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 ilovehistory
Joined: 8/12/2009
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There are some people who ought not to be able to get dates but still do. Richard "The Night Stalker" Ramirez, for example, got lots of hot (albeit wacko) babes lining up for him while he was on trial, and one eventually married him. So clearly anybody can get a date if their standards are low enough. Heck, I could have picked up a new boyfriend at the agency banquet tonight if a slow-witted geriatric philanderer did it for me.


I dated a woman in New Mexico who told me after we broke up that she had been writing to the Night Stalker for years! When I was with her she had a book that was a biography of him, but at the time I didn't think much of it. I'm interested in history, so I have biographies of all sorts of unsavory characters, like Hitler and Stalin. That book on Richard Ramiriez was about the only book she owned though so maybe I should have thought it was strange, lol
 JGirlinSD
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 41
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 8:55:04 AM
I'm not dateable...I don't date. I get asked out, but the guys never follow through. It could be a Southern California flakey thing, but I don't know..so I'll say that I'm undateable.
 theotherload
Joined: 2/6/2010
Msg: 42
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 9:27:46 AM
A group of my friends went out say oh... 5-6years ago on the Las Vegas Strip out for Drinks at the Bellagio Resort.

All dressed up, suited up, rolexes, and everything. (Thank you Rolex Store Supervisor(Friend) for loaning us those signed watches we all returned that same next morning. But anyways they we're new display models that didn't need to be displayed yet.

But we went to all our fathers and asked them for Wedding Bands, all 5 of us. We put on 5 wedding rings and all went to get drinks at the bars in there and play some Craps/21/Poker. You wouldn't know regardless of how long we been there gambling several thousand dollars away in the 8 hours we spent there from 7pm to 3am how many Groups of Single Women/Grouped Women, stopped to talk to us.

They say what happens in Vegas Stays in Vegas. Well we all was some "Deceiving fools" for sure, we said we all was like married for 5-9years and happily to everyone. WE turn down at least.. 70+ women total in those 8hours. Most of them slipped us business cards, room numbers to other hotels, napkins with cell phone numbers on it, rarely did we get a 702 number.

At the end of the night, we came to the conclusion.

It don't matter if the girls a Tourist, Professional Worker, Rich House Wife in a Bad Marriage, College Girl, Local Escort / Exotic Dancer

"Women try to break what they can't have... A Happy Married Man."



We put up the scherade that night long enough.

Its a relationship that is solid, that is a perfect front of defense.
If a girl says they are in a relationship... Excuse 101% EXCUSE.

Only marriage is finite by laws. Your not married, your on the market.
Your married, people will try their hardest to take you off the market.



You obviously need to let them know, to think more honestly to themselves. Some women don't know what they want...

But they all want one thing... A caring, listening, semi jealous man.


Get her to ask questions about her future with her so-called Boyfriend.
(How are we as a couple? Fine without marriage? Sex Friends? Open Relationship? Are we gonna Tie the Knot?)
Get her to start asking these things to her SO called man, and say... "Where is the ring?"
His actions will start to tell her the truth how he see's her.

Either as a piece of ass who is dumb. Or someone to raise a family. Or someone to have his child and escape saying like they do on Maury Povich. "YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER." Hahah I love when I hear that.

Find out more about her/wants & travel needs.
Go on a vacation where she wanted to go, find out where she is at. Usually real exclusive dates don't go on vacations with you.
Maybe you should ask her instead.

In the end, dating/relationships spend money so save up.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 43
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 1:00:05 PM
Some people are not as dating desirable as other people but I wouldn't say very many people are non datable. Not everyone can quickly find a new mate when losing an old one due to problems and issues they face in their lives.
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 44
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 4:02:56 PM
Kind of like asking "Is some food inedible" don't you think?

Reportedly, some people even eat feces!
 Canadian Ink
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 45
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 3/7/2010 4:21:21 PM
Aw, valenciacityx stole my thunder. I was going to be the black sheep and be the first one to say "un-dateable". Anyways, I don't think anyone is inherently un-dateable. Perhaps there are those who possess bizarre personality traits or annoying tendencies, even an unfortunate physical deformity. That doesn't necessarily mean thatthey are un-dateable. It simply means, unfortunately, the spectrum of those WILLING to date them is substantially lower. That's what makes someone (apparently) dateable or un-dateable. The idea that there may or may not be someone who is WILLING to date them. Liking someone and wanting to date them is fine and dandy. But it's a two-way street. They've got to want the same thing. So basically, what makes someone un-dateable (though I still believe that this is ridiculous) is that there is no one willing to date them. With six billion (and counting) people on this earth, you're telling me that not one person is willing to give it a shot with said person? Unlikely.
 gentleplus
Joined: 9/8/2008
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are some people non-datable?
Posted: 9/22/2011 8:58:06 AM

