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 Loose_end
Joined: 9/12/2006
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I cant see me rushing to subscribe

If a Woman had young children, thats wonderful. But not something i would actively seek, and i certainly wouldnt give preference to those with kids.

I've dated a few single Mums over the years. My experience tells me, that not only are her children first.......They're also 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th. I generally ranked somewhere below her car and just above a pedicure (or was it the other way round? Actually, now i think of it, i was lower than both)

I'm sure that Men looking for Women with children do it for a multitude of honest reasons. Inability to Father their own, they may have young children themselves from previous relationships. They may just like the idea of a ready made family unit without having to actually make their own.

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I effectively became her father, she even started to call me dad. I don't see her anymore, which is such a real shame for her as well as me. Her mother cheated on me, and has moved quite some distance away. If i could, I would take her to court over access. Sadly though, with me not being the natural father I don't have a leg to stand on.


I hear ya Colin. Been in a very similar situation myself
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Posted: 9/24/2009 9:37:38 AM
Surely you got to judge each person as an individual and not tar everyone with the same brush?

A few years ago I had joined a single parent contact website. I was terribly lonely and facing the harsh reality that perhaps Mr Right had lost my address and I'd never be able to have children of my own. So of course meeting a guy who already had kids was a good alternative for me, as I had a lot of love to give. As nothing came out of that website, I can only think that maybe single dads are as wary of childless women as women are of childless men.
 CK1708
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Posted: 9/24/2009 12:47:08 PM

Two words for you. Instant Family. Maybe they want the closeness to someone and more. Maybe they are unable to have children? Its all well and good to have your alarm bells ringing, but maybe you should find out why first.


But not many guys out there are willing to bring up, another mans child
 Talk4England
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Posted: 9/24/2009 3:04:41 PM
I just find women with children less selfish and self-centred generally (not all) as they, like me, have to consider others more in their day to day life.
They are generally more understanding of the time you need to dedicate to your own family.
 ~Hams~
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Posted: 9/24/2009 3:07:13 PM

guys would you join a site that was for men searching for single mums.


No I wouldn't!

Although if was to meet a lady on here and we got on well and she
just happened to be a single mum it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I wonder if there is a site for single mums looking for single men?!
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Posted: 9/25/2009 1:09:13 AM
Let us look at this from a different angle.

Single man, divorced or separated, was married with children.
Has had to give his house up (for the sake of the children having a home) and pays a large amount of his meagre salary on maintenance and debts.
Can he afford to live/rent etc...?
Probably but why not find a single mother, own house/flat... no need for an extra bedroom, share hers... help towards the bills etc... and cash left over.... Cushty!!

I have an aquaintence who does just this and is on his second single mum... He has no conscience!

Ruffy
 oggers
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Posted: 9/25/2009 4:57:59 AM
Its not an issue for me ... most single mum's in my age range seem to have kids about 25 anyway ... !!

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Posted: 9/25/2009 2:49:14 PM
cheekyjules... Ohh you sound so much of a target for my friend... RLF (run like fook!)(towards me???? Shyte too old... fook!)

Always be suspicious of predators!!!.. Jeez I married one and found out from the other side.... and lost second house and am still paying for my kids... and her kids!!!!!! (and our debts!!!)

Ruffy

p.s. I am solvent ...just in case any of you lovely ladies want to take me for a third ride???



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Men searching for single mum's
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:55:14 PM
In my experience.... when my input is required or asked for.. I come first, unless she asks me to delay... otherwise... of course her children come first... just like being married.... kids take precedence... no more words!!!!

Ruffy

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 Talk4England
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Posted: 9/25/2009 3:02:26 PM
Mizphitz
Think your logic (or lack of it) is sad or warped.
As I have previously stated men such as myself may prefer to date single mums for reasons that are connected to their attitude due to having children not for for the sake of those children.
Women using such sites may believe that this way ensures the potential date is truely aware of their family status and they come as a unit rather than offsping as bait. Sick thoughts indeed.
 flirtyafterforty
Joined: 10/27/2008
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Posted: 9/25/2009 5:50:47 PM
Sorry,didnt read all the replies,so,if Im repeating,apologies! Just think its a really sad reflection on things that sites are categorising in that way to attract folk,Im a single dad, but came onto chat sites to meet folk in a variety of situations,broaden my horizons and brighten my life up a bit,if there was a site for women looking for single dads,then Id be giving it a big swerve,if I chat with someone and get on with them,then its because of the person,and whatever situation they're in shouldnt make a difference if you get on with them..naive probably,and Ive come across a few nutters over the years,however,live and learn and dont take risks if you feel uneasy
 Warrencraig
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Posted: 9/26/2009 8:19:38 PM
paedophile paranoia is going too far in this country. What next? imprison all men as they are potential paedos??


Theres quite a few reasons men might prefer single mothers as partners. older men may well be past the reasonable age group to have kids so a mother with kids may appeal as its unlikely theyd have more kids. May already have his own kids, may be firing blanks, known hereditory genetic issues he doesnt want to pass on yet still wants to be a "father".

Plus to be brutally honest, if your above 30 or so then most woman will have had a child anyway so its not like youve got much choice in the matter!!! The average age for first child is 29 in the UK but its a lot lower in some deprived areas.
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