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 Harley17701
Joined: 10/24/2005
Msg: 103
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OMG i cant get over this fact that ...that people think looking at porn is cheating .... last i knew i wasnt getting and STD from a magazine or from some picture .. alot of you people really need to lighten up and try some new experiences .... god .. and alot of men wouldnt need to look at porn if alot of women would get their heads out of their a**es and try new things to please their partner .... and with the new world of technologies and internet its like every where you look ... only one can imagine what the future of the porn industry is going to look like .... if thats todays biggest pet peeve then damn i will be single forever ... unless i find out of the thousands out there that like freakier things lol .
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 104
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 1/18/2010 6:16:38 PM

purrtypurr: After looking at your profile and seeing the lovely wife standing beside you, it just boggles me why you need constant visual porn stimulation to get you going; it sounds like you have become addicted to porn, and in that case I would say get yourself some counseling....I mean sneaking behind your wife's back to watch it indicates you need help......marriage is supposed to be built on trust.....or is it?
Not TOO judgmental there, are you? I'll try to make it as simple as I can for you, OK?

Most men like to jack off occasionally. Visual aids help. The end.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 105
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 1/18/2010 6:25:00 PM

curios212: TND - Did it ever occured to you that the "NO" could mean something else?

Great googly-moogly!!! All these years feminist women (and don't get me wrong, here; I support Feminism wholeheartedly. My ex used to belong to NOW) have been saying "NO MEANS NO!!!" No(w) I find out it can mean something entirely different!

Man, I'm soooo confuzzled...
 midwestsean77
Joined: 1/10/2010
Msg: 106
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 1/19/2010 4:50:40 PM
I am weighing in on this from a different standpoint.

I am a guy and my last relationship was hurt by porn. Not in that she had an issue with it - she enjoyed watching it herself. Not that she ever confronted me with it or asked me to stop watching it. I know now, however, that it was the cause of some intimacy issues between us. I still wonder today (its been over 2 years since we split) if a little less time watching and little more time with her could have helped us.

One of several things I vow never to let happen again. Porn in a relationship is only really OK if it is shared between partners.
 blackbird76
Joined: 7/21/2008
Msg: 108
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Posted: 1/20/2010 5:47:26 PM
Gets a divorce!!
Seriously. Do Amazonian tribespeople require porn? They do not have a culture of worshipping images, they don't even understand that a photograph is a real person, it makes no sense to them..... too many of you exist within a Matrix.
Porn is a simulacra, haven't you read Baudrillard?
Welcome to the desert of the real.

All you people that think porn is a bloke thing and is harmless, live in a simulated reality, a prison for your mind. Or gonads, whichever.
If a man truly loves his wife, surely he would have no need for porn, as he would find absolute satisfaction within his marriage.

Judas.

To say otherwise simply isn't the truth, as porn has only existed as long as printed media. Before that, somehow people managed to conduct relationships and marriages without it. How do you suppose they did that? By investing 100% attention to their marriage, that's how.

If it's natural, then why don't animals need porn?

WAKE UP!!!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 109
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Posted: 1/20/2010 6:33:49 PM

To say otherwise simply isn't the truth, as porn has only existed as long as printed media. Before that, somehow people managed to conduct relationships and marriages without it. How do you suppose they did that? By investing 100% attention to their marriage, that's how.

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....reaaaaaaaaaaaalllllly?????? I can assure you, my mind is much filthier/raunchier than any porn I know about. Did it occur to you that even WAY back when, people had imaginations and used them? I'm not a fan of porn as it bores me ~ but ~ vanilla sex bores me more, so if it takes someone a little porn to figure out some alternatives to sleeper-sex (for me) ~ he's welcome to it.


If it's natural, then why don't animals need porn?
WAKE UP!!!

***Snort*** I so love these analogies. Animals don't need porn cause they breed in droves, in public, whenever they want without limits, boundaries, or worries that how they do it or like it or want it or yada yada will be seen as twisted/perverted or wrong. Why is this? Because they have NO idea it's for any other reason than procreation.
 12 Volt Man
Joined: 1/1/2010
Msg: 110
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Posted: 2/11/2010 3:21:23 PM
"I don't know why some women get their panties in a huge knot over it."

not sure either.

hell, my last GF actually bought me a porno DVD lol
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 112
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/17/2010 3:12:33 PM
ahhh the hypocracy of women and porn...

my ex wife when we first got together- of course she was trying to catch me, so watching porn together was cool.

she was open to it and we did it...even after we got married.


then one day somewhere down the line it was suddenly the worst thing I'd ever done...


women...


then after we'd gotten divorced, sometime later I did not realize I hadn't changed my cable password and such...

she comes at me..."boondock...boondock...I see you are still watching porn...that is soo nasty...i cannot believe you'd still watch that nasty stuff"

rather than make a big deal about her having accessed my online cable bill illegally...

i respond..

