|Prison datingPage 5 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)|
|Broken soul if they did something bad enough to land themselves in jail then they deserve it. Your boyfriend and you know that you need tags for a car and I am sure your boyfriend knows that he isn't suppose to have a gun in the car in less he has a concealed license to carry a gun I don't know if that is a law in your state or not but it is here in Ohio. And I am pretty darn sure your boyfriend know's not to have a open container of beer in his car while he is driving it. Do I think that he still deserves to be in jail maybe not but still he made those bad life decisions (sp) I don't feel sorry for anyone that lands thereself there. I worked in a jail when I was younger and you know what all I heard was I didn't do it or I was framed BULL $hit!! You don't have a thousand inmates and they where all innocent!!! I met only one inmate that actually said "hey man yeah I did it!"|
Posted: 2/12/2006 9:29:34 PM
|That's nice to know and hear jess (if i may call, you "jess".)|
I'm not saying my boyfriend is innocent he knew better to bring
the handgun along and i know it was because he had me, and
his unborn child in the car with us.
But he is "paying" for that now and he's been sitting in there
for almost 4 month's now and he's still not home because of
him, being an ex con and haveing an hand gun on him.
I'm not trying make it sound like i am takeing up for him or
trying sound like i'm saying he is an angel because god know's
none of us, are "angels" and he admitted it was stupid and wrong
of him to bring along the handgun while we left that night.
But he's doing his time and when he get's out i'm still going
to be around and still love him for who he is, not what he
has done in his past. (May i ask why were still, on this subject.?)
It's hard enough trying stay calm and not get upset over stuff
when people in half of my family does not, wan't to be around me
because i'm haveing a baby by somebody who is locked up right now.
Well you know what..... i CHOOSED to have this baby and
i choosed to have him in my life because before we ran into
some bad luck we was doing FINE we never fight/**** at one
another and at least i knew he NEVER cheated on me, or
slept around on me with some lady who was in her late 40's.
Like my ex boyfriend did while we lived togeather and slept in
the same bed he was NEVER at home during the night's and
half of the time, he wouldn't come home until 7am the next
morning. He would be out sleeping around with some other whore
and stay gone from around 6pm-7am sometime's little later than
Posted: 2/12/2006 10:22:37 PM
|Men rape men in prison. And make them their woman. They are forced to submit, not by choice. Then when they come out of prison they are confused in their sexual identity. They need mental health therapy for their rapes, but too ashamed to even admit it happened. Remember some men were raped. This also happens to women in prison too. God can heal their spiritual damage. Otherwise, repressed rage and anger and self-loathing manifests in negative behavior. Women with children will be at risk I think.|
Posted: 2/13/2006 12:11:11 AM
|I understand people in prison are still people.|
but until there free and dealt with the problem that got them there they shouldnt be looking for someone.
its like heres me with bad issues .."come get some"...uhhhh noooooo
Posted: 2/19/2006 2:45:25 AM
|Okay i have a question lol since i can not sleep tonight and its|
going on 5am it's 4:42AM now but yeh anyway's back to my question,
what would you do/say if you was ALREADY with somebody and they
got arrested and they have serve their time in jail/prison wichever it
Would you brake it off?
(being an jerk/cold hearted and haveing people, look at it as if why brake it off now when you have been with the person over 3year's?.)
What would you do if you (the guy) got arrested and have to serve sometime in jail/prison and you'r ole lady is pregnant and, you come home after being locked up to find that she's moved on and raising yall's child with another man?.
Just wondering what anybody would do IF,
any of US had to face that point in our live's.
Posted: 2/19/2006 12:53:39 PM
|I am notjudging anyone on 'Prison dating', because everyone's situation is different and it's not that simple to say,yes or no.|
Personally, I would be very hesitant.
First of all, I'd want to know what the crime was,how long they where in prison, and generally get an idea of how they were living before and how well they are assimulated back into society.
I know there are lots of people in prison for crimes they did not commit or non violent crimes. But I would have to really consider if I want to be involved with a guy who's got a record and PO.
Prison does change a person and a lot of people get very messed up being locked away from the real world out there.
I think I feel more compassion than desire to take on that kind of baggage.
Where I am in Canada, smoking pot in your own home,having I think, it's an oz or less, in your possesion at home, for your own personal use, is not a big deal with the cops, here.
They are more concerned with the grow-ops in apartments and homes because it's dangerous in more ways than one.
The cops are interested in the gangs that are selling their little dime bags and carrying guns and killing people. Not someone sitting infront of their computer smoking a J.
POt is not looked at as narcotic, here.
The government grows it for medicinal use.
The laws are pretty similar to the cigarette laws, in terms of 2nd hand smoke,not smoking in places that are nonsmoking, etc.
A few years ago, when we had that big SARS concert with about 500,000+ people, everyone was smoking up and the cops didn't bust anyone for that.
They didn't want anyone getting too drunk.
It was about the alcohol, not the pot.
