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 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 428
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 17 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
Well... what if you've been taken, and put back, a couple of three times? Would you say there's something wrong with them? Not a "keeper" but a "Loaner"?
Is there something wrong with a used err "previously owned" car? Dunno,. might be it was just not their cup o tea, or like MANY felt the need to upgrade..or maybe they totaled it drunk, had it fixed and got rid of it.. the same things happen to the over 30 AND over 40's guys. Older women are demanding equal time with the middle-age crisis guy counter-part,.. so there's a new "cougar" born every 3 minutes or so...Is there something wrong with YOU for asking such a shallow question?.. I dunno.. maybe..or you just might have been bored,.or wondering why your over thirties date picked his nose & rolled his boogers at the dinner table your first date... we'll NEVER know
 Investor2011
Joined: 12/25/2010
Msg: 431
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/2/2011 6:23:13 PM
I think maybe they had trouble socially growing up? Finding a good relationship is about getting out and meeting people. Most likely they were shy when they were younger. Maybe they were the new kid in school and never felt like they fit in. If you don't experience good friendships and relationships growing up it might be hard for you to love yourself. If you don't love yourself your most likely depressed and that will come out. I see lots of women I like, but I find it hard to naturally smile to let them know there is some interest. I've been in a few relationships over the last ten years, but no longer then a few years. I can't imagine what it would be like at this point not to have at least one failed relationship. You need them to learn what you really want. It's going to be hard for a person who is 40 and has never experienced the rush of love and how to know the difference between new love and mature love (one year and longer after the butterflies wear off) Many of these people suffer from porn addiction and other substance abuse. It's important to get out of the house and make a effort to be social.
 ICtheLite
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 432
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/3/2011 3:59:40 PM
Man or woman, makes no difference, there is nothing wrong with them. But for some, the older they get the longer that list of "I want's" & "must have's" gets, which makes their search a lot harder.

Why am I here again?
 Spring2929
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 433
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/22/2011 12:30:59 PM
Every person has a story and because someone is single and over 30 does not mean there is something wrong with them. My 20's were spent looking after my mother who was very ill, now that she is healthy again I have the freedom that most people in their 20's enjoyed, I had a few boyfriends but could not have started a life with any of them. I chose to sacrifice this time for my family, all though I could have left I didn't. So now at 32 I'm just starting out, and a better person for my choice.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 434
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/29/2011 10:21:37 PM
is there a Tshirt, or a bumper sticker that we could put on our cars to just let you all know ?!
Over 20 never married Green
Over 30 Never Married Yellow
Over 40 Never Married RED
Over 50 Never Married Skull and Cross bones ?
Over 60 and never DIVORCED ! full smiley face
 MrFication
Joined: 5/6/2010
Msg: 435
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Posted: 4/30/2011 1:04:04 PM
^^^^
Then we would have to deal with threads like:
'Why are guys over 40 wearing yellow T-shirts?'
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 436
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/8/2011 9:06:59 PM
when a 'life' sentence in prison only really equates to about 7 years.... are you even surprised that 'until death do us part' has a half life to it ?

Hand me the red flag, I am collecting them as I leave. I will take this one, the one for never being married, the one for not having kids, the one for not living in a house (a condo is quite permanent enough !) and another for not dancing, one for being short, and I will put a deposit on the flag for being 45 and not married as well.
 kyle_coare
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 437
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/12/2011 6:08:56 PM
men over 30 have manyt reasons for being single, i had a bad relationship, lost my partner my kids, through no major fault of my own, not to say i wasnt influential!!!
but its harder for over 30's guys to get out and meet people again, im agraphobic so cant speak for everyone, but i met people at work and in clubs etc, my chances of meeting anyone now are down to 00.01%, but im happy i have facebook to have old froiiends, and possibly new ones hint!!!!!
and maybe someone will givew me a reason to leave my house, but dont use sex, id prefer cuddles!!!!
though im not saying i hate sex lol!!!!!!
ill get my coat.... wait im not going anywere and im wearing a coat, this is all wrong..
 kyle_coare
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 438
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Posted: 5/12/2011 6:37:47 PM
Oh i played those games, i worked in a hotel kitchen, with 30 odd very beatiful women every night!!! i learnt not to trust women they can be way devious!!!!! but lots of fun also if you pick right!!!!

