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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 29 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
Another, perhaps at least equally factual thought about this:

YES, PEOPLE OVER THIRTY THAT ARE NOT TAKEN, HAVE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THEM.

At face value, of COURSE we are defective. My wife wouldn't have divorced me if I were perfect, unless I were so perfect that it was the same as being completely defective (think about it, it's true).

Therefore the correct answer to give, if we are asked if there's something wrong with us, such that we don't have a mate right now, is YES. There is something wrong with us. The only question is, whether WHAT is wrong with us, happens to to be a problem for the person we are hoping to get on with, or not. I listed some of my own "defects" in my profile, as others have, in order to save people the time of finding out the hard way about those things, and wasting my time as well as theirs.

Oh, and by the way, don't overlook what should be obvious as well:

If you are LOOKING for someone over thirty who is not taken, unless you are yourself either married and cheating, or dangerously under age, or very old and looking for relatively young "strange," then YOU are one of the "something wrong with them" people yourself.

Therefore the complete answer is, Yes, of course, but so what?
 braveheart106
Joined: 7/1/2005
Msg: 783
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/6/2013 9:59:46 AM
Doesn't everyone have something wrong in them in a way or shape? Then it depends on the gravity of the 'bad'

We are all imperfect beings but society has changed. I'm glad that there is equality between men and women. Now I wish women would also make the first move (i'm sure some do)

So we all have something wrong with us. Love is about finding someone imperfect and falling in love with them
 bradster1979
Joined: 2/9/2013
Msg: 784
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 5:58:22 AM
To answer the OP question, YES something is wrong with them! (Before the flames, I’m over 30 and count myself in this “group”)

Met quite a few off here or in person (dates). Each experience it was immediately apparent or shortly discovered there after why. Moody/bossy, higher than normal expectations, weird, inexperienced at communicating, I could go on.

Bottom line, if you’re over 30, especially no children. There is a reason. Don’t believe me? Let actions speak louder than words, just pick someone and go on a date off here. Then meet a couple more. Then tell me some of the shocking out there craziness you experienced, that no one would believe because it would sound farfetched (which is why I didn’t go in to detail on my experiences).

While I haven’t found one yet. Ideally I would like to date someone that was married, for a decent duration of time, at least 5+ years. You at least know they have experience on what works, what doesn’t and knows what it takes to have a relationship. Really hard to find however, still haven’t dated one that I at least found attractive.

In retrospect, I’m over 30. Without children. I was married for eight years, the two closes people to me ran off together (my wife and best friend) out of the blue. This is the part where someone would cry, why me “I did everything right”. No I didn’t. If the two closest people in your life did that to you, then you or I did something wrong.

Point is, I don’t know what it was. I could make that unknown mistake again, that’s why I’m single, and that’s why I’m in the non-datable 30’s bracket. Until I smarten up and figure out why, I’ll always be here. So will others unless they figure out their issues and why exactly they find themselves in the single situation.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 785
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 8:17:16 AM
Have you thought that some people like myself choose to be single^^^^^^^^And please do not tell me there is anything wrong with that.Just because a person chooses not to go from one miserable relationship to another miserable relationship that there is something wrong with that..I can not speak for you,But most people i know that chooses to be single are happy.And most people i know that have to be in a relatioship to live life are that most miserable people i have ever met in my lifetime.These people are so full of drama it would make DAYS OF OUR LIVES soap opera look tame in comparison...
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 8:19:53 AM
I AM so sick if hearing nice guys finish last! While it might be true jesus cripes there is no shortage of negativity here! I'm a nice guy and even tho I dont currently have a gf or wife,I do have a great full time job,own my house have a bunch of bikes and a car n truck that I own free an clear.I treat people w respect and care and if a woman cant see that she can then have the damn prison thug as she doesnt deserve a nice guy.
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 787
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 8:58:31 AM
rocking ritschel-I AM so sick if hearing nice guys finish last! While it might be true jesus cripes there is no shortage of negativity here! I'm a nice guy and even tho I dont currently have a gf or wife,I do have a great full time job,own my house have a bunch of bikes and a car n truck that I own free an clear.I treat people w respect and care and if a woman cant see that she can then have the damn prison thug as she doesnt deserve a nice guy.