"oh no my dear- i was watching those movies with my new young, hotblooded, sexy girlfriend- she likes them more than you did when we were first together!"

that was the last I heard about porn from her...


my advice: don't pander to her self righteousness on the subject of porn. most all have watched it and were turned on by it...either with you or some other buck stud before you. don't make it a big deal or act guilty...

on the other hand - if you are one of those that like to save that stuff for later...expect her to find it...and you will have to deal with her at some point.
 kissmyasthma
Joined: 12/4/2009
Msg: 113
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/17/2010 3:49:32 PM
................. and gets caught with her hand in her pants
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 114
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Posted: 4/18/2010 11:51:32 AM
porn has become a multy billion dollar business, there is more porn than regular movies
it is just entertainment, and your wife should not be upset , is she your mother, are you a little boy
your not, so go for it
i dont like porn anymore, to many women are shaved, showing my age i guess
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 4/18/2010 11:58:06 AM
just a little thing i did not write down, my ex, caught me watching porn, she gave me hell fire, i got ride of it all, as it turns out, she had a job, that was 24/7, and would often get up in the middle of the night,and guess what she would watch porn on tv
 PregnantLady
Joined: 3/1/2010
Msg: 116
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/19/2010 12:31:49 PM
To me viewing pron is a form of cheating. I know a lot of people will disagree but its just my opinion
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 4/19/2010 12:54:18 PM
If I found porn on my wifes computer (highly unlikely I'll ever be married but that's beside the point), I'd be happy! Just goes to show you how ridiculous some can be. Treating sex like it's some horrible horrible thing is ridiculous. Did some women ever think it can be an excellent tool to IMPROVE your love life? I swear some people don't want to be happy. Then there would be nothing to complain about and how BORING would that be? DRAMA & CONFLICT must be kept high at all times ( I think this is a commandment in the womens handbook).
 lateā„¢
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 118
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/19/2010 3:13:43 PM

Don't want to hijack the thread but WTF!



This thread reminds me of an old room mate, ...his Asian girlfriend found his porn links, and it was all non-Asians with huge boobs, she was upset, mostly because, "None of those girls look like me!".

He replied,

"That's the whole point!"

He's such a dawg.

 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 119
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Posted: 4/19/2010 8:08:45 PM

To me viewing pron is a form of cheating. I know a lot of people will disagree but its just my opinion


I respect your opinion, but would like to have you expand that a bit more. I have heard that from other women as well as yourself. Can you elaborate a bit as to why?

Remember, men are visual creatures, it's in our makeup.
 PregnantLady
Joined: 3/1/2010
Msg: 120
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/21/2010 10:39:18 AM
I've never turned my husband down for sex as he has never turned me down.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 121
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Posted: 4/21/2010 12:26:10 PM
That poster could be one in a million, Coma White - or maybe it's more like one in a thousand. LOL My SO is the same, even after 10 years together, and I enjoy trying to keep up with her. The only times she's not been in the mood was when she was deathly ill. Despite having sex almost twice daily and both of us thoroughly enjoying it, I'll still occasionally enjoy some porn. The few times she's "caught" me, she's just gotten turned on, jumped in ,and taken advantage of the situation.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 122
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 4/21/2010 12:32:41 PM
I used to find porn on the computer...literally. I'd go find it for my ex so he could view it at his leisure because he was computer illiterate at the time. (Sex wasn't the reason for the demise of the relationship, nor do I view looking at porn as cheating.) I like porn too...guess I must be a visual guy.

vvvv...well, "they" keep saying guys are visual creatures. They're apparently not the only ones. There are statistics out there...somewhere...that show huge numbers with respect to it being women who purchase porn. So either the stats lie or it's a total misconception that women aren't drawn to the visual when it comes to sex.
 PregnantLady
Joined: 3/1/2010
Msg: 123
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Posted: 4/21/2010 1:34:29 PM

I find it hard to believe that you have never turned down sex because you weren't in the mood for it. If you never turn it down, you are truly one in a million.


Even when my morning sickness was at its worst and I was puking my guts up I still wouldn't turn sex down.
 *closer
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 124
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Posted: 4/21/2010 1:55:46 PM
If watching porn is cheating,then so is masterbation,and that's just ridiculous.
And people who see porn as cheating have some issues with control and are typically religious women.

Cheating is actually about lying/omitting an affair and having an emotional or sexual relationship behind someone's back, who trusts you.


Even when my morning sickness was at its worst and I was puking my guts up I still wouldn't turn sex down.


Now that's one considerate man you got there,to not care if you are puking your guts up or not even if you don't.

 PregnantLady
Joined: 3/1/2010
Msg: 126
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Posted: 4/21/2010 2:24:45 PM

Now that's one considerate man you got there,to not care if you are puking your guts up or not even if you don't.


Actually I'm glad he didn't turn down sex and probably would have been a bit ticked if he had.
 DebiDuzDishes
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 4/22/2010 1:22:59 PM
ya ya.. what she said ^^^^^^^^

and this


Real men don't need to hide their porn.


OH stop.. people have KIDS.. keep it hidden.. jeepers.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 5/16/2010 11:36:59 AM

Men do not look at porn because the sex with you is no good.

I did notice that when I'm single and having fun or with a girl who is exciting I rarely ever look at porn....when the girl I'm with turns out to not be so hot....porn tends to fill in the blanks.
 1929benz
Joined: 5/14/2010
Msg: 129
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Posted: 5/18/2010 11:17:22 AM
Your on a dating site, and obviously married. No wonder your wife found your porn. Your an idiot
 1929benz
Joined: 5/14/2010
Msg: 130
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Posted: 5/18/2010 11:19:03 AM
better clear your browsing history before she knows you go here too. [shakes head]
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