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 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 26
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I'll take "virtue" anyday over a woman whose been through scores of men. I'm personally am not into sex like that anyway, so i could care less about her not being that good because i probably won't be either. lol. I say that because the few woman I have been with have been "talented" but doing with them sucked. I think if you push a virtuous girl into sex it may suck, but if you let her "naturally" come to sex she may be just as good as the "talented" ones.
 BLUEMISS
Joined: 7/15/2007
Msg: 27
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The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/12/2009 3:13:59 PM
How many people wait for the pizza to get there before drinking their beer? lol
 bobbajobba
Joined: 4/28/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 11/12/2009 9:08:10 PM
possibly among the stupidest threads ever seen in the history of the internet.
Ok, not "the" stupidest" (so many likely candidates), but right there in the stupid of the stupid.
I fear for every person on this site, you should all run in SHAME

Parents, bloodlines, old world lineages tracing themselves back to monarchies in the mists of antiquity are disgraced. A new and disturbing low has been set in the devolvement of western civilization. I fear for our future as I have never feared b4, we are DOOMED
May a giant wave sweep over this website and sweep everyone out to sea,also known as the key largo effect




 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 29
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/14/2009 2:37:41 AM
You should be able to tell what kind of sex you'll be having long before you get to the bedroom.

Or maybe you just don't know how to read your lovers.
 Chitownguy40
Joined: 9/29/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 11/15/2009 3:09:15 AM
Yes, I 've noticed that correlation. I suspect it is because people who are reluctant to have sex tend to be sexually uptight. That, for me, is a deal-breaker.
 SexyLatinLadyGal
Joined: 5/8/2010
Msg: 31
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The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:24:04 PM
My experience has been that there are men who only care about the technicalities of sex. Sex is always good as long as you love that person. If you can only enjoy sex with someone because she's more talented than the other, then your best bet would be to hire a professional. That's where the talent is. So you don't have to go through the trouble of finding out by experimenting, why don't you just make a checklist of what's needed and wanted as far as sexual talent. Interview each potential candidate and start checking off each talent on your list that she can fulfill. If you've got 40 talents that you need that individual to have, go for the one with the highest score. They would need to score at least 38 out of the 40 to make your talent list. Don't settle for less. You'll be frustrated if you do since you don't love that person. You only want talent, remember?

Example: Blow jobs - How deep does she swallow and for how long?
Positions - How many does she need to know?
Time - How long should the act last?, etc. etc.
Get the picture?
Your list is individual to you since only you know what you like which may be different for the cop or the friendly blonde widow who live next door.

So make that list, send it to your contacts on all the dating websites you're on and sooner or later, you'll find the most talented. Remember the list is different for every individual so you must make up your own. Ready to start? Ok, start.
 L_LuuLuu
Joined: 8/2/2009
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Posted: 11/2/2010 8:20:35 PM
The VERY promiscus woman is often "good" in bed because she's had to learn all the tricks to get a man to sleep with her at all. She's desperate.

The VERY promiscus man is often terrible in bed -- that's why he's hitting all the women he can get. Few women will sleep with him twice. He's desperate, too.


 Minau
Joined: 9/2/2007
Msg: 33
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/2/2010 10:04:12 PM
That is soooo wrong...well I can only attest to men.
 Captain_Wayne
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 34
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/2/2010 10:26:51 PM
If we have chemistry together but it takes too long to get into bed, I am going to think that she is a cold fish. I spent six years with a woman who was disinterested in sex. I have no interest in going back there. Too many people are just too paranoid about sex. It is silly.
 Cuppey
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 35
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/3/2010 4:36:12 AM

The longer it takes to get her in bed, the less talented a lover she is? The more old-fashioned...the less passionate/talented lover she is?


Pathetic example of ignorance
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 11/3/2010 6:24:50 AM
Ok Guys...what's been your experience? The longer it takes to get her in bed, the less talented a lover she is?

If there's a correlation, it's a weak one. Of the women I've slept with, one of the better ones was a freshman I met when I started graduate school. She had never had sex before and it was probably 2 weeks before we had sex. She probably waited the longest of anyone. She lacked experience and was a little awkward, but the mechanical aspect is something anyone can learn and isn't what counts. Personally, I think what counts where being good in the sack is concerned is almost all innate and not something one can learn. You either get it or you don't. If how long it takes before having sex is correlated in any way with a woman being good in the sack, it's only because those who get it might enjoy sex more, but that's just speculation. I think a woman who likes sex can also not be any good in bed. In general, I've never found women to wait long enough to make the distinction between soon and a long time, regardless of how good or bad they were in bed. The best guideline is how well she kisses.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 37
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Posted: 11/3/2010 8:47:24 AM

so it's all down to learning, and what she is taught...

If that were true, escorts would be great in the sack and I assure you that a bad one night stand is better sex than sex with an escort. It's not what you do, it's a certain je ne sais quoi that no amount of mechanical skill or experience can replace.

I've never met a woman who was not able to learn to be a great lover...

Maybe some people are pickier than others about sex.
 MarriedMommy
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 11/3/2010 3:11:54 PM
My husband was my first and according to him I'm a wildcat
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/4/2010 9:31:22 AM
It has been scientifically proven that the quicker a woman goes to bed, the higher number of Shoes and handbags that she possesses. It also indicates that she goes to Victoria's Secrets at least 3.7 times a year and spends there an average of $97.50.

She ALSO more likely to have, GEICO for her car insurance as opposed to AlState or other form of insurance.

