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Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 4
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Exactly Bluez!

Takes 2 people to have sex.......why should only one of them be required to provide the protection.

Does the concept of carrying your own condoms escape you OP?
Planned Parenthood hands them out for free.....and they are a hell of alot cheaper than a kid or a disease!
Joined: 10/19/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:43:59 PM

everyone's to eager to throw shiz to mkae themselves look better

I think thats your answer. Just look around every woman in the forum claimes to be turned on 24/7. Me I say it like it is but i think alot of people use these forums to get more mail in their inbox. I don't beleive half the stuff I read on here but sometimes it is quite entertaining.
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:44:55 PM
MY rule is no love without the glove and I respect myself and her for just that .
If those out there like the feel of whatever STD and or whatever then more power to them , Till I see the blood test's and know she and I are doing it without any out side play then the glove's stay on .
It's all about respect her's and mine
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/19/2009 5:50:48 PM

I'm just surprised how many people actually DON'T choose to use them irl, compared to how many people brag about using them on here.

Um... if you hate them as much as men say they hate them, why would you expect them to willingly put one on? Seriously. If you don't hold them accountable for their actions and *just don't think about it* then you are just cruisin' to pick something up.

Go buy them. Put one in your purse. Tell them they either wear it, or you leave. Their choice. At your age, regardless of how long you were in a relationship for, you should know better!

First thing I did when I got separated.. ok.. not the first thing, but one of the first things I did once I got my head screwed back on straight was to go out and buy a box of condoms to have on hand. Just in case.

I actually prefer to do it as opposed to leaving it up to the guy. That way I know how old they are and how they've been handled/stored. The old expired ones get used on the toys.
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/19/2009 8:08:57 PM
Own you own experiences - make things happen in the manner you wish them to happen by taking on the responsibility of protecting yourself - by making the right choices - take the lead!
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 14
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Posted: 10/20/2009 4:00:35 AM
O/P: -so put on your big girl pants and buy some rubbers at the drugstore!
demand these guys you date, suit up before they dive in... -seems like women would be more concerned about being injected with strange male DNA, than the guy who pretty much jumps off, goes and washes her off his dick in her sink, then drys using those ornamental towels she has hanging in the bathroom...
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/20/2009 5:39:37 AM
Yeah, for real now...what do they really do?Farceur has it nailed down tight. I'm like him...rather no sex than condom sex; sorry. Sex w/out trust??? Just crazy, not interested. I've had plenty over a lifetime, a few weeks wait to test won't hurt a thing.
Besides I just don't understand the whole idea of "correct usage". What does that entail? When two people are gettin' busy there is stuff oozing and flying everywhere and on everything. Is one supposed to confine the activity to the areas just covered by latex??? Doesn't sound like my idea of a good time, but each to their own.
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Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/20/2009 8:15:48 AM

can't you catch STD's just as easy thru oral sex also?.....Hmmmmm.....kind of defeats the purpose of wearing a condom.

Not "just as easy", no.
A condom reduces risk considerably.
A seat belt won't guarantee you'll be safe in a car crash either but it'll reduce your risk. Same principle applies to sex with a condom.
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/20/2009 8:19:47 AM
If you are stupid enough to have sex without a condom, don't come crying to the forums when you get knocked, or catch an STD. You should have some yourself, in case the guy is too fcuking stupid to wear one.

Common sense. So uncommon it's a god damn super power.

*My common sense is tingling*


Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:46:52 PM
I have to agree with accidently in love here: "your body..... your issue.... how smart is it to leave your fate in a strangers hands?" I carry and use comdoms because I do not want any STD's and have no interest in being a daddy to anymore children. You protect you, carry your own comdoms and make it real simple; if the guy isn't willing to put one on, he shouldn't bother to take his pants off. Don't let someone else decide if you are going to catch a STD or have another child.
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 21
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Posted: 11/4/2009 8:48:00 AM
Interestingly you are putting all the blame on the guy, instead of taking control of your own possible outcomes. This may make you a good candidate to be a victim. So, from now on carry your own condoms, and remember that if a guy doesn't even offer any form of precaution, more than likely he has already been exposed to STDs. So what are you going to do about it other than ignore?
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/4/2009 9:09:34 AM

angelsback, "easy", well, I sure as heck wasnt meaning to be. Somehow, it just always happens.

If you are "easy" just say you are easy and like to have unprotected sex with lots of people. Dont try and blame it on others that they are being unsafe when you are equally to blame.

