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 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 736
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I was an exotic male dancer, I woman dated me, we married, happily married for 15 yrs until she passed away 8 yrs ago,,,

so it can work,,
 lelathecat
Joined: 6/14/2008
Msg: 738
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:26:04 PM

Well...since I only date women in my age group, the thought of dating a stripper that old is well. .... is that even possible?


There are former/retired strippers.
 mountain_biker_88
Joined: 4/2/2007
Msg: 739
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:01:34 PM
Hell No.....

I don't think i would be comfortable having a serious relationship with someone who dances naked and performs lap dances for dozens of guys in a night. But that's just me.

I don't have anything against strippers, but in my opinion, they are not girlfriend material.....
 acitalriwt sixela
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 740
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 12/30/2008 11:45:21 PM

I would recommend avoiding it and I have personal experience in this matter as I was foolish enough to support my wife in fullfilling her desire to become a dancer, the limelight was to overwhelming and she ended up leaving me for a customer at the club she worked at [we had a child and an 8 year marriage] her only reason for leaving is that she said she deserved to be with a better looking guy now that she was a stripper and that I was not "hot" enough for her anymore........The whole thing made me very upset.


She leave because she was unhappy with you, not her profession. If she was nurse, she would leave you for better looking x-ray worker. If she work at Best Buy, she would leave you for better looking guy in video game department. Should guys avoid dateing nurses and Best Buy employee?
 mountain_biker_88
Joined: 4/2/2007
Msg: 742
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 12/31/2008 11:10:09 PM
I just have a question for the people who would date a stripper? Would you feel comfortable with your girlfriend flirting and sitting on the lap of a random dude at an ordinary bar?

Why is it ok for her to do that for money?

I just want to hear some of your views on this.
 Geo1971OH
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 745
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/10/2009 6:23:29 AM
No my ex became a prostitute the emotional and devestation it caused ruined evrything even down to a possible friendship with her.

NO GIRL SHOULD BE DOING THOSE TYPES OF THINGS!

and don't tell me because of money BS if you are resourcefull enough to go into doing that sort of thing you are smart enought to find a way to get by

Sorry Ihave no respect for strippers, escort prostitues whores, sluts whatever you want to call them
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 748
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Posted: 1/13/2009 5:19:08 PM
Yes, Yes, & Yes. Because I know what I'm getting, & she does too. Plus, they are everyone's eye-candy, (she obviously thinks I'm handsome in a big-bro/cute boss/type way) & whenever she knows I'm not her sugar-daddy, there is a friendship there too.
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 750
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:51:48 PM
^^^^^ hold on,, I was a male dancer many years ago,, never has any STD,,
Dancing and STD do not go hand and hand
Hookers there is a good chance.....of STD
 ck1time
Joined: 9/10/2005
Msg: 761
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Posted: 1/16/2009 10:52:10 AM
It IS a rough lifestyle. I'm not championing it. But a couple of things have to be recognized.
Some of these women are so athletic, they could be on some Olympic gymnastics teams.
As many know, but not enough do, some of these women are working their way through school---in Masters & even Doctorate programs. Not every doctor has a rich family to put them through school. Loans & grants help, but often that doesn't cover it.
Some stay completely clean through their temporary career (the quality ones I've known separate their craft/trade from their life goals).
Sure, Adult Entertainment Nightclubs are only a locally-regulated industry. But it IS an industry. And it benefits from discretionary funds some who enjoy dance & art are able & willing to fuel it. Of course it gets a bad rap. It's edgy. It draws from the masses, & you're going to get issues here & there.
If one is going to be a casual part-time consumer, I think it's a great idea to select only the classiest places. For example, a 5-Star Steakhouse/Gentleman's Club with a National Chain
owned by an entertainment conglomerate.
Why do I suggest that? Because the Customer Service & Quality Control/Security is
very good. Tends to be outstanding. The average Joe or Jane gets treated like a millionaire.
Makes for a pleasant visit, and repeat business.
Now, that's not saying I don't want Joe-Blow in JerkwaterTown to make a decent living with his 10 girls. That's their right & privilege. But, since this is a world-wide forum (well almost),
I'm sharing my thoughts to the majority. Well, I've taken enough space 4 now.
 Rosemary24
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 765
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Posted: 1/19/2009 1:52:35 PM
Typically, I don't find the average male stripper attractive. They are rather scary looking, to me, and I suspect they might not be into females anyway.
 rhymer329
Joined: 1/2/2009
Msg: 766
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/19/2009 4:48:15 PM
i have and no i wouldn't ask them to change theie profession. To many people relate exotic dancing to prostitution and there not the same.
 casino man
Joined: 1/11/2005
Msg: 773
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Posted: 1/19/2009 7:17:51 PM
I actually fell into a relationship with a lady who worked nights...I had no idea...it was great, but never again NO WAY!!!
 Valmont-
Joined: 11/15/2008
Msg: 774
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/21/2009 8:30:16 PM
My short answer is. Hell no. LOL

My long answer comes from experience and a philosophical point of view.

