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 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 73
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 3 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
Sorry but I didn't read the three pages of responses.

YES, definitely, there is SOMETHING wrong! I speak of both genders now. At the very worst, they have serious personality issues, and at best, they are just, well, different. Without a doubt, there is a social stigma, and we are a species that all too often looks upon our groups approval or opinion of a given thing, for us to make an assessment which one could really argue is then, not OUR decision at all.

So then, the problem is two fold, One is the original issue or problem that caused a person to remain "unchosen" and secondly is the social stigma attached to it.
 swedeinfresno
Joined: 11/15/2009
Msg: 74
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/23/2009 10:36:26 PM
I think instead it is something wrong with those that get married and get kids in their teens/20's. They miss out on their youth and later on in life they wonder what could have been instead.
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 75
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:23:37 AM
What is wrong is that if you have not found somebody before you turn 30, then it is all over
I was told that when I grew up, and it is true
I know, I never was able to attract a woman before I turned 30, and now that I am 41, I still can not attract anyone, and I am sure that I never will be able to
That the way things work
 Mayor_McCheese
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 76
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:30:08 AM
Yes, we are the left over table scraps from the dating world.

Next question.
 Warped_Humour
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 77
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:50:15 AM

I laugh at the number 30. I am well over that number and I have never been married and I have no kids.
Why does it make you an outcast for implementing control? I have had many attractive prospects yet, I wait for the one.

The man who waits for the one, is in it for life. Not for the half decade.

I just think that I am not a freak for waiting nor should anyone be.


AMEN!!!!

Only 32 but sure am happy and glad I have not married or had kids yet. I had a whole hella lotta ME to get through before I could truly offer myself up to anyone. It's been over three years since I would even consider someone seriously. I am changing my mind on it now, but just because society shoves the everyone is doing it campaign down, does not mean it should be followed.

Can't lie, I did back in my mid 20's also wonder WTF? You know because a bunch of friends were getting married and/or settling down. I was still no where near ready though and am more than thankful things have turned out they way they have.

So I would stop yourself from thinking there are "defects" on anyone over 30 not married yet. I would tell whatever birdie in your ear to BEAT IT too!!! If people waited until their 30's to get married, I wonder what the divorce rate would be? I wonder who REALLY would stick out in marriages then? Just a ponder.
 Dravorian
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 79
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:05:28 PM
I agree completely with this statement. If you believe that a person has a problem or something is wrong because of said issue, than you need to look deeper into yourself. There are always reasons for such things. I have not found the one that has knocked my socks off in my life, but I am still trying. over 6 billion people on this planet, how can you expect to find the one right out of the gate? I am trully a nice guy and have many great qualities to share, but I am being passed up on intitial judgement and that is really not fair.
 hotrodius
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 80
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:46:12 PM
I agree it takes time to find the one, anyone who prejudges someone is not the person you want, it takes time to get to know somenone it all starts with good conversation and being willing to totaly honest and up front sadly most folks on this site are not to honest.
 enuon
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 81
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 6:48:39 PM
Im 29 and I'll thinking I'll be in this catagory very soon :-P
 2tall5665
Joined: 11/16/2009
Msg: 82
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/25/2009 8:02:01 AM
I was married at the age of 25. I am 35 now and single again. I dont think age has anything to do with any of this. I am single now and stay single because I refuse to settle for anything other then my ideal woman. Notice I did not say perfect woman, but we all have a form of perfection to us. If I never find it then I will die single without any regrets as I have loved before. Does that mean something is wrong with me? Or does that mean I am actually thinking correctly for the first time?
 bsp71
Joined: 11/18/2009
Msg: 84
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/25/2009 2:15:06 PM
Actually I don't think that singles over 30 or even 40 have any defects or things wrong with them.

Here's my take:

Meeting people is a random affair. After high school and college, if you have not met Mr/Miss Right, the odds of meeting new people
become more challenging. We start working and get busy. I am not a barfly so I don't hang out in bars. So its all random.
Unless you grow up with a large circle of friends it becomes a tough matter to meet eligible partners.
 kanebrake
Joined: 6/22/2009
Msg: 85
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/25/2009 10:32:08 PM
I think your other message board failed to take into account another possibility.

Some people just aren't interested in a relationship until after they're 30 (or 40, or 50, or...) I'm 35 and the idea of a relationship never crossed my mind until about a year, year and a half ago.

I'm certainly not the GQ cover model, but I'm not entirely hideous either. I'm not a player, not a partier, or any of the obvious things that would keep guys from settling down I just never gave a crap about the whole relationship thing in life.
 trekker013
Joined: 3/24/2007
Msg: 86
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/26/2009 4:18:04 AM
OP
I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this? Do you find that there has got to be "something" wrong if someone looks in every other way a good catch, yet still hasn't settled down?


Hell no, not at all. In fact, I'd have to say that they are quite intelligent to resist settling down for the sake of settling down out of loneliness, social acceptance and other such reasons.

It's great to do what you want, when you want and how you want to do it without having to worry about anyone else but yourself. And I'm not about to f*ck that up anytime soon.

She'd have to be something really special to make me want to settle down.....

