Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Relationships  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 58
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/SpousePage 2 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)

You're right! I would never dance with another man if I was committed to someone and ESPECIALLY NOT DIRTY DANCING-thats W R O N G!!!!!!!!


Seems like common sense to me. Women who dance with other men when they have a partner are losers. Hopefully their husbands will man up and dump them.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 59
view profile
History
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:54:48 AM
Agree with majyk and if a man doesn't like to dance and won't even try and his girlfriend or wife does, he should be man enough to allow her to enjoy herself provided she isn't out there making a little porno movie. When I was in my early 20s, I was married to someone who liked to dance and I would loan him out at the xmas party so that some of the gals that didn't have anyone to dance with could.

Maybe I am just turning into an old fart but the extent of the dirty dancing today as well as the chick on chick crap, I don't even want to go to a club so this wouldn't be an issue because anyone I would dance with at a wedding, etc. would be an extended family type of deal.

If the person who isn't dancing has a problem with it, they should get off their ass and learn how to dance. There are few people without at least a smidge of rhythm and ability.
 BookWormFairy
Joined: 5/17/2009
Msg: 60
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:56:58 AM

If you wouldn't do it in front of your lover, then you shouldn't be doing it, period. This goes for dancing, and pretty much everything else in life. If you have to think twice about it, then chances are you shouldn't do it.


This guy pretty much said it ...

I believe the OP is right... but just remember, the thought posted above is something for both partners, not just one or the other.
 head.cloud123
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 64
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 4:08:48 PM

Agree with majyk and if a man doesn't like to dance and won't even try and his girlfriend or wife does, he should be man enough to allow her to enjoy herself provided she isn't out there making a little porno movie. When I was in my early 20s, I was married to someone who liked to dance and I would loan him out at the xmas party so that some of the gals that didn't have anyone to dance with could.

Maybe I am just turning into an old fart but the extent of the dirty dancing today as well as the chick on chick crap, I don't even want to go to a club so this wouldn't be an issue because anyone I would dance with at a wedding, etc. would be an extended family type of deal.

If the person who isn't dancing has a problem with it, they should get off their ass and learn how to dance. There are few people without at least a smidge of rhythm and ability.


And if there is a woman who doesn't want sex as often as her man she should loan him out.

She should be woman enough to let a woman without a man have some sex with him.

In most men's minds ANY dancing with someone else is unacceptable.

And most women believe the SAME thing. Most wouldn't tolerate their husbands doing it.

And since there is a greater demand for men who can dance I suggest the OP spite his woman and dance with every woman he can.
 ^SweetAngel^
Joined: 8/8/2009
Msg: 66
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 5:56:40 PM
I disagree with most posters. Dancing is a social activity. If you have a partner, the first and last dance would be reserved for him/her. In between you should mingle and dance with as many people as possible, but should not have two dances in a row with the same person, unless it's your partner. You can't be expected to dance every single dance with your partner only. Dancing is just that, what happens on the dance floor stays on the dance floor.
Dancing should be fun. It can be sensual, sexy and hot, which doesn't make it "dirty". You must be very insecure if you think that it's not ok to dance with other people. After all, it's happening on a public dance floor which everyone can see. How is it disrespecting your partner by dancing with someone else?
Well, now if the so called "dirty dancing" (lap dance?) is happening behind closed doors, well, then it's not really dancing anymore and that is crossing the line.

I regularly go out dancing with or without my boyfriend, because I like to dance and he doesn't, and he's ok with that, because at the end of the day, I go home with him, and not any of the others I had a dance with.

Just thought I share my view from a dancer's perspective.
 KinChandlerAz
Joined: 8/13/2009
Msg: 69
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 9:49:34 PM
Hell no I wouldn't. Ridiculous.
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 70
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/19/2009 10:34:54 PM
I think it would be extremely disrespectful to dirty dance with some besides your so. Ladies night out, we generally don't dance with guys. Some do, some don't. Ladies night out is about having fun with the girls though, not picking up guys.
I've danced with guys besides my so...but it was always respectful (whether my so was there or not).
I wouldn't slow dance (respectfully or otherwise) with anybody but an SO..actually not even a date when I'm single.

