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 hereshappy
Joined: 7/20/2009
Msg: 123
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.Page 7 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
Dude! Start looking for your back-up plan. I knew someone who was married for like 10 years and his wife started inviting her ex boss to dinner parties. Well, long story short their now divorced and she's dating her ex boss.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 126
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:07:22 PM
OP: So wrong on many levels. Tell her to stay with her "friend" who loves to shower her with gifts and trips.

I don't have any male "friends" that do that...............

You can do better!

 Surf.Sun.Fun
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 135
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/23/2009 1:00:18 AM
I had this same thing happen to me once, and I gave her a chance to tell him she wasn't going to be able to make it. After about 4 days, we had a talk...I let her know I was not going to be happy with it at all. She said, "Nothing will happen" etc etc. They had already had sex before we met, so the history didn't make her look very good.

Long story short, I broke up with her, on the spot, and told her until she figures out that just because she is gorgeous, men won't be begging to knock her door down for what she truly wanted, and that she should get this whole pile of crap out of her system before she lost another good man.

I don't put up with that b.s.

Bottom line, dude, break up with her hard, cold and flat. Turn around, walk away, and I guarantee you she'll be left standing there wondering what she just lost.
 anyoneoutthier
Joined: 3/19/2007
Msg: 136
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/23/2009 3:48:08 AM
If he was a true friend he wouldnt put her in that kind of a postsion where she puts her slef in a compromissing postsion.
 BACHELOR02
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 137
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Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/27/2009 5:58:01 PM
If she's not an employee, his company will probably only pay for one room which they will have to share which means there's at least a 50/50 chance they will have to sleep in the same bed. And if there's a water shortage they might have to shower together. If they go out on the town and she has too much to drink, I'm sure he would not try to take advantage of her. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, but be careful, if your girlfriend tries to sell you a bridge!
 read2009me
Joined: 8/18/2009
Msg: 138
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Posted: 9/27/2009 6:42:15 PM
The least of your concerns is the money issue. If she is truly in love with you, your lack of wealth does not factor in for her. Obviously when you met her she already had this long standing friend. Just because you have come into the picture does not mean she should turn her back on her friend just because of his gender. I personally have a guy friend that I spend a great deal of time with. We have known each other from high school. And yet we are just that - friends. My concern for you is this -- do you have trust issues that have nothing to do with her ? Tell her how you feel and let the communication flow.
 yna6
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 140
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:22:08 PM
Maybe the "rich guy" can start kicking in on the bills a bit! Two guys...one girl....so what? As long as ALL are happy with it, there should be NO raised eyebrows from society.
But there will be, won't there?
Time to bail dude. Her "friend" is more than a friend. Has been for awhile. But, in some way, he doesn't "measure up" to what she wants...whereas YOU do. Probably in bed.
Therefore she has the task of satisfying him (while receiving these fantastic gifts) and satisfying you. If you are satifyed with her...leave it be. You are "sharing a woman." If you feel uncomfortable with that. or feel "shortchanged" in some way, then discuss it with her, see if she is willing to do more for you. Otherwise, get out of it.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 141
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:25:42 PM

did the op ever post what happened when the girl returned...

Not in so many words, but he said Tom won - it's right here on this same page - so I guess she was able to put him at ease about it.

*shrug*

Beats me...
 hogrally
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 142
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Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:41:32 PM
Hey
For what it is worth my best friend is a guy. If anything sexual was going to happen between us it would have years ago. Give your sweetie the benefit of the doubt. Finding people to date who are not threatened by our friendship is not easy. Sounds like your g/f has run into as many skeptics as I have.
 InNCsearching
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 145
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:00:01 PM
hahaha. straight men cannot be friends with women...PERIOD. women can but men can't but by her doing this and if you all are somewhat serious, it shows no respect for you all as a couple. back out of this one dude before you lose a lot more than just sleep.
 folsomboy
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 151
Girlfriend going on holiday with her male friend.
Posted: 10/9/2009 3:24:33 PM
Are you a wussy girly man??? Why would you even ask the question?? This woman is obviously not into YOU and your in lala land?! Theres way to many good healthy women out there that know what it takes to be in a loving relationship with respect and integrity.. question is about you? Why would you put up with that type of behavior and not say see ya later alligator? It sounds like to me you've enabled this behavior of this selfcentered person! My thoughts are never show jealousy, it only does the opposite of what you desire, instead just say BYE and get a new respectful girlfriend.
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