I Totally agree .Sick of hearing about the domestic battered woman thats keeps going back for more.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 788
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 10:18:06 AM
I agree with the last 2 posts. And these exact same women will use a good/nice guy to build her ego..After all she is not getting it from Mr.abuser or Mr.Drama king(drunk,drug addict,bum,jailbird) But meanwhile back at the ranch she sticks with these winners.There is no love lost for these women.To me they deserve everything she gets from Mr.exciting.It is karma at its best.Remember!!! Opposites do not attract.There are reasons why women go after these winners.Any smart good/nice guy can figure these POS out real fast.All these women do is yap those lips about all the drama kings she has been with and any self respecting nice/good guy is running real fast from this woman.She gets what she deserves and then some.It is just a shame some good/nice guys are a little slow about looking for the warning signs.Just not this guy.I see these POS a mile away.I am long gone from that intersection.She can use the next chump.
 y0uandi
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 789
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 11:12:07 AM

if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....


When a man is single in his 30's - he's obviously got issues, baggage, major character flaws, maybe he's a total pervert. He's a loner, has no friends, women don't like anything about him etc

When a woman is single in her 30's - she's strong, independent, hard working, knows what she wants out of life and out of her man, she doesn't settle etc

Point being is that too many people are reading too much crap on the internet, forums and magazines about how to date, who to date, when to date etc.
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 790
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 10:42:37 PM
Aa an example i went to see one i my many favourite bands last night the original line up of 'Black Sabbath' well nearly original except for the drummer.

Point i am making that it actually hit me is that i had such a good time from the moment i left the house to unlocking the front door at the end of the night.Have not had such a positive happy feeling for a while.

That if enjoying these things at my age is deemed to be seen as e.g Weird,Different,Something wrong with me.
Then so be it.

I have gone out on a few dates just as many you could count on 1 hand.And never enjoyed it felt out of my depth and misreable by the end of the night.The Dating game has never been fun for me.You are always being judged on what you look like.

I would pay good money to watch my favourite Bands in place of a date anyday.
At least there is 99.9% chance i will leave with a smile on my face.

mmmmm What a wierdo!!!!! hahahaha.
 y0uandi
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 791
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/28/2013 10:09:31 AM

You are always being judged on what you look like


..well of course you are, it's all about what a person looks like, always has been what a person looks like and always will be what a person looks like. Anyone who says other wise is just a lair.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 793
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/3/2013 4:54:17 AM
It has to be something wrong with me since no guy want to be with me in relationship
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 794
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/3/2013 7:20:34 AM

It has to be something wrong with me since no guy want to be with me in relationship

Perhaps your standards are too high in the physical department? Lots of average women on here way,way way over rate their attractiveness and wonder why the hot guys aren't into them. Your just chasing guys that don't find you attractive. Work on that maybe
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/3/2013 1:59:11 PM
Wow hugs kat.if i lived by you id date you in a second,I think your highly attractive.alot of peoples standards are too high or too pickeon.some have attitude problens they fail to realize an get help for.some of us just havent found the right person and arent willing to settle for less nor should you.
 1trueprince81
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 796
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/19/2013 8:54:54 AM
see comments like that are the reason men over 30 are single because we are " damaged goods" but when you have been single for almost 4 years it's hard to meet a date. I haven't had a date in 4 years and I believe in chivalry so women you should try to be less judge-mental and think a guy could be as he seems. Don't over analyze us we hate that I have talk to many guys and that is one thing all men hate is when you women judge us by stupid stuff you have gone though in the past. guess what it's in the past. Men are not perfect but it's finding that man/woman who has the flaws you can live with how damaged is he if he has a bank account of over a few millon dollars?
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 797
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/20/2013 7:42:40 AM
Regarding what bluegold said aboutl average women overrating their attractiveness, the very same thing can be said of average men . .funny how the most critical comments come from those profiles without pictures.
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 798
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/20/2013 7:59:43 AM
Hey poster above, I agree some guys over rate their apperance as well. Heck, i'm a guy and i'm content with being average looking. I don't see the need to over rate myself. In response to no pic, simple, i'm only here for the forums and besides i take horrible pics,lol. They're embarassing if anything. Both genders over estimate their looks. However, i do think over estimate their expectations when in return, they don't have alot to offer a guy. So the real question is... What do you ladies have to offer? Your standards are so high
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 799
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Posted: 5/20/2013 8:02:47 AM
Yep, and so am I . .only here for the forums. And what do you men have to offer? Your standards are also too high.
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 800
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/20/2013 8:10:12 AM

Your standards are also too high

Not true. Sure we gotta be physicaly attracted to you, same goes for you women wanting men's good looks. But do we expect you to make alot as in at least 70k a year? Or have an office type job, white collar? Simple answer no. Women though expect white collar men, making 70k a year and he has to be an 7 and above.

