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 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Actually most ED is associated with serious health issues.

Or stress. Or being nervous or anxious. Or age. Or taking certain medications.

I'm running into this problem myself lately. Frequently. It's getting frustrating.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 282
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ED over 45
Posted: 7/10/2010 2:00:02 AM
Actually most ED is associated with serious health issues.

Or stress. Or being nervous or anxious. Or age. Or taking certain medications.

>
Or going out with an ugly woman.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 283
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 7/11/2010 4:14:17 PM

My grandparents were dairy farmers and they were married for 51 years before his passing and they were around each other all time because she got him up for the day, cooked his breakfast and they had 100 to milk, had lunch, rested together then did the evening milking, had dinner and went to bed.

Never assume because it appeared they were both happy/fulfilled with the life they were living that they both were/are. I was stunned by a comment my Granny made in passing one evening. I didn't ask further questions, as I'm sure once she said it, she realized she'd said it OUT LOUD, but the meaning was VERY clear. She'd lived HIS life all her life. And all these years after I heard that comment, I still wonder what hopes/dreams she gave up to do what was, in her opinion: the right thing to do.

~OT~ I was never concerned about the men I knew and ED, as I had never known first hand anything about it. Earlier this year, I met a man, he was 41. He needed little blue pills. I don't know exactly why because the relationship didn't make it that far, but I do think about that now, as it clearly isn't something only those older than myself contend with. I have since read a great deal about it and I dunno, I'm not so sure I'd be OK with someone with ED. Maybe it would be fine, but? I really don't know. **shrug** JMO
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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ED over 45
Posted: 7/13/2010 6:41:26 AM
ED, loss of libido, decreased male fertility, feminization of male babies (reduced distance between genitals and anus) is getting worse.

Widespread male infertility sweeping the globe

http://www.naturalnews.com/z029185_male_infertility_spem_count.html
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 286
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ED over 45
Posted: 7/13/2010 6:57:31 AM

...Funny thing, I tried "medical" pot from doctor guydownthestreet for my spasticity in my legs. Made the spasticity worse but it gave me an erection.


(this is going to sound terrible..but it's meant strictly in a jocular intent..k?)

You could always invent a Super Hero..like Vibrator Man..get high, hard and the women would love it.

You know..that reminds me of a cartoon where a woman is straddling Pinocchio's face shouting..

"Lie to me..LIE TO ME DAMNIT!"
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 287
ED over 45
Posted: 7/13/2010 11:13:59 AM
ED over 45 Pfffft. LOL @ ping..^^^^^^^^

The best and most virile men are over 45 and dare I say over 50.
Unless something is going on in their minds or unhealthy in the lifestyle..
Medications...ect.

Oh wait.... Not feeling desired can cause it also.
Overworked and unappreciated, talked down to.
Hmmmm sound familiar to anyone??

If it is an injury or caused by an illness..I think you can please each other regardless.

Older men are usually less selfish, take time and love to please.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 290
ED over 45
Posted: 7/13/2010 11:28:31 PM
I know my portfolio enjoys the benes of Viagra, Cyalis, Levitra.
Keep em up boys, or at least the quarterly profits and dividends.
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 292
ED over 45
Posted: 7/14/2010 6:37:49 PM
^^^^^^ Lube is a sex med. Flavored lipstick and mouthwash are sex meds.

I don't know of any men with detachable packages.....besides, most men go to sleep after sex in lieu of walking erect like some kind of rock-hard golem.
 DeliveryRN
Joined: 8/26/2007
Msg: 293
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Posted: 7/14/2010 11:24:29 PM
I am by far not an expert on ED medications but in my limited experience they seem to bring the man's sexual abilities somewhere close to what he had before being afflicted with ED. There does not seem to be a grander experience and there should not be a prolonged erection post ejaculation.
There are many men facing ED issues and they can be emotionally devastating. I believe the best approach is to form relationships with mature, emotionally healthy people and have a discussion with your partner as soon as the relationship starts to lean becoming sexual. Weed out early on, anyone who finds the ED situation a deal breaker. You will not miss them.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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ED over 45
Posted: 7/24/2010 3:38:48 PM



Actually most ED is associated with serious health issues.


Or stress. Or being nervous or anxious. Or age. Or taking certain medications.


>
Or going out with an ugly woman.


If a guy found a woman that ugly, why on earth would he go out with her and then try to have sex with her?
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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ED over 45
Posted: 7/24/2010 6:26:02 PM
Lots of fat suppresses testosterone and increases estrogen, a great recipe for ED.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 297
ED over 45
Posted: 7/29/2010 11:30:40 PM
Interesting question. I use androgel off and on, and when I first started, I also ran low on my opioid medication. I apparently have a "rebound" effect when I run low on pain meds, and my body produces more testosterone to compensate for the suppression of production brought about by the meds.