yup some people r non dateab and most of the time its not thear falt its ladie that oooo im sorry your just not my type when they wount even give a guy a chane to show just how nice he is but still it happens

and it can start with something as trivl as a bad pic one bad pic and bam your conciderd a loser or even poor spelling can ruin any hope to find a parter or even haveing a crevited profile its such a crapyy thing but its number one on the hit perade of dateing on line

From your profile:
About Me
ARGggggggggggggggggggggggggg its Harddddddddddddddddddddd beinggggggggggggggggggggggg a singleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy knowingggggggggggggggggggg thattttttttt nooooo one wants to date you much less chat with you IM NOT A CREEPY GUY you know im well ajusted not a dram king but still date less And soon tobe leaveing pof for ever...



You may have noticed as you type a message there are funny red underlines under some words you type.... that is the automatic spell checker working and it is telling you to right clik over the word to see a corrected spelling for you to select......so there is no real excuse for spelling errors...... and nooooo it is not cupid kissing each of your words with a red arrow for good luck.....

Consider this..... if in your town you went daily to buy groceries riding a horse and buggy.... would people comment or think unkind things about you??? Unless you are Amish... there is no real excuse for that behavior at all????? Maybe you drive the "General Lee" to town instead.... equally creepy

Pictures also are easy to edit here when posting..... the software is native to the website.... so no excuses...

Based on the above...the only conclusions a thinking woman can make about you are all negative and disrespectful.... chose your own poison .... Good luck in your pity party...

Leaving is an option..... but staying and seeking personal growth and a journey into maturity will serve you better long term..... but if you must go home and pout.... have fun with that!!!

"Stupid is as stupid does"
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 50
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 2:11:30 PM
Some people just don't jump the gun at the first person that shows them affection. Me, I have been single most of my life, besides 2 real GFs, some dates here and there, and the occasional roll in the hay...I am human, before you judge.
There is nothing wrong with staying out of the game for a bit. Many reasons for it; You just got out of relationship, that last one may still sting a little, new job, some side work, school homework, family issues, family emergency, anything. Non-dateable is term that should not be thrown around...Maybe someone just hasn't hit their stride yet, or are feeling a little depressed.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 51
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 3:10:31 PM
Non-datable...pretty strong words, but I suspect most of those who consider themselves "non-datable" are actually attempting to date people with whom they don't have much in common. I am dating challenged, but I'll take the blame for most of that. I think I've been out of practice for so long that I truly have no idea what I'm doing after a first date.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 53
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 3:46:09 PM
Elaine: "So you're saying that 95% of the people in the world are undateable?

Jerry: "UNDATEABLE!"

Elaine: "Then how are all these people getting together?"

Jerry: "Alcohol."

 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/13/2011 4:10:28 PM
All in life is timing and of course if one is not very attractive, successful or pleasant they are not going to be popular. You cant possibly give general answers as everyone is different.
Many are too fussy with what they desire and want it all when they have very little. Some people never fall in love and date very seldom. It is just their nature. Perhaps they are loners or just dont have the opportunities. SOme people need to have a partner around even if there is no real love and will settle......many scenarios....
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 55
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 4:17:27 PM

I am nondateable because I cant date someone who I am not attracted to physically

That's not being undateable, that is your instincts. No one can date someone they are not attracted to, unless they are stringing someone along.
 egowitch
Joined: 6/5/2011
Msg: 57
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Posted: 11/13/2011 4:29:00 PM
It seems that some people truly are "undateable" , as a result of either personal choices they've made , or the fact that they may be too "out of norm" - for all sorts of varied reasons, for most folks to even want to get close to ...

I don't believe everyone was meant to have a partner.
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/13/2011 4:40:30 PM

People say im too picky and get furious at me oh well. My issue and I know is that I am only attracted to clean shaven pretty boy types But I know Im not their type :( It sucks too. I cant help it its frustrating

There's a line that sometimes gets blurred between picky and what you like. Why do they call you picky? Is there only a certain height, hair color, social status, or "Kind" of person you'll date?

