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 Tiredandhaggard1
Joined: 6/11/2009
Msg: 136
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Kick his sorry ass to the curb. He is a cheater!!! I met a schemer like this also. Amazingly, it was a distance relationship as well. They like to be at a distance so that they can carry on their cheating without being caught!!

He wants you to show him how to hide his profile??? Something wrong there. How many other profiles and profile names does he have online???

Remember: WORDS ARE CHEAP
 Applette
Joined: 4/13/2007
Msg: 138
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Posted: 11/2/2009 10:23:28 PM
nifty country girl ... I think you had better shake off all that country hay you have picked up over the years and grab a brain. Do you really need advise? I am ashamed of you!!! You give woman a bad name!! hahaha
 Gideon_70
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 141
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 11/17/2009 3:23:39 PM
PoF is not your issue. Why are you acting so controlling toward him? You resort to manipulation to force him to drop his profile on here? You browbeat him to make sure that no other women look at him... or is it that you hate that he might find someone better looking than you?

I have some questions...
1. Why are you on here asking for justification in trying to attach the ball and chain,
2. If he is not allowed on here anymore, why are YOU here,
and
3. If you and he DO get together, will you trust him out of your sight? Or will you try to treat him like a captive puppy?

He is with you, or he is not. Jealousy is the fear of being replaced. Jealousy is a good emotion that protects a family. Envy is wanting to have something and hide it in a box, safe and secure and yours, yours, yours. Envy is a rotten emotion that destroys.
 RubyJade321
Joined: 10/3/2009
Msg: 146
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 11/26/2009 12:53:45 AM
He is seeing other people and keeping his options open. Curb him. Quickly.
 drgnflylady
Joined: 11/25/2009
Msg: 156
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/2/2009 8:16:38 PM
I just got out of relationship where it was obvious that the basis to trust was not being respected. What we mutally agreed upon for the basis of our relationship was not respected and therefore, I lost trust in him. I questioned his behaviour twice and he was angry. Months later, I have had many confirmations that what I stood up for was real. I had reason to doubt.... if he wanted to maintain the base of what was built he would have respected it. I see the same here. If both of you agreed he should have been open and respectful with his honesty knowing it would be an issue. Since he was not... he has learned how to disrespect you with dishonest behaviour that is creating mistrust and in long term for you insecurities. Mine didnt even take responsibilitiy.. oh well... and he had to create some colorful irrational schemes to leave himself. I think you should make a stand irregardless if he is cheating or not. Its and issue of disrespect, dishonesty and mistrust.
 goldielocks65
Joined: 9/11/2008
Msg: 157
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/10/2009 8:46:36 PM
I just went through the same thing too and ended things last Thursday. We've dated before and he recently came back to try and build on our love, supposedly. Then, he mentioned in an email something in one of his assessments on POF so I went to read what it said. Well, he'd been on-line that day and I thought that was interesting. I didn't check everyday, but on the days I did over the next week or so, he was on here every time, yet telling me he's so in love with me. I gave him an ultimatum--build something with me or date other women--though I don't even think he deserved that. I was/am deeply in love with this man. He is, by far, the best match and love I've ever known and even though he told me the same thing, apparently it doesn't hold much value to him. Kick him to the curb and move on, like I am!
 icecreamguy1
Joined: 3/28/2009
Msg: 158
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Posted: 12/10/2009 9:09:11 PM
It may be okay to keep both of your profiles on POF, but if you are in a 'committed' relationship, then that should be said in the heading of your profiles, IMO.
You asked:
"He is telling me that he cares for me and wants to be exclusive but then why is he stilling checking other woman out?" And to be blunt, and maybe wrong, it could be that he wants to be exclusive until he finds someone else. Let him bring up the hiding profile issue next time he is with you. If he doesn't, maybe he really doesn't want to hide it. Or you can bring that issue up a few hours before he leave next time if he hadn't brought it up.
 sweet_n_heart
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 159
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/10/2009 9:22:19 PM
I agree with alot of what other posters have said. He is a loser. If he is into you, then he would of hiden his profile at the very least if not delete it. Either he's not ready for a commitment or maybe just not with you. He doesn't know how to hide his profile? come on you actually believed that? chances of that being true is slim to sh*t.

It seems he's just telling you what you want to hear. If a guy is INTO you he will call you, make time for you, he would hide his profile on any dating site he may be on, would ask you out, etc. It's clear he's not on here for the forums.

Also, if he was really into you then why in the world does he feel the need to check his matches when he's has you? Doesn't make any sense. Sometimes words mean nothing, its the action. As the saying goes " Actions speak louder then words "..

So the conclusion is, He's just not that into you..
 SASSYN89178
Joined: 2/19/2007
Msg: 163
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Posted: 12/12/2009 12:26:47 PM
You rushed into a relationship with this guy and now you're having second thoughts.
You're looking for validation here.
You're playing a game with him, if you have your profile on, then I'm putting my on also.
I bet there are other things going on in this relationship not to your liking.
Maybe you shouldn't have been so 'easy' with him in the beginning? It's too late now.
Live and learn.
 jeta627
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 164
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/13/2009 10:18:59 AM
Atleast it wasn't 6 months.....He told me he loved me and I believed him and then I saw yep he gave away a rose and you got it; I was not the receiver.......
 SASSYN89178
Joined: 2/19/2007
Msg: 165
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Posted: 12/13/2009 11:59:20 AM
Jeta627
Atleast it wasn't 6 months.....He told me he loved me and I believed him and then I saw yep he gave away a rose and you got it; I was not the receiver.......
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Sorry this happened but did you ever have a talk about being exclusive?
If you saw he gave away a rose then you were checking up on him. If you weren't exclusive, he can give away one of those stupid roses and favorite anyone he wants to.
Talk is cheap, it's just talk etc. His actions say more than his words do. Someone can love you, but not be in love with you. Just like I love M&M's.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 169
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Posted: 6/4/2010 12:10:19 PM
Ridiculous.

