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 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 4
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Look at the bright side. The granddaughter obviously is color blind since is going out with this young man.
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 6
Racism on my date
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:17:42 AM
It seems to be that way. On the job, yes as a white I get called on for every little error, yet they are so afraid of lawsuits, minorities get away with sleeping, poor attendance, poor workmanship. Work always seem to have an excuse for them.

I went by Dellwood Park in Lockport, Ill not knowing how the neighborhood changed. I saw a cute little house for 25K. When I got there it was all black neighborhood. Racial slurs, rock throwing was told "white btch what are you doing here? Get out!!"

A teenage girl few yrs ago was raped and dumped in the woods over there. I was even turned down for any aid for my kids every time.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 10/25/2009 12:35:37 PM
Need feedback from all? Okay, if I must.
Sure, I see all kinds of racism, sexism, anti-ism ism, ageism, feminism, anti-feminism, and on and on. Prejudice has always existed, and probably always will, as it is in the nature of humans to try to label things as they THINK they are learning about them. Those of us who choose to fight, and hopefully overcome our prejudices can only really focus on one thing in the lives of others around us who do not so choose: we can work to keep them from putting their prejudices into law, and we can remove the benefits of our lives from theirs.
Not much else.
As for the job-related stuff you've seen, there is a kind of bouncing nature to change in that world. We used to have the force of law SUPPORTING prejudices in the work place, now the force of law attempts thorough various means to oppose it. The laws written have been flawed (as almost all laws are), and have had to be reinterpreted and even re writen on occasion. The response from the management side has thus reverberated back and forth in some confusion. They know they can get sued if they let someone get away with picking on ONE person, but they have not heard of anyone successfully suing in the OTHER direction, so they decide to err on the side of being overly nice to the 'once persecuted' ones. It isn't fair, but it's understandable. There has been an effort recently to try to get the bounce to go back the other way, but who knows where that will lead.
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 8
Racism on my date
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:48:40 PM

As a foreign-born national, I find America to be more xenophobic than racist, for all it's talk about being "color blind".



If you don't like it here, have you considered going back to your home country or moving to a place where they are not xenophobic ?
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 9
Racism on my date
Posted: 10/26/2009 12:40:21 AM

I am really getting sick of people telling me you should date a black girl or an asian girl



It's about mind control and trying to get you to acquiesce to their liberal/socialist agenda. They want to dictate every aspect of your life from what car you should drive to how much energy you can use, what lightbulbs to install, what you can eat, how much you can eat, how much you can make, what you can say, what you cannot say.. It was only a matter of time before it came down to who you can date, or rather who you ought to date. These liberals even got their first black president and they are still not happy.
 Brownlady1953
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:19:20 AM
As we would say in the 'hood': "There are some nasty-assed, "got a chip on my shoulder", racist/sexist assed people posting up in here...."
 prime ribb
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 11
Racism on my date
Posted: 10/26/2009 8:28:17 AM
"If we want to live peacefully with all nations since we are the Melting Pot and each culture brings richness-----why not learn from eachother and keep the same rules applying for all races and have the same weight for all rules for all people of all races? Everybody should have to pass the same tests for jobs, hiring, school entrance exams, etc. Has anyone experienced similar events? Need feedback from all."

In an ideal world it would be like that, but unfortunately that's not the case. I experience events like this on a daily basis and when I call people on it, they don't want to see the problem.

As I see it, we as a people don't take the time to want to know one another. We just go on preconceived notions based on media hype. If we were to have REAL equality, folks would take it for granted.
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/26/2009 4:06:49 PM

But to be judged as a racist is just annoying!


I agree. The ones who pull that BS just like to name call to make themselves feel better, but they're just showing what hypocrites they are
 Ender330
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/26/2009 8:57:32 PM
What's sad is this...

I have noticed a big difference in whites, blacks and Hispanics when it comes to accepting interracial dating. For instance...if a black or Hispanic female who normally messes with guys who are thugs or lowlifes, brings home a white male who is clean cut drives a respectable vehicle, has a job and is taking care of home. Everyone is like oooh she got a white man who is taking care of her...a white boy who handles his business. Hey you go girl I ain't mad at cha.

