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 Moongroove12
Joined: 10/11/2012
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 29 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
I like to ask everyone if they are over 30 and if so, are they not taken or have kids...if they say no, then I point and laugh at them for being a failure as a person for not keeping up with expectations of society, and I can only assume they are a bad dangerous person to be shunned and spit on.
 AstroCat505
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 775
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 3/30/2013 11:36:39 AM
Maybe it's because I'm stubborn and not/never have been willing to just settle for what's come my way. Maybe it's because I had some goals I wanted to achieve and places I wanted to see before I settled down. Or maybe it's because it just wasn't in my cards. Who really knows...

My father told me once that a person isn't ready to marry until they are at least 30 years old. The reason he cited is because there are to many lessons to be learned that are needed to mature and metally fortify a person to be in a married relationship.

Look at the current statistics on divorce. Most of those marriages were between young people who weren't prepared mentally to take that leap.

In the same idea, most people aren't prepared to be parents until they are ready to be in a lasting long term relationship. Therefore the majority of females on this and other dating sites are single mothers who chose too hastily to have kids and get married.

This isn't your grandparents era of relationships. Things have changed drastically. Women have been liberated and are treated as mens equals...(maybe they should be assertive and start making the first move more often and end the "men should be the aggressor" idea)...

At the same time, look at the state of society... It's not bread basket situation for relationships anymore... I smell a revolution in the air these days...
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 776
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 3/30/2013 9:35:36 PM
Moongroove"I like to ask everyone if they are over 30 and if so, are they not taken or have kids...if they say no, then I point and laugh at them for being a failure as a person for not keeping up with expectations of society, and I can only assume they are a bad dangerous person to be shunned and spit on."



I have never been taken and never had kids.
Guess i better run for the hills then!!!!!!
I must be the most Dangerous person around town hahaha..
 ryuoki
Joined: 3/13/2013
Msg: 777
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 3/31/2013 9:06:43 AM

This isn't your grandparents era of relationships. Things have changed drastically. Women have been liberated and are treated as mens equals...(maybe they should be assertive and start making the first move more often and end the "men should be the aggressor" idea)...


Women want their cake and to eat it too. Times have changed and this video below says quite a bit of how feminism has drastically hurt men in general. Someone in the forums posted this so I am just spreading it. Coming from a man it would be poopoo'd on and dismissed. But coming from a woman it puts more light on it and an increased perspective. Women though are not treated as mens equals and this video hits on that subject.

http://youtu.be/rlvMAS_20K4
 Kristan_80
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 778
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/1/2013 4:34:20 AM
Here's the thing...I thought so for a while. But I was 19 when I got engaged - we were together from when we were 16 until 22; thankfully we never got married because we would have been divorced by 25. I got into my second serious relationship at 23 - and I thought that was great until I turned 30 and he kept stalling on marriage and kids. So instead of wasting another 7 years of my life waiting - I broke that off too. I know some people who are married over 30 and are miserable...

So the real question is..people over 30 who aren't single and settled so they wouldn't be...are they happy?
 BrDoubleOklyn
Joined: 3/24/2013
Msg: 779
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/5/2013 1:58:22 AM
Personally I wouldn't assume that.
 dustin8228
Joined: 2/8/2013
Msg: 780
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/6/2013 1:17:55 AM
Nice guys finish last
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 781
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/6/2013 2:04:49 AM
I agree^^^^^You are new here.Women in general could careless about a good guy.You will read on these threads that a man can be too nice..You will be classified as a doormat for being nice. You see nice does not cut it anymore. On average a POS two time loser out of prison has a better chance than a good guy.My advise to you is to read more of these threads.You will read what you just enforce.Women do not want a good guy.Then there are some that will come on here and say just because a man is stable does not mean anything is owe to him.Well i agree,But just because a man that is a drama king(Drunk,drug addict,jailbird,lazy bum,convict)does not mean anything is owe to him either. There are no shortage of women that love these losers,,,
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/6/2013 5:40:09 AM
Another, perhaps at least equally factual thought about this:

YES, PEOPLE OVER THIRTY THAT ARE NOT TAKEN, HAVE SOMETHING WRONG WITH THEM.

At face value, of COURSE we are defective. My wife wouldn't have divorced me if I were perfect, unless I were so perfect that it was the same as being completely defective (think about it, it's true).

