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 Wiyan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 40
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Pretty wise advice--I would add that you will hurt her some, but worse if you prevent her from her next more meant to be adventure, and leaving her may help her to face her own stuff and grow and heal
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 41
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 10/31/2009 3:21:09 AM
Only if she hates you to begin with.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/9/2009 4:20:42 PM

i don't want to ruin my reputation on pof ...but i have never used the steven king method of breaking up on someone...i merely answered in a hypothetical way...the reason is...why pray tell is everyone on here so deadpan...is it because the very thought of losing a love drive you bonkers...i mean do you have no choices, no prospects...is someone breaking up with you an actual problem...do you cling to everyone you meet for dear life...did you ever think maybe that is the reason he left...allow people to breathe...give them their space...suffocation is uncomfortable...


I got it and I thought you were brilliant.

There's a film, "Truly, Madly, Deeply," about a dead husband who comes back to his grieving wife and gradually irritates the heck out of her in order to help her get over her loss.
 yew4ic
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 43
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:51:10 PM
Kpooks[[[[[When there's been attachment, a breakup will always cause pain. But that pain can be alleviated by such statements as "it's not you, it's me" or "it's nothing you did wrong...this relationship has just run its course" or "I need to discover myself" or something along those lines that assuages any blame.]]]]]]


All of which are bullshit, lol. There will always be pain in every break up. I think it's best to tell the person exactly what went wrong and get it over with. But that's just me.
 acuddler
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 44
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/15/2009 5:19:14 PM
If the person cares for you you can not break up with them without hurting them. So what? Pain is a big part of what life is all about. It is part of the learning process. If you have cause to break up with someone, break up with them. The surgeon's knife is kinder than letting a cancer grow out of control. Hurting can be helping. It is certainly kinder than staying with someone you don't love, and lieing to her, and making her think you do love her. How does such dishonesty effect your self esteem? Grow some cajones, and cut the cord. That is what I would tell such a deceitful fool.
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 45
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/8/2016 7:32:09 PM

HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?


Set them up with someone nicer and better looking than you.
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 46
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/9/2016 8:33:18 AM
If they have feelings for you, the only way to break up without causing pain is to get them to break up with you.... he who rejects feels better about it............ so take all your skeletons out of the closet........ tell them you have another lover, work as a hitman for the mafia, or have something catching!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 47
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/9/2016 10:12:35 AM
Lesson one is not ignore red flags, and think "I can change the person and mold him/her into what I want as an ideal mate. It might take time, but I can do it." Lesson two is to walk away as soon as you get a feeling things aren't going to end well. It's easier to get over a break-up if there wasn't much time invested. Too many people hang on for too long, hoping a magical fairy will show up someday and make everything better.
 Ladyinred0407
Joined: 2/6/2016
Msg: 48
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/12/2016 10:45:22 AM
LOL Fullmoonguy, extra time on your hands?

Any "Break" is gonna cause some pain, unless it's "break"-fast. Waffles anyone?
 FullMoonGuy
Joined: 3/7/2014
Msg: 49
HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN?
Posted: 11/12/2016 11:31:54 AM

LOL Fullmoonguy, extra time on your hands?


Yes, cleaning the cobwebs out of my inbox went faster than expected.
 diaboloacetin
Joined: 12/20/2014
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