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 Oshawas Good Girl
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 29
are some people non-datable?Page 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
to be quite honest, everyone may be infact different, however there are a few types of non date-able people.

flaws were ment to be fixed or over looked.

however, thieves, cronic liars, pathological liars, lazy people who refuse to work for a living, and of course lets not forget cheaters and people who refuse to shower...
are infact conciddered the undate -able ... if they are making the attempt to change and making progress thats one thing...

but generally speaking... atleast 90% of the time they are set in their ways and even if they say they will change, they wont, which most of us have learned atleast 1-5 times from personal experiences in dating these people.

There isnt really much that can be done about it accept to just move on.

also ... a majority of people just enjoy dating around... this does not make them undateable... and how dare you judge them for having a prefrence.

some do it for fun, some do it because they realized the person they were with doesnt fit them the way they had originally hoped.
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 30
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/4/2010 8:24:33 PM
Undatable, do you want references ? The grandious expectations, game playing, the political correctness, back stabby BS, lies, cheating, and poor sex; hell I will stay single for a LONG while.
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 31
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/5/2010 7:20:38 AM

Have absolutely no idea why. I'm talking first date. After that I do great but it has been tough for me to get that first date all my life and alot tougher now after being out of the game for 20 years.
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 32
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/5/2010 7:26:34 AM
Crazy people can only pull off sanity for a few dates... most relationships take longer than that.
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 33
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/5/2010 11:07:14 AM
Many women state with all their heart how they are looking for someone who wants a serious relationship and isn't going to jerk them around and play and use them then move on to the next conquest. Well that's me! I'm probably one of the FEW guys in SoCal who is still oldschool like that. I have integrity. I thought these were the valuable qualities so many women seek? Maybe they aren't so valuable after all and TALK does not match the TRUTH of desire.

Other factors disqualify me to most of them so you know what?.....Why care anymore? It seems I should just give in...go with the flow and take the shallow route and just go for short term flings which is apparently all I can hope for.
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 34
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/5/2010 12:08:57 PM
I don't necessarily think so.

Why be so quick to judge that a person who simply doesn't have a bf/gf for an extended period of time is somehow "non-dateable"? .... Perhaps they prefer being single and unattached. Perhaps it simply isn't a top-notch-priority in their life at this moment to have a relationship. ... There's a plethora of reasons a person is single for an extended time. .. Unless they directly asked me analyze why they are single I could care less to scrutinize the why's and whereto's of a person's singleness. Bottomline is: If they are happy with whats on their plate, there is no need to scrutinize that.

Keep in mind OP, there are also lots of ppl who cannot seem to stand being alone, even for a bit and would much rather stay in a bad/abusive relationship than remain single -- simply due to fear of "being alone". What is sad is these types of ppl are so co-dependent on having someone there (even if that person was sucking the life out of them!) that they need that persons presence to make them feel validated.

To me this is much sadder than other situations.
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 35
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/5/2010 5:46:27 PM
I don't date because I choose not to date not because I"m not datable. I haven't found the right one. I did date a few times, however it seems many women have problems. While I like helping people I don't want to date women with problems. I don't know many people used to come to me with their problems now I just hide lol
Joined: 10/11/2009
Msg: 36
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/6/2010 1:04:43 AM
Absolutely some people are undatable. Probably close to half of my friends fall into that category (we're all pretty stereotypical nerd types). Many of them have never had a date in their lives.
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 37
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/6/2010 1:18:26 AM

do you see non-datable people

Yes. They are everywhere.

what do you think the main reason may be?

It depends on the person. Some are psychos, some are clergy (so, yeah most are, technically, married to god, but not all non-dating clergy are married to god(s) some just don't date), some are unwilling to be open to changes of any kind, the list goes on for a pretty long time before we get to the psycho level.

My guess is the main reason is the unwillingness to be open to others as far as their standards or their behavior. Compromise isn't required for everything, but some things won't bring your world to a crashing mushroom cloud of robotic clone boredom while sacrificing your individuality.

I also have that judgemental moment( or two or 70) with some people and hope they never breed. But, then I realize the wonderful people I've know that came from psycho parents and the wonderful parents I know that raised a psycho child.
Joined: 9/22/2009
Msg: 38
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/6/2010 3:06:20 AM
I know I am, for the most part, undateable.
Not because I am psycho or pathological or just batsh*t crazy.
It is simply becasue I am not typical.

Do I know there is someone out there that I am compatible with?
Of course, but I don't do long distance (wait, that makes them undateable).

I feel the simple answer to this is, for the most part, everyone is undateable to someone else. Some people are more undateable and some are less. I don't see this in any way as a yes or no question.
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 39
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/6/2010 5:06:58 AM
Maybe we're like blood types.