Therefore the correct answer to give, if we are asked if there's something wrong with us, such that we don't have a mate right now, is YES. There is something wrong with us. The only question is, whether WHAT is wrong with us, happens to to be a problem for the person we are hoping to get on with, or not. I listed some of my own "defects" in my profile, as others have, in order to save people the time of finding out the hard way about those things, and wasting my time as well as theirs.

Oh, and by the way, don't overlook what should be obvious as well:

If you are LOOKING for someone over thirty who is not taken, unless you are yourself either married and cheating, or dangerously under age, or very old and looking for relatively young "strange," then YOU are one of the "something wrong with them" people yourself.

Therefore the complete answer is, Yes, of course, but so what?
 braveheart106
Joined: 7/1/2005
Msg: 783
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/6/2013 9:59:46 AM
Doesn't everyone have something wrong in them in a way or shape? Then it depends on the gravity of the 'bad'

We are all imperfect beings but society has changed. I'm glad that there is equality between men and women. Now I wish women would also make the first move (i'm sure some do)

So we all have something wrong with us. Love is about finding someone imperfect and falling in love with them
 bradster1979
Joined: 2/9/2013
Msg: 784
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 5:58:22 AM
To answer the OP question, YES something is wrong with them! (Before the flames, I’m over 30 and count myself in this “group”)

Met quite a few off here or in person (dates). Each experience it was immediately apparent or shortly discovered there after why. Moody/bossy, higher than normal expectations, weird, inexperienced at communicating, I could go on.

Bottom line, if you’re over 30, especially no children. There is a reason. Don’t believe me? Let actions speak louder than words, just pick someone and go on a date off here. Then meet a couple more. Then tell me some of the shocking out there craziness you experienced, that no one would believe because it would sound farfetched (which is why I didn’t go in to detail on my experiences).

While I haven’t found one yet. Ideally I would like to date someone that was married, for a decent duration of time, at least 5+ years. You at least know they have experience on what works, what doesn’t and knows what it takes to have a relationship. Really hard to find however, still haven’t dated one that I at least found attractive.

In retrospect, I’m over 30. Without children. I was married for eight years, the two closes people to me ran off together (my wife and best friend) out of the blue. This is the part where someone would cry, why me “I did everything right”. No I didn’t. If the two closest people in your life did that to you, then you or I did something wrong.

Point is, I don’t know what it was. I could make that unknown mistake again, that’s why I’m single, and that’s why I’m in the non-datable 30’s bracket. Until I smarten up and figure out why, I’ll always be here. So will others unless they figure out their issues and why exactly they find themselves in the single situation.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 785
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 8:17:16 AM
Have you thought that some people like myself choose to be single^^^^^^^^And please do not tell me there is anything wrong with that.Just because a person chooses not to go from one miserable relationship to another miserable relationship that there is something wrong with that..I can not speak for you,But most people i know that chooses to be single are happy.And most people i know that have to be in a relatioship to live life are that most miserable people i have ever met in my lifetime.These people are so full of drama it would make DAYS OF OUR LIVES soap opera look tame in comparison...
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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Posted: 4/27/2013 8:19:53 AM
I AM so sick if hearing nice guys finish last! While it might be true jesus cripes there is no shortage of negativity here! I'm a nice guy and even tho I dont currently have a gf or wife,I do have a great full time job,own my house have a bunch of bikes and a car n truck that I own free an clear.I treat people w respect and care and if a woman cant see that she can then have the damn prison thug as she doesnt deserve a nice guy.
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 787
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 8:58:31 AM
rocking ritschel-I AM so sick if hearing nice guys finish last! While it might be true jesus cripes there is no shortage of negativity here! I'm a nice guy and even tho I dont currently have a gf or wife,I do have a great full time job,own my house have a bunch of bikes and a car n truck that I own free an clear.I treat people w respect and care and if a woman cant see that she can then have the damn prison thug as she doesnt deserve a nice guy.


I Totally agree .Sick of hearing about the domestic battered woman thats keeps going back for more.
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 788
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 4/27/2013 10:18:06 AM
I agree with the last 2 posts. And these exact same women will use a good/nice guy to build her ego..After all she is not getting it from Mr.abuser or Mr.Drama king(drunk,drug addict,bum,jailbird) But meanwhile back at the ranch she sticks with these winners.There is no love lost for these women.To me they deserve everything she gets from Mr.exciting.It is karma at its best.Remember!!! Opposites do not attract.There are reasons why women go after these winners.Any smart good/nice guy can figure these POS out real fast.All these women do is yap those lips about all the drama kings she has been with and any self respecting nice/good guy is running real fast from this woman.She gets what she deserves and then some.It is just a shame some good/nice guys are a little slow about looking for the warning signs.Just not this guy.I see these POS a mile away.I am long gone from that intersection.She can use the next chump.
 y0uandi
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 789
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Posted: 4/27/2013 11:12:07 AM

if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....


