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 imnks
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 114
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OMG why did the first sev posters sort of jump you for that question?

My guess to ALL that did that is that she just said "men" because she's a woman who's interested in dating men...ofcourse this can go both ways for men and women and I have heard this exact thing before but ONLY from the mouths of men interestingly enough...

I think that there are absolutely those that do have major personal flaws and are emotionally unavailable individuals that are single for good reason in that they push everyone away or run them off.

My two cents and what I currently do is just take it case by case...if the guys a doc w/ a huge amount of schooling that took up his entire 20's then chances are he's really just been too busy and there are those out there (not just docs) but there are also the eternal bachelors too. Learn to ask the right questions but in a conversational manner vs. interrogation and also above all LISTEN TO YOU!!! If you see the "red flags" don't disregard them and waste time on someone who's not on the same life path as you are! Great post...looking forward to going back to read more of what ppl said here!
 TallCoolGuy37
Joined: 11/23/2009
Msg: 115
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/2/2009 2:31:24 AM
The good ones do tend to snagged up pretty quickly. The good news is that on a long enough timeline, the divorce rate is pretty darn near 100%... so you can catch us in a brief window before round 2 as we are coming available again, more mature, knowing who we are and what we want, and wiser about it all to make good choices.
 psychoholoic
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 116
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/2/2009 3:05:18 AM
depends on the gender.

Its totally logical for a normal guy to be single in his 30s. Its harder for a man to find a good women than a women to find a good man, which is easy for them, if they want it to be. (deny it all you want, its fact) Us guys usually have fewer options if any at all. And thats any age. Women usually have several options, but nic-pic stupid sh*t, so no man will meet their requirements. Until they go into "stupid mode" and end up with the biggest douchebag/loser they can find. Females are dumb like that. at least til maybe their late 30s/40s at the earliest.
 SlingDad
Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 117
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/2/2009 5:07:24 PM
Maybe a guy was with his ex wife for 15 years, remembers how fun *that* was, already has kids, so no procreation things to contend with and and he's not in a hurry to get tied town again anytime soon.

Oh, wait, OP, you said goog looking guy.

Nevermind.
 aqualyricist
Joined: 11/27/2009
Msg: 118
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/2/2009 6:33:35 PM
I agree but waht happens hen he send the right one and that person isn't ready? Right person, wrong time, now what?
 aqualyricist
Joined: 11/27/2009
Msg: 119
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/2/2009 6:45:06 PM
here, here! Fully heartedly but lets not forget to add in that women need to not be nags and remember that if he's with you, HE'S WITH YOU. If he's not, why the hell are you chasing him (HINT: he doesn't want to be with you).

Men, a woman can have male friends she's not (or has not) slept with, jealously looks ugly on everybody. And foremost, if you're into her, who cares what you boys think, maybe it's a good thing they don't find her attractive (BTW they LYING, they just want you to break up with her).

 SmokeNShadow
Joined: 8/17/2009
Msg: 120
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/3/2009 11:28:54 AM
I think this is a pretty stupid way to think. Many of the most highly educated, successful people in this country spend a lot of time in school and work. Many of them are well into their 30's and even 40's before they decide to settle down. Go to any medical school or law school and you'll see many unmarried students in their 30's. Then go to any trailer park and you'll see many married people in their 20's with children.
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 121
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/3/2009 12:42:34 PM
Personally I do not think people over 30 and not taken has to have something wrong with them.

As for listing the flaws of single people over 30.

I have a question what about the flaws of those in their 20's and single , or don't they have any?
 EmotionallyDetached
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 122
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/3/2009 6:57:55 PM
@OP:

You are over 30 or practically 40. What is your story?

Call it whatever you want but if a person is single and over 30, doesn't mean squat. Not everyone is compatible with who they want to be with or whatever the case is. Some people are by themselves because they just got out of a nasty marriage or relationship and want to be by themselves. Others choose to remain single and date or remain single/not looking because they have good reason to.