I dated a stripper. Ten years ago. She like most lead a double life. The one they want you to think they live, and the one they actually live.

Yes they do get too close to the drug culture among other things. For various reasons. One big one is generally they resent men. The one I was with wanted to meet a man like me, one that never stepped foot in a strip club (and she still resented me because I was a man). I say that tongue in cheek, but it's based on truth.

She used a dating agency to meet me. Now don't get me wrong, I dated her. I was curious and of course loved a killer body as much as the next guy, but I do have a head on my shoulders and eventually the charade came down on her. I moved on, she did not. What I mean is I left her, moved to Atlanta in fact. She stayed the course of drugs and such for years on end. Only last year did she finally try to clean up. Four attempts at nursing school ended due to the strip club lifestyle. Which was more than drugs.

Oh and as for why I wouldn’t go to a strip club. A couple reasons. Why tease myself over someone I can't sleep with? They would never respect me (maybe my money) but never really desire me. And frankly, I've found strippers here on POF contact me for dates and it was more of the same (insecurity). I say this because one lied about her job and I found out later. These are women with serious issues. Mainly insecurity. And guys, if you really must know, sex especially with a stripper offers no excitement. Boring.

I'd rather get to know someone real, flaws and all and what we do then is worth something. Again, I'm no prude, I love a great body, it just needs to be attached to a brain.

Now I'm certain a stripper will read this and take pen to paper in protest. Please, don't waste your time. I know what I know and if you are the lone exception, that star in the sky, then congrats, some guy will step forward and you can laugh your ass off at me.

The fact is, I'm leery of any woman with photos of herself laying on a car, or wearing a Hooters outfit etc... And you should be too. If you just want a lay, go for it. But these women are not looking for a lay. They are looking for a rich guy to take care of them and when you have them, you'll be miserable as they will not always be hot looking but they'll always be shallow. So if I can make sense to any guy reading this, don't sell yourself out. Date and have fun but know the real score when it comes to women that stand on their looks.
 More sleep would be nice
Joined: 8/17/2008
Msg: 777
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/22/2009 5:12:59 PM
I wouldn't mind having a relationship with a stripper. It really depends what she does outside being a stripper that may affect whether I want to continue a relationship with her or not. Eg: I would not have an intimate relationship with someone who is a stripper and sells her mouth, hands and vagina to interested money-generous men and women. Mind you, this has not happened (yet) to me. Therefore, this is only a conclusion of what I feel at the moment. It really depends on varying factors.
 jls1987
Joined: 8/24/2007
Msg: 778
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/28/2009 7:40:41 AM
yeah and the people that judge will therefore be judged by god,me i dont judge anyone but yes there may be things i dont like but i dont judge.would i date a stripper idk you never know who your supposed to be with till you find them.
 newsintown
Joined: 8/30/2007
Msg: 779
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/28/2009 8:45:58 AM
I dated someone who danced. She didn't tell me about it when I started dating. Later, she told me and we still dated after that for a bit.

At the end, I started feeling that it wasn't the only thing she lied about. I started catching her telling me small lies here and there. I didn't like her choice of profession and some other choices that she was making in life. Ultimately, I didn't trust her and didn't respect her choices, so I stopped dating her. Plus she was bad in bed.
 Incorruptible26
Joined: 12/30/2008
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Posted: 1/28/2009 5:29:58 PM
Well, I'll give anybody a chance as long as they're not a crab monster, so yes I would and I'd see how it goes.
 Gangster Kitten
Joined: 4/3/2008
Msg: 782
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:31:12 AM
I just couldn't be with a stripper, because I wouldn't want to deal with the emotional strain of knowing that a room full of drunk, horny guys are openly hooting and doting on her every night... And that she's showing other guys her private parts.

It'd just be unbearable for me. Now, if she was an ex-stripper, No problem. But as long as she does it for work, I just would be too jealous, and it'd be too stressful for me. So I just wouldn't date her.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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Posted: 1/30/2009 11:03:57 PM
I wouldn't have a problem with it. It's a job like any other. I've known a handful of strippers in my lifetime and they're really no different than anyone else.

They take their pants off one leg at a time just like the rest of us. They just happen to have an audience cheering them on while they do.
 BeatlesYeahYeahYeah
Joined: 5/25/2008
Msg: 785
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/31/2009 8:08:25 AM
Seriously: think it over. On the surface, it might seem like the gravy train to a sexual windfall, but after a long day of exhibitionism and flirting, a stripper's not so likely to be excited about being objectified and used for sexual gratification. People are rarely in the mood to do their job once the whistle blows.

How many plumbers can't wait to get home so they can replace old pipes under the ground? How many doctors can't wait to go to a party so they can have their brains picked with medical questions all night?

