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 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 180
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 4 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
Hmmmm, this thread is kind of funny. I’m 38 (just turned) never been married never been engaged no kids, I’m an excellent cook, have a good job, come from a good home, am honest , caring, compassionate, hate playing the field, down to earth and would love nothing more than to find the (right) woman to spend my life with. The problem I have I keep hearing “there are no nice guys left in the world”, and what I run into are women who get a nice guy and do everything in their power to destroy him hahaha. If I’m going to get married I want it to be forever, I want to marry the woman I will still want to hold hands with and walk down the beach when I’m 90. And sue me if I would like her to take care of herself physically and have a good job. I don’t want the woman I can live with, I want the one I can’t live without. I don’t want to make the mistakes so many others have made and marry the wrong person or persons and have kids with someone whom I won’t be with till the day I die………..
 milkbar2009
Joined: 12/23/2009
Msg: 181
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/26/2009 5:05:11 AM
Totally wrong. A man shouldnt be taken if he isn't able to provide. Plenty of guys keep relationships light hearted into their 30's because their careers haven't matured to that point. It's about taking responsibility. A strong relationship dosen't bring home the bread. I, on the other hand, have recently achieved a position where i can commit.
 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 183
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/26/2009 10:56:21 AM
funny, when you said that woman said "if hes such a catch why is he still single" i was thinking to my self would it be better to be such a catch you got cought over and over and over again hahaha! see what i think is people that say that stuff are jealious that they screwed their life up (maybe more than once) and we havent
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 189
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/28/2009 7:57:21 PM

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this?


I certainly hope not!

Or maybe I rate far enough down in the looks department that there's a chance my character is still acceptable?
 knnrock
Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 192
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Posted: 12/30/2009 9:29:33 PM
Wow, very interesting post to this question. The one thing I do have to disagree with you about is the fact that at the magical number of 33 - the opportunity is lost. I think each of us are individuals, and thus this magical number - be it 33, 43, 53 or heaven forbid 93 - then the opportunity is lost.

As to a response to the original post, I think it basically boils down to the fact that the guy just hasn't found the one woman he is willing to settle down for. As to the whole "old wives tales" about someone being damaged goods - I think there is very little truth in this for society. Chances are, these "tales" originally come out from a couple of bad experiences - in which case the person who had the experience should look to see if they are the problem as oppossed to the guy who is over 30.

I once had a friend tell me that when speaking to a marriage counselor before his divorce was said and done, that if a person is married 2 or 3 times and still isn't happy - the problem is the person is never going to be happy (because out of that many marriages, they should have realized what makes them happy and what they really want in the other person).
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 193
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/31/2009 7:21:15 AM
I have dated men that never been married or had children. What I have found is that they are a little set in their ways. Not that is BAD. Its not. The thing is I find that they are very independant. I think it is hard for them to let someone take care of them Like a women. They are used to doing everything for themselves.

Just what I have noticed. Again, its not a bad thing.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 197
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Posted: 12/31/2009 10:26:10 PM
This sounds like an EXCELLENT reason to date only MARRIED men, as they have proven that they CAN be taken.
 cion3
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 199
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/1/2010 11:02:04 AM
Like your honesty. Been married all my life (except five years in between marriage) and enjoyed it. If i'll marry again, it would be for the right reason(s). Why settle for anything less? Go for what you wanted in life whether it is material things (like the honesty) or the woman of your dream. I believe someone out there is a match for somebody. Keep on fishing until you find the right person. In doing, you might get hurt along the way. Heck, what do we have to lose if we did not try. Good luck to all.

Cion3
 d6racer
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 202
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Posted: 1/3/2010 12:51:51 PM
<--- Over 30, never married, and no children.

Do I have any character flaws?

Sure, everyone does.

However, I don't think that means anything is wrong with me, other then just picking the wrong the women or maybe not opening my eyes when the right one is in front of me.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 203
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/5/2010 9:28:41 AM
Yes there is something wrong with us, didnt you get the memo? Our ideas of travel wanderlust and freedom are contagous. If mainstream public ever found out what fun we were having.... well nobody would get married and shackled with suburban life.