O ~~ Universal donor, 47% of population
A ~~ 41%
B ~~ 9%
AB ~~ Universal receiver, 3%
(numbers approximate, and vary by country)

Some personality types predominate, and mesh better with other types. I suspect that for some, due to whatever factors, mating is simply not high on their list of priorities. Others started well, made an unlucky choice, got meat grindered, and don't chose to continue. And so on.

First thing, I think, is to find a way to be happy within one's self. Which is much easier said than done. Also much much easier if one is willing and able to avail oneself of therapy/support groups.

Live long and prosper. . . .

Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 40
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are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/6/2010 10:00:37 PM

There are some people who ought not to be able to get dates but still do. Richard "The Night Stalker" Ramirez, for example, got lots of hot (albeit wacko) babes lining up for him while he was on trial, and one eventually married him. So clearly anybody can get a date if their standards are low enough. Heck, I could have picked up a new boyfriend at the agency banquet tonight if a slow-witted geriatric philanderer did it for me.

I dated a woman in New Mexico who told me after we broke up that she had been writing to the Night Stalker for years! When I was with her she had a book that was a biography of him, but at the time I didn't think much of it. I'm interested in history, so I have biographies of all sorts of unsavory characters, like Hitler and Stalin. That book on Richard Ramiriez was about the only book she owned though so maybe I should have thought it was strange, lol
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 41
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 8:55:04 AM
I'm not dateable...I don't date. I get asked out, but the guys never follow through. It could be a Southern California flakey thing, but I don't I'll say that I'm undateable.
Joined: 2/6/2010
Msg: 42
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 9:27:46 AM
A group of my friends went out say oh... 5-6years ago on the Las Vegas Strip out for Drinks at the Bellagio Resort.

All dressed up, suited up, rolexes, and everything. (Thank you Rolex Store Supervisor(Friend) for loaning us those signed watches we all returned that same next morning. But anyways they we're new display models that didn't need to be displayed yet.

But we went to all our fathers and asked them for Wedding Bands, all 5 of us. We put on 5 wedding rings and all went to get drinks at the bars in there and play some Craps/21/Poker. You wouldn't know regardless of how long we been there gambling several thousand dollars away in the 8 hours we spent there from 7pm to 3am how many Groups of Single Women/Grouped Women, stopped to talk to us.

They say what happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas. Well we all was some "Deceiving fools" for sure, we said we all was like married for 5-9years and happily to everyone. WE turn down at least.. 70+ women total in those 8hours. Most of them slipped us business cards, room numbers to other hotels, napkins with cell phone numbers on it, rarely did we get a 702 number.

At the end of the night, we came to the conclusion.

It don't matter if the girls a Tourist, Professional Worker, Rich House Wife in a Bad Marriage, College Girl, Local Escort / Exotic Dancer

"Women try to break what they can't have... A Happy Married Man."

We put up the scherade that night long enough.

Its a relationship that is solid, that is a perfect front of defense.
If a girl says they are in a relationship... Excuse 101% EXCUSE.

Only marriage is finite by laws. Your not married, your on the market.
Your married, people will try their hardest to take you off the market.

You obviously need to let them know, to think more honestly to themselves. Some women don't know what they want...

But they all want one thing... A caring, listening, semi jealous man.

Get her to ask questions about her future with her so-called Boyfriend.
(How are we as a couple? Fine without marriage? Sex Friends? Open Relationship? Are we gonna Tie the Knot?)
Get her to start asking these things to her SO called man, and say... "Where is the ring?"
His actions will start to tell her the truth how he see's her.

Either as a piece of ass who is dumb. Or someone to raise a family. Or someone to have his child and escape saying like they do on Maury Povich. "YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER." Hahah I love when I hear that.

Find out more about her/wants & travel needs.
Go on a vacation where she wanted to go, find out where she is at. Usually real exclusive dates don't go on vacations with you.
Maybe you should ask her instead.

In the end, dating/relationships spend money so save up.
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 43
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 1:00:05 PM
Some people are not as dating desirable as other people but I wouldn't say very many people are non datable. Not everyone can quickly find a new mate when losing an old one due to problems and issues they face in their lives.
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 44
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 4:02:56 PM
Kind of like asking "Is some food inedible" don't you think?

