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 Spokanemike76
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 138
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 5 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
lol maybe. . . but I was not talking about me stopping the dating either. . .
 SuperFunGuy
Joined: 8/3/2006
Msg: 140
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/6/2009 4:35:01 PM
No. There is nothing wrong with being over 30 and still being single. I'd love to be in in a relationship with someone. I just haven't met the right person to connect with.
 Beach Gal77
Joined: 12/2/2009
Msg: 141
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/6/2009 5:52:14 PM
I'm really not one to judge and say that there is a normalacy to life but there are wise guidelines that you should consider. Everyone has a story and you should definately find out why they haven't settled down, good answers like education or widow ect.
My opinion is that you should be leary of someone over their 30s and not married or in a commited relationship. Maybe they never want to settle down, or maybe they have emotional issues, it could be a million things. If you find yourself in this position the best thing you can do is get to know their family, you will find all the answers you need. I only speak of experience, being in bad relationship after another then marriage then being a widow. There are people in this world that don't care about anyone but themselves and there has to be some type of guide to weed them out!!
 firenpassion29
Joined: 10/1/2009
Msg: 142
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/6/2009 8:08:24 PM
They are probably not settled down because they have either not found someone that totally knocks their socks of or they know they are good looking and they feel they can get anyone they want so they prefer to live the single life. Some may also fear commitment...not all are like this, I'm just answering based on my own experiences...
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 145
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/9/2009 12:07:54 AM
yep, its a red flag, go see all the single men that survived their 30s and made it to 40 and un hitched, un kiddled, un divorced, .... and wait for it...
Happy as Hell

A bit insomniac, but happy none the less.
 twirpy
Joined: 5/3/2008
Msg: 146
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/9/2009 7:03:57 PM
I'm 35, employed full time with a well paying career and own my own house. I'm loyal and affectionate, kind hearted, gentle yet assertive when needed...but I've never dated or been in a relationship. Why? Because I'm extremely shy which makes it very difficult to meet women. On top of that I'm cursed with facial features that make me physically unattractive. So I'm stuck with a combination of mental and physical issues that make it about impossible for me to meet anyone. Believe me I've tried, I've lost count of how many different women have rejected me over the years. Whenever I've met someone I really liked and thought I had a chance with I just end up getting hurt.
 Bill_Web
Joined: 10/8/2008
Msg: 147
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/9/2009 9:06:41 PM
Hey man, I feel ya. Although I think I am a rather attractive man, a little over weight(working out these days), I share the shyness issues. On top of that, I am divorced(after 10 yrs) no kids, but did raise 3. Also, I am layed off at present(winter sux for construction..I make good money though).My probs have been that the last 2 women I tried to get serious w/ were SERIOUSLY MENTAL, bI pOLAR AINT PRETTY WHEN THEY QUIT THEIR MEDS...LOL Ive also had bad things happen in my life that caused me to spend 6 months in jail and 5 years probation. An accident which involved the death of my 15 year old cousin( WAS NOT DRUNK).Try slipping that into dinner conversation( I think it is important to be upfront). Another thang, I'm not a "BAD BOY" WHICH THE lADYS SEEM TO PREFER. Call me okd fashioned but I think sex should come after a few outtings(if there is some connection. Another thing, most women send mixed signals....example...just had a VERY attractive lady(had a thing for her since High School)calls me up outta the blue wanting to hang out...we ride around and catch up...going GREAT...we go out to eat and a movie saturday night...going good....back to my place EARLY...hell Im nervous...shes talking bout church and religion(hands off Im thinking) leaves at 2 AM,,i kiss her by, now shes upset I waited soo long...comes over 2 mornings later w/ breakfas b4 she goes to work...talks about an outting 2 weeks later...saying we are gonns get along great...yadda yadda yadda.....well the next friday i opt to hang w/ her instead of playing my useuall friday night card game...now all of a sudden IM MOVING TO FAST!!! Why make plans for 2 weeks in advance?!?!?! Anyways..are ANY Ladies looking for a GOOD man??? You know..if yall just want Friends w/ bennies, why not just be upfront about it??..Hell im up for it, but would PREFER a relationship.....so w/ all this said, am I a losser????
 Bill_Web
Joined: 10/8/2008
Msg: 148
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/9/2009 9:21:37 PM
oh...and the divorce forced me into Bankruptcy(2 years left) so...NO CREDIT!!!!
 phoenixxx2008
Joined: 9/7/2008
Msg: 149
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/10/2009 5:43:40 AM
This reminds me of the whole 30-40 never been married question. I have been divorced twice so when I hear of someone in that age who's never been married I say "Now that's a SMART cookie!"