POt is a plant/weed, has been used by many different cultures, for every kind of medicinal use, fiber,fabric, fuel, for thousands of years, until DuPont bought out the hemp rope manufactures and marijuana eventually became illegal, for polital/financial reasons.
Just my 2 buds' worth!
420 and out!
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:39:45 PM
|my dear jessika im behind u 100% if they choose to date someone like that more power they heading in the right direction why I knew a guy who got of prison and became a good person by force cause its the law u break it u serve that simple u choose to date one mmmmmmmmmm why not good luck why its only a mistake hell im bad when I want to be but u dont see me in prison. I know not to take what ever it is. why u think we have a law |
Posted: 2/19/2006 1:58:34 PM
|JESSIKA I LOVE IT U GO GIRL THE TRAIN IS IN FULL FORCE U PLOWING THRU IT ALL. they can stand up to the truth hey im in prison on my pc and cam half the girls I see I cant touch mmmmmm that hurts|
Posted: 5/4/2006 1:36:20 AM
|To answer the original thread doner !!|
I am british living in the UK and write a lovely man in Texas...
I have contact with his family and will go visit him this year....
I am honoured to have him as my friend and will let life take its course.
Posted: 5/4/2006 7:36:16 AM
|Carina....I know what you mean. I also have a very dear friend in the prison system in Texas. I knew him before he went to prison and still keep in contact with him through letters. He is a wonderful person and there is no way I could have just stopped contact with him. Everyone else in his life deserted him except me. |
Good luck to you
Posted: 5/4/2006 11:04:47 AM
|Me no, but to each their own.|
Posted: 5/4/2006 3:55:27 PM
|Thank you Shell.|
At last someone positive that i can relate to.
Everyone i tell is so negative about him and i.....i have three and a half years left to wait..
and each day i feel stronger.
Thank you sweetie. xx
Posted: 5/4/2006 9:56:56 PM
|You're most welcome Carina..I definitely know what you mean. I've had friends be negative with me because I still write to him...so I just don't talk about it with them anymore. It's my decision and he's not a bad person. I also know how you feel about the wait. I haven't seen my friend in person since 1999 and have at least 4 years to wait. |
Keep in contact with me if you'd like. Feel free to email me if you ever need to talk!
Posted: 5/4/2006 10:04:50 PM
|You women should be very careful. I work in a forensic psychiatry facility.|
You might have known them before they went in. Or think you know them while they are in there. But you have no idea what your getting when they get out.
Posted: 5/5/2006 1:07:28 AM
|Shell...i will be in touch with you as i need all the positive encouragement i can get.|
Sweet...thank you for the advice also. I have checked into background details via a friend who works for one of your major government facilities. It made for disturbing reading the first few years that he was incarcerated but i know the lead up to his being sentenced as i am in touch with his family. I have no illusions but something tells me that i have to see this through. I have almost 4 years to wait. A lot can happen in that time.
But i do appreciate your advice hon....thank you.
Posted: 5/5/2006 6:17:46 AM
|^^^You were my last post before I went to bed. I meant what I said sincerely... |
Even thought about you as I turned out the lights.
All the best as you have decided what you want to do.
There are success stories out there. It certainly won't be easy.
I think Hilary Clinton said it best when she said: Stand By YOur Man.
You are one of those woman. So I commend you for that.
Posted: 5/5/2006 6:56:29 AM
|Thanks again Sweet - you are sweet !|
I believe in fate and also think - 'what if '....
I have no illusions about it being easy as falling for a guy who was free to travel and lived in the US would be problem enough...
But we can't help who we fall for ....x
Posted: 5/5/2006 6:57:24 AM
|And one very positive note about this thread is that i made a lovely friend in Shell. |
Posted: 5/6/2006 8:43:27 PM
|Thank you Carina....I'm happy to have you as a friend also!|
Posted: 5/14/2006 3:30:01 PM
|I wrote this Shell..|
It's my greatest pleasure to show you
All the things that I can see
As through my eyes you witness
All the beauty around me.
I take it all for granted
The hills and fields and trees
The North Sea close beside me
Seagulls dancing in the breeze.
The castle down the road a while
The river running through
The children playing in the park -
I take my daughter to.
But you my love see none of this
Cept through my eyes alone
As where you live and what you see
One can hardly call a home.
It breaks my heart to think
Of all the nightmares YOU can see
But one day soon my darling
You’ll share this scene with me.
So I write another letter
To the hellhole that’s your home
And hold your picture to my breast....
You have my heart alone
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:11:06 PM
|*sigh* I have a friend who is pregnant with an ex-con's baby. He then promptly left the country. And they say there are no good guys out there!|
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:14:43 PM
|i dont understand how you meet somone while there in jail? how does that work?|
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:24:13 PM
|He's bad if it's your money|
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:09:35 AM
|through a website where you WRITE A PRISONER.|
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:25:05 AM
|www.jailbird.com?? I'm also curious how this works|