It also means that she has a 4.7 bigger chance to fake an orgasm, but a minus 3.7 chance for her to cheat on her taxes.


Oh, And she stays at Holiday -Inn Express most of the time.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/4/2010 10:27:44 AM
It also indicates that she goes to Victoria's Secrets at least 3.7 times a year and spends there an average of $97.50.

That says she shoplifts or doesn't buy anything on 2.7 of her visits. You also left out that the average woman wants a penis that is never the same size as the one on the guy she's sleeping with 87% of the time according to 95% of the guys who are sure their penis is too small..
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/4/2010 10:47:22 AM

The best guideline is how well she kisses.

I had one lover who was a lousy kisser but when it came to sex, we just couldn't get enough of each other.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 42
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/4/2010 11:34:19 AM
I haven't read this whole thread ...but I have read many just like it ..and they usually boil down to just a few different opinions ...first there are the people that say ..if a woman wants a guy to respect her she wont put out before ..x number date ..and this is of no indication of her sexual prowess ...

then there are the people that if a woman puts out two soon she is a slut and easy therefore she is likely very experienced yet not relationship material..yet these people usually admit to either being or knowing someone who had a long term relationship after having sex on the first date

then there are the people that say if the chemistry is there go for it and take your chances on what the other person will think ..and how they will turn out sexually after the new is worn off the sex

or some combination of the above

here is my take on it
ever sense my first sex ..I have always been a very sexual person ..I like it very much ..and I have strived to get very good at it to assure that I will keep getting it on a regular basis ....however my ultimate goal has been a super long term relation ship with someone who shares an explosive sexual connection with me ....I have always thought it would be best to get to know someone before having sex ..but I have always not done that ..because of my over active sexual energy ..when the chemicals start flowing ..and explosions start going off .. I have jumped into bed with a willing partner within minutes of meeting them ..not every time but who am I to judge a woman because she feels the same as me ...face it a woman as sexually charged as I am is exactly what I want ...a woman who cant resist me or the sexual chemistry between us is ..not something I will blow off for the night or for ever

I am just confident enough to think that just because I can charm the pants off of her the first date ..don't mean that she will take them off for anyone ..if a guy believes that the only way a woman would sleep with him on the first date is that she would do anyone ..that says he thinks he is nothing special ..I know that with the right person I can be as special for her as she can be for me ..that may be evident on the first date or it may take a few ..but If she is not ready pretty soon i am thinking that sex to her is just not important on the same level as it is for me
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/4/2010 2:41:13 PM
On the flip side, ask the question 'the longer it takes to get her in bed...the lousier lover YOU ARE!' Especially with older more experienced people, if they balk at getting closer, it usually means they don't find the experience all that enjoyable, so pull the 'I don't do casual sex 'card. Or they just don't fancy YOU. Sometimes WAITING does NOT make it better. Just delaying a disappointing experience.
 wolftxusa
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/4/2010 3:23:13 PM
"the lousier lover YOU ARE (...) it usually means they don't find the experience all that enjoyable"
I don't follow the logic. I thought it was about waiting for the first time of having sex, so by definition YOU are not the one responsible for the bad experience they had... Your logic only makes sense for subsequent sex, in which case I wonder why they'd go for seconds.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 45
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Posted: 11/5/2010 7:00:43 AM

On the flip side, ask the question 'the longer it takes to get her in bed.


well that makes me feel good


more first dates than not ..and there have been quiet a few in my long and sorted life ... I have managed to charm the pants off of her ..or maybe let her seduce me ..as the case might be ..and it is what it is ..all first date sex means to me is that at that time we both wanted each other more than we wanted to wait ... Thing is I have never had a woman say they regretted having sex with me whether it happened on the first date or at a later date ..I have even been dumped and the woman said ..though we are not right for each other I will never regret making love to you ...how can a guy argue with that??
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 11/5/2010 11:47:03 AM
I would say the choosier a woman is about her partners the more emphasis she puts on compatibility and chemistry. If the chemistry is right....look out~
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 11/5/2010 2:50:58 PM
That would not be my assumption, OP. But to get her to bed is like creating icing on the cake: right ingredients ~ good dexterity ~ passion in creating (product) ~ sprinkled with TLC ... and the icing feels just so natural to top-up the whole experience.
Would the lover be lousy once lovingly pu$$yfooted and stirred? I doubt it.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/5/2010 6:57:30 PM
What's the rush? It could be that he only has 3 months to live. I've often wondered, what's the wait? If people enjoy sex as much as they should, why wait? Waiting, even if learn while waiting, that's lost time you can never recover. So even if you've gained you've lost. Like I've said before, we do so much waiting in life as it is, why wait for something you really should not want to wait for "sex".
 Captain_Wayne
Joined: 5/24/2010
Msg: 49
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Posted: 11/5/2010 7:52:50 PM
"I think that most of the people who think of it as waiting, must have a hard time getting sex in general...
Otherwise it would not be that big of a deal to wait... It's not like getting sex is difficult... so it can't be all that long since you got laid last... and if it is, then YOU are the reason you're waiting..."

You have just won the prize for the most arrogant and sarcastic statement of the year. Congratulations.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 50
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Posted: 11/7/2010 9:47:41 AM
I can only speak for myself...but all my relationships started with sex within a week of the first date....any longer and I feel they're playing games. I have dated women for more than a week with no sex but bored of them and they never became relationships.

I have NOT noticed a correlation between quality and quantity of lovers. I have noticed that the more expressive, communicative and confident they are the better though.
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