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 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 7
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...Page 2 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
Family story:

"Mommy, don't sit on that chair, you'll sit on Incumboolapotle!"

Mother, unable to repeat the name, gets on phone calls her sister-in-law: "Helen listen to this! "

Lifts Julie onto chair so she can reach phone. "Tell Aunt Helen who's on the chair. "

Loudly into phone, "I am, Mommy! "

I don't remember when Incumboolapotle disappeared from my life. Surely by the time I was eight.

My first son, who is now a rather well adjusted grownup (and plasma physicist) had a boon companion of the ethereal kind. My younger, louder, enormously less adjusted child (and artist) did not. Think it's just the luck of the draw, actually.

Your kid sounds happy and well adjusted. Enjoy!

 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 9
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...
Posted: 10/26/2009 2:50:48 PM

Why some (actually many) people think it's normal to have (an) imaginary friend(s) in adulthood also;)

You'll find them in churches, mosques and temples all over the world.
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 10/26/2009 3:35:37 PM
No doubt!

I heard about imaginary friends when I was a kid so I thought I shoud have one but it didn't work for me
 Tarah0128
Joined: 2/25/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 10/26/2009 4:10:20 PM
Ooh! That was almost too subtle ~ I'm still feeling the sting





 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 10/26/2009 4:37:45 PM
my brother had a whole farm when he was about 5. he would talk about it all the time. one evening, as we drove through the countryside, we passed a huge farm. my brother said that was his farm. well, eventually, we saw the mailbox and it read 'johnsonbaugh.' well, by father said, 'this farm belongs to mr. johnsonbaugh.' my brother responded that he had recently sold it.
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 13
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Posted: 10/26/2009 5:11:55 PM

You'll find them in churches, mosques and temples all over the world.

Dang! I was trying to slip that by innocently (or was I?) and now I'm busted:)

Haha, I just had to be the bad guy, subtlety is lost on many theists.
 Fort Garry Dark
Joined: 11/25/2005
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Posted: 10/26/2009 5:39:58 PM
These days, I sometimes have more fun with my imaginary friends than I do with the real ones.
 geeleebee
Joined: 5/26/2008
Msg: 15
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...
Posted: 10/26/2009 6:19:57 PM
Yup, it's 'normal', whatever that means in a four-year old's world.
My son had three 'friends': Jobby, Delby, and Alby. They were nice enough guys, but they didn't clean up after themselves very well...

I remember having a wonderful time with an entire family I made up as a kid, and my grandaughter, almost-four, has 'boyfriends' and 'babies'...some have names, others do not.

Enjoy this part of your child's life--take time to write down his stories of imaginary friends--it'll make great 'remember when' memories.
 WesternWildRose
Joined: 9/15/2008
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Posted: 10/26/2009 9:13:10 PM
Apparently this is normal behaviour.....and totally acceptable.

it is part of socialization..be it with an imaginery friend....and it should not be frowned upon or seen as a bad thing.

this coming from ME....who was freaked out and never liked my child to refer to her imaginery friend Kiki.

she needed Kiki... she was an only child at the time and Kiki kept her company.

as for the delay in pre-school...well I might reconsider that...as children do need to spend time away from parents even for a few hours and learn how to socialize with new people and to take instruction from caregivers....as they would have to later on as they entered school.

interaction with new people gives a child new experiences and stimulates their minds.

just my two cents on the topic.

I have 3 children... I kept them all way too close to me when they were young....they needed to be out an about with others....and the imaginery friends...well it was all good...don't we all need 'the team' on our side some days?... our best friend to listen to us... to discuss matters with us?
 aSydneyMale
Joined: 5/16/2006
Msg: 17
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...
Posted: 10/26/2009 11:20:32 PM

Our current President has imaginary friends too...

In his own party you mean?

I saw your posting in another thread and, although my politics tend to lean on the opposite side to yours, I thought some of the points you made were very valid, in my country we'd call the Democrats you described 'chardonnay socialists', giving lip-service only to the plight of their fellow man and only interested in appearing concerned.
 WesternWildRose
Joined: 9/15/2008
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Posted: 10/27/2009 7:51:55 PM

Our current President has imaginary friends too...


You had me there for a moment.
Damn Yanks.....never know when they are serious or being facetious.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 11/6/2009 2:44:11 AM
i'm thinking of having one at this age. that way i could stop with the coffee dates and get right down to being a "couple".

yup, was told my mom had a son before me who died in childbirth. needless to say i resurrected him. he lived in a chest by my bed, had his own chair at the kitchen table and food was put on his plate. only when he turned around, often the leprechuans would steel that food from right out under his nose. well, my dad had an active imagination as well.
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/8/2009 6:50:48 PM

On the surface this is all jus harmless fun, but because I dont get to see my kids everyday I wonder if this is symptomatic of some kind of void in his life. I worry that he isnt getting enough social interaction with kids his own age and he's developed an active imagination because of it.

Absolutely NOT!!!! It is both very normal, and very healthy!

LOL! seriously....he sounds totally delightful; and from you description I could almost hear him saying it! LOL! You really should have a videocam handy at all times (or a tape recorder) to capture those moments!!! Ohhh, and good job on encouraging the play! Kids can come up with some of the WILDEST stories out of their little imaginations! You just can't buy entertainment like a 4 yr old!
 WalksOnWater2
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 12/28/2011 8:28:26 PM
I was born twin with a boy that didn't make it. He became my imaginary friend till I was about 5 or 6. His name was Nicholas, and he didn't care much for dolls, but we both liked sailing, so we sailed a lot in the yard in a cardboard box with a broom for mast. It seemed as if I was talking to myself, but I wasn't.
He disappeared in time, but to this day I remember how he looked.

