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 Sunsunsun4
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 528
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Speaking only for myself: I had some bad luck in that the two men I loved most, were not at all animal people. One, in fact, was so allergic that I had to shower and wash my clothes before meeting up with him. I would have had to give up too big a part of myself in order to marry either one.

So I've had close, loving, long term relationships that just had this element of bad luck. I'm not a crazy hoarder or something, either I'm talking horse pro, veterinary assistant, dog trainer. I could no sooner give up contact with animals, than stop singing.
 eaglehawk2096
Joined: 10/12/2010
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/14/2011 10:01:22 PM
hey im over 30 and if im alone for more then two days owell.its my time to relax.thats the way i look at it plus my job makes it hard for me to find someone when i work 12 hour shifts plus i dont want some one in there 20s to much drama i want some one that has grown up
 tourniquet30
Joined: 6/20/2010
Msg: 530
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/14/2011 11:41:52 PM
I am over 30 in fact I just turned 32 last month... I am only single because it is not by my choice and I want the right girl ... I was married at a point in time but that didn't work out and that was not my choice either. I agree you should not judge a person by their age especially if you don't them or their backround.
 Wildfreefun
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 531
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/15/2011 2:48:44 PM
I'd just call them intelligent.
 prettyposh
Joined: 5/1/2011
Msg: 532
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 2:01:53 AM
Why would you on a dating website claiming to want a relationship if you feel it's unintelligent to be "taken"?
 Possessions
Joined: 10/3/2009
Msg: 533
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 2:19:34 AM
No no, there's nothing wrong with them.


There is, however, something wrong with me. That's totally irrelevant to this discussion.
 Sisyphus76
Joined: 1/1/2011
Msg: 534
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 7:11:01 AM

Why would you on a dating website claiming to want a relationship if you feel it's unintelligent to be "taken"?


To be funny..?

We live in an were we are more likely than not to live a healthy 80+ years. We are all, for the most part, educated and informed. Like it or not, the idea of spending your entire life with one person is very antiquated and designed for ignorant masses. Our brains are wired for monogamy, but they are also wired cycle mates in and out.

Think about this; if you live for 80 years and marry at 25, are you really going to be happy with one person for 55 years? That is a very, very long time.
 moun10dew
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 535
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 8:45:31 AM

Think about this; if you live for 80 years and marry at 25, are you really going to be happy with one person for 55 years? That is a very, very long time.


My parents actually celebrated their 47th wedding anniversary a few months back. My no deceased grandparents hit their 50+ and so did my great grandparents. I think it's really cool! Granted they grew up in a different time when divorce rates were either very low or practically non-existent. For me however at 40 and never been married...it's likely that if I do meet someone it's not going to hit the 50 or more mark. I don't see myself living until I'm 90 and I'd have to get married in the next few years to even have a shot at getting there.
 Sisyphus76
Joined: 1/1/2011
Msg: 536
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 9:38:35 AM
It has been tradition for a long time to suppress self for the good of a relationship. How many times have you heard the secret to a strong marriage is two words: "Yes dear"? I don't know about you, but I cannot be happy when I'm constantly having to give in. Trust me, I have tried.

Divorce rates are high because we aren't designed to be with one person our entire lives. When someone boasts of a 40+ year marriage I only cringe at the thought of one of them destroying who they are for the sake of maintaining the marriage.
 moun10dew
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 537
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 9:43:16 AM
then why bother getting married in the first place? seems like you might as well say up front to the other person. "I have zero desire to be with you my entire life, but I'm totally cool with being with you until I grow bored." That's really sad.
 Sisyphus76
Joined: 1/1/2011
Msg: 538
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 10:06:55 AM
It's not sad, it's reality. It's biology.

If you love someone, marry them. Take the stress of forever out of it and just be happy.
 moun10dew
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 539
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 10:51:27 AM
I know most of my married friends say they feel sorry for me and that there was no way in hell they would want to have to deal with dating and all that goes with it. and I get that from both married men and women friends.
 petuniagrl23
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 540
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/18/2011 5:15:38 PM
I think there is nothing wrong with it, it actually goes both ways, maybe he's just finding the wrong women. Goes for women too. I think its natural!
 Sisyphus76
Joined: 1/1/2011
Msg: 541
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/19/2011 6:59:20 AM

I know most of my married friends say they feel sorry for me and that there was no way in hell they would want to have to deal with dating and all that goes with it. and I get that from both married men and women friends.


Saying 'till death do we part' puts undue strain on the relationship. Look at this scientifically: most humans won't have the same spouse their whole life. Shouldn't that tell you that we weren't designed to have the same mate that long?

I honestly believe we have long outgrown the need for the act of marriage to automatically contract two people civilly.
 dispondentdream
Joined: 12/6/2010
Msg: 542
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/19/2011 11:37:30 AM
Honestly people should be more concerned for men who are under 30 and married. I was one of them. Fact is men tend to still be boys into there twenty's and early thirty's. If a guy is 30ish and single that is a good thing. That means he calmly waited tell he was mature in order to be a good appropriate husband. Heck I was an awful husband, but I learned alot over the year's. I hate that my marriage failed, but am content and excited for the future and the possibility of getting married agine. A thing I thought I would never say in life as I always beleaved I would only have one wife for the rest of my days. One day I will be married agine, and I will be a better husband with age.
 moun10dew
Joined: 12/3/2010
Msg: 544
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/19/2011 12:19:23 PM

I personally have wanted to wait until girls stopped being immature and stabbing each other in the back over who can get the most sex.


plan on waiting a looooooooooooonnnnnnnnggggggg time then.
 countryboy5696
Joined: 4/27/2010
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Posted: 8/19/2011 7:11:52 PM
I agree as a 30+ member in this world we call life (ie my life too). Not enough people can stand on their own two feet for a long period of time and they expect someone else to take care of everything!
 BuddFoxx
Joined: 8/7/2011
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Posted: 8/19/2011 9:56:04 PM
No it's normal.
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 547
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/21/2011 11:29:46 AM
Oh I like this and have to admit YES ! Gee what do you figure huh ? And so freakin what ? Where does it say everyone should fit into some mold ? Where does it say everyman has to be some freakin success story and have lots of money .Even hold a steady job as long as he works so what ? You know you are right there is something wrong with me ..

Now character flaws ? Hum I dont think so got plenty of character .Humour got that .Looks dunno to some folks yes ..Fun you bet..Mean no not me but dont yank my chain to hard .

Maybe juss maybe I dont like to BE what others mainly society dictates I am supposed to be ?

And there it is a FLAW !
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 548
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/21/2011 11:34:38 AM
Countryboy :

quote :

"I agree as a 30+ member in this world we call life (ie my life too). Not enough people can stand on their own two feet for a long period of time and they expect someone else to take care of everything!"

Expect ? I must ask you WTF are you talking about ? Do you know why many cant ? And they expect others to take care of them ? Gee could you be referring to the almost 34 million disenfranchised American workers our economy shit all over ? You get dates with this sort of attitude about others ?
 bunnyBiotch
Joined: 6/7/2011
Msg: 549
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/21/2011 1:45:54 PM
Yes, there is something terribly wrong with all of us who fit into this pretty little box with a bow on top! As Bridget Jones said about singletons," Because we have scales underneath our clothing!"

I'm quite happy that I haven't tethered myself to some other idiot who was trying to figure out who they were, at the same time I was! Sometimes, it takes people a long time to ever figure this out, but a majority of folks haven't in their 20's. And then in your early thirties, alot of people are fresh out of a divorce and not ready for another relationship. So, it would seem, these are the smarter people, who are biding their time for the perfect for fit for them!
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 550
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/22/2011 11:43:15 AM
BB : Post quote excerpt :

"So, it would seem, these are the smarter people, who are biding their time for the perfect for fit for them! "

Perfect fit ? Forget it .. I dont delude myself with that fantasy LOL ..Some one who might support me and tolerate my out of the box thinking yes of course .And by support I dont mean financially ..

Or be 100% my clone never wouldn't want that LOL..

But I would agree somewhat of course .To me discovering ones self is a life long endeavor .God if so many folks already think they have I wonder ? Discovering something new about oneself is a rewarding fulfilling experience to be sure .
 bunnyBiotch
Joined: 6/7/2011
Msg: 552
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 8/22/2011 4:44:21 PM
Aucontraire, Wow, jaded much? I think you were trying to be funny, but it fell short....

Bravehart64, and that's what I meant by perfect fit, someone who is prefect for you & do those things.....
 bravehart64
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 553
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Posted: 8/23/2011 2:10:06 AM
"Women who are not taken after the age of 30 are usually ugly, fat, have addiction problems or psychotic. Men are usually just afraid of commitment, ...or fat, ugly, have addiction problems or psychotic."

Obviously this was meant to be funny .Or you cant see ? I see many single attractive females every where .

How about men who aren't successful at climbing our socially constructed money tree ladder ? Or refuse to participate and just get by ?

Are they psychotic ? How about the millions that lost their jobs homes businesses and wives becuase of this sick economy ? Losses ?

To me men are the cannon fodder of our sick system of must succede . And women help feed the sickness by demanding men must be successful .

Or hes useless to them ..Our system is failing or hasnet anyone noticed ?
 Guitarzification
Joined: 10/17/2010
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Posted: 8/24/2011 2:36:11 PM
I think it also could be due to a person decision..? like not wanting to settle down that early .. though yes, in a way.. the longer it takes, the harder it gets .. but then that is a time trip everyone goes through
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