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 BayChaser
Joined: 9/13/2009
Msg: 172
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?Page 6 of 37    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37)
Soooo wrong and wrong again.. I know people from all over the place, US and also in Italy that are good looking over 30 and still single why.. Cause the usually end up meeting some damn drama queen and they simply like to stay single or they are more picky then before, Its not like they are 20 and got a lot of time in their hands.. And to this day i spend time with them and their are still single.. i think something is wrong with the women these days.. Now replay back and tell me that i am wrong..

I just head to replay to this 1

 BayChaser
Joined: 9/13/2009
Msg: 173
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 7:55:59 PM
Nice post trekker.. i like the last part
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 174
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/21/2009 11:16:00 AM
yes, we are bitter, jaded, wary, and suspiscious.... so the cr@p you pulled on us when we were 20 wont work now. Youre welcome, you earned it ;)
 zhafire
Joined: 12/11/2009
Msg: 176
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/22/2009 9:07:08 PM
I think it depends on how you look at it... I think that after 30 you focus more on your career and men become almost like accesories you can live with or without! hehe!
 AllieOpps
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 178
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/24/2009 3:09:51 AM
There are just some people who can't make a commitment and like to remain single, playing the field. I think they find themselves bored being with the same person for very long and they like variety. One day when they find they are no longer attractive, have a beer paunch, a couch potato butt, and no one to warm their bed at night or snuggle with they will change their tune. Women of course will fare better, as they seem to always find men interested in them. Men however will have a bit more trouble unless they have a lot of money that will draw in the gold diggers. Ahh, the "Games People Play"
 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 180
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/25/2009 6:22:34 PM
Hmmmm, this thread is kind of funny. I’m 38 (just turned) never been married never been engaged no kids, I’m an excellent cook, have a good job, come from a good home, am honest , caring, compassionate, hate playing the field, down to earth and would love nothing more than to find the (right) woman to spend my life with. The problem I have I keep hearing “there are no nice guys left in the world”, and what I run into are women who get a nice guy and do everything in their power to destroy him hahaha. If I’m going to get married I want it to be forever, I want to marry the woman I will still want to hold hands with and walk down the beach when I’m 90. And sue me if I would like her to take care of herself physically and have a good job. I don’t want the woman I can live with, I want the one I can’t live without. I don’t want to make the mistakes so many others have made and marry the wrong person or persons and have kids with someone whom I won’t be with till the day I die………..
 milkbar2009
Joined: 12/23/2009
Msg: 181
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/26/2009 5:05:11 AM
Totally wrong. A man shouldnt be taken if he isn't able to provide. Plenty of guys keep relationships light hearted into their 30's because their careers haven't matured to that point. It's about taking responsibility. A strong relationship dosen't bring home the bread. I, on the other hand, have recently achieved a position where i can commit.
 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 183
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/26/2009 10:56:21 AM
funny, when you said that woman said "if hes such a catch why is he still single" i was thinking to my self would it be better to be such a catch you got cought over and over and over again hahaha! see what i think is people that say that stuff are jealious that they screwed their life up (maybe more than once) and we havent
 Billiam_38
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 184
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/27/2009 8:53:46 AM
I think you have it man. Nothing wrong with a guy being single. Come on. Just says he likes where he is at in life. AS you said, nothing wrong with you to want a woman who takes care of herself. If thats what you have done then why shouldn't a guy have the same. But here, lays a problem of dating. We are all shallow of sorts and want what we want and won't settle. Women are the same. I have met many of women who are single at that age and they won't give a guy like me a second glance. Yeah they maybe hot, but, they want that, hunk, so to speak, and then get frustrated when the hunk doesn't want to settle for her LoL. This stuff cracks me up. If this keeps up we will all be old and wrinkled and looks will be out the window LoL. Mine has already started LoL.
 dracions
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 187
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/27/2009 3:41:32 PM
no one has pointed out that maybe its not the guy but maybe the women that had the problem for me i'm 34 my ex cheated on me so i left i only want someone who is faith ful so u can say there is something wrong but i have morales and standards If people don't like that to bad but its not always the guys fault more women are in the wrong they just don't admit it
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 189
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/28/2009 7:57:21 PM

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this?