If anything, she's likely going to be looking for evidence of sincerity -- that she's worth something as a person (like any other woman). A guy who dates a stripper is typically not going to be seeking friendship as much as a "friends with benefits" arrangement. Get real: most women complain of how men just seek a cheap thrill, wanting to "hit it and quit it," so how is chasing a girl with a hot body who makes a living duping horny guys out of their money all day going to lead to a better date?

And for what it's worth, this places a guy at a serious disadvantage: the girl knows he's just trying to use her -- and more so than he would other women -- so she'll just get the jump on him and use him first, whether it's for expensive wining and dining or constant freebies, like manicures, pedicures, do's, clothes and the like. If you're looking for the proverbial "hooker with a heart," like you find in movies like Sweet Charity, An Officer and a Gentleman and Milk Money, good luck.

Sure, you might find a stripper here and there who are good, old-fashioned blue-blooded gals, but then again if you look long enough, you might find a priest who hasn't molested anybody too. The exception doesn't overturn the rule.

So don't be fooled: they know that if you don't want to pay to play, there's a dozen other goofballs in line behind you waiting to make asses of themselves to get her attention.

These women are highly money-motivated, very materialistic -- so unless you're just paying her to be a hooker for the night, there's little point to it.

I have a friend who lived with a stripper for a couple years, and once she finally wiped out his bank account she moved out, leaving only a note. He was devastated -- he thought she actually loved him. Really, he had it coming to him. He wanted a sex carnival and it cost him over $50K.

He learned his lesson and later and married a more conventional girl, and they've been happily married for over 20 years.

I had another friend who was so infatuated with a stripper he wanted to be one of those idiot knights in shining armor who rescues her from her miserable life of making so much money -- with no education or marketable skills -- that she drives a Ferarri. It didn't quite happen.

See, the thing guys don't really get is that the majority of these women have major personality disorders, mess around with dope and drugs and have suffered trauma in their lives. Now, for what it's worth, I'm sure there's lots of dancers out there who are sweet people who aren't greedy or shallow, but just as in the case of nice John Birchers and Nazis who DON'T hate Jews, these are not the folks you want influencing the course of your life.

And whether such people land in this job are victims of one sort or another or not is not the issue. The issue is, to date or not to date?

Date whomever you like, but if you find a decent woman who really digs you, you can easily have as much carnal happiness as you would with a stripper. Flaunting your body on a stage doesn't give you a Ph.D. in buggery.

And besides, you can only spend so much time in bed or the back seat. You're going to actually have to talk to each other eventually. And how great will THAT conversation be? Is she going to have much to say about Picasso's Blue Period? Will she be able to contrast the voice of Byron versus Bukowski where women are concerned? Does she know the difference between how Gore Vidal wrote about Lincoln, versus Carl Sandburg? Does she know what a "concept" album is or that Sgt. Pepper was the first one? Does she have a grasp of current events beyond what is joked about by Jay Leno and Jon Daily? Has she ever seen a silent movie, especially City Lights by Chaplin?

Back at the ranch: there's lots of women these days who are just a much of a freak as any dancer, if that's what you're looking for. (It's not the 1950s anymore.) And it will be a lot more intense because you're being uninhibited with someone you have a history with and who is really into you. Anyone who has loved and been loved will be forever spoiled, knowing there is no substitute for the real thing -- nothing even comes close.

People who date today can actually talk to each other about intimate things if they want to. And they don't have to wait until after they're married to discover if they're on the same page sexually. The stripper mystique is over-rated if not obsolete.

Just find someone you're sexually compatible with and you won't need to do dumb things like having to accept that 1,000 other men a week will get to see your girlfriend naked before you do.
 TheHumanist
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 786
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:44:55 PM
No, sorry, I like nice girls :D
 *Babydoll272*
Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 790
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Posted: 3/15/2009 2:01:11 PM
^^^^^^LOL...G. you kill me!!!! ^^^^^

Yep, I can see my mom doing that if I brought a male stripper home! Kiss on the cheek and Cement Boots !
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 792
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Posted: 3/18/2009 5:42:44 AM
people who live in glass houses...

amazing how many men have been in a strip bar, and think the women they degrade by throwing dollar bills at, are now unfit to be seen with



 poolshark6
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 793
would you date a stripper?
Posted: 3/22/2009 12:07:17 AM
Iceman, you are killing me..........candy apples
 StrangeMonkey9000
Joined: 12/24/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2009 11:50:29 AM
I'm not so sure how I'd feel about this. On one hand I'd like ot think I'm mature enough to handle it, but I dated a girl that did something similar to stripping and I absolutely coul not turn my back on that girl or she'd be up to no good, (doing drugs, cheating, etc..) so that experience has left me a little wary and jaded of the idea.

I know that not all women who are dancers are like that, but that one experience burned me really bad and I would have a very hard time trusting someone else that did it having known the lifestyle.
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