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 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 99
What's the upside to being over 50 and singlePage 3 of 16    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16)

Flirting has guilt? Never thought of flirting as guilt ridden, just playful recourse for mental stimulation.......Now, acting on that, is much much different.


...When you're in a relationship...I don't think it's a good idea. He just might not understand that I was only being "playful"

...maeflowers
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 102
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:24:19 AM
"the days are ok but the nights suck.
Finally, honesty."

My nights don't suck. I have done work to heal after being widowed yrs ago, then I went on to create a single lifestyle I enjoy. Those complaining about their lifestyle need to stop the poor mes, and work on their lives. Unhappy people are unhappy whether single or married if they just sit around and wait for the world to change.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2009 11:50:45 AM
It has plenty to do with lifestyle. People need to be able to function happily whether or not they have someone to get through the night with. Please check with definition of co dependent.

Now I understand how it takes people time to learn to move from being married to being single. After a number of years though, keeping the "I need to have someone in my bed or I will be unhappy" attitude is all about attitude and the ability or lack there off to go with the flow.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 105
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Posted: 11/5/2009 12:13:00 PM
" has to do with the empty bed blues"

Ismene - There is a big difference between empty bed blues and a healthy sex life. If you had posted about wanting a healthy sex life, I won't have posted what I did.

Empty bed, empty nights is totally different. We don't have to have a life in to have a relationship. Needing the protection of having someone around is all in the mind.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/5/2009 12:15:51 PM
" has to do with the empty bed blues"

Ismene - There is a big difference between empty bed blues and a healthy sex life. If you had posted about wanting a healthy sex life, I won't have posted what I did.

Empty bed wows is totally different. We don't have to have a live in to have a relationship. Needing the protection of having someone around through the night is all in the mind. It takes time to no long be in the habit of sleeping with someone but after a few years many of us see it as an upside to being single.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 107
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Posted: 11/5/2009 1:08:58 PM
"moraima..who made you the expert? who said my bed is empty? all i meant was this single life aint for me and would like to find a good one for keeps.

no one likes a preacher! "

???????????? Where did you get that my post had anything to do with you? Where did I address your post? It wasn't you name that I mentioned.

One of the upsides to being single is that you can see humour when accused of something that was nothing to do what the accuser is on about.

Self esteem works words for people with the downside problems of being single, but they will have to put the work in. If that annoys people, they should ask themselves why.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 108
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:16:17 PM

Empty Bed Blues is the name of an old blues song,


I think I've sung that tune a number of times.


Now I understand how it takes people time to learn to move from being married to being single. After a number of years though, keeping the "I need to have someone in my bed or I will be unhappy" attitude is all about attitude and the ability or lack there off to go with the flow.


...Wanting to hold someone in your arms has nothing to do with being unhappy. Don't you ever wish... just once, to have that skin contact. To feel his skin against yours.To breathe in the smell of him,...that's a natural human need whether you wish to acknowledge it or not.

...maeflowers
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 110
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Posted: 11/5/2009 6:28:43 PM
"Empty Bed Blues is the name of an old blues song, Bessie Smith. A song that is satirical and humorous. You didn't get the allusion."

So if the people who haven't heard the song read " has to do with the empty bed blues" what were they supposed to think except you posted in a thread about upside of being single, that if people were honest they would admit to having empty bed blues.

"You have made all kinds of assumptions and personal attacks based on your not seeing the light hearted humor in my comments. Talk about bitter, angry, and mean spirited. "

Try that I was posting about people who need someone in their bed. It was you who took it as a person attack and assumed it was all about you.

Amazing how people who don't agree with you or can't read your mind, you call bitter, angry and mean spirited. Why you are so upset right now is on you. Why you find my opinions all about you is also on you.

The topic tread is about the upside of being single. Too bad those who can't deal with those who see the upsides of being single gets them so upset.



"Don't you ever wish... just once, to have that skin contact. To feel his skin against yours.To breathe in the smell of him,...that's a natural human need whether you wish to acknowledge it or not. "

Who? some imaginary man? Honestly, I never think about being held by an imaginary man. Breathe the smell of him.................sounds too teenage crush for me. that is not human natural............more like romantic nature of dreamers.

I am glad I have found purpose in my life that leaves me free from having a need to dream of an imaginary lover.

The biggest upside to being single for me is to find purpose in life and engage in that purpose that improve my life and the lives of others.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 111
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:25:17 PM

Who? some imaginary man? Honestly, I never think about being held by an imaginary man. Breathe the smell of him.................sounds too teenage crush for me. that is not human natural............more like romantic nature of dreamers


...Ahhh Mori, where would we be if it weren't for the dreamers of the world, without them we wouldn't have learned how to fly, walked on the moon or marched for peace.
"I have a dream"

...maeflowers
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:30:09 PM
People who looked at the upside of life didn't just dream. They go out and get out and make their dreams come true. We wouldn't have flight etc. if everyone had stayed home and wished for things to do different.

