Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Over 30  > Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 treselle
Joined: 6/16/2005
Msg: 51
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?Page 3 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
I knew an ugly 44 year old man who could not get women. Reality sucked and only fantasies made him happy. So, he fantasized a lot. And he started believing in what he fantasized about. Movie Vanila Sky is about that too. Your "fascinating" story sounds like a FANTASY to me. You sound delusional.
 FluffyBrain
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 52
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:00:43 AM
^^^^

After reading some of these posts, I have arrived at the conclusion it about both looks and money - one without the other and no go!
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 53
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:52:28 PM
After reading some of these posts, I have arrived at the conclusion it about both looks and money - one without the other and no go!


Um, of course it is in the lifestyle that the article spotlites. Do you really think that too many 22 year old women are going to date a fugly, poor guy who lives in suburbia? Some dude that probably thinks foreplay is telling her to drop her drawers, he's horny.....Why? They can date fugly poor 22 year olds and for go the saggy skin and bald spots. This article is a penthouse letter without the four letter words, sure there are some guys that can and do live this life, however, they are not the majority, they have what the type of women they are dating want, time, money, opportunity and the looks. These women arent interested in anything more than the man is, and the currency for both is the same. Neither of these people are looking for something serious.

What is funny is that this article is written in a way that makes it sound like the average guy has this as an option when they dont. Having a 3 bedroom back split in the suburbs with a $12 bottle of wine in the fridge isnt the aphrodesiac apparently a lot of men think it is. Sure GQ is pandering to a fantasy that I am sure a lot of men aspire to and think they have the parts to aquire, then reality kicks in and they realize the truth.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 54
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:00:07 PM
There is probably some truth to the article, but I don't think it's generally applicable to all guys - there is a subset of men in that age group who can or want to explore such a range. When I was in that age range, my dating range was far more restricted, though I did usually limit the ages I would consider as I was looking more for compatibility than novelty. Even so, I was contacted by women 20 years younger to 10 years older, and dated some of them - very briefly - until I realized we had too little in common. After that, I wouldn't consider dating them. What's the point? I didn't need an ego boost or a lot of dead-end encounters - I wanted a relationship.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 55
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:13:06 AM

The kind of man who would never call you a slut unless you asked him too.




Bad girl.




Go to my room.




 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
Msg: 56
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/10/2009 7:11:14 AM
^^^I'll venture an opinion. They're not taken because they don't want to be. They probably have exciting, fulfilled lives without permanent relationships. It works for some, but personally, I enjoy a commited relationship.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 57
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/10/2009 7:25:33 AM

if the men were so spectacular, why aren't they taken?

Ha! The type of question only a woman could ask...

Being "taken" and being "spectacular" are mutally exclusive characteristics for men these days.
 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 58
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:22:48 PM
I'd never really thought of it,but now I understand. When I was 35 I suddenly seemed to come into demand for a lot of younger women. Some in their early 20's were making moves on me,and I was one of those beer-bellied and bald males some of the ladies were referring to in their posts. Many of the women chasing me were a lot younger than I was interested in too. At 36 I settled into a relationship with a 23 yr old,and we're still together now.
 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 59
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/12/2009 10:06:38 PM
Oh damn that means i got only one more year to go before im past the sweet spot. I didnt even know there was as sweet spot.. Why no one ever told that before.. I better do something about it or i lose it forever... Any women out there what a guy who is still in the sweet spot...
 cooldude
Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 60
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:06:15 AM

For example, a lot of girls like to date within 5 years of their age. I myself know a large number of females that think this way. Friends, co-workers, relatives, etc. You can read forum posts from females of all ages explaining that they don't want to date someone 5, or 10 or more years older.


Have you been on the forums long...lol

A recent study in the US showed that almost 1/3 of women aged 40-69 were dating men ten or more years their junior
 mysticaries
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 61
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 12/7/2009 12:41:11 PM

Women have a sweet spot. Real sweet.


Exactly. An attractive woman can 'get' guys in just as broad of an age range more easily than a man can.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 62
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/29/2010 3:34:32 PM

I'm 53. I'm no longer sweet.


you would be if your pocket book was....


OP- I'm 37 and I've dated women as young as 22 and and old as 52...all of 'em have been good looking to hot...all of the with good to killer bodies...

yes I think I'm in the sweet spot...or as I told my mother (straight after my divorce and she was telling me that I'd better hurry up if I wanted to find a woman and have kids) that as a man- I'm just starting to hit my prime at 35...

I'm not old and I'm just now starting to get to the point in my career where I am making some real money and beginning to amass some wealth...

and since that is what women want...hey...its like a homerun- especially if I actually dote money on women (which I do not)....
 venndiagram
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 63
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/29/2010 3:49:49 PM

I'm not old and I'm just now starting to get to the point in my career where I am making some real money and beginning to amass some wealth...

and since that is what women want...hey...its like a homerun- especially if I actually dote money on women (which I do not)....