In sex women hold all the cards. Simple tell them to use a condom or no sex and see which they pick
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/4/2009 7:07:35 PM
Get real, most people don't use them, especially older people. Most women didn't want to use them. Sure, they are a bother to use and can't get off with them on, and who uses them with oral sex? Besides I never see anyone buying them in stores. Be careful with who you have sex.
You all can say you always use condoms, but you know it's not always.
Joined: 10/21/2009
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:23:53 AM
I always wear them. If the lady I am with has a problem with it I go home. Bye Bye do not need the risk.
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 29
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Posted: 2/17/2010 8:15:40 PM
A guy told me he was allergic to latex because of past surgeries. So therefore he can't use condoms. Fortunately, that was end of him for me and we were not in the heat of the moment when he told me. Even if he was telling the truth, I'm not going to sleep all of the other sex parters and their partners all because he can't wear a friggin rubber. By the way, he tried to reassure me that he has regular STD testing. RIIIIIGHT!
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 2/17/2010 10:49:15 PM
I am allergic to latex I get rashes and it burns when I get hard so I have unprotected sex all the time.

I thini it's a risk worth taking because I use the pull out method.
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/18/2010 5:25:29 AM
Reality check.

The condom has not been invented yet that will protect you from Hep-C. And statistically you are more apt to get Hep-C than Aids or Herpes.

Fools, morons and idiots think they can slip a condom on and it makes them as invulnerable as Superman and that they can lay the pipe to anything they want without impugnity or care. And vice versa. Females think putting one on a dude makes any encounter safe.

Reality Check. They are something like what, 77 percent effective?

Reality Check #2. Most STDs are spread by drug users. Go down to your health department and ask them which group of people spreads STDs the most and they will usually tell you druggies.

If you are careful who you sleep with, just say "no" to druggies and use the Universal Porn Money Shot technique you will be a LOT safer than those idiots who think they can have sex with the nastiest people imaginable and its all okay becuase they got that magic rubber on.

My ex was a swinger who was with dozens and dozens of people in her life and she never conrtracted an STDs in decades of promiscuity. Her secret? She didn't sleep with druggies.
She would pretend she was interested in weed, pills or coke and if the other person responded to that in a postive way, she just walked out. When I told her I didn't have any truck with that stuff she jumped my bones on our second date.
Yeah, a condom may be better than nothing. But its not a license to commit stupidity.
Be choosy who you have sex with. That's the best protection of all.
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/18/2010 8:06:26 AM
For the guy using the old I'm allergic to latex excuse...they make non latex condoms genius.

And why is that half the guys in here look about 10 or more years older than their profiles states? One guy has his age as 52 and he looks no less than early to mid 60's.

If you check out his profile, he's married and here looking for ladies for an IE. Ewww! And no condoms. Oh, and he looks every bit of mid-60s. I guess some people don't believe that the number of people they are sleeping is actually exponential. Boinking that partner...their partners...their partners, etc.
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/18/2010 10:22:38 AM
OP: We all get horny and need sex. But how much trouble is it to slide a sheath on the guy's thing before he plunges it into you? It literally takes 5 seconds and is a sexy part of the experience! Don't be so "in heat" that you forget this one "little" detail.

Have a box of Trojans (I recommend Extended Pleasure) on hand, and dangle it in front of the guy's googly eyes as a prerequisite to sex. If he's really into you, as opposed to going home with blue balls, he'll slide the damn thing on. If he leaves, whip out the dildo collection. Really, now, c'mon--you're not an animal (well, maybe you are)...
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 42
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Posted: 2/19/2010 7:23:48 AM
And when you get Hep C and HPV even though you put the magic condom on and it didn't protect you, don't come crying to me.

Reality check 3-
If somebody is so nasty you think you need protection before having sex with them, you probably have no business having sex with them.

While the magic condom may or may not be better than nothing -depending if you are in the 77 percent where they are effective or the 23 percent where they are not- its no substitute for common sense.

You'd be better off trying to scam your partner into trying drugs first then saying no if they fall for it.
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 44
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Posted: 2/19/2010 1:54:10 PM
I keep two in my purse.

I've gotten sloppy at times with guys I trusted. I got tested later, just to be sure.

Keep them in your purse. Don't depend on the guys. If they protest, tell them, "You don't know where I've been!"
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 46
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Posted: 2/19/2010 3:36:11 PM
Primemover: I heard that in India, where there's quite a resistance to use condoms, that truck drivcrs will carry them and insist that they are for repairing broken belts or some such thing. Whatever. You can always say you carry them because they make great water balloons and you're a prankster. That you like to make balloon animals for kids. Hmmm . . . maybe I'm onto something: 100 Things You Can Do With A Condom. Then no one has to be embarrassed about having them in their purse. ;-) Myself, I keep them in a zippered section that I don't usually go into so I don't accidentally pull them out in the checkout at the grocery store.

Be prepared!
Joined: 4/26/2005
Msg: 47
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Posted: 2/19/2010 3:56:49 PM
I have always used a condom Even with long term partners in the past.I think some people are playing Russian roulette here.
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