Now flip that...You get a white girl who usually dates, drug and alcahol abusers. Ain't had a job in god knows when, likes to put his hands on women. Lives with his drug addicted friends in a filth drenched house...in and out of jail monthly...and is always walking around town looking for the next lick so he can get his fix...oh I could go on and on. Let her bring home a nice clean cut black or Hispanic male...who is clean cut, drives a respectable vehicle, has a job and is taking care of home and the family....FLIPS! They would rather see her with any jacked up white guy than someone black!
 Ender330
Joined: 4/23/2006
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Posted: 10/26/2009 10:35:36 PM
^^^^^Sun Devil...Thank You...

Basically what I am saying is a guy could be a doctor and overall great guy, the opposite race and the family can have a problem with it....

But the guy could be abusive and crazy but be the same race and the family would rather see their loved one with a guy like that then to date someone out of their own race.

Hmm and who said that OJ was an overall great guy...clearly he had some character flaws that were apparent way before he may or may not have killed her...and for sure when he went in to rob those guys....hmm hence the reason why they were divorced or separated! Not to mention that somethings like being a PRO FOOTBALL player can override racism! Oh dear your daughter is dating a black/white/hispanic guy! Yea and he is a famous professional football/basketball/baseball/ player!

A prejudice family would get over it real quick if number 23 for the Cav's walked in holding their daughters hand!
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 15
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Posted: 10/27/2009 2:08:58 AM
Tweetsalot, has it ever dawned on you that all the Obama 'hatred', including the blanket opposition from your "racist" senator from Georgia, may have to do with his socialist loving, wealth redistributing, America hating, terrorist apologizing, capitalism and free market destroying, government takeover-ing, healthcare nationalizing, military gutting and Afghanistan ignoring policies, and not his mulatto skin ?

Or do you think the color of his skin should exempt him from all criticism and opposition in Congress and the media ?
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 16
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Posted: 10/27/2009 2:32:29 AM
Ender330, a decent education and a job does not automatically qualify a black man as dating material to a white woman if she feels no attraction for him. The underlying purpose of dating is sexual paring, with potential for bearing offsprings at some point, not income and education matching. More often than not there is little or no sexual attraction on the part of a white toward a non-white, especially blacks. It's not racism. It's simply natures way of preserving genetic lines which would otherwise quickly disappear if humans interbreeded randomly. Also, nature has programmed us to want to "breed up". So while blacks, male or female, would be more than eager to mate with any race outside their own, especially with whites while giving all sorts of other reasons for doing so, whites are the least eager to step outside the white gene pool. Once again it's not racism, but evolution at work. Some races try to 'improve' their genetic makeup, others try to preserve.

Sometimes races, especially whites, will make exceptions for breeding outside their race if the opposite race is close enough in physical appearance to their own. For example..a good looking hispanic male would be acceptable to many white women, but blacks, being on the opposite end of the spectrum, would be the least favored.
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 10/27/2009 5:34:18 AM

Also, nature has programmed us to want to "breed up". So while blacks, male or female, would be more than eager to mate with any race outside their own, especially with whites while giving all sorts of other reasons for doing so, whites are the least eager to step outside the white gene pool. Once again it's not racism, but evolution at work. Some races try to 'improve' their genetic makeup, others try to preserve.


Did you actually read this drivel before you posted it?

Your attempt to justify your own racist views through the means of science, makes me want to vomit.

Surely...you can't be serious...
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 10/27/2009 8:10:37 PM
tweetsalot:

I love a woman with passion. Even if she is 100% wrong, but passionately believes all the lies and falsehoods she has been led/taught to believe, she is far more interesting than someone who believes in nothing. I would rather spend an evening with the former.


where in the hell do you get that he hates America?????