I have alot to offer, best friendship, compaion,security, faithfullness, I have a clean bill of health, I don't have kids, but willing to start a family with the right gal.

Fact- Guys are less picky than women
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 801
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Posted: 5/20/2013 11:16:51 AM
Sorry, but what are you basing this on. .most women expect men making $70 k and above? The men I have had relationships with . .I don't go asking them what they make. As long as they are financially responsible (I am, or I wouldn't be asking for someone that is ), educated (this doesn't always translate to a degree), treat me and everyone else with respect, and as long as I'm attracted to them. I don't rate them, either. Someone's 7 could be someone's lower number.
 drinkthesunwithmyface
Joined: 3/27/2012
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/27/2013 9:20:34 AM
(op)

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this? Do you find that there has got to be "something" wrong if someone looks in every other way a good catch, yet still hasn't settled down?

During my life, I've heard some ditsy-azzed logic about men and women, from men and women, and this is just part of that. It could be true in some instances, but not any more than in other different kinds of instances, and not that you should observe or rely on this wanna-be rule-of-thumb and think that there's ever any appreciable probability that this is the case.
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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Posted: 5/29/2013 7:46:51 PM
Hmmmm I always wondered what people really ment when they ask for someone educated?I dont have a college degree and am highly intelligent and well versed on many subject matters and genres.
 Way2funny
Joined: 2/6/2009
Msg: 804
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/28/2013 4:42:41 PM
Maybe years ago but if you factor in all the ways we are now steered to get jobs and travel and "find ourselves" it makes sense that many women and men are still not taken. Also too, the ones that hooked up at birth are divorcing at 30-something. So the grass isn't always greener. Older folks maybe took more time to figure out how to do it right by watching friends, family and coworkers kinda do it wrong for a bit. Now that's not a catch all. Lots 'o folks are um.. Single for a reason.
 Lone-Loser
Joined: 10/11/2012
Msg: 805
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 6/28/2013 11:27:06 PM
well.. ya...

There is 'some other reason' hes not taken. It is not a small list of 'reasons' Can be anything.

too many people are too quick to decide its 'from this bullet list' because those are the types THEY have encountered simply because those are the types they LET themselves encounter(And avoid, subconsciously, the rest)

And yes, maybe there is 'something wrong' with those of us 30+ who are untaken, but that 'wrong' thing isn't always (Is rarely) a 'bad' thing (That might be hard to understand i guess, but point is, there are an infinite amount of reasons someone could be single, at ANY age. Stereotyping it into a list of 'must be's' isn't fair to them or you)
 FloridaRes123
Joined: 5/11/2013
Msg: 806
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 7/7/2013 11:56:43 AM

too many people are too quick to decide its 'from this bullet list' because those are the types THEY have encountered simply because those are the types they LET themselves encounter(And avoid, subconsciously, the rest)


Yeah, I have seen some "lists" that go on for a page and a half on these dating profiles. It seems some people are deliberately looking for a reason not to date someone and it's usually over something insignificant.
 intreeg
Joined: 4/27/2013
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 7/8/2013 7:36:08 AM
I'm 33 and consider myself a very good catch. I'm emotionally stable, well-educated from relatively prestigious universities, successful, self-made, ambitious, and single. I've been in 4 long-term relationships that did not include marriage but were headed that way when things turned south. I only delayed marriage because I wanted to be responsible and stable before doing so. I feel like I'm being punished for it. In fact, I've been cheated on by every one of my exes. I understand that I may have done something to make them want to go out and cheat, but none of them would help me understand what, nor was I given any warning. And now, I haven't dated a woman over 30 who isn't damaged in some way and that is a strong reason why I haven't been able to finally settle down despite wanting to. You tell me, are all women over 30 damaged? It stands to reason that single people in their 30's might having something wrong with them- but I think I'm still single because I'm one of a few that has something right with him.
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