At my age, I don't need a guy to have money- I've already advanced in my career, and have amassd what wealth I think I will need. (Of course it's always nice if both parties in a relationship are self sufficient, I'm just saying it's not like it's something women my age NEED or look for- at least not the ones I know)

Having been married for so long I havent done a whole lot of dating, but the men I have been involved with seriously ranged in age from 12 years younger to a few years older. Except for one man I dated from POF, I didnt know the ages of the others prior to going out. Nor did they know or ask my age.
 Redlance71
Joined: 2/2/2009
Msg: 64
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/29/2010 8:12:58 PM
I guess I am in the sweet spot then! 39, been around the block serveral times, own house and hot tub(that needs fixe). AND after years of dealing with whines I am now learning about wines lol! Going through a divorce and won't even consider cashing in on the "sweet spot" while techincally married. I'll probably do a singles cruise next spring, assuming I don't start dating someone, if so maybe I'll bring her with me lol! Looking forward towards the freedom. If I continually go home alone, it does not bother me as long as I am enjoying myself!

Now, release the femme-bots!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 65
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/29/2010 11:20:45 PM
vennn....I've NEVER met a woman, no matter what she has that is NOT attracted to a man that has more than she does.

you may not """"NNEEEEDDDD"""" a man for money...

but if he came around- how intoxicating, huh?
 venndiagram
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 66
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 4:25:56 AM
Sorry Boon, Ive met many men who have more than I do. I can't say I found it intoxicating in the least. Many many of them I wasn't at all attracted to.

Since we have gone a bit off topic with this, feel free to email me should you wish to discuss it further!

Venn
 AnotherPinHead
Joined: 9/2/2010
Msg: 67
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 5:30:30 AM
Can't say I've ever been interested in dating a 'broad range' of women. I was married the entire stretch from 35-44 anyway. But as a newly divorced man at the age of 50, who was interested in dating someone in my own age group, I found I was in a very sweet spot indeed.

I'd like to thank my peers, who are off chasing girls (yes girls) 20 years younger than themselves , and/or who can't string 2 coherent sentences together, for making dating in my 50's far easier than it ever was when I was younger.
 tinainhouston39
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 68
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 7:47:36 AM
Hahah interesting enough this is the age group that "hits" me up most often. What I'm finding is that most all are single, no children, very successfully, and looking for a good uterus. Seems as though these men have been focused on their jobs and now are ready to have a family at the ripe age of 35-40. They usually have everything together and are extremely balanced....really good career and living in the most desirable parts of town, playing on a local soccer/softball league. There are hundreds of them out there....and for some crazy reason they flock to me. I have had my children and paid extra for the Chinese knots on each side of my fallopian tubs. I'm not sure if other women in their 40's is experiencing this problem but it seems crazy to start a new friendship by asking "are you looking for a good uterus?”
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 69
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 8:11:22 AM
tina...I've always heard that knots are meant to be untied!

sounds like the only real problem is that you don't to birth anymore children! otherwise seems like the right kind of set up.
 tinainhouston39
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 70
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 8:35:34 AM
[tina...I've always heard that knots are meant to be untied!]

Hahahah boondocksaint these tubes are never meant to be untied...lol The problem is that you have two people with totally different mind sets, therefore rendering the wrong kind of set up.
Great things happen physically to women when they turn 40....have you heard?? Why wouldn't one want to enjoy all those benefits rather than be bogged down with the burden of infants?? I have already done all that...time for some fun and excitement!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 71
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 12:57:31 PM
tina- well if the men you speaking of, who do NOT have children yet- might actually want children.

of course- they outta be looking at younger women who are ready to have children...that's usually a better way of doing it.

i totally get you that at 40, you have no desire to have babies and start that all over again.

but just know that maybe that may wants that.

its just a matter of 2 people having different goals.

so why is it the men in that age brackett and the ones you mentioned- the "good ones" want kids? are there NOT guys of the same cloth that are fine with NOT having children or already have their own?
 tinainhouston39
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 72
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 1:01:51 PM
[so why is it the men in that age brackett and the ones you mentioned- the "good ones" want kids? are there NOT guys of the same cloth that are fine with NOT having children or already have their own?]

It is my greatest hope to find one...the one for me! So, I hope so :)
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 73
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 9/30/2010 7:44:45 PM
I'm betting GQ's sales were quite high to the simpletons aged 35-44????? Give me ANY age bracket and I can make an arguement on the good,the bad, and the ugly. Oh,,,it's not so hard to "sell" anything to anyone wanting to hear wishes. Just sayin.
 cw3k
Joined: 4/6/2010
Msg: 74
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 10/1/2010 3:01:56 AM
Why only men? I find women in their 35 to 44 attractive. Of course, not all women, only those take good care of themselves, just like the men who take care of themselves are still attractive in their 35 to 44.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 75
view profile
History
Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?
Posted: 3/16/2012 11:46:07 AM
Actually the reason I don't have children of my own is this.

My whole life, I was careful when in a relationship and having sex. I was responsible, condoms, they were on the pill. There were no "whoops" or "mistakes" I always played it safe.

When I was 29, I decided to marry a woman who had 2 boys. I chose to raise them and love them as if they were my own. It's unfortunate we ended in divorce, but here I am, 42 with no biological children of my own, due to her having a tilted uterus. We did try-ish, which wasn't to say we would have sex according to the best time in her cycle. Before she was 40, I never pulled out. After she was 40, I did. We were both good either way, with or without a child of our own, but it never happened.

Now here I am, childless and divorced.

A lot of women in my dating age have children and may not want another. I'm also looking to retire at 55 which is a short 13 years away. Having a child now would keep me working to 60 and beyond. School, university etc. For me that ship has sailed. I do envy my friends who have kids of their own, I guess that's the price one pays for being careful and "smart".


:facepalm:
Show ALL Forums  > Over 30  > Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot?