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 pres2
Joined: 2/3/2009
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There is not anything wrong with them, they are just more discriminating then younger people. I have lots of opportunities, but can't find anyone that I fit with. Especially in a small podunk town. I am not willing to settle for being in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. I would rather spend time with myself than be with someone who is a train wreck. Guess that means I am damaged goods since I am nearing 40 and not in a relationship. Better just drive out in the desert and stick a hose in my tailpipe. Alas, thanks for pointing out that my life is an utter failure. Maybe they will recycle me into something useful like a pudding cup. I am so glad that you opened my eyes to the futility of continuing. Want to get a coffee?
 pres2
Joined: 2/3/2009
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Posted: 12/20/2009 10:57:43 AM

Maybe the men that spend their date nights getting drunk with the women that they date and end up screwing in the same night.


Because that is entirely one-sided and the women play no part whatsoever. They are just present when the guys are screwing or just laying there. Nope, the women have no active participation whatsoever. All guys are gigolos, but no women are sluts. I really try to avoid being rude on here, but that statement above is the most blatantly stupid thing I have ever seen on these forums.
 MiamiDreams
Joined: 8/18/2005
Msg: 168
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 11:21:25 AM
The title of this thread is PEOPLE over 30 - OP specifically talks about Men - but that's strictly part of her opinion - she titled it with the intent of addressing both genders.

That said -

There's nothing wrong with them - either gender. This is a silly question and assumption. As one poster stated - there is something wrong with the person that cannot be single for more than 2 days. Perhaps those people should be the topic of discussion? Forget it - I must be crazy, right?
 sms1911
Joined: 11/7/2009
Msg: 169
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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 12:26:11 PM
I am with you Pres2 "I would rather spend time with myself than be with someone who is a train wreck" Worked to dang hard to get where I am in life to mess that up (again) - not settling this go round.
 ziggy475
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 170
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 12:42:07 PM
You can't put all people in the same category. I was happily married and would have stayed that way if she hadn't passed away. I look on here and how many have been divorced, some 2, 3 or even 4 times. To me they are the ones with the character flaws. I'm sure your statement is tru for some.
 sms1911
Joined: 11/7/2009
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:34:20 PM
I have news for ya - everyone has character flaws.... just because someone has been single for 30 years, divorced multiple times or widowed doesn't make them any better or worse of a catch.

Dave
 BayChaser
Joined: 9/13/2009
Msg: 172
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 7:52:01 PM
Soooo wrong and wrong again.. I know people from all over the place, US and also in Italy that are good looking over 30 and still single why.. Cause the usually end up meeting some damn drama queen and they simply like to stay single or they are more picky then before, Its not like they are 20 and got a lot of time in their hands.. And to this day i spend time with them and their are still single.. i think something is wrong with the women these days.. Now replay back and tell me that i am wrong..

I just head to replay to this 1

 BayChaser
Joined: 9/13/2009
Msg: 173
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/20/2009 7:55:59 PM
Nice post trekker.. i like the last part
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 174
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/21/2009 11:16:00 AM
yes, we are bitter, jaded, wary, and suspiscious.... so the cr@p you pulled on us when we were 20 wont work now. Youre welcome, you earned it ;)
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/21/2009 2:04:59 PM
Perhaps, but there are times that the bar may be set a little high.
After all as for us guys {speaking for myself, IMO} we all ain't exactly knights in shining armor nor are we kings.
However the ladies on here aren't all princess's neither are they all Cinderala's.