I certainly hope not!

Or maybe I rate far enough down in the looks department that there's a chance my character is still acceptable?
 knnrock
Joined: 4/11/2007
Msg: 192
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Posted: 12/30/2009 9:29:33 PM
Wow, very interesting post to this question. The one thing I do have to disagree with you about is the fact that at the magical number of 33 - the opportunity is lost. I think each of us are individuals, and thus this magical number - be it 33, 43, 53 or heaven forbid 93 - then the opportunity is lost.

As to a response to the original post, I think it basically boils down to the fact that the guy just hasn't found the one woman he is willing to settle down for. As to the whole "old wives tales" about someone being damaged goods - I think there is very little truth in this for society. Chances are, these "tales" originally come out from a couple of bad experiences - in which case the person who had the experience should look to see if they are the problem as oppossed to the guy who is over 30.

I once had a friend tell me that when speaking to a marriage counselor before his divorce was said and done, that if a person is married 2 or 3 times and still isn't happy - the problem is the person is never going to be happy (because out of that many marriages, they should have realized what makes them happy and what they really want in the other person).
 Cape Sunshine
Joined: 8/11/2009
Msg: 193
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/31/2009 7:21:15 AM
I have dated men that never been married or had children. What I have found is that they are a little set in their ways. Not that is BAD. Its not. The thing is I find that they are very independant. I think it is hard for them to let someone take care of them Like a women. They are used to doing everything for themselves.

Just what I have noticed. Again, its not a bad thing.
 EmotionallyDetached
Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 195
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/31/2009 3:58:23 PM
Single at my age is because I want to be. Seriously, it is better to be by yourself than be in bad company.
 Willys Wild Wheaties
Joined: 5/21/2008
Msg: 196
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Posted: 12/31/2009 5:49:20 PM
"I once had a friend tell me that when speaking to a marriage counselor before his divorce was said and done, that if a person is married 2 or 3 times and still isn't happy - the problem is the person is never going to be happy (because out of that many marriages, they should have realized what makes them happy and what they really want in the other person)."

I would simplify it a bit more....if you cant be happy single, you cant expect somebody else to entertain you...
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 197
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Posted: 12/31/2009 10:26:10 PM
This sounds like an EXCELLENT reason to date only MARRIED men, as they have proven that they CAN be taken.
 cion3
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 199
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/1/2010 11:02:04 AM
Like your honesty. Been married all my life (except five years in between marriage) and enjoyed it. If i'll marry again, it would be for the right reason(s). Why settle for anything less? Go for what you wanted in life whether it is material things (like the honesty) or the woman of your dream. I believe someone out there is a match for somebody. Keep on fishing until you find the right person. In doing, you might get hurt along the way. Heck, what do we have to lose if we did not try. Good luck to all.

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 d6racer
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 202
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Posted: 1/3/2010 12:51:51 PM
<--- Over 30, never married, and no children.

Do I have any character flaws?

Sure, everyone does.

However, I don't think that means anything is wrong with me, other then just picking the wrong the women or maybe not opening my eyes when the right one is in front of me.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 203
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/5/2010 9:28:41 AM
Yes there is something wrong with us, didnt you get the memo? Our ideas of travel wanderlust and freedom are contagous. If mainstream public ever found out what fun we were having.... well nobody would get married and shackled with suburban life.

There must be something wrong with me, when ever my friends got married, the new wives never wanted me around after I refused to be 'fixed up' apparently I was a bad influence. Of course they are all divorced now, funny that now I hear, "Man what was I thinking? Why didnt I stay single?"
 tellmestr8
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 205
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/5/2010 9:31:44 PM
Well, if we're honest... there's something wrong with every one of us. It's this relentless search for perfection in a human being that dooms us all for failure. Some relationships end. That's the brutal fact of life. I'm a divorced man. Divorced, I hate that word... it's too post-mortem. I prefer to think of myself as "previously loved"... kind of like a good used car...lol. I've been blessed with the women I've known in my life. The fact that I find myself alone at this stage of my life wasn't in the game plan, but it's where I am. I'm alone because I know how great it is to love someone with your entire being and I refuse to settle for anything less. To borrow a quote... "I'd rather have five minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special."

