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 sharongirl1498
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 443
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I agree with outdoors. There's nothing wrong with being single at any age.
 Native__One
Joined: 4/22/2011
Msg: 444
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/14/2011 6:22:06 PM
Too many possibilities why one could be single at any age, to judge or assume there's something wrong with them. A lot of people say it's a 'small world'..lol..but it's not.
It's hard to find the one who truly gets you, in such a large sea of fish.
 tazzzman01
Joined: 1/5/2011
Msg: 445
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 2:13:45 AM
im 36 and i am single.i didn't date for 11 years,and just started.i look at it this way "i just haven't meet the right person yet".
she out there i haven't meet her yet,but i will.theirs someon for everyone.i think im a normal looking guy with great qualities.

ps.and the person who posted this jules you are a beautiful woman and you will meet mr right,hes out there i promiss,or maybe hes somebody u already know.who knows he may feel the same about you.

goodluck and good fishing

tazzzman01..(brian) from oklahoma
 tazzzman01
Joined: 1/5/2011
Msg: 446
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 2:16:02 AM
me to,but everyone needs companionship!!!!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 447
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 6:02:02 AM
^^^Luckily, we don't have to get that from a relationship as it's available in many other places. We all have friends, family, community and even pets in some cases. If we get it from a relationship too, well that's just a nice bonus.
 Violet_Tigress
Joined: 4/29/2011
Msg: 449
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 12:55:47 AM
You could just plan on it & be pleasantly surprised if you aren't.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 450
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 12:47:17 PM
That is one way to look at it^^^^^^^I guess when some people have been taking to the cleaners(Being played) all their lives thay become isolated and give up..They get tired of all the games...Stevie Nicks siad it best in the song DREAMS...."Players only love you when they are playing"..."Thunder only happens when it is raining"......SO TRUE!!!!!!
 Ma_Karuna
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 451
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 9:58:10 PM
I'm a woman over the "magic" age. Yes, there are many things that many seem to view, as wrong with me, but that just makes my fishing easier.lol
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 452
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 2:08:08 AM
I've only NOT been in a relationship of some sort, for about 2-2 1/2 years total...the longest stretch being just over one year. That being said...I DO notice a difference on some level, between people who've been in relationships and those that have been single for long periods of time.

Maybe its just my experiences or perception, but I think the people who've been primarily in relationships tend to be more giving and more capable of compromise.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 453
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 3:01:53 AM

Then you have to learn to be alone.


Why?

What's the point?

I can be fine being by myself...I prefer to be in a LTR though.
I don't go looking for them when I'm single... I just enjoy myself...yet someone always comes along that interests me and poof! Not single.

I've only been in four serious relationships though totaling 25 years then a few FWB's in between....

I don't feel I NEED to be in a relationship anymore than I feel I need to be alone.... I take things day by day, if something is working I don't seek change. When it breaks I try to fix, then discard if I can't fix.

...I'm pretty satisfied with my love life....now my financial life... Meh...THAT could use some help.
Now that I'm getting older my propensity for risk is lowering, especially after the last fall...I've had a few!
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 454
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 10:20:17 AM
Well I just hit the big 45, I've never been married, have no kids, I just keep collecting those red flags, but I don't think there is anything horribly wrong with me. I do find it different dating in my 40's then in my 20's, more men wanted to settle down in the younger years but I wanted a career an edcuation first so I waited, now it's not so easy, but I keep trying to find that special someone for me.
 WillM009
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 455
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 7:55:54 PM
Well I have been single, more or less, for atleast 10 yrs. I have dated and tried to work things out in the 1st of my relationships since I moved to the city I live in now, but there was just no connection. We both tried to work things out and then we ran into problems of her wanting several kids and me not being home all the time because of work etc.. Just was not a good match.

The other was there was no match at all. We would have been better off just being friends and to go out bowling, shooting pool etc...

So I am 38 almost work full time at the same job for over 10 yrs and well just can't seem to find the right match. I have had 2 meetups with 2 different females but there wasn't anything I guess there either. Maybe more on their part than mine. ??

So I figure I have nothing but more time... maybe I will find love somewhere.

Ahhh that brings me to the song by Saigon Kick
"Love is on the way......." :)
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 456
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/18/2011 2:37:19 PM
Oh god, are you serious? If a guy )or a girl) is still single at the age of 30 it is simply because they are. Why they are could be a for million reasons and who is everyone else to simply guess what the reson is and pass judgement on them?
 Ma_Karuna
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 457
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/20/2011 8:41:50 PM
Ohh, come on JP1111,
Get on the psychobabble carnival ride. Where great torques of inconvenient truth, tore at the guts of victim me. Hey, there may not be a million reasons for self-doubt, but it all goes grotesquely distorted, when strangers usher you into their hall of mirrors. Having fun yet??
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 459
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/23/2011 8:34:01 PM
Oh and have I said
 Violet_Tigress
Joined: 4/29/2011
Msg: 460
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/25/2011 7:48:32 PM

I can't believe anyone really thinks that much about these 'dating rules' ie no one over 30. For me, it's not that these things don't cross my mind, I just know it all goes out the window when I meet someone..