And yes, some even have issues that cause them to have character flaws. No one is perfect. No one ever truly changes who they are but try to improve on what they already are as opposed to being someone they claim to be and come to find out that they are not. As in the case of anger management issues, a person would definitely have to change that if he/she is to be able to maintain a relationship.
 Phredly
Joined: 8/24/2009
Msg: 123
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/3/2009 8:10:31 PM
Maybe it's more like, something is "wrong" with them?

Some people gain more wisdom as they grow older. Perhaps now, over 30, they see through people's personalities better. Where in their 20's they might have jumped in the sack; now, experience warns them of some sort of trouble ahead.

It's so hard to psycho-analyze people, you know?
 Shyjoe71
Joined: 12/1/2009
Msg: 124
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/4/2009 1:17:42 AM
Why am I over 30 and not taken. Pretty simple there, I've always been afraid being rejected and or ignored or feeling I'm not good enough for someone, real or imagined. So I've never felt at least talking to a woman figuring I'm already behind the 8 ball before I even said anything. So there is your answer for me.
 pet_tech
Joined: 9/24/2007
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Posted: 12/4/2009 12:21:35 PM
My bulging bank account says that being single is just fine with me.
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 126
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/4/2009 12:49:16 PM
{{{My bulging bank account says that being single is just fine with me. }}}

You should get a lot of email now!!! Thanks for sharing that info.. lol
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/4/2009 2:05:59 PM
One might ask as the bulging bank account increaces, perhaps those flaws of being over 3o and not taken might decrease or dissapear altogether? lol lol
 jaxdave
Joined: 11/29/2009
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Posted: 12/4/2009 4:30:10 PM
I am 36 and now single... That makes me 'damaged goods'... What the? Wine get's better and more expensive with age - you can say I have an expiration date, but I say - nahh - this ole dog can still bury a bone ;)
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 129
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/4/2009 6:43:58 PM
jaxdave... We are all damaged goods in some way or another but I think we are all fixable....

We are all like fine wine we get better with age... lol
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 130
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/4/2009 8:27:04 PM
We'll all be single and not single many times throughout our lives; being single or involved isn't the end of the road. Relationships end, people die, divorces happen, nothing is guaranteed. So it's silly to say that anyone at any age is single because there's something wrong with them.
 Wiyan
Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 131
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/4/2009 9:03:26 PM
I agree w/ WIP and Jules-maybe like some of us who were busy educating and traveling in our twenties, they were too. Maybe they ARE the more mature option!
 MajikalMuse
Joined: 1/26/2008
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Posted: 12/4/2009 9:20:45 PM

We are all damaged goods in some way or another but I think we are all fixable....


Hmmm.....I like the direction, but how about 'shabby chic', 'vintage with lots of character' or 'mildly worn so all the more comfy'
 Spokanemike76
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 133
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/5/2009 7:11:42 AM
Umm I hope not . . . or are you trying to say I am not very good looking?
 Spokanemike76
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 134
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/5/2009 7:16:17 AM
So . . .what if your not damaged goods. . . everyone has differances and no one is perfect, we just have to grow as people wether we are single or not. But would if we have never even had a relationship last past the second date? Must be somethign seriously wrong wit hthat person right?
 joeyc2010
Joined: 11/30/2009
Msg: 135
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/5/2009 7:25:40 AM
Hey I am a lil over 30 why aint im taken who wouldnt want a nice guy there must be soemthing wrong with me that i dont know about soemone tell me what it is
 superstevenfish
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 136
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/5/2009 7:37:18 AM
I'm 36 never been married and have no kids. I'm a pretty normal fun responsible guy that isn't in a rush to not be single. In the process i seem to attract married women. But that's why i'm on here, looking to find a sweet mature woman, so i'll just keep on fishing.
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 137
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/5/2009 9:11:38 AM
{{But would if we have never even had a relationship last past the second date? Must be somethign seriously wrong wit hthat person right?}}

I would say a bit to picky. If they ALL don't make it past the second date.

Are you talking about yourself?
 Spokanemike76
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 138
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Posted: 12/5/2009 9:46:18 AM
lol maybe. . . but I was not talking about me stopping the dating either. . .
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