I'll wait.
 RonnieB77
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 206
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/5/2010 9:50:13 PM
I thought the same thing in high-school.

I just bought a house, you wouldn't believe how many houses I had to look at, even after screening them on websites, and this is a buyer's market. And we expect it to be easy to find a person that is compatible?
 M5Dave
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 207
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Posted: 1/6/2010 12:02:45 AM
I can't speak for other people, but I agree that you should really get to know somebody before you make that kind of judgement. Also has anybody here also considered the geography of being 30 and over and still single? I'm just sayin cause I've lived all over the United States and I think certain geographic regions around the United States and even the world play a huge role in how young people get married.

A great example is my own personal situation. I live in San Diego, CA. One of the USA's leading spots for attractive young people, yet all I want to do is be in a monogamous relationship, and I can't find one. It hasn't been about me rejecting women but it's been about women rejecting me. I don't know what more a guy has to do to get a girlfriend in this town, but here's my stats:

Occupation: Helicopter Pilot
Salary: 6 figures
Car: BMW M5
Friends: Plenty
Living situation: 21st floor high rise apartment building overlooking San Diego Mountains and Ocean. Last estimated at 700K.
Personality: All my friends think I'm a nice guy. Nice enough to have a girlfriend anyways.
Life Experience: Travelled to over 35 countries. Good family background.

All this and I've dated over 25 women in 2009 in San Diego who all either flaked out on me or told me they weren't interested after a few dates. All of them! I didn't reject a single one.

So like I said I think it's about geography. I think if I had all that I have here in San Diego and I lived in lets say St. Louis or Hartford, Connecticut, then I might have been married a long time ago. Some food for thought.

Cheers!
 kathie79
Joined: 9/8/2009
Msg: 208
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Posted: 1/6/2010 6:35:34 AM
I turned 30 in august and I admit did start to panic..but then I realised Im happy as I am and am not going to rush into marriage because Id probably be unhappy in the long run,sure Id like kids but it not that important to me if I dont have them I have neices and nephew so it doesnt bother me that much. As for men over 30 being single I would imagine they feel the same as myself, If it happens it happens if not then its no big deal.
 beaconstar
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 209
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/6/2010 9:20:03 PM
I'm over 30 and recently single. How is there something wrong with me? Should my ex and I have stayed together miserable in order to not have "anything wrong" with us? I think this is a silly topic lol. I think if the question were better you would get a better answer.

I think women who are ultra picky and keep searching for the perfect man and find themselves single in their 30's are funny and ironic and make me giggle. 90% of the "hot girls" from my high school who I see on facebook are married to men who they would have NEVER dated in high school lol. Keep passing on the good ones thinking you're gonna get a perfect one and you'll be stuck with the leftovers.

I think there could be something wrong with a person who has never been in a committed relationship and is now over the age of 30, yes.

Having a serious relationship end in your 30's and becoming single, no.
 baron1914
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 211
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 1/21/2010 12:46:31 PM
< 32 still single , never married with plenty of flaws but hey at least i did not have to be put through hell in one of those things called DIVORCE. I have known quite a few friends that were destroyed by the big D. Personally i find commitment to one woman as being kind of un-realistic to say the least. It is like being in a sporting goods store and looking at rifles or reels there are too many good choices to simply pick only one.

But i do not have to have a woman to live and i am glad that i can do whatever i want without being neutered like many males are. ( What i mean is being put in a subservient position of sorts and ordered around like a dog on a leash)

Life is too short!! There are too many deer to be hunted, too many baseball games to be watched, too many races to see and too many bass to catch.
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