance and commitment itself.
* Men/women fear of stalkers or the mentally unstable.
*The Gal that might very well be a guy ( trans-testicals).
*As a man, I'm afraid of very Little.
*Getting trapped into marriage.
*Merely approching a woman for fear of rejection.
* Being falsy accused of rape or beating a woman.
*Fear of being attacked, raped or murdered. ( yes this can happen to men too).
*Being manipulated, controlled, loss of identity.
*He/she will laugh at me.
In all seriousness. what are your greatest dating/relationship fears? What precaution/s do you take to prevent these from occurring if any?

I thank you in advance for this indulgence of my curiosity.

LCS


Why does this sound like a strange dating bucket list?

Everything is fun until you land in the emergency room…. With you know, that girl…?!?

Some of mine are dying of boredom or old age looking for my “perfect” match on a dating site -- Seeing something like it on my tombstone. Precautions -- Try not to look for that perfect match.

All the people who I have contacted or contacted me over the years would actually contact me on the same day and demanding a date on the same day. Think about it – kind of scary.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 99
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 11/17/2012 3:34:07 PM
She shops for lingerie at Kmart.
She raps a condom on her vibrator.
Sox spring out when you unfasten her bra.
Her tramp stamp read Men suck.
You could give her pointers on how to better shave that upper lip hair.
 wolftxusa1966
Joined: 11/2/2012
Msg: 100
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 11/17/2012 3:41:18 PM
My biggest fear is that there's mutual attraction and then I fvck up. It has happened before and it will happen again.
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