Kids can fit anything into their imagination...

 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 12/29/2011 10:42:18 AM
as soon as my youngest son learned to communicate using words, he started telling me, "you're not my REAL Mommy!" he described in detail his "REAL Mommy," his cousins, aunts and uncles ... VERY creative ... and more than a little spooky!

one day, we were driving by a neighborhood in south L.A. we'd never been in before ... he perked up, looking around and started yelling, "I live near here! I live here!" eventually even pointing out a specific house ... he sobbed and cried because we wouldn't stop ... he was screaming, "Mommy! Mommy!"

my husband said, "what should we do?" and I said, "drive faster!"

honestly, I was afraid if we knocked on the door and talked to the folks there, they'd tell me about their dead child who died before the day of my son's birth ... and I'd have to conclude that my son had just gotten a soul that hadn't been completely processed!

we never mentioned it again and, eventually, he forgot about it ...

don't know if that qualifies as imaginary friends or not ...
 OutofControlMan
Joined: 12/22/2011
Msg: 27
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Posted: 12/29/2011 2:47:41 PM
many "adults" have an imaginary friend. only they call him "god' so people tend to accept it.

often though of as an imaginary "father" or parent figure. some even say he is a father, a son and a ghost all in one --he is his own father, but abandoned himself to endure torture & death . he was an absentee father to himself then became a ghost -most confusing!
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 29
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...
Posted: 12/29/2011 9:33:54 PM
My oldest son had a "friend" named Dark. Anything broken, moved or lost got blamed on dark lol must of been his dark side.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 12/30/2011 12:01:10 AM
my granddaughter had an invisible friend she called "John Smiff" ... "Captain John Smiff" ... she and he would be together most of the time ... they held hands when we shopped ... we had to reserve a place for "Captain Smiff" at the table ... had to be careful not to sit on him on the sofa ...

one day, I asked her what Pokahantus thought about her palling around with "Captain John Smiff" ... my granddaughter looked at me as tho I must be truly STUPID ... she sighed ... rolled her eyes and said, ever so slowly, so even slow-witted me could understand ... "Grandma ... when I'm with Captain John Smiff, I AM Pokahantus!"

ooops ... my bad!
 SteelCity1981
Joined: 8/16/2005
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Posted: 12/30/2011 12:08:40 AM
Yep perfectly normal i don't know a person that didn't have an imaginary friend growing up rather if it was an invisable friend or an object of some sorts.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 33
My 4 year old son has imaginary friends...
Posted: 12/30/2011 9:39:20 AM
Ah, imaginery friends are the best! At that stage of life, anyway. Yes, it is very normal and healthy and isn't anything to worry about. Mine were "Merry Christmas" and "Ho Ho Ho" although they were year round friends. My youngest sister had one, "Susan Kay." Who knows why we choose the names we do!

Now, if he is 12 and says Jesus talks to him in his head, you might want to consider a little medical intervention. . .
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 34
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Posted: 12/30/2011 12:56:48 PM
I know I will regret this ... most kids have imaginary people friends ... I on the other hand had a cow and she lived in my closet. My dad can prove she was real he said he came home drunk a few times and seen her too!
 kasandroid
Joined: 3/22/2006
Msg: 35
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Posted: 12/31/2011 4:22:16 AM
and POF has imaginary dates...............................

 Aristotle_Amadopolis
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 36
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Posted: 1/13/2012 4:31:16 PM
Many people still believe in imaginary friends.

The only difference is the 4 year old will grow out of it at some point.
 DameWrite
Joined: 2/27/2010
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Posted: 1/13/2012 8:25:04 PM
I figure if his relationship with his imaginary friend sounds like it's a healthy, safe, friendly one, then there is nothing to worry about. Just a regular kid entertaining himself. If it get's scarey or sounds abusive, then you get some help for him.
 SunnyBlueSkies23
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 1/15/2012 4:04:09 AM
Yes, imaginary friends are pefectly normal. I like what Smiling Salmon said when she said,"I think imaginary friends are pretty common though and I find all the possibilities interesting,from truly imaginary, to the spiritual connection with a living person,spirits,angels or even ghosts."
If you think of it in this way, children are so new and innocent, and have just arrived from the other side (Heaven) so their minds & hearts are still open to all of the possibilities . In fact, nobody has told them NOT to believe in all the possibilities and realms........not only in the things you can see, but in the things you can sence. I think children coined the term " Seeing is believing....but, sometimes it works the other way around, too." That,in and of itself, is truly a miracle to me. I think it's one reason I keep coming back for more! Children ARE so innocent,and so in love & in awe of the world! I can't help but feel amazed and truly blessed everyday because I get to see it!!
When my oldest niece was little, ( between 2 & 4 years old) I caught her a few times "chatting " & giggling with someone in my bedroom. When I questioned her as to WHO it was she said, " My Grammy ". ( Grammy was MY deeply-loved Grandmother, who had passed just 5 days before my niece's birth....she never met her HERE.)
I've had friends tell me similar stories about their children and nieces & nephews......to me, it's more uplifting than anything else...
It's a perfectly natural part of childhood,and in my book, it should be encouraged; it's a way for children to explore their world, and live out their dreams. It won't last forever.....enjoy it while it lasts!
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