The whole thread. All of t. And the replies.
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 170
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 6/6/2010 5:56:37 AM
one can be dating and still remain on pof. maybe he likes being on forums and you can set your relationship status to "not single" or "not looking." Also, there is always the chance that your relationship will crumble without warning.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 171
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Posted: 6/6/2010 8:22:32 AM
seems like you do not satisfy him, and he is looking for someone who will
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 173
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 7/22/2010 5:59:56 AM
some people do POF as a pastime .. I know I would go crazier if not for POF ..I have huge amounts of time at work ...I do IP work for a big company ..and when the network is up ...which is most of the time ..which is why they keep me here ...I am good at what I do ...so they pay me to just be here and play on the internet ...however they have a thing about surfing porn ...but POF is ok ... so I have been on here not single not looking for five years and my SO has my passwords so if she wants to she can see what im doing...

so there is a simple solution for your problem ...give each other your passwords ..if he wont do this he is hiding something ..find another fish
 Fierysunlvr
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 175
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Posted: 7/25/2010 8:40:33 AM
The whole point of this POF site, is that there ARE plenty of fish in the sea. I think you should meet some of the other men on this site. I'm not saying that you should scream "Its over" at him and end it completely, but just reduce him to someone you may see casually once in a while and then actively pursue meeting other guys.
Be strong and look out for yourself, its the only way to preserve your sanity.
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 176
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 7/25/2010 10:01:41 AM
See, this is why I tell people not to RUSH into things. OP expressed that things are pretty heavy after a mere two months, and now is finding out things about dude that arent so satisfactory.


And now is having trouble seeing the entire situation for exactly what it is.



I mean, shouldnt this be an open and shut case? This should be the easiest kick to the curb the OP has ever had in her life....yet, it doesnt seem to be.



Getting overly emotionally involved with people you hardly know, is a mistake, each and EVERY time.
 mako20
Joined: 9/8/2007
Msg: 183
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Posted: 9/17/2011 6:05:46 PM
Well if he has given them his email ,,,i would think there may be a bit more to it than just thinks people wright funny things on here,,,some people are always looking for the next best one,,lol,.its a shame but thats what internet dateing seems to be all about,,,good luck hope it works out for you.
 cleopatra212
Joined: 1/23/2016
Msg: 184
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Posted: 11/21/2017 6:17:48 PM
This is the best advice I agree 100% with you I'm dating a man from POF now for two months sometimes twice a week sometimes once sometimes every two weeks we have a lot of fun together I have slept at his place about 3 times I so get very upset to still see him on POF but then again so am I
I don't know how to broach the subject he obviously sees me on as well I just can't bring myself to ask him why I actually prefer to him to ask me so I decided to just enjoy his company and just wait it out but continue to do my thing it has to come to a head at some point but I must admit being intimate with someone and knowing they are talking and maybe dating others can be upsetting so I just keep on trucking
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 185
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Posted: 11/21/2017 6:26:42 PM
Till the exclusive talk has been had I believe
a person has the right to keep their profile
open.
Some change to "Not Looking" "Forums Only"
I personally would "Not" delete my profile.
Due to having a poem thread on here.
So I would be happy with....Here for forums only.
 Whatsamattababy
Joined: 9/29/2017
Msg: 186
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Posted: 11/21/2017 6:29:29 PM
You could say, "Hey, I have a question: Is this exclusive?"
 Profile_Cliche_Gurl
Joined: 10/9/2017
Msg: 187
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Posted: 11/21/2017 11:14:29 PM
Jeeze, baby, there you go again, being all pragmatic and stuff.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 188
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Posted: 11/22/2017 6:22:09 AM
asking that question, risks the relationship. we don't know which way the answer can go. so, we only ask the question, when we're willing to risk the relationship. when the answer means more than the relationship does.

as you were honest enough to point out, Cleo, he's doing what you're doing, and that's why you two match so well. similar personalities, similar mindsets. One day, however, you'll be dying for the answer, and have experienced enough of the relationship to take it for granted and ask the question. or, like some, you'll just snoop thru his cellphone instead :)

sorry if that sounds cynical, but its a routine that has been played before in this forum. human nature doesn't change.
 saintclara
Joined: 5/30/2017
Msg: 189
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/18/2017 5:09:03 PM
Am I being really niave

You know what this is this is WAR! First you don't need some layabout taking up unit space in your house 3 times a week ! and he should be offering you a lovely pad to stay in and as for rest you can show him how to hide his profile by letting him know that as a big boy he can figure it out himself and his got 30 seconds to do it in or you will drive round and trash his house!
 Brian291
Joined: 11/2/2017
Msg: 190
seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof
Posted: 12/26/2017 5:18:22 PM
that pisses me off when I cant even get one date I feel like I would be very faithful :/
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