I don't think threats are right in a relationship. But , you really do need mutual respect. I'd say sit down and talk about it. For me, if the respect wasn't there ,there would be no relationship anyway. Gotta know you and what you want out of life/relationships.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 72
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:22:29 AM
Dirty dancing with another guy is just asking for it. Then the same woman will probably holler rape.

I noticed the kids are into that in high school nowadays. Some can't keep it clean.
 PiggyT
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 74
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:29:05 AM

I defy anyone to find anything wrong with doing a polka with the neighbours 19 year old kid.


Is that what it is called now?

Dancing is dancing. Doesn't seem to warrant this many responses (imho). Any man worth his salt would know the difference between his SO dancing, and coming on to another. Personally, if my gal wants to go dancing, I say GO... have a great time! I am not interested in going to watch and "police" her having fun.
 CntryGal
Joined: 3/11/2005
Msg: 76
view profile
History
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:32:03 AM
It depends on what your or his motives are...
 Sherlock101
Joined: 1/4/2007
Msg: 77
view profile
History
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:46:47 AM
I'm a bit torn on this. I'm not the jealous type but I also have learned the more you allow situations the better the chance you will get burned. I never had a problem with a GF dancing with someone as long as common respect was practiced. I don't think dirty dancing or slow dancing is appropriate when you are with someone. Once again it boils down to common respect and I wouldn't do it to someone else.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 79
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:56:06 PM
I don't dirty dance with strange men, not because of an SO, but just because I don't have any desire to. Dancing with a guy with no body contact isn't a big deal to me if I'm with someone who doesn't want to dance. No guy I ever dated cared if I did as long as that was all it was.

Usually tho I go out with the girls, and that's what they're for, so I don't really see any need for dancing or bothering with guys unless I specifically want to. I'd even dance alone if I had to. *shrug*
 huggablekiss
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 80
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:14:36 PM
If it's an exclusive relationship or if he's my husband, I would not dirty dance in front of him. If a man asked me to dance, I would look at him to see if he's okay with it.

If it was a ladies night out at a "strip club", I would let him know that it's entertainment.

(If I was just dating, and someone asked me to dance, I would dance if I wanted to regardless if he was there or not).

 anyoneoutthier
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 81
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:45:51 AM
Its all up to every one how they feel about it and alot are saying its just a dance floor, and what can happen, well a fire starts with a spark. I didnt care if my wife danced with any one till some a##hole said to me that she shouldnt be dancing with me. Well after that statement she never danced with anyone, and yes she was a great dancer as she was in shows in the portland area and she prefromed for uso shows.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 83
view profile
History
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 12:43:57 PM
I was a dancer in my younger days now even in my old age I can do hiphop,etc. and ballroom ,yes I dance in front of my late husband but not dirty dancing ,I think that is stupid dance 2 women a man in between them or vice versa thrusting to front of a man or woman and thrusting to the back of wo/man I don't see any spectacular on the moves even a dumb animal like dogs can do that.


But I say " If my woman was that disrespect to me then I would kick her to the curb" .So who would be right here?


I won't blame the husband or boyfriend if SHE was kick to the curb, for DISRESPECTING HERSELF..
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 84
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:03:42 PM

If dancing was only about mating
1... We'd have entire ballet performances fcuking like an orgy after the show...


Oh My. I've always assumed that they did.
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 85
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:05:43 PM
My boyfriend doesn't particularly care for me dancing with anyone with him. LOL he is a bit jealous when it comes to anyone getting to handsey or close to me. He won't admit it, and if I do go and dance with a friend, cleanly, of course, he tries to act ok with it, but I can tell he doesn't like it. I find it kinda cute that he gets a little jealous.

Beth
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 86
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:00:58 PM
^^^What studies are you speaking of? Can you provide your references?
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 87
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 7:01:13 PM
^^^If as many men liked to dance as much as women, women would take them up on dancing, and they wouldn't find themselves looking for someone to dance with as much. It's more common that women are out with men who don't like dancing and end up either sitting around because of it.

So it's less common that a man would be out looking for someone to dance with unless he's single and actually likes dancing. Most men that ask women to dance are doing it to get to know her, not for the dancing itself.

