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 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 133
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The big variable ion any site is really YOU....same as IRL...

Hawking....dude....I have never read any of your posts...I'd like to but I just see each post is a novel...again, I have no idea what you're saying and I haven't looked at your profile...dare I say that you MAY be keeping women away with being too wordy? Abelian gets wordy too...but not always...he has good stuff to say often so I'll make my way through his wordier posts...


...Sorry for the side note...back to complaining about Match and POF
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 134
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Posted: 6/5/2010 12:22:52 AM
I get more action from the polaroid wall down at my local cafe.
Its off line, its old school, its the bulletin board of the usual suspects.
There is even the rotating cast of who is new this week
and who is the oldest
Its a small town, what else ya gonna do ?
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 136
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Posted: 10/5/2010 6:27:35 AM
I think a dating site is what you make of it. Match and e harmony both select your matches which is restrictive- and my friends call match " not a match" . com for this reason- you pay to have them closely match you and I suppose if you respond to each person who contacts you or if you contact each person who you are matched with that you will find some of interest. I was on eh in the past and didn't like the fact that they sent 6 matches a day who really weren't good matches- but I did have a few dates and made a few friends. Pof has great forums and an open system where you can contact, or be contacted by, anyone ( outside of your restricted settings).
 sunbeach95
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 137
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Posted: 10/5/2010 7:01:19 AM
Match will rip you off on the 6 months free.. i did this among 3 others from my office and me and the other who didnt "find love" didnt get our six months free either. worst 60 quid ive wasted ever! dont do it and the people are no better, so the thought of pay for a service to get a better one isnt true. this is the line i fell for..


I know some people who were on Match and got the 6 additional months for free. There were some requirements you had to meet. Such as your profile always had to be visible ( not hidden ). Emailing at least 5 people per month among a few others.


I know people who have been on both sites. According to them, match was better. Negative things about POF ( such as dishonest people, people who use internet dating for an ego boost etc ) can also apply to match. But these problems were more common on POF.


I also agree with this. I have some friends and relatives that were on Match and POF at the same time. All of them got more dates on Match.
 Fierysunlvr
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 138
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Posted: 10/5/2010 7:12:52 AM
I've had friends join Match.com because they reasoned that if the men were paying to join the site, they'd be better quality men. All the men they dated turned out to be nothing like their profiles and my friends felt like they wasted their own money.

EHarmony does sound like BS to me. How can an internet site claim to "match you for life."? Plenty of fish seems more honest and real. I like the concept of not letting one person break your heart too much, because life goes on and there really are plenty of fish in the sea.
 fleeting85
Joined: 9/23/2010
Msg: 139
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Posted: 10/7/2010 12:12:20 AM
Well I've signed up for online dating for about ~2 weeks now. This has been quite the experience and I must say it's very similar to sales or applying for a job. You send your resume with your customized cover letter to a whole bunch and it's not an extremely rewarding experience. I also think the job hunt is a little easier though :P

Match.com - subscribed for 1 week free - messaged 12 - 0 replies - got 1 wink after trial subscription expired
PoF - subscribed for 2 weeks now - messaged 16 - 0 replies - got 2 girls who initiated contact
OKC - subscribed for 2.5 weeks now - messaged 73 - 17 replies - 7 extended emails - getting bored
eHarmony - subscribed for a month free - messaged 4 - 2 replies - got bored never replied back
singlesnet - subscribed for 2 weeks now - messaged 0 - got 1 girl who initiated contact but she lived 200 miles away in SD.
Hot or Not - joined to get my various pictures rated so I know which to use in my profile...is this shit inflated? I'm getting high 8s and mid 9s...I dunno...I feel like I'm a solid 7, maybe 8 if I'm in peak physical condition.