I'm not trying to ridicule you, so don't think that. All I'm trying to do is get a better understanding of why guys would say such a thing.
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 60
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 5:16:22 PM
Fair enough. Are you sure you aren't willing to try someone like me? Kidding of course, but no you cannot help what you are attracted to. Just don't get what you like, being picky, and being too picky get mixed up. Some women do that.
 sschooly
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 61
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/13/2011 5:27:58 PM
"are some people non-datable?"

Sometimes being non-datable is a choice. I was after my divorce. I was completely content to enjoy my single status for quite a while. It was wonderful. I didn't want to date anyone. I just wanted to do my own thing and hang with my kids. I really didn't want to jump into a new relationship. Meeting new people was ok but I wouldn't agree to go on dates with anyone back then.
 ilovehistory
Joined: 8/12/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2011 6:11:01 PM

Sometimes being non-datable is a choice. I was after my divorce. I was completely content to enjoy my single status for quite a while. It was wonderful. I didn't want to date anyone. I just wanted to do my own thing and hang with my kids. I really didn't want to jump into a new relationship. Meeting new people was ok but I wouldn't agree to go on dates with anyone back then.


That doesn't make you non-dateable. Non-dateable means no one wants you because you have so little to offer. You were choosing not to date, despite people wanting you, so you were not non-dateable, you were not dating. Not the same thing.

Some people clearly do have so little to offer that no one will ever want them and that may be something they cannot change.
 free4all131220
Joined: 10/28/2011
Msg: 63
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Posted: 11/13/2011 7:23:14 PM
does flat broke, or dirt poor qualify as undatable? if so i better give it up LOL
 BeckyRichfield
Joined: 4/24/2011
Msg: 64
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Posted: 11/14/2011 8:38:23 PM
Woobytoodsay wrote:
Maybe we're like blood types.
O ~~ Universal donor, 47% of population
A ~~ 41%
B ~~ 9%
AB ~~ Universal receiver, 3%
Some personality types predominate, and mesh better with other types

This is a GREAT metaphor! I was trying to think about how to word how I felt about myself and this pretty much gets it. It's not that I'm picky, I'm just not a match with very many people--I know I push the envelope on quirky. I've done the best thing I could think of in moving from a rural mountaintop in Northern Nevada to a large metropolitan area. A more liberal place out of the Bubba country would have been better, but at least I have a chance here of finding my kind of crazy...
 joe__89
Joined: 4/13/2011
Msg: 65
are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/14/2011 10:19:07 PM
I know this is going to sound like I'm trying to get everyone's attention about how horrible my life is, but so what.

I'm 22, never had a GF, never had a date, never kissed... Mostly because of my social anxiety. I feel like the ugliest man on the planet. There are girls who show interest... but when they do, I stop talking with them and completely shun them in fear of rejection. It's terrible. I'm finding out that I'm just not dating material, and probably never will be. Like some other dude said, it's natural selection at work.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 66
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Posted: 11/15/2011 3:57:34 AM

Sometimes being non-datable is a choice. I was after my divorce. I was completely content to enjoy my single status for quite a while. It was wonderful. I didn't want to date anyone. I just wanted to do my own thing and hang with my kids. I really didn't want to jump into a new relationship. Meeting new people was ok but I wouldn't agree to go on dates with anyone back then

This is where I am at right now. This time of year is awkward to date, the days are short, it's cold in the N.E. during Winter. I need a break, & I won't agree to meet a soul until after V-day. Maybe I'm tired of disappointment, I dunno. The only way I'd date anyone now if I met them in real life & they seemed like a good match.
 macongtr
Joined: 11/9/2010
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are some people non-datable?
Posted: 11/16/2011 5:49:40 PM
Apparently I am.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 69
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:13:33 PM
I've seen a lot of profiles of people who are undatable (women's profiles-don't know about the men's side). It's the women who display bitterness like a badge of honor. They have a long list of what they don't want in a man, and if they have a secondary list of what they do want in a man, it's a mile long that no man could ever match. I have no idea why they would even consider being on a dating web site if they have so much hatred of men.
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 70
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Posted: 11/17/2011 11:11:59 PM
Trust me maleman999 that there are male profiles that are just as bad.

Do I believe there are undatable people? Yes. I know that I am not datable. I'm not into casual dating and no longer care to put into a relationship what it deserves so I've taken myself off the market. Will this be for a time or forever? I don't know yet.
 sschooly
Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 71
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Posted: 11/20/2011 3:08:57 PM
^^ as someone told me, thebugisback, that's not un-dateable. It's you not wanting to date. There's a difference.
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