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Joined: 12/31/2010
Msg: 56
Am I a cougar? Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)
I don't think you are a "cougar", and god, I hate that term!!

I'm a 41 year old woman, and the men who approach me are usually 10 years older or younger than me. I generally approach guys in my age range, but the male 40-somethings are not as eager to talk to me. So I'll date the ones who are! Funny world, this!
Joined: 8/15/2011
Msg: 57
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Am I a cougar?
Posted: 11/6/2011 7:01:46 AM
Some of these replies hit it on the didn't chase him, the 2 of you just met. Have fun, good luck....but if it doesn't workout, I'm game!
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 58
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Am I a cougar?
Posted: 11/6/2011 7:27:32 AM
You are a Cougar if you GROWL when you see a guy like beachboy^^ go cougar go!!!!!!!!
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 59
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Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/1/2012 1:56:34 AM
I am a Cougar. Meowrr. I do want to and prefer to form relationships with men in my actual age group. But they usually are divorced with 3 children too many. Men, in my age group have too much baggage. I had a tubal Ligation at age 25 because I did not want the baggage of children. I look 20years younger than I actually am. I want to go out to dance clubs and dance with 24 year men and I am actually popular in these dance clubs. Younger men are more attracted to me than men my age. So I am going with flow, athough I wish I could attract men in my real age group. As I said, attractive men in my real age group are never interested in me. Younger men found me very attractive, and they are more likely to be interested in me. This is uncharted and not a research territory. There are many more men who are interested in me , who are under the age 25 than in my real age group. I realize the younger men just want to use me for a sexual moment, but so do older men if they could actually have an erection. MEOWRRR. I am a Cougar.
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 60
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Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/1/2012 2:34:45 AM
Oh dear. Maybe it's just me, but there's something awfully sad about this - particularly when someone feels the need to say they look 20 years younger than they actually are.

Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 62
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/1/2012 5:20:37 PM
OP where was this party???

hmmm...let me get my wrinkle cream & push up bra
Joined: 10/1/2011
Msg: 64
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/1/2012 6:20:03 PM
If it feels good together, then go for it. Don't let anyone judge you.
Joined: 8/23/2010
Msg: 65
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/27/2012 2:46:03 PM
NO. Go ahead and date who you want. This whole cougar thing is all blown up. If he makes you happy, who cares?
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 67
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/28/2012 9:03:11 AM
I had an offer from a cougar that was 30 years older than me. She was also very sassy whenever she woke up.
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 68
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/28/2012 9:16:01 AM
domo31 I don't think you can be a real cougar when you are 31.

So what is a cool name for men that date younger women? Dirty old man doesn't have a good ring to it.
Joined: 8/13/2011
Msg: 69
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/29/2012 3:35:24 PM
Go out w/him! Age is just a number! Go for it!
Joined: 1/18/2012
Msg: 70
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 1/29/2012 4:18:38 PM
can he make meatloaf?
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 72
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 3/1/2012 2:48:24 PM
Funny isn't it?

I read through the thread, everyone seemed so nice about it! 7 years younger, the Op 10 years younger, he11 one woman even said 20 years, only one bad reply to that.

This is much different than the guys dating younger women thread, they are always "creepers" and other such things.

Can you say hypocricy?
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 73
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 3/1/2012 3:14:39 PM
A cougar would be someone like Madonna. She's in her mid 50's and has a boyfriend in his 20's. I wonder what Madonna's reaction would be if a guy 30 years older than her daughter was to date the daughter.

I agree with your observation OyVay: different point of view when it's an older guy dating a woman much younger.
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 76
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 3/4/2012 2:20:38 PM
I wouldnt let the age difference throw you off, cougars actively seek young man to sleep with for fun, and even at that, if both people are adults and consenting, Its perfectly fine. Love is love, do what feels natural and dont let society's steriotyping critical standards prevent you from finding your soulmate. My boyfriend is 19 and im almost 23, we get alont great and I dont notice the age gap.
Joined: 9/25/2011
Msg: 77
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/5/2012 9:55:45 PM
U look very young
Joined: 3/30/2012
Msg: 78
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/6/2012 3:11:16 AM
With all these comments on you looking your age or older how do they see your pic by the way?
Lets see how long it lasts and has he seen you in daylight yet and when he is sober???. But hey go for it, why not!!
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 79
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Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/6/2012 9:28:01 AM

No, you're not a cougar. Cougars actively seek younger men. You just happen to have met someone who is significantly younger than you and you happen to like.

I agree with this response.

One of the reasons why I am still single is because I can’t find men that I can relate to who are my age. 10 years is not a big deal. However, I would make sure his attraction to you is not a fetish for older women. It’s crucially important to me that a person I’m with appreciates me for who I am, not because of my age. That’s just me.
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/8/2012 11:46:30 AM
^^^ posted by a woman with a listed age of 49, but who states in the body of her profile that she is actually 59. Gotta love it.
Joined: 3/2/2011
Msg: 82
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/8/2012 2:37:50 PM
My friend is 72 and her husband is 59. He was the one who pursue her, and now they have been married over 30 something years. She is still look great like in her 50s.
Cougar is hunting down the young one. OP is not a Cougar in this sense. Me...I have a son, so a younger one would not sit well with me even I have been pursued previously by younger men.
Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 83
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/12/2012 10:31:10 AM
my preference is guys 19-22 im 28

im sure theres a label for that-im sure there are 100 other preferences there could be lables for too

Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 84
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/12/2012 8:44:21 PM
ERP 1961- First of all I HATE the term cougar, mainly because there is no such term for a man who dates younger women. (all jokes about perverts aside)
Having said that, don't over think it. The two of you are old enough that a ten year age difference is not so bad.
I say enjoy it and I wish you all the best :)
Joined: 12/26/2011
Msg: 86
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/13/2012 7:57:01 PM

First of all I HATE the term cougar, mainly because there is no such term for a man who dates younger women.

There is actually a term for older men who dates younger women, they are called silver foxes.

Not every younger guy wants to get with an older women for bragging rights or see them as easy.

There are younger guys who like older women because they see them as more mature, intriguing and enjoy their lifestyle and see these ladies as marriage material but it is the older women who see the younger guys as too immature for long term relationships and see the age gap as a problem and feel self conscious about it.
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 87
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/13/2012 8:16:30 PM
I am pretty sure that the age difference has to be more than 10 years for you to hit cougar status... ie.... your date should be young enough to be your own child.
Joined: 2/17/2012
Msg: 88
Am I a cougar?
Posted: 5/13/2012 8:17:28 PM
Kudos to you......

winks.... being a cougar in a relationship with a 29 yr old man for a few months was the ego boost I needed.
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