I am sure glad my day after becoming single again where I dreamed of what used to be became finding and creating actively what I need to do to fulfil my dreams. Staying home of dreaming about what I wished I had just isn't for me.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/5/2009 7:56:19 PM
...For me, one of the upsides to being single is travel is so much more affordable for one... and I like the fact that I have the freedom to travel when and where I want to.

I went to Vegas last December and I'm flying home to spend the Christmas holidays with my sister this year. But I have been seriously thinking about taking a cruise in the new year., someplace warm of course.

...maeflowers
 moraima
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:04:17 PM
I just love the upside to being able to travel where I want, when I want. Was taught by most men that have tried to date me over the past few years that they either didn't want me to travel at all, or they wanted me to travel only when and where they wanted to travel to. Would be nice to find someone who felt comfortable enought to travel to where he want to go if he didn't want to go where I was going.

I didn't even know I love travelling so much until I became single.
 MondoVman
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:47:16 PM
The upside has been leaping off the bandwagon of banality... Bahrooooo! BahrOOOOO! ... onto the rickshaw of honesty.

All women are beautiful, even though they just LOVE to argue.

What if the second post on every thread was a set of canned, auto-entered statements?
Would posters get real by talking about themselves or poking a little fun at each other Hmmm?
Would posters run out of sentences to write?

How about these canned beauties (cuz someone will write a version of these otherwise)?
1. Some people/No one/Everyone/We/You yada yada yada.
2. Some don't, some do yada yada yada.
3. People/They should/must/need to yada yada yada.
4. Did too!
 chriden
Joined: 7/7/2008
Msg: 116
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Posted: 11/5/2009 9:20:34 PM
I agree.. Out of a 31 yr marriage then I had a relationship and it was wonderful for 3 years. But I find it harder now as I get older that no one seems to want to get to know me.
 all about animals
Joined: 10/24/2009
Msg: 117
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:14:04 AM
I have a great life but as I mention in my profile, I think a companion could make it even better.

But I have to say that after reading everyones posts in this thread , you're making me realize just how good I have it and I'm starting to wonder what the hell I'm doing here looking for a girlfriend !
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 121
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Posted: 11/9/2009 7:35:31 PM
This evening, I can't think of one single thing that's positive about being single over 50. Maybe tomorrow will be different, but I doubt it. I do have a life, and do things I enjoy and that are fullfilling, but not having someone to share them with sucks.
 BlueEyes1712
Joined: 4/24/2008
Msg: 123
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Posted: 11/9/2009 11:26:03 PM
You can watch what ever you want on the TV, eat meals when you please. Go to bed when you want to, can leave the toilet seat up or down, and not have to explain why you didnt call or was late getting home. Thats about it but i am sure there are more.
 Karl A.
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 124
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Posted: 11/13/2009 3:13:37 PM
It was OK for a while.
But I just don't think we are supposed to be alone - ever.
I'm tired of it.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 125
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/13/2009 4:34:49 PM

I find just the opposite, Maeflowers. Of course single fare is cheaper than two fares for simple airfare, but when considering Caribbean holidays, everything is set up for two in a room and there is a penalty for single occupancy


...Your are probably right. I've lucked out in that my daughter is in the travel industry she does corporate travel but is also a cruise specialist.... So of course the savings are always passed on to mom.

...maeflowers
 sequoyah61
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 126
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Posted: 11/13/2009 4:48:01 PM
OK, I will admit that I haven't read all 7 pages and hope this is not a duplicate:

One less egg to fry.
One less plate to wash.
I never run out of hot water.

Muwhahahahahahahahaha!




Sequoyah
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 127
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/13/2009 5:07:27 PM

Mae, are you serious? I've always wanted to take a cruise to the Sahara,,,


Ok...load up the dune buggy. The voucher is in the mail.

What I like bout being single...* stops, takes a bite out of her peanut butter sandwich*
is the fact that no one cares if I cook or not.

...maeflowers
 sequoyah61
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 128
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Posted: 11/13/2009 5:40:05 PM

I guess the downside would be that you never mastered finding one who would do those things for you,,,


Oh, contraire, Monsieur NewToMichiana, I had the distinct pleasure of finding two who could cook and didn't mind helping with the cleaning either! Lucky me!

Now, about that hot water thing...........

Sequoyah
 Drgnctchr1
Joined: 5/12/2007
Msg: 129
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Posted: 11/13/2009 9:37:28 PM
I can sleep as late and whenever I want without someone ****ing about it and it certainly beats the celestial dirt nap.
 chrylann
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 11/15/2009 3:23:32 PM
At 49, I have loved being single to this point. I've been divorced for three years. There are too many advantages to name.
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 133
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/15/2009 3:58:53 PM
To have your real freedom and don't use it.Waiting on dating site to meet real gentleman...divorced and looking only for sex!
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