So the first day I used the androgel, I had a spike in my libido and had 6 orgasms in 12 hours or so. I can have 3 orgasms in a day, from time to time, when I abstain from using my pain meds (for whatever reason).

I'm not as rigid as I was 30 years ago, and I'm a little faster reaching orgasm. That's undoubtedly part of my aging process.

I don't feel any less "manly" if I am having trouble. That's why the Goddess gave us fingers and tongues and cucumbers and silicone sex toys, after all.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 298
ED over 45
Posted: 7/30/2010 5:21:18 AM
Went out with a man for 8-ish months.
Really liked him.
He had ED.
He was all uptight about that, (but would never admit that).
He kept trying to prove he was still manly by using fingers, etc. ^^
Thing is, you could tell he was 'trying to prove'.
I got so tired of hearing "I get my pleasure from giving you pleasure".
Seriously, after a while that gets to you.
Got so I'd rather just skip all that.
We had so much fun and such a great connection in all other ways,
but to him (and probably 90% of men) sex just HAS to be in there,
even long afer the ding-a-long has stopped working.
 petiteblueeyedgirl
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 300
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/30/2010 9:54:13 PM
The thread has really bounced but I will take a stab...

I think it is just a discussion one must have before the 'act', hoping that frank, respectful discussion might not preclude things happening as one might hope or fanatasize...

Given the age bracket, and hopefully behaving like adults, this could be a discussion as commonplace as inquiring about STIs in terms of 'figuring' things out in advance, hopefully.

ED happens and the first time it does it is sort of puzzling, particularly with no advance discussion or warning...gotta make the best of it, particularly for the sake of the man who clearly is not at fault but a victim of biology.
 petiteblueeyedgirl
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 301
ED over 45
Posted: 8/31/2010 6:40:28 AM
Chemical imbalance in the brain e.g. clinical depression is just that and anti depressants contribute to ED - plain and simple. Anti depressants also impact the libido of women as I understand it -- just saying. Women also report never achieving orgasm ever or not even coming close to being considered multi orgasmic -- and very few women would tolerate men making unkind comments in a public forum about it.

Yes dietary issues also contribute to overall health and one's feelings of being desirable to some extent for both men and women. We are all responsible to be the healthiest we can be given our physiological limitations and to find partners that make us feel comfortable given our physiology.

But to individually blame men or engage in ridicule, as has occurred throughout this thread, is not only cruel but stigmatizing, and counter productive to the whole issue at hand e.g. men getting it up for the purpose of exchanging pleasure with the opposite sex.

Gotta be not only sensitive but creative and think of outside of the box here, ladies
 petiteblueeyedgirl
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 303
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/1/2010 7:37:31 PM
I don't mean to be rude Bot Tak but I do not understand the points you are trying to make.

I read your profile to seek some understanding, and I am further confused. It would seem you are in a committed relationship and not single or maybe not.

I really don't wish to know your personal business but I just can't get a handle on your perspective given your profile and your post, other than you sound like you may be just a teensy bit pissed off with some guy for having ED or maybe for wanting sex and not always performing to your satisfaction?

In that case, join the others. The que is getting longer.
 petiteblueeyedgirl
Joined: 5/8/2009
Msg: 304
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/1/2010 8:09:03 PM
I don't mean to be rude Bot Tak but I do not understand the points you are trying to make.

I read your profile to seek some understanding, and I am further confused. It would seem you are in a committed relationship and not single or maybe not. .

I really don't wish to know your personal business but I just can't get a handle on your perspective given your profile and your post, other than you sound like you may be just a teensy bit pissed off with some guy for having ED or maybe for wanting sex and not always performing to your satisfaction?

In that case, the que appears to be getting longer for dissatisfied and/or disgruntled women.
 vbstein
Joined: 8/29/2010
Msg: 307
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/9/2010 2:40:47 PM
Funny thread but, ED is not!

I had an ED issue for about a 2+ years, this caused a huge rif in my marriage (see status). I finally figured out STRESS & meds I was taking were the problem! Now I have no stress and all is back to normal, except the relationship!
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 310
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/11/2010 10:17:08 PM
^^^^^^ I can make my own sandwich, dammit, I don't need a woman to make me a sandwich, stay out of my fridge, and stop moving the mustard bottle! It's just nice to have a woman who might make a sandwich for me on those long Sunday afternoons between football games when there's not enough time to tinker in the garage or re-landscape the back yard. At those times, a hot-sandwich would be nice, because, as a man, I don't bother to grill my sandwiches, because they are half-eaten before I can find a napkin, and similarly I don't use glasses, because I drink half my Diet-Coke in the first swig.

So...I got the sandwich thing covered, but yeah, having a chick make a sandwich would be hot. (if she don't put any