Seriously - there are many reasons why people end up single - and the only way to know why is to date them - and so we are here....
 jdkrup77
Joined: 11/8/2009
Msg: 150
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/10/2009 5:12:36 PM
I just got out of a relationship with a woman who is 39, I am 32. I am smart enough to know that when a relationship fails it is usually a problem with not just one, but both. I made some mistakes, but I trully believe the same can be said for women in their 30s. I loved her to death, but I think I fell victim to what seems to be the norm these days. We really never argued over anything other then small stuff. It seems these days that alot of women I meet require that drama be a part of the relationship. She would never tell me why she wanted to end it other then "she knows it will not work". We on a rare ocassion still talk and she says she is fine having me as a friend but nothing more. I could have done better communicating how I felt, but the ironic thing was she demanded from the beginning full communication between us. Which I really enjoyed, at first there was nothing wrong between us, but months later, it was obvious she was the one not communicating. She did say she's kind of accepted she would be alone always. So is something wrong with men over 30 not married? Maybe some are, but women can be exactly the same way too. I would like to know from women what they think. Maybe it sounds like a stupid question, but do you women out there feel if there is not "some" drama that a relationship gets boring?
 HTex25
Joined: 11/30/2009
Msg: 151
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/14/2009 7:43:40 AM
Good looking dudes over the age of thirty like young blondes who drink often (>3)....nothing wrong with him
 HTex25
Joined: 11/30/2009
Msg: 152
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/14/2009 7:45:30 AM
oops haha...they also like 38 yr old blondes that drink often too
 mrnova66
Joined: 11/28/2009
Msg: 155
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/15/2009 6:44:43 PM
No..Nothing wrong with over 30 and not taken..But a red flag a person at 30 that has 3 kids by 3 different men...I got better things to do than to mess with a drama queen...
 TheOriginal
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 156
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/15/2009 7:52:59 PM
I am 36

I definitely feel like something is wrong with me...

I just don't know WHAT!!!

could be my shallow hal side... or my envy of all these guys who seem like overcompensating dillweeds, but who seem to always get the hottest chicks...!


oh ok yes something is wrong with me now I know what it is...lol!!!!!!!


 Mystie_Dragonfly
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 157
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/15/2009 10:03:37 PM

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this? Do you find that there has got to be "something" wrong if someone looks in every other way a good catch, yet still hasn't settled down?


Actually, I am more likely to think there is something wrong with him (or her) if they are divorced before 30 or by early 30's. I am sure there are circumstances that can't be helped... but.... I just find it sad.
 human_male_nzl
Joined: 12/11/2009
Msg: 158
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/16/2009 4:40:57 AM
Maybe some men just find that not many women are attracted to them in that sort of way. Or maybe they don't have the opportunity to meet many women. If you're not in a social circle where you can be introduced to new people on a regular basis, or you don't have a job that affords you the opportunity to meet new people, and you're not into clubs are bars what are you supposed to do?

Or maybe he's a bit shy and not all that sociable. Would that constitute having something wrong with them in women's eyes?
 trekker013
Joined: 3/24/2007
Msg: 159
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/16/2009 8:42:54 AM
People who are divorced or whose relationship came to an end - something wrong with them?

After all, somebody obviously thought something was wrong with them

People who are married/in a relationship but claim to be on here for forums only - is something wrong with them?

Perhaps the forums only line is a mere ruse to find someone better

I can go on but hopefully I've made my point.

Anyone who points the finger at someone should probably be looking in the mirror instead
 EmotionallyDetached
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 162
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/16/2009 11:48:17 AM
Maybe the men that spend their date nights getting drunk with the women that they date and end up screwing in the same night.
 jeffnovi
Joined: 12/5/2009
Msg: 163
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/16/2009 7:59:30 PM
I think it goes either way. especially with online dating making it too easy to click the back button and look at the next ad. We ( men & women) have become too selective for our own good. What ever happened to a relationship just developing as you go? Now a days we have a specific idea of what that person better be and a lot of great people that have a slight variance from that get skipped over.
 dbedazzling
Joined: 6/1/2009
Msg: 164
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/19/2009 7:06:47 PM
Well im also over 30 n never had kids or been married, this is bc i havent found someone compatible, that i want to spend my entire life with and of course I intend to wait until I find that person...why settle for anything less? So therefore there is nothing wrong with being single over thirty.

Not everyone finds the person their meant to be with, in their twenties, some of us have to wait alot longer but i am sure when it comes, it will be worth the wait.
 jeepwmn
Joined: 8/14/2009
Msg: 165
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/19/2009 11:59:43 PM
So, if a person has some first dates, but only two make it past the second date to develop into a short term relationship (less than two months), then there's something wrong with them?
 pres2
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 166
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 10:51:06 AM
There is not anything wrong with them, they are just more discriminating then younger people. I have lots of opportunities, but can't find anyone that I fit with. Especially in a small podunk town. I am not willing to settle for being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. I would rather spend time with myself than be with someone who is a train wreck. Guess that means I am damaged goods since I am nearing 40 and not in a relationship. Better just drive out in the desert and stick a hose in my tailpipe. Alas, thanks for pointing out that my life is an utter failure. Maybe they will recycle me into something useful like a pudding cup. I am so glad that you opened my eyes to the futility of continuing. Want to get a coffee?
 pres2
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 167
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 10:57:43 AM

Maybe the men that spend their date nights getting drunk with the women that they date and end up screwing in the same night.


Because that is entirely one-sided and the women play no part whatsoever. They are just present when the guys are screwing or just laying there. Nope, the women have no active participation whatsoever. All guys are gigolos, but no women are sluts. I really try to avoid being rude on here, but that statement above is the most blatantly stupid thing I have ever seen on these forums.
 MiamiDreams
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 168
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 11:21:25 AM
The title of this thread is PEOPLE over 30 - OP specifically talks about Men - but that's strictly part of her opinion - she titled it with the intent of addressing both genders.

That said -

There's nothing wrong with them - either gender. This is a silly question and assumption. As one poster stated - there is something wrong with the person that cannot be single for more than 2 days. Perhaps those people should be the topic of discussion? Forget it - I must be crazy, right?
 ziggy475
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 170
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 12:42:07 PM
You can't put all people in the same category. I was happily married and would have stayed that way if she hadn't passed away. I look on here and how many have been divorced, some 2, 3 or even 4 times. To me they are the ones with the character flaws. I'm sure your statement is tru for some.
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