The last perfect male they crucufide, the last perfect female gave up perfection for a bite of an apple.
 zhafire
Joined: 12/11/2009
Msg: 176
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/22/2009 9:07:08 PM
I think it depends on how you look at it... I think that after 30 you focus more on your career and men become almost like accesories you can live with or without! hehe!
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/23/2009 2:14:44 PM
That's a sword that cuts both ways, women can become just accessories just as easily. ho, ho, ho
 AllieOpps
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 178
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/24/2009 3:09:51 AM
There are just some people who can't make a commitment and like to remain single, playing the field. I think they find themselves bored being with the same person for very long and they like variety. One day when they find they are no longer attractive, have a beer paunch, a couch potato butt, and no one to warm their bed at night or snuggle with they will change their tune. Women of course will fare better, as they seem to always find men interested in them. Men however will have a bit more trouble unless they have a lot of money that will draw in the gold diggers. Ahh, the "Games People Play"
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/25/2009 5:08:01 PM
Keyword GOLDIGGERS
And if women fare so much better how come there are jobs for escorts and gigilos?
 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 180
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/25/2009 6:22:34 PM
Hmmmm, this thread is kind of funny. I’m 38 (just turned) never been married never been engaged no kids, I’m an excellent cook, have a good job, come from a good home, am honest , caring, compassionate, hate playing the field, down to earth and would love nothing more than to find the (right) woman to spend my life with. The problem I have I keep hearing “there are no nice guys left in the world”, and what I run into are women who get a nice guy and do everything in their power to destroy him hahaha. If I’m going to get married I want it to be forever, I want to marry the woman I will still want to hold hands with and walk down the beach when I’m 90. And sue me if I would like her to take care of herself physically and have a good job. I don’t want the woman I can live with, I want the one I can’t live without. I don’t want to make the mistakes so many others have made and marry the wrong person or persons and have kids with someone whom I won’t be with till the day I die………..
 milkbar2009
Joined: 12/23/2009
Msg: 181
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Posted: 12/26/2009 5:05:11 AM
Totally wrong. A man shouldnt be taken if he isn't able to provide. Plenty of guys keep relationships light hearted into their 30's because their careers haven't matured to that point. It's about taking responsibility. A strong relationship dosen't bring home the bread. I, on the other hand, have recently achieved a position where i can commit.
 RichardTravis
Joined: 12/13/2009
Msg: 183
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Posted: 12/26/2009 10:56:21 AM
funny, when you said that woman said "if hes such a catch why is he still single" i was thinking to my self would it be better to be such a catch you got cought over and over and over again hahaha! see what i think is people that say that stuff are jealious that they screwed their life up (maybe more than once) and we havent
 Billiam_38
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 184
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/27/2009 8:53:46 AM
I think you have it man. Nothing wrong with a guy being single. Come on. Just says he likes where he is at in life. AS you said, nothing wrong with you to want a woman who takes care of herself. If thats what you have done then why shouldn't a guy have the same. But here, lays a problem of dating. We are all shallow of sorts and want what we want and won't settle. Women are the same. I have met many of women who are single at that age and they won't give a guy like me a second glance. Yeah they maybe hot, but, they want that, hunk, so to speak, and then get frustrated when the hunk doesn't want to settle for her LoL. This stuff cracks me up. If this keeps up we will all be old and wrinkled and looks will be out the window LoL. Mine has already started LoL.
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 185
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Posted: 12/27/2009 1:07:08 PM
A small reminder in todays society there are many couples out there that both work to meet the same ends and both are meeting each others needs as well, and are happy.

Maybe back in the 50's the male was the sole provider ,but this ain't the 50's and unless you are born on the right side of money you want to live comfortable relationships are a collective effort.
 PDX39
Joined: 6/15/2009
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Posted: 12/27/2009 2:37:37 PM
I agree with you on this one. It totally depends on the person - male or female. For me, I needed to find myself before I could put my all into a marriage. I tried the marriage route for a couple of years in my mid 20s and it fell apart. I learned from that experience that it's not just a matter of wanting to be committed/married but it's a process through which one becomes the person that he/she wants to be in order to attract the person that he/she wants. I know that for me, it's not been about not wanting a commitment, it's been about self-discovery and how long it's taken for me to do that in the context of a marriage. Some people have come into this world just knowing things that I didn't. To me, that doesn't mean that I'm any better or worse, it just means that I won't find the love of my life until later in life. I probably excel in some other area of my life. Doesn't mean I'm not a catch for a very specific type of person. As I see it, I needed to explore for awhile and when I find the right person, I will know that it's exactly where I want to be and I won't have any doubts. My parents never divorced even though they didn't care for each other. I've also got an uncle who has been divorced five times. Does that mean that what they did was right even though they were both "taken" before they were 30. My experience tells me no.
 dracions
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 187
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/27/2009 3:41:32 PM
no one has pointed out that maybe its not the guy but maybe the women that had the problem for me i'm 34 my ex cheated on me so i left i only want someone who is faith ful so u can say there is something wrong but i have morales and standards If people don't like that to bad but its not always the guys fault more women are in the wrong they just don't admit it
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/28/2009 12:54:02 PM
Well to me committed mariage is just another way of saying sacrifices.

Sacrifices by both male and female if either one is doing all the sacrifices while the other get's everything their way it will not work it can not work.

Sooner or later the one doing all the sacrificeing is going to want to negoiate .

When that happens two things can happen they either come to an agreement of less sacrifices by one and more by the other or they go their seperate ways.

In short to love a person , to worship a person is one thing, slavery is another.
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 189
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 12/28/2009 7:57:21 PM

I am posting this because it was said on another message board that if a man is single and over the age of 30 and good looking, there has got to be some character flaw or some reason why he is not taken....

What is everyone elses general view on this?


I certainly hope not!

Or maybe I rate far enough down in the looks department that there's a chance my character is still acceptable?
 wolfjade
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Posted: 12/29/2009 11:20:14 AM
In my humble opinion I see things this way.

In todays world there are people at the top of the food chain and there is just as many at the bottom.
There are really beatiful people and really plain people.
Really rich and really poor and many inbetween.

All are looking for love
The main problem is in most cases all want to either be on top rich and beautifule or they want some one that is.


Bottom line; poor plain people need love just as much as rich beautiful people do, and in my opinion there's lots more of them.
 sun_freak
Joined: 11/19/2008
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Posted: 12/30/2009 9:11:48 PM
38 and singlem never married no kids. I think those of us in this genre are like river stones smoothed by the sometimes rough water, and better for it for the road ahead.

IThere r some people who are single for a reason, and others whoare still great stones being smoothed by the river.
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