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 msfourdating
Joined: 6/27/2010
Msg: 57
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Men have been waiting more than 3 dates to get me into bed and it's because I'm over orgasm - less sex. The sex lacks an orgasm b/c I am not out spoken enough to get my needs met. Because he could care less if I orgasm. Because we are lacking an emotional connection.
If I get naked with you after I know you better will you be disappointed because I waited because I'm lacking talent? What a silly question. Yikes. Why even such a discussion that would be over generalizing?
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 58
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 11/16/2010 5:07:11 PM
I can see those angry faces now. OP you're in for some hell buckle up.
 animatedone
Joined: 11/17/2010
Msg: 59
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/3/2010 12:52:00 AM
well, my ex was a good 3 months before we slept together and it was pretty bad. But really I chalk it up to her ultra religious mother drilling into her how dirty sex is and how it was her duty as a wife. She basically wanted sex once a month and most things were off limits including oral.
 Shocknawe7575
Joined: 10/4/2009
Msg: 60
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 9:55:49 AM
Passion makes up for any lack of "talent". I would rather be with a girl that was passionate and into it then a pro. Besides if the first time you are with her and she is a pro, that has nothing to do with you. Still I have been in a few relationships that were first date things and I always find the first time a little weird, she is thinking does he like it and I am thinking the same thing, it takes about 2 to 3 times befor everyone is comfy and having fun. But that is my exp, not saying the first time is bad I have had great first time sex and some that were not as good. Still the more you are with someone the better it gets well according to me. Besides ya know what they say, sex is like pizza..
 Munchausen
Joined: 11/28/2010
Msg: 61
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 11:02:10 AM

what's been your experience? The longer it takes to get her in bed, the less talented a lover she is?

Usually if I am paying close enough attention to determine and measure length (candace 4 dates, 2.5 weeks, sally 16 dates, 3.7 weeks) of how long it takes to have sex then it usually means the relationship is crap anyways, and more than likely I've stepped out long ago, and I am just focusing on getting laid, which means that more than likely that is why I started dating them in the first place, and then I feel like a bad person.

So my experience has been to not focus on milemarkers like "when we had sex" or "how has this relationship 'progressed' compared to my other ones" so much as "what have I learned about them, am I paying attention to them."


The more old-fashioned...the less passionate/talented lover she is?

Not really anything in the OP about someone banging every single person on the first date, and then deciding with you to wait simply because they've grown or they're just playing the "well that didn't work, let's try something else with this one" game.
Probably mentioned in an older response I didn't read though.

Or just because they wait has no bearing on their virture, and lots of sex does not necessarily mean talent or they learned from their experience.
 womaninblack
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 62
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 11:38:29 AM
Shocknawe7575... I couldn't agree more with your post.

Some of us prefer to wait 'til we're really hungry. Sexual tension is part of the whole delicious seduction process and it does make it even yummier.


Besides ya know what they say, sex is like pizza.

Pizza? (i love pizza!) No I don't know, what do they say?

When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie that's Amore.....
 Shocknawe7575
Joined: 10/4/2009
Msg: 63
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 2:30:32 PM
The saying goes. Sex is like pizza if it's good it's great if it's bad it's still really good. LOL


the more you know.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 64
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 4:01:59 PM
Threads like these would probably explain one of the reasons why most people like to jump in the sack sooner rather than later because they fear a potentially lousy lover?? Pffft.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 65
The Longer it takes To Get Her in Bed..The Lousier the Lover?
Posted: 12/4/2010 4:38:46 PM
It's not ABOUT "getting her in bed"...that OUGHT to be a mutual decision,and it's AMAZING what mutual motivation can do. And no, that mutual motivation doesn't need to have a big long courtship and promises of forever. And don't expect porno-film action on the first couple of go-rounds,sometimes it takes a little to get in sync with one another.
Cindy O
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