Anyone has a problem with that.......f*ck 'em. I could care less
 Windy_30
Joined: 4/13/2009
Msg: 87
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/26/2009 11:11:34 AM
There is nothing wrong with someone who is over 30 and still single. As a 31 year old i may be biased but i also have personal experience with this matter. In my situation i wasn't mature enough to hold a relationship together in my 20's.
 VegasRescue
Joined: 11/7/2009
Msg: 89
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/26/2009 5:08:00 PM
Seriously? I was married for 14 years and now I am single, by choice. Life happens!!
 ChefAmber
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 90
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/26/2009 7:00:02 PM
I don't think people should get married before the age of 25. Think of how much you changed between 18 and 25. Even 21 and 25. The human brain is not fully matured until 25.I worry about people that marry at 20, 21,23 because they don't know who they are yet.Which makes so many young Much more likely to drift apart I think. IMO
 ~Pedro Sanchez~
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 91
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 2:46:12 AM
Apart from a great degree of hindsight, knowing what we want, established careers, no time for bullshit, won't put up with drama in Shakespearean proportions, have a car and probably very likely to be able to afford to go on dates and jeebus...no curfew....there's nothing wrong with people over 30 and not taken. Although, one can argue re term taken when in fact what was meant was captured...like some of us can be quite slippery....that's right...just like an eel.
 ghostryder1970
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 93
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 8:32:43 AM
Why do you think there's something wrong with me? I don't think there's anything wrong...why? What have you heard? Who told you? Was it my ex? She just keeps spreading those same rumors...I mean....

No..I don't think there's anything wrong. :)
 Patriotfan4life
Joined: 10/17/2009
Msg: 94
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:36:16 AM
I've found some men who are now in their 30s, spent their 20s enjoying life, traveling, doing those wild n crazy things I'd rather them do before I meet them (if u know what I mean). Some, like myself, may have had a good relationship or two and deal breakers arose. It happens. What we should do...is try to round up all the attractive, successful 30 something men and auction them away to the highest bidder. But again, I wouldn't win there either. So, I am still at a loss. Where is a decent, kindhearted, successful, and charismatic man when u desire one? Oh, he also has to be good at fixin' things! :+}
 Patriotfan4life
Joined: 10/17/2009
Msg: 95
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:42:39 AM
This is true. I have had some encounters with people...or just phone conversations where I have slowly unraveled lies. I don't get it. If you're serious about meeting someone...then work on yourself first. Don't say u have a job and are independent when u are 32, still live at home (ur reason is because it would be too lonely to be in a big house by urself), and ur still going to school without a job. I have nothing against one going to school...I did it...but I am at a point in my life where I want an equal partner not a leech! Tangent...sorry...yes, honesty is always the best policy! :+} :modhammer:
 Patriotfan4life
Joined: 10/17/2009
Msg: 96
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:43:33 AM
lol table scraps huh...well, then I consider myself a scrap from a nice steak...lol
 Patriotfan4life
Joined: 10/17/2009
Msg: 97
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:46:44 AM
Ur right...it's like it has to be in the cards or something. What are the odds these days of someone not being on their cell phone or going out by themselves and availing themselves to meeting someone? Probably not too high. Ahhhh when will I be dealt the right cards...lol. Funny story...For the first time last year, I was at a fair ad sat down for a card reading. I asked her the same question a few times when she was done...Will I ever marry? All she kept telling me was I have to get a boyfriend first. Either, she was sparing me the "no" or she left some wiggle room for me to change the path I was on of a "no". Ah what is one to do? :+}
 Patriotfan4life
Joined: 10/17/2009
Msg: 98
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:52:40 AM
I'm going to jump off the bandwagon and say yes..there is something with those of us that are single over 30. Notice I didn't say wrong, because it depends on your perception. However, all I can do is speak about myself and friends I know with a similar status. For a few years I made work my life, trying to establish myself in my career and I remember there was no way anyone was being let in at that time. Then, I did fall in love and we tried it for years. It didn't work out in the end...war makes some crazy (get on that govnt.). I digress. You can't forget the years after that getting over my first love. And so I am now 30 and single...yes, ready to move on, but no one to move on with. I do feel the strong desire to start a family, but many have already started that without me. It's like a game of catch up where it's virtually impossible to do. :(
 rock2me
Joined: 10/18/2009
Msg: 99
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 3:12:10 PM
People change: so even if there "was" something wrong with them, I'm willing to give them a chance rather than thinking about what must be wrong with them.
 ~Pedro Sanchez~
Joined: 10/5/2009
Msg: 101
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 6:15:50 PM

What we should do...is try to round up all the attractive, successful 30 something men and auction them away to the highest bidder


If you list it on eBay US the auction would end in an ungodly hour when everybody is snoozing away in Australia...I have a feeling I might get sold for $0.42 cents USD ($0.46 AUD) by auction end.

This is when supply and demand is so working against me.....dammit.
 MsCharlotte2U
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 103
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/27/2009 10:02:39 PM
I had to reply to this, only because I just turned 39 and have been single for pretty much the last 2 decades. I know I know that's my whole adult life. Did that mean there was something wrong with me? No, I chose for things to be that way. I focused on my career and raising my son after my divorce.
Now that my Son is grown however, I am starting to dip my toes back in to the dating pool and I have to admit that in having isolated that part of myself it does make it hard to try and let people get close to you. You become accustomed to being a party of one that it's hard to let someone else do stuff for you, even the simple thing such as picking up the tab or letting the man be a man since I have been in control of everything for so long by myself.
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