There must be something wrong with me, when ever my friends got married, the new wives never wanted me around after I refused to be 'fixed up' apparently I was a bad influence. Of course they are all divorced now, funny that now I hear, "Man what was I thinking? Why didnt I stay single?"
 tellmestr8
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 205
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/5/2010 9:31:44 PM
Well, if we're honest... there's something wrong with every one of us. It's this relentless search for perfection in a human being that dooms us all for failure. Some relationships end. That's the brutal fact of life. I'm a divorced man. Divorced, I hate that word... it's too post-mortem. I prefer to think of myself as "previously loved"... kind of like a good used car...lol. I've been blessed with the women I've known in my life. The fact that I find myself alone at this stage of my life wasn't in the game plan, but it's where I am. I'm alone because I know how great it is to love someone with your entire being and I refuse to settle for anything less. To borrow a quote... "I'd rather have five minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special."

I'll wait.
 M5Dave
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 207
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Posted: 1/6/2010 12:02:45 AM
I can't speak for other people, but I agree that you should really get to know somebody before you make that kind of judgement. Also has anybody here also considered the geography of being 30 and over and still single? I'm just sayin cause I've lived all over the United States and I think certain geographic regions around the United States and even the world play a huge role in how young people get married.

A great example is my own personal situation. I live in San Diego, CA. One of the USA's leading spots for attractive young people, yet all I want to do is be in a monogamous relationship, and I can't find one. It hasn't been about me rejecting women but it's been about women rejecting me. I don't know what more a guy has to do to get a girlfriend in this town, but here's my stats:

Occupation: Helicopter Pilot
Salary: 6 figures
Car: BMW M5
Friends: Plenty
Living situation: 21st floor high rise apartment building overlooking San Diego Mountains and Ocean. Last estimated at 700K.
Personality: All my friends think I'm a nice guy. Nice enough to have a girlfriend anyways.
Life Experience: Travelled to over 35 countries. Good family background.

All this and I've dated over 25 women in 2009 in San Diego who all either flaked out on me or told me they weren't interested after a few dates. All of them! I didn't reject a single one.

So like I said I think it's about geography. I think if I had all that I have here in San Diego and I lived in lets say St. Louis or Hartford, Connecticut, then I might have been married a long time ago. Some food for thought.

Cheers!
 kathie79
Joined: 9/8/2009
Msg: 208
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Posted: 1/6/2010 6:35:34 AM
I turned 30 in august and I admit did start to panic..but then I realised Im happy as I am and am not going to rush into marriage because Id probably be unhappy in the long run,sure Id like kids but it not that important to me if I dont have them I have neices and nephew so it doesnt bother me that much. As for men over 30 being single I would imagine they feel the same as myself, If it happens it happens if not then its no big deal.
 beaconstar
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 209
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/6/2010 9:20:03 PM
I'm over 30 and recently single. How is there something wrong with me? Should my ex and I have stayed together miserable in order to not have "anything wrong" with us? I think this is a silly topic lol. I think if the question were better you would get a better answer.

I think women who are ultra picky and keep searching for the perfect man and find themselves single in their 30's are funny and ironic and make me giggle. 90% of the "hot girls" from my high school who I see on facebook are married to men who they would have NEVER dated in high school lol. Keep passing on the good ones thinking you're gonna get a perfect one and you'll be stuck with the leftovers.

I think there could be something wrong with a person who has never been in a committed relationship and is now over the age of 30, yes.

Having a serious relationship end in your 30's and becoming single, no.
 intune64
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 212
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2010 7:27:13 PM
My opinion is that...okay speaking for myself anyhow,I think that its not that something is wrong with the individual,but that maybe we have become wiser,and want to make it count more as when I was in my 20's and early 30's,I was just enjoying myself,having a good time,and it didnt really seem to matter the quality or should say wasnt worried what the future held because I was just having a good time,and trying to figure out who I was as a person,etc....

Now after being married,and now divorced,and having kids Im more grounded and really care about all of the qualities of the women I meet.I want them to like my kids,and looking more for a life long partner,as opposed to just having fun.I think most people say dating,but deep down inside they are hoping for a longer commitment.

hope that mad a little sense.
 NiceBlkGuyOhio
Joined: 3/22/2009
Msg: 214
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/22/2010 7:20:27 AM
Well I do think something is wrong because i'm over 30 with no kids or relationship.For some reason it eludes me but got to keep faith
 brunetti27
Joined: 8/8/2009
Msg: 215
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Posted: 1/22/2010 8:02:47 AM
To each there own right.
All my single girls and I are in the market for someone 30ish! 30 is a man, 23 is a boy. That being said some 23 year olds are very mature and respectful however My ex was my age and is ridiculous. I guess it just depends on the person :). I believe people stay single until they find there soulmates.