Reportedly, some people even eat feces!
 Canadian Ink
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 45
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 4:21:21 PM
Aw, valenciacityx stole my thunder. I was going to be the black sheep and be the first one to say "un-dateable". Anyways, I don't think anyone is inherently un-dateable. Perhaps there are those who possess bizarre personality traits or annoying tendencies, even an unfortunate physical deformity. That doesn't necessarily mean thatthey are un-dateable. It simply means, unfortunately, the spectrum of those WILLING to date them is substantially lower. That's what makes someone (apparently) dateable or un-dateable. The idea that there may or may not be someone who is WILLING to date them. Liking someone and wanting to date them is fine and dandy. But it's a two-way street. They've got to want the same thing. So basically, what makes someone un-dateable (though I still believe that this is ridiculous) is that there is no one willing to date them. With six billion (and counting) people on this earth, you're telling me that not one person is willing to give it a shot with said person? Unlikely.
Joined: 9/8/2008
Msg: 48
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are some people non-datable?
Posted: 9/22/2011 8:58:06 AM

yup some people r non dateab and most of the time its not thear falt its ladie that oooo im sorry your just not my type when they wount even give a guy a chane to show just how nice he is but still it happens

and it can start with something as trivl as a bad pic one bad pic and bam your conciderd a loser or even poor spelling can ruin any hope to find a parter or even haveing a crevited profile its such a crapyy thing but its number one on the hit perade of dateing on line

From your profile:
About Me
ARGggggggggggggggggggggggggg its Harddddddddddddddddddddd beinggggggggggggggggggggggg a singleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy knowingggggggggggggggggggg thattttttttt nooooo one wants to date you much less chat with you IM NOT A CREEPY GUY you know im well ajusted not a dram king but still date less And soon tobe leaveing pof for ever...

You may have noticed as you type a message there are funny red underlines under some words you type.... that is the automatic spell checker working and it is telling you to right clik over the word to see a corrected spelling for you to there is no real excuse for spelling errors...... and nooooo it is not cupid kissing each of your words with a red arrow for good luck.....

Consider this..... if in your town you went daily to buy groceries riding a horse and buggy.... would people comment or think unkind things about you??? Unless you are Amish... there is no real excuse for that behavior at all????? Maybe you drive the "General Lee" to town instead.... equally creepy

Pictures also are easy to edit here when posting..... the software is native to the website.... so no excuses...

Based on the above...the only conclusions a thinking woman can make about you are all negative and disrespectful.... chose your own poison .... Good luck in your pity party...

Leaving is an option..... but staying and seeking personal growth and a journey into maturity will serve you better long term..... but if you must go home and pout.... have fun with that!!!

"Stupid is as stupid does"
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 50
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 2:11:30 PM
Some people just don't jump the gun at the first person that shows them affection. Me, I have been single most of my life, besides 2 real GFs, some dates here and there, and the occasional roll in the hay...I am human, before you judge.
There is nothing wrong with staying out of the game for a bit. Many reasons for it; You just got out of relationship, that last one may still sting a little, new job, some side work, school homework, family issues, family emergency, anything. Non-dateable is term that should not be thrown around...Maybe someone just hasn't hit their stride yet, or are feeling a little depressed.
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 51
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 3:10:31 PM
Non-datable...pretty strong words, but I suspect most of those who consider themselves "non-datable" are actually attempting to date people with whom they don't have much in common. I am dating challenged, but I'll take the blame for most of that. I think I've been out of practice for so long that I truly have no idea what I'm doing after a first date.
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 53
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 3:46:09 PM
Elaine: "So you're saying that 95% of the people in the world are undateable?


Elaine: "Then how are all these people getting together?"

Jerry: "Alcohol."

Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 54
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 4:10:28 PM
All in life is timing and of course if one is not very attractive, successful or pleasant they are not going to be popular. You cant possibly give general answers as everyone is different.
Many are too fussy with what they desire and want it all when they have very little. Some people never fall in love and date very seldom. It is just their nature. Perhaps they are loners or just dont have the opportunities. SOme people need to have a partner around even if there is no real love and will settle......many scenarios....
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 55
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 4:17:27 PM

I am nondateable because I cant date someone who I am not attracted to physically

That's not being undateable, that is your instincts. No one can date someone they are not attracted to, unless they are stringing someone along.
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 57
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 4:29:00 PM
It seems that some people truly are "undateable" , as a result of either personal choices they've made , or the fact that they may be too "out of norm" - for all sorts of varied reasons, for most folks to even want to get close to ...

I don't believe everyone was meant to have a partner.
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 58
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 4:40:30 PM

People say im too picky and get furious at me oh well. My issue and I know is that I am only attracted to clean shaven pretty boy types But I know Im not their type :( It sucks too. I cant help it its frustrating

There's a line that sometimes gets blurred between picky and what you like. Why do they call you picky? Is there only a certain height, hair color, social status, or "Kind" of person you'll date?

I'm not trying to ridicule you, so don't think that. All I'm trying to do is get a better understanding of why guys would say such a thing.
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