I signed up for online dating as a distraction from my studies, but my exams are coming up fast so maybe I should hold off on the messaging until I can actually meet women. With emailing there's always that short window when both the girl and I are vibing extremely well--usually within the first two emails. Instead of asking her out right then and there, I just keep emailing...until there is no more rapport to build and boredom sets in.
 weathervanes
Joined: 3/31/2010
Msg: 140
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Posted: 10/7/2010 10:54:46 AM
They are all a waste of time and in some cases $$$.....no one here in my part of the country can read english apparently.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 141
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Posted: 10/7/2010 2:55:08 PM
My experience with Match has been very positive---I met my current partner there. Overall, the people I've met there have been of a higher caliber, as well as more serious about finding a LTR than those I've met here. I also prefer the specific nature of the questions Match asks in the profiles, such as pets, exercise habits, political beliefs, and whether or not there are children living at home, just to name a few. Those questions enable one to quickly flip through profiles and eliminate people with incompatibilities, thus, saving a great deal of time.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 142
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Posted: 10/8/2010 12:41:15 PM

My experience with Match has been very positive---I met my current partner there. Overall, the people I've met there have been of a higher caliber, as well as more serious about finding a LTR than those I've met here.

I think active user by active user, it is a better selection. It has less active members than POF, since POF is free...

I've found that you'll find more at least reasonable picks of women 25-and-up without kids. More career women, whereas with POF, more moms-with-younger-kids. Match, IMO is a side choice for those who are 'picky', but it has a smaller (active) selection. One has to be paying at the time to correspond, too.
 MsStackhouse
Joined: 5/20/2009
Msg: 143
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Posted: 10/12/2010 6:17:32 AM
I found that most of the people I communicated with on Match, also had profiles on here.... I've honestly have had more dates from PoF then I had with Match or eHarmony. I think the 'weeding out' process is different here, though. I found that people on pay sites are definitly up to meet in person, but here lots of people just want to be penpals and exchange emails.
 24suburbs
Joined: 10/8/2010
Msg: 144
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Posted: 10/12/2010 6:43:58 AM
I had a profile on Match and POF at the same time for about 3 months. I had more dates from Match. Like others have stated, you can find flakes, dishonest people, jerks etc in almost any dating site. But in general, I think match has a better quality of profiles and people were more serious about finding a date. I also like how match has a chart where you can state your preferences. Therefore it was easier to tell if you matched what someone was looking for.
 likes_animals_wk
Joined: 7/22/2010
Msg: 145
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Posted: 10/12/2010 10:18:39 AM
are you sure match isn't better? i was thinking of paying for it because all i get are a bunch of losers on POF with the exception of one guy.
 wolftxusa
Joined: 10/3/2010
Msg: 146
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Posted: 10/12/2010 7:56:57 PM
"a bunch of losers on POF with the exception of one guy."
Isn't that all it takes?

Match used to be good, but now the service is unreliable and they have lots of fakes. Of the ones that seem genuine, many shoot for a 150K+ salary in a partner because they 'deserve' it. I met one good date off POF and match respectively, making it both even and statistically irrelevant.

POF has the advantage that you can stay forever while match costs, but then again paying members may be more serious. Right now I'd call it a wash with POF gaining and match losing momentum.
 SWSpice
Joined: 8/23/2007
Msg: 147
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Posted: 10/12/2010 8:27:40 PM
You might get more actual dates on match but that doesn't mean they are any more into a relationship or have any less expectations. I have met people on match, more than on POF because I had unrealistically thought that because they paid for the online service meant they were more interested and perhaps invested. Just not true.

The photos were not any more current, the descriptions of personalities not more honest and expectations not any more realistic, perhaps worse so because they paid money. I haven't seen either one better than the other.
 likes_animals_wk
Joined: 7/22/2010
Msg: 148
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Posted: 10/14/2010 10:12:45 AM

"a bunch of losers on POF with the exception of one guy."
Isn't that all it takes?


yes but i've been waiting on him for over a month e-mailing back and forth. never knew a guy more passive than he is. he's extremely busy with work, doing this and that. i have to keep looking. i'm not the type to just sit and wait for a guy to make a move. and fyi. i already asked to meet him 3 times.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 10/14/2010 7:29:09 PM
^^^^That sounds like an interesting/different approach, but I don't think it will bring better results.