Its funny how poeple think a 30 year old man has to have some flaw however a 30+ year old women is a cougar or milf?
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 217
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Posted: 1/23/2010 3:47:09 AM
Alot of the time people over 30,40 or any age have been taken one time too many and are no longer willing to take the risk of being taken again.
 alpha75
Joined: 3/25/2009
Msg: 218
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Posted: 1/23/2010 6:58:26 PM
He is single b/c he realizes that he has options and he is not settling for less. He knows what he wants and needs. He may have other things that he's accomplishing in his life t the time and refuses to let crazy women get in his way of accomplishments and goals!!
 christophers01
Joined: 12/29/2009
Msg: 219
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Posted: 1/24/2010 7:42:02 AM
There is something wrong with EVERYONE LOL some bad luck { i know this lol} some bad people but people are people , if you meet a nice guy , you have to except there flaws as they do yours . no one is perfect . good looking or not . best thing to wish for is honesty .
 rxb012
Joined: 12/8/2009
Msg: 227
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Posted: 1/29/2010 5:23:35 PM
You are right. I am married and over 30. The guys over 30 that are decent looking and not taken has to mean a problem, emotionally or otherwise.
 Mr_SmartFun
Joined: 1/16/2009
Msg: 228
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Posted: 1/29/2010 6:32:11 PM

I am married and over 30. The guys over 30 that are decent looking and not taken has to mean a problem, emotionally or otherwise.


Wow....your ignorance on this is pretty astounding. Since you obviously are unaware of the many unmarried people over 30 that I know (including myself) that are perfectly fine, maybe you shouldn't be making such sweeping statements. Or should I just throw the old "all married guys are whipped" routine back at ya?
 kcladyz
Joined: 8/7/2009
Msg: 229
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/30/2010 9:53:48 AM
Attitudes like that piss me off.

Sorry but the "fairy take relationships" of people falling in love in their teens and staying together for 60 years until death just does not happen.

marriages and relationships fail all the time. It does not mean there is something wrong with you. may be you were a good spouse and the other cheated or was an ***hole? its not fair to be mean to people and shy away from people just because they are single and of a certain age. geesh..

Sometimes people hook up with someone that is all to wrong for them and they end up single again. Being over 30 and single does not mean there is anything wrong with you and that attitude of people wondering whats wrong with you if you single really hurts my feelings emensely when it happens to me.

I am 40 soon to be 41 and i was devorced at 26. I have not remarried simply because i have not met the right person yet or I may just not want to get married just yet. Does not meen there is anything wrong with me that prevents me from being in a seious long term relationships. Since my devorce in 1996 I have had 2 serious long term relationships. I was a loving faithful person. They turned out to be players so I wised up and moved on.

Do not judge a person for being older and still single. Age and time does not mean anything. Before assuming something negative about someone get to know them first and ask questions on their past relationships if you must but do not be quick to judge on shallow tings.

thats my opinion
 kcladyz
Joined: 8/7/2009
Msg: 230
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Posted: 1/30/2010 9:56:08 AM
sorry on my bad spelling on my last post above lol
 Mike The Mechanic123
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 231
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/30/2010 10:24:23 AM
Well, how do you think the guys feel being single at 35? Lonely for one reason, at least in my case... I mean, look at my profile... At 35, the only thing I know about women is what I don't want... It's sad, but there isn't ANYBODY on the planet more honest than me! So to me, the honesty is something I think women should respect, but I have found that the better looking they are, the more they wanna be lied to, yet I just can't see myself with someone out of proportion... I tried to write my profile in "nice constructive critisizm", like I would say, "I will tell a woman if she smells in places or has bad breath..."... That was worse and I got more hate mail... So I am supposed to just "deal with" , bad breath and feminine odor??? What would your mother tell you? My guess is the same thing that I tell you... In the end, it's all the truth and that's what I speak and I can't help myself... So to re-itterate, at 35, I just think every women is crazy or has made me crazy... I have kinda enjoyed being alone now... I'm in no rush.
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