damn we should all just meet up, take over an island, i think japan will be cleared soon, and pair off lol!!!!
 kyle_coare
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 439
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Posted: 5/12/2011 7:28:41 PM
well according to my last message, if like me you have rubbish teeth, dont bother applying, we ar beyond saving!!!!!!
shame if only i earnt 2 pound less i could go dentsit!!!!
**** it, relationships always end in heartache and pain, im better alone, and according to people here thats all ill get anyway so better enjoy it!!
 professorjjd
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 440
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/13/2011 4:45:41 AM
Hey, I want my skull and crossbones now! Why should I have to wait 10 more years for a cool bumper sticker? Oh.. wait, you need a car to display the bumper sticker right? Now I'm REALLY bummed out!
 dimples0376
Joined: 5/7/2008
Msg: 441
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/14/2011 6:25:05 AM
Maybe he spent eight years with the wrong woman and is now single looking for the right woman and is a wonderful, caring, funny, cute, fun, outgoing man/father/potential boyfriend/husband who has figured out since becoming single exactly who he is and what he wants out of life. Hmmm, this guy sounds familiar to me! ;)
 out_doors
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 442
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/14/2011 2:58:16 PM
Not necessarily. I would rather be single than be stuck in a bad relationship.
 sharongirl1498
Joined: 5/5/2011
Msg: 443
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/14/2011 4:45:26 PM
I agree with outdoors. There's nothing wrong with being single at any age.
 Native__One
Joined: 4/22/2011
Msg: 444
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/14/2011 6:22:06 PM
Too many possibilities why one could be single at any age, to judge or assume there's something wrong with them. A lot of people say it's a 'small world'..lol..but it's not.
It's hard to find the one who truly gets you, in such a large sea of fish.
 tazzzman01
Joined: 1/5/2011
Msg: 445
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 2:13:45 AM
im 36 and i am single.i didn't date for 11 years,and just started.i look at it this way "i just haven't meet the right person yet".
she out there i haven't meet her yet,but i will.theirs someon for everyone.i think im a normal looking guy with great qualities.

ps.and the person who posted this jules you are a beautiful woman and you will meet mr right,hes out there i promiss,or maybe hes somebody u already know.who knows he may feel the same about you.

goodluck and good fishing

tazzzman01..(brian) from oklahoma
 tazzzman01
Joined: 1/5/2011
Msg: 446
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 2:16:02 AM
me to,but everyone needs companionship!!!!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 447
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/15/2011 6:02:02 AM
^^^Luckily, we don't have to get that from a relationship as it's available in many other places. We all have friends, family, community and even pets in some cases. If we get it from a relationship too, well that's just a nice bonus.
 Violet_Tigress
Joined: 4/29/2011
Msg: 449
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 12:55:47 AM
You could just plan on it & be pleasantly surprised if you aren't.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 450
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 12:47:17 PM
That is one way to look at it^^^^^^^I guess when some people have been taking to the cleaners(Being played) all their lives thay become isolated and give up..They get tired of all the games...Stevie Nicks siad it best in the song DREAMS...."Players only love you when they are playing"..."Thunder only happens when it is raining"......SO TRUE!!!!!!
 Ma_Karuna
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 451
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/16/2011 9:58:10 PM
I'm a woman over the "magic" age. Yes, there are many things that many seem to view, as wrong with me, but that just makes my fishing easier.lol
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 452
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 2:08:08 AM
I've only NOT been in a relationship of some sort, for about 2-2 1/2 years total...the longest stretch being just over one year. That being said...I DO notice a difference on some level, between people who've been in relationships and those that have been single for long periods of time.

Maybe its just my experiences or perception, but I think the people who've been primarily in relationships tend to be more giving and more capable of compromise.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 453
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 3:01:53 AM

Then you have to learn to be alone.


Why?

What's the point?

I can be fine being by myself...I prefer to be in a LTR though.
I don't go looking for them when I'm single... I just enjoy myself...yet someone always comes along that interests me and poof! Not single.

I've only been in four serious relationships though totaling 25 years then a few FWB's in between....

I don't feel I NEED to be in a relationship anymore than I feel I need to be alone.... I take things day by day, if something is working I don't seek change. When it breaks I try to fix, then discard if I can't fix.

...I'm pretty satisfied with my love life....now my financial life... Meh...THAT could use some help.
Now that I'm getting older my propensity for risk is lowering, especially after the last fall...I've had a few!
 Casper66
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 454
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Posted: 5/17/2011 10:20:17 AM
Well I just hit the big 45, I've never been married, have no kids, I just keep collecting those red flags, but I don't think there is anything horribly wrong with me. I do find it different dating in my 40's then in my 20's, more men wanted to settle down in the younger years but I wanted a career an edcuation first so I waited, now it's not so easy, but I keep trying to find that special someone for me.
 WillM009
Joined: 2/8/2011
Msg: 455
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/17/2011 7:55:54 PM
Well I have been single, more or less, for atleast 10 yrs. I have dated and tried to work things out in the 1st of my relationships since I moved to the city I live in now, but there was just no connection. We both tried to work things out and then we ran into problems of her wanting several kids and me not being home all the time because of work etc.. Just was not a good match.

The other was there was no match at all. We would have been better off just being friends and to go out bowling, shooting pool etc...

So I am 38 almost work full time at the same job for over 10 yrs and well just can't seem to find the right match. I have had 2 meetups with 2 different females but there wasn't anything I guess there either. Maybe more on their part than mine. ??

So I figure I have nothing but more time... maybe I will find love somewhere.

Ahhh that brings me to the song by Saigon Kick
"Love is on the way......." :)
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