He hates the values and principles on which this country was founded. His dislike of the constitution is documented in a 2001 radio interview with a local Chicago station. He said he believes the constitution is fundamentally flawed because it does not address the issue of 'economic justice' under the larger issue of social justice by means of wealth redistribution. This is 100% Bulls*t. There is no such thing as economic justice, much less any provision for it in the constitution. We are a free capitalist society where wealth is *acquired*, not handed out or redistributed like in socialist/communist countries. What he calls "economic justice" is nothing short of government tyranny, where the govt seizes the wealth of one in order to give to another or whatever else it deems necessary. This is not only un American , it is contrary to the most fundamental, the most basic of American values - that of individual liberty and rights. When what is yours is no longer yours, we are living under a tyranny.

He also sees the constitution as a bill of "negative rights" in that it addresses what the government cannot do TO its people, but says nothing of what it CAN do. Again that's 100% horse manure. The founders wrote the constitution primarily as a document that limits the power of govt -- because the founders knew without limitations the govt would continue to assume power and pretty soon over time evolve into a tyranny. Whatever little role the govt has is also specified in the constitution. But he doesn't believe that. He believes a govt has limitless power (as demonstrated in his hostile takeover of private industry in recent months) except for those stated in a (in his mind, flawed) constitution. A man who has contempt for our constitution has contempt for America because America IS the Constitution.
I won't even mention his numerous foreign trips where he begins by bashing his country and apologizing for its past misdeeds (in his mind) and how everything is supposed to better and forgiven now that he is President. Not to mention making nice with every single third world America hating thug and fundamentally agreeing with their view of America.
 edburke001
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 10/27/2009 8:28:44 PM
Yes..., capitalism is fine but obviously has run roughshod over us all without regulations of any kind and still is, healthcare is not nationalizing, it is offering the poor a way to get coverage so they can go to a doctor so we do not have to continue paying for their hospital bills, do not take responsiblity for what the free market is doing to people financially



Here is what (a lot of) people don't understand about capitalism. Capitalism is not a system. In fact the word should not even exist. Capitalism is simply free people living their lives and trading with other free people trying to make life better for themselves and their families. Govt has no role in it other than to preserve individual and property rights. Capitalism is just the manifestation of freedom.

What brought about the present economic collapse is not lack of regulation, but overregulation and the ABSENCE of capitalism . You wont hear this in your mainstream socialist media. The housing crisis was 100% the creation of liberal Democrats Carter (America's worst incompetent boob of a president), Clinton , and Senators Barney Frank and Chris Dodd. By forcing the crediters to give loans to people by means of legislation ("Community Reinvestment Act" and others) regardless of their ability to repay them-- simply because every American deserved a piece of the American Dream, they created the housing bubble which led to the present day recession. Without govt intervention, the creditors would have NEVER given loans to risky customers. Private businesses understand better than anyone else the risks they take when conducting business. It's amazing how many people fall for the childish argument that companies gave loans to risky customers because they got "greedy". Have you ever worked in the risk analysis division of a major financial corporation? They spend hundreds of millions of dollars just analyzing risk! To an outside entity like the government, it didn't matter because govt is always 'doing good' with other peoples money while wrecking businesses and lives.


Socialism on the other hand is a system. It's a tyrannical system where a small body of ruling class elites dictate to people how to live their lives and run their businesses. At its core, it gives the ruling class elite the pleasure of control by governing their freedoms. Men wanting to control other men is as old as the hills and socialism is just one of its modern forms. It has failed everywhere it has been tried and communism, which is a more extreme form of socialism, has brought nothing but death and misery to its people. Nowhere in the world has Marxism/communism been voluntarily accepted by its citizens. It has always been forcefed on the masses.

(On healthcare I will post a separate message.)
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
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Posted: 10/28/2009 3:29:53 AM
Bubble, It was his granddaughter not his daughter. He never even met the guy. He just judged him for the color of his skin. He was only a friend, but the guy immediately left when he say his cell phone flash to take a picture and he humiliated his granddaughter by doing this. She sobbed on her girlfriends shoulder the entire way to the car. I was quiet and watched him but talked to him alone on this. I was shocked. I believe in eqal treatment, rules for everybody. Equal testing, hiring, jobs, etc. for all.
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 21
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Posted: 10/28/2009 3:35:13 AM
That was horrible, this POF person you talked to on the phone. That is called aggravated harassment. Try to be more careful who you give your number to.
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