IMO: You'll still get the same types in all dating sites. i.e. those serious, those married, those with a hidden agenda, etc..............
 lostintheshufle
Joined: 11/8/2010
Msg: 151
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Posted: 11/21/2010 8:07:10 PM
Match has higher quality people.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 152
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Posted: 11/21/2010 8:21:57 PM

but i've been waiting on him for over a month e-mailing back and forth ... he's extremely busy with work, doing this and that.

He's not (that) interested. Mere busyness can get in the way of things -- and make someone less available than someone else, sure. But it's not going to prevent a guy who signed up for and is on a dating site, to meet a gal within the same area that he finds attractive (in a relatively short order of time). Anything justifying otherwise is a facade.

You can be too busy to meet too many women... or too busy because it's not merely busyness, but it's your soon-to-be-separated-wife recently getting in the way... or new girl A or B who you met at a bar. If they are "too busy" to meet or go out (again), then basically, you're just not a top choice (in the very least), plain and simple.
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 153
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Posted: 11/21/2010 8:44:04 PM
There are only two differences I see between PAY and FREE sites:

1) Pay sites better photos (bigger, clearer, more of them, etc.) Members seem more inclined to spiff up their looks and find better quality pics to post

2) Pay sites have more personal notes about each member. They tend to add lots of categories and spaces to add comments, more essays, surveys, etc. that give you more info about the person. Hopefully, this additional info can help you make better selections.

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Once you've made contact or scheduled a date, the difference stops. Everything is on YOUR SHOULDERS from that point to realize your goals.
 17outdoors
Joined: 11/13/2010
Msg: 154
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Posted: 11/21/2010 9:25:19 PM
Many dating sites will have the same problems ( flakes, rude people, married people looking to cheat etc ) to various degrees. But overall I think Match is better. Better quality of people and more serious people. Match also has a chart where a person can state what they are looking for in a date. Race, age, distance, height, body type, smoking and drinking habits, having / wanting children or not, education level etc.
 eastbelle
Joined: 11/22/2010
Msg: 155
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Posted: 11/27/2010 3:45:03 PM
I had used both Match and POF in the past. For the most part, I didn't have good experiences with internet dating. But I think POF was worse.
 BentonHarbor
Joined: 3/2/2010
Msg: 156
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Posted: 11/29/2010 3:49:44 PM
This thread is so old most of the sites mentioned early on are already dead and gone!

Ya know I've been successful at this online dating thing since first coming online---1990 or so. AOL was King of the ISP's and they had their own free dating area. This applied back then, still does today:


Once you've made contact or scheduled a date, the difference stops. Everything is on YOUR SHOULDERS from that point to realize your goals.


So many never learned this or have forgotten no matter the method in which you meet someone it all comes down to the mutual performance of those involved, their interest in one another and whether there is enough of it to sustain more time together.

Pick any ZIP code, search on every available dating site and you'll see much the same people. There really isn't one site where people are "better" than the others despite so many thoughts someone paying for something means they're not sleazy denizens of the dating world.

Fact is those who aren't whining and complaining about a bad dating life are probably out doing it more than sitting online lamenting it all.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 160
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Posted: 3/14/2013 11:23:42 PM

People on Pof take no pride in looking after themselves, disheveled and waiting to be rescued.


So that's why you don't have a picture!
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
Msg: 162
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Posted: 3/15/2013 5:55:09 AM
I don't think match is worth the time.... pof is ok and I've certainly had a lot of success here but it's like trying to find someone in a loud and packed party room. I've found in looking for something more serious, the sites geared specifically for someone around my age are the best. I haven't run into any of the problems that are so typical of this site and, it seems to me, that on those sites the women clearly outnumber the men and are a bit more serious about what they want.
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 163
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Posted: 3/15/2013 6:31:57 AM

Many dating sites will have the same problems ( flakes, rude people, married people looking to cheat etc ) to various degrees. But overall I think Match is better. Better quality of people and more serious people.


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