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 Boots168
Joined: 3/22/2009
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d) she is not attracted to you at all and doesn't want to hurt your feelings
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 10/5/2009 8:29:32 AM
I agree with everyone who says it's a way for a woman to pretend she is caring and nice while she's dumping you. Don't think twice about it, juuuuuust move on, and find a woman who doesn't say that.
 big pacific
Joined: 7/2/2009
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What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 8:39:49 AM
When she says "You deserve someone better than me"

It really means "I deserve someone better than you"


JMHO.
 RUmPsHaKER
Joined: 9/4/2009
Msg: 47
What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:41:07 AM
the broad answer.......she actually does think you
are "better" than her.....maybe she feels as though
she cannot live up to your expectations....maybe in
a roundabout sorta way you make her feel "beneath
you"....not necessarily....but, you must understand

that some men AND women feel threatened by another's
achievements, goals, and overall zest for life.....some
people actually become insecure around a driven
individual.....

it happens...

my other thought was this.....

she cheated on you ....or (knows she will)... or
wants to cheat....
and this is her way of inadvertantly "letting you know"


jus throwin that out there
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 49
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Posted: 10/5/2009 12:29:47 PM

agree with everyone who says it's a way for a woman to pretend she is caring and nice while she's dumping you.

I agree with the 'dumping you' part. That said, there are many women who truly ARE caring and nice, and when she finds that her feelings for a man she's been dating just aren't strong enough to sustain a loving LTR,she tries to to end the involvement as kindly as possible.
Of course, I could be mistaken, maybe some men think "caring and nice" means ignore her own feelings, just pretend to love the guy even though she doesn't. of course a lot of guys would vastly prefer THAT pretence,right?
OP,
It's just a social nicety, a kindness from a woman who hasn't yet learned that simply cutting off contact with a guy is how you're SUPPOSED to do a breakup. I hope she never learns. Maybe eventually men will stop thinking that "real women" are unmitigated b*tches,and realize that "caring and nice" really DOES exist, though I have to recommend that women use their caring and niceness wisely. Unfortunately, sometimes one must be a b*tch for the greater good.
Cindy O
"mitigated' b*tch
 PiggyT
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 51
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Posted: 10/5/2009 1:04:36 PM
Whenever I hear that, I tell them that I will hang on to them until they find me a suitable replacement. Usually they sing a different tune after hearing me say that.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
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Posted: 10/5/2009 2:36:47 PM
It means the relationship isnt working out and she doesn't know how to be honest why so she is trying to elevate you so she doesnt feel bad about giving you the ax
 briargate
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:04:08 PM
I think George Castanza used that line a lot, but he would say, "It's not you, it's me."


Whatever "line" you get fed, if there is something in there about things being over, then it's over. Once someone has decided that, no need to discuss it further. Pack up your stuff and say buh-bye. Adios. Asta la vista, bay-beee.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 56
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:12:27 PM
a) She has really low self-esteem - That "could" be but usually those with low self-esteem are too busy thinking of ways to be attractive to all and sundry, rather than to just one guy.
b) I failed to help her feel loved and secure - chances are, if you've heard it more than once, you go overboard in attempting to make them too loved and secure too soon
c) I'm not setting the bar high enough - if you pick them up on a corner, that could well be
d) She is letting me down easy this is the more likely scenario - most women/men have their actual reasons, you'll just never hear the 100% actual reason unless they're insensitive to the feelings of others
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 10/5/2009 4:02:35 PM

You're probably a nice guy and she's not a "nice girl", so she doesn't want to waste your time.

It's also a typical way in which women like to reject men........

Cowardly and dishonest, but alot of women can't be honest when it comes to emotion

Ah yes. A woman "gives a guy a chance", dates him for a bit, and finds that the connection just is not sufficient to continue dating him, automatically "not a nice girl". Hmmm, haven't we seen a ton of threads about women who date guys just for the sake of dating, I don't recall too many guys saying those were "nice girls", either.
Personally I think what the woman did was a lot more classy and kind than just stringing the guy along while she keeps hunting for the guy that she can forge a strong connection with. Or being quietly unhappy, because she doesn't want to hurt him or be thought "not a nice girl". The trouble with that, from all I've heard and observed, is that sooner or later that quiet unhappiness tends to become real UNquiet, and a 'relationship' that never should have been,ends in a spectacular wreck that never needed to happen.
You want to know why we try to "ease out" of involvements that just aren't gonna make it? Because we can't stand to see a grown man cry, and/or we don't care to get into a screaming match. And we really DO hate to hurt someone. If that makes us "not nice girls" so be it.
Cindy O
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Joined: 7/15/2009
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What does it mean when a woman says...
Posted: 10/5/2009 6:26:39 PM
It most likely means she has cheated on you.
 PrinceEric
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Posted: 10/6/2009 12:52:26 PM
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