When a man is single in his 30's - he's obviously got issues, baggage, major character flaws, maybe he's a total pervert. He's a loner, has no friends, women don't like anything about him etc

When a woman is single in her 30's - she's strong, independent, hard working, knows what she wants out of life and out of her man, she doesn't settle etc

Point being is that too many people are reading too much crap on the internet, forums and magazines about how to date, who to date, when to date etc.
 lightningman1
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 790
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Posted: 4/27/2013 10:42:37 PM
Aa an example i went to see one i my many favourite bands last night the original line up of 'Black Sabbath' well nearly original except for the drummer.

Point i am making that it actually hit me is that i had such a good time from the moment i left the house to unlocking the front door at the end of the night.Have not had such a positive happy feeling for a while.

That if enjoying these things at my age is deemed to be seen as e.g Weird,Different,Something wrong with me.
Then so be it.

I have gone out on a few dates just as many you could count on 1 hand.And never enjoyed it felt out of my depth and misreable by the end of the night.The Dating game has never been fun for me.You are always being judged on what you look like.

I would pay good money to watch my favourite Bands in place of a date anyday.
At least there is 99.9% chance i will leave with a smile on my face.

mmmmm What a wierdo!!!!! hahahaha.
 y0uandi
Joined: 2/18/2013
Msg: 791
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Posted: 4/28/2013 10:09:31 AM

You are always being judged on what you look like


..well of course you are, it's all about what a person looks like, always has been what a person looks like and always will be what a person looks like. Anyone who says other wise is just a lair.
 KatarzynaLuiza
Joined: 10/5/2012
Msg: 793
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/3/2013 4:54:17 AM
It has to be something wrong with me since no guy want to be with me in relationship
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 794
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Posted: 5/3/2013 7:20:34 AM

It has to be something wrong with me since no guy want to be with me in relationship

Perhaps your standards are too high in the physical department? Lots of average women on here way,way way over rate their attractiveness and wonder why the hot guys aren't into them. Your just chasing guys that don't find you attractive. Work on that maybe
 rocking ritschel
Joined: 2/2/2010
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/3/2013 1:59:11 PM
Wow hugs kat.if i lived by you id date you in a second,I think your highly attractive.alot of peoples standards are too high or too pickeon.some have attitude problens they fail to realize an get help for.some of us just havent found the right person and arent willing to settle for less nor should you.
 1trueprince81
Joined: 2/3/2013
Msg: 796
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/19/2013 8:54:54 AM
see comments like that are the reason men over 30 are single because we are " damaged goods" but when you have been single for almost 4 years it's hard to meet a date. I haven't had a date in 4 years and I believe in chivalry so women you should try to be less judge-mental and think a guy could be as he seems. Don't over analyze us we hate that I have talk to many guys and that is one thing all men hate is when you women judge us by stupid stuff you have gone though in the past. guess what it's in the past. Men are not perfect but it's finding that man/woman who has the flaws you can live with how damaged is he if he has a bank account of over a few millon dollars?
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 797
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Posted: 5/20/2013 7:42:40 AM
Regarding what bluegold said aboutl average women overrating their attractiveness, the very same thing can be said of average men . .funny how the most critical comments come from those profiles without pictures.
 Bluegold007
Joined: 4/22/2013
Msg: 798
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 5/20/2013 7:59:43 AM
Hey poster above, I agree some guys over rate their apperance as well. Heck, i'm a guy and i'm content with being average looking. I don't see the need to over rate myself. In response to no pic, simple, i'm only here for the forums and besides i take horrible pics,lol. They're embarassing if anything. Both genders over estimate their looks. However, i do think over estimate their expectations when in return, they don't have alot to offer a guy. So the real question is... What do you ladies have to offer? Your standards are so high
 jpwrnglrwmn_forumsonly
Joined: 4/23/2011
Msg: 799
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Posted: 5/20/2013 8:02:47 AM
Yep, and so am I . .only here for the forums. And what do you men have to offer? Your standards are also too high.
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