I'm with you on that one. I can't imagine who made up those stupid arbitrary rules, anyway.
 PDXRebel
Joined: 5/23/2011
Msg: 461
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/27/2011 8:39:37 AM
That's kinda where I am. In my 20s I was always so self conscious, so worried about everything, had low self esteem etc. Looking back it's no wonder I couldn't develop a healthy long-term-relationship with a man.

It wasn't until I was 30 that I finally started to figure myself out. Now I know who I am, I know what I want, I've got goals and I'm on the way to meeting them. I've traveled and even lived abroad. I've learned and grown so much. I feel like I'm finally ready to find the right person to join me in building an amazing life.

It is hard though, because for every single over 30 like us who were just 'late bloomers' as it were, there are all too many older singles who have just stagnated. And it's been hard for me to maintain a positive attitude while dating & trying to weed through all the Mr. Wrongs. But at least I know that I'm pretty happy even when it's just me.
 DC1346
Joined: 5/26/2011
Msg: 465
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/1/2011 11:35:48 PM

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this? Do you find that there has got to be "something" wrong if someone looks in every other way a good catch, yet still hasn't settled down?


People have said a lot of things over the years. At one time it was widely believed that the world was flat. Just because people say that something is true doesn't mean that it's actually true.

Everyone has a different story. Until you get to know a specific person, most of what you think you know about this person will be hearsay and supposition.
 bsmith1976
Joined: 9/24/2008
Msg: 466
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/20/2011 9:24:24 PM
Let's see. I moved away from my family and friends when I was in my early to mid-twenties and focused on my career and attempting to build relationships. I bought a house and spent time and money working on that. You know, doing the responsible things you're supposed to do.

Little did I know, I was secretly damaging my image. I should have just partied and blew work off to look more attractive back in my twenties? Silly me.
 chazzc1980
Joined: 4/15/2011
Msg: 467
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/20/2011 11:19:58 PM
Well I'm 31 and know why I'm single, yes there is something wrong with me. Was raised by a single parent, homeless and living in a vehicle for much of my childhood. Would travel around a lot working flea markets when I was a kid, was raised to be what was called a "roadie". So here I am now, a 31 year old college dropout with no sense of direction in my life and no idea how or desire to hold down a "real job" which is not due to laziness more to the fact I hate being bossed around and working with other people. I have nothing monetarily to offer a woman or bring to a relationship, besides my car and the clothes on my back. Last time I checked, women don't really find the kind of guy I am to be very appealing. But that's okay, because not having the material world tie me down any longer may possibly free me up to pursue some things I've always dreamed of doing like hiking the entire Appalachian Trail or spend my life volunteering with the Peace Corps.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 468
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/22/2011 2:29:50 PM

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I was taken, but now I'm free again... There's no pleasure in being single though... I guess that's why we are all here?

When you are in your 20s and you think you've found the partner of your dreams you don't plan ahead for being single in your 30s... Let's just hope we're still not single deep into our 40s too



i'm pretty much sitting in the same boat right now thout i found somebody then it went back to s hit..maybe it will workout an maybe ill find somebody never know

but in the meantime the older you get the harder it is to date i hope to still not be sitting on this boat when i turn 40,, but if i am im sure ill have way more exsperience under my belt bout life an love an people..

single is not for everybody..
 Mr_Modular
Joined: 1/25/2011
Msg: 473
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/23/2011 10:00:48 PM
You're preaching to the choir, Stephen!
 Jack_Herer
Joined: 4/27/2011
Msg: 475
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/24/2011 1:24:04 PM
i smoke a lot of pot, so i guess that's what's "wrong" with me.
 ShanaBanana78
Joined: 3/27/2011
Msg: 476
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/24/2011 5:02:41 PM
I personally think you should not be allowed to even think about marriage until 30 years old! I think there is NOTHING wrong with spending your 20's having fun, getting your wildness out of you, and getting to know who you are and what you want from life. I got married very young and now, looking back on it, I realized I was so not ready to be legally bound to another person. I got two beautiful children from it, and many lessons learned! So to answer the question no I don't automatically think there is a character flaw because they are not settled at 30.. 40 maybe, but not 30.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 477
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/24/2011 7:46:35 PM
thou ive never been married but would like to be 1 day sooner rather then later i agree the thoughts of marriage or even heading in that direction should atleast wait until 30 however in some cases there are some poeple an couples who actually did an do marry before then an stay together an continue to work thru or meet an its just like a movie 2months later they marry i dont know what kinda magic an luck they have by thier side but congrates to them...
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