P.S. Dancing only leads to sex if there's attraction and if involved with someone, the desire to cheat. Both of which would be present sans the dancing.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 88
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 7:15:38 PM
It doesn't take dancing with someone other than your spouse to cheat. It takes a place and a little free time and a complete lack of respect for your partner. JMO
 sinlov
Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 89
view profile
History
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:31:31 PM

doesn't take dancing with someone other than your spouse to cheat. It takes a place and a little free time and a complete lack of respect for your partner. JMO


Exactlty!
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 92
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:53:37 AM

Inpune: No I will not, You go fined it. It happened to me 3 times and seen it many
times from Others. Go to google you'll fined all the studies you want on this.

It's true, dancing does lead to sex!



Do I detect a "tad" bit of hostility, Inpune?

Dancing does not lead to more UNLESS the intention was there to begin with. Hence, no dancing need be in the equation for it to happen. So you should ask yourself what exactly is leading your partners to CHEAT on YOU!

Snap out of it, and shake what ya Momma gave ya!

 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 94
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:50:25 AM

Exactly so you admit that the majority of men want more than a dance,correct?

In places I go, yes. Admit? It's not a secret. Partner dancing places are different, but in nightclubs - most men don't really want to dance for the sport of it (tho there are a few that absolutely do love to dance). I don't care what they're after cause it's up to me anyway, but it is true that men are usually after the woman, not the dance floor.

A lot of you women mention "asking permission".Look,if it wasn't a problem,you wouldn't feel the need to get or ask permission for anything.This is why I find it offensive for a woman to ask "is it ok if I dance with other guys"ARE YOU SERIOUS?I feel like Im just being tested.The last date that asked me that,I didnt even get mad and I said "Go ahead,you should do what you want,I cant controll you but find yourself another ride home." Dont I have that right? When I was younger,I would put up with that crap because then I was truly insecure and thought I couldnt do better so I would tolerate that.I mean,your damned if you do and if you dont.

I agree that asking is stupid. I let a guy know that if I want to dance and he's not into it that I WILL dance with other guys. We're adults, here.

And seriously,How could I as a man,walk up to another man and ask him if I can dance with his lady like its nothing.Any man with the nerve to do that is only doing it because he has had his eye on the girl cause he is attracted to her.I mean,why her and not any other random unattractive girl?

Who knows. Who cares. If she's not interested in him it doesn't matter what his deal is. And most of the time dancing is just that.

And all though it it may be possible the man would just like how the lady dances and wants a dance with her,this is highly,highly unlikely.If you dont wanna get burned don't play with fire.These guys on here need to Man Up and be real and honest with them selves if they think otherwise.

Again, a dance partner is a dance partner. For women who won't dance unless it's a couple's thing - their SOs are probably going to get dragged on a dance floor a lot. I'd go with it.

I have gone through my immature A-hole phase and I have done these type of shady things and if I was to dance with another girl in front of the girl I was with,it was because I didnt respect her or see us as serious.Get real people.

Again....women are more into dancing than guys. Also, no guy who wanted to dance would get turned down by his GF when he asked, so there'd be no reason for him TO dance with another woman. This is about men who are out with GFs and don't want to dance with them. Since a majority of men don't care for dancing and a majority of women do - rarely do men HAVE to dance with other women in the room in front of a GF. Pfft.
 anyoneoutthier
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 96
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:42:15 AM
Women can go dancing and dont need a partner, its called line dancing.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 100
Dancing With Another Man Besides Your Boyfriend/Spouse
Posted: 9/22/2009 1:33:54 PM
" No I will not, You go fined it. It happened to me 3 times and seen it many
times from Others. Go to google you'll fined all the studies you want on this."

LMAO 3 whole times?
Does this mean you can't dance any better than spell or be civil to other posters, which leads one to believe no rhythm or????..... OUCH.
Please rant on...


opie, Ridiculous manifestos of some posters aside, if a person is jealous over a dance they are to insecure for me.
I have danced all of my life and still do. I have never have a partner act anyway but proud I was going home with him if I shared a dance with another.

I used to partially judge a guy on his ability to be bf material by looking at his face if I danced with another guy. If he smiled at me and looked like he knew I was having fun, I knew that was a start to a generous and non jealous heart.

We are not all animals. I do dance with my basset hound in the living room to Disco and Motown..I guess by some pervs reckoning I want to do my dog? Brilliant.
Show ALL Forums  > Relationships  >