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 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 688
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 26 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)

I don't think there is anything wrong with me because I am over 30 and single. I love my best friend who is the same age I am and she has been married going on 4 times now to 4 different men. What does that say?


According to the OP I'd guess you have 'commitment issues', while your friend, well, she's obviously commitment material.
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 689
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/3/2012 1:46:47 PM
I have to disagree with you on that one sorry. I want to be with someone a while like 2 years or more before I get married again. But everyone is different.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 691
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/7/2012 10:59:52 AM
Oh man. I get this question at times too. I've heard some women say they would rather date a guy who has been divorced twice than a guy like me who has never been married at my age. My question is why would they want to date someone who has failed at marriage twice than someone who has a clean slate? Weird.

The only reason I've never been married is because I am a shy guy--although that is improving.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 692
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/7/2012 11:26:15 AM
As we now live in the age of convenience, with all this technology, media, internet ect, it seems people are constantly looking for more. Were spoiled! It seems with whatever people find these days, they always want too add on to it, rather than just appreciate what good there is already. It seems people these days think it's ok to have unrealistically high expectations of everything and everyone. In expecting so much, when find it we can't except it, we get dissapointed and look elsewhere. And the process repeats.
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 693
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/7/2012 12:17:21 PM
I think at our age we all have our issues. What are our issues and what issues of the other person's can we handle plus ours. It is how does your life fit it with mine and can we make it work? Plus I don't think our generation looks at marriage the way our grandparents did. It is interesting the way some good things have changed with time and thinking and the way some things haven't.
 lessa_s
Joined: 11/29/2011
Msg: 694
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/7/2012 12:53:29 PM
I totally agree!!!
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 695
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/8/2012 2:24:29 PM
I know I have some issues. I can't taste or smell since I was really stupid 4 years ago and rear ended a semi. I can't taste or smell anymore. So my parnter would have to be willing to let me use his taste buds, be willing to describe how something taste to be me when I make something new or if I am trying something I have never eaten at a restuarant before. I also figure if I don't want to hurt him if he is helping me or talking to me in my kitchen, thats a couple of pluses in his favor.
 wearied
Joined: 12/31/2011
Msg: 696
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/9/2012 9:35:16 AM
I'm over 30, not taken, and there is definitely a lot wrong with me... but I was screwed up throughout my teens and twenties, also.
 ustilllooking
Joined: 7/19/2011
Msg: 697
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/9/2012 10:33:45 AM
Yeah I am 34 now and honestly looking for something special (seriously tired of dating). I dont think there is anything wrong with me. I dont think you can really generalize the entire population of guys over 30 like that sure for some it might be issues holding them back, but for others there is no reason why it just hasnt happened yet. I honestly do not fit the normal demographic in my area/state so I find it hard to relate to many ppl here and vice versa that and the older you get it seems as if the oppertunities are less to meet someone.
 SeaCatcher
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 698
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/9/2012 12:00:14 PM
We change throughout life. We are not the same in our 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s and don't necessarily want the same things we did when we were in our 20s. Relationships formed then have broken up for many of us, and who wants to be with someone we no longer share much with? So, not a case of character flaws; just a case of seeking sharing with others who interest us in non-traditional ways.

In my case, I'm not looking to "settle down" with someone. I'm looking for interesting relationships that nurture my soul - and offer good sex, and people who can share with me some of the activities I enjoy doing (and hopefully they'll like too).

The agenda changes in relationships throughout life. The agenda of settling down and having a family is not necessarily the same for everybody. For those of us past childbearing age, relationships take on a very different color. Most women work these days and don't want the trappings of a traditional marriage. I certainly don't want anything of the kind.

There are many levels of relationships and many ways of expressing being in a close relationship that are outside the confines of the institution of marriage. Thank goodness for that.
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 699
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/10/2012 9:47:29 AM
All I can do is hope my 30s is better then my 20s.
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 700
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/10/2012 1:25:28 PM
I think the old saying is true. We live and we learn through out life. I think alot of us are looking for that partner we can do it with.
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 701
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/10/2012 1:30:05 PM

I think alot of us are looking for that partner we can do it with.

Isnt that what it's all about?
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 702
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/11/2012 4:00:35 PM
I think so. But some on here just looking to get layed too.
 Nearlywhere
Joined: 9/18/2008
Msg: 703
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/11/2012 4:10:31 PM
No way! I've had several opportunities to get married. And those people weren't the right ones. I'd rather be single than be in a bad relationship or marriage. This is serious stuff. Why mess it up and be stuck with the consequences?

"Attractive, successful, funny, sweet, caring, 31 year old guy"
 gnuineprsn
Joined: 6/14/2010
Msg: 704
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/11/2012 9:17:02 PM
Sometimes u are enjoying life and being single and in relationshipe that u cant see being forever. Then one day you wake up and you realize that time has gotten away from you. I dont think everyone plans their futures. Some just live for the moment a little longer than others. And there is nothing wrong with that. Kinda like some people shop for Christmas all throughout the year (they are good planners) while some of us are last minute the week of shoppers. Nothing wrong with that. We just live day to day.
 misfit_NC
Joined: 1/16/2012
Msg: 705
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/19/2012 8:42:07 PM
I'm over 30, never married, and no children. What's the reason for this? I suffer from a disease called UGLY. This is a crippling affliction that leaves over 150000 dateless in the United States alone. We must take action to stop this debilitating disease and give a new lease on life to those unfortunate individuals struggling under the yoke of it's tyranny. Please won't you help?
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 706
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/20/2012 11:30:48 AM

I'm over 30, never married, and no children. What's the reason for this? I suffer from a disease called UGLY. This is a crippling affliction that leaves over 150000 dateless in the United States alone. We must take action to stop this debilitating disease and give a new lease on life to those unfortunate individuals struggling under the yoke of it's tyranny. Please won't you help?


LOL my new facebook status ;-)
Seriously though, dude, your not ugly. I've SEEN ugly man, sure, your no George Clooney, but your no Rush Limbaugh either. Good people can still see good people, and unless your still a virgin, there is still hope ;-)
 SuperFunGuy
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 707
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/20/2012 1:16:44 PM
Nope. nothing wrong with that. Got everything together here. It's really tough finding a good match with one's self. I think that's what most people are looking for.
 teepee1
Joined: 10/17/2011
Msg: 708
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/20/2012 3:54:54 PM
This one's easy. Don't one in two marriages fail? or 2 out of 3 or something to that affect? I'm only supposing many men marry after 30...and what they're saying then is all the good looking people in marriages somehow escape that stat too? Ha..Now if the good looking guy decides to take his time to make sure he doesn't make the same mistake twice he is somehow flawed? Sorry..As Spock would say..."That's just not logical".
 redsox322
Joined: 11/3/2011
Msg: 709
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/20/2012 5:11:11 PM
lol at least you have hope. Even after a massive weightloss im still pretty much ignored but its whatever. Not my loss.
 JustAGoodWomanInLouisvill
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 710
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2012 5:53:36 AM
I got to thinking and the ones of us on these dating sites kinda of reminded me of the toys from Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer. We are kinda like misfit toys in a way.
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
Msg: 711
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2012 12:20:46 PM
I'm 34, no kids, never been married. The only thing wrong with me is I refuse to settle. I have had many opportunities to get married and start a family. Didn't feel ready and definitely didn't feel those guys were the right ones. Nothing wrong with someone who knows who they are and what they want.
 misfit_NC
Joined: 1/16/2012
Msg: 712
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2012 4:24:55 PM
I only wish I had the raw sexual magnetism of Rush Limbaugh.
 lisakit
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 713
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2012 4:36:38 PM
I agree 100%. Never pushed for marriage because I was in long term committed relationships. I can't say they weren't with the right people because they seemed right until the relationship got old and they weren't willing to fight for it. Of course, it's similar to those who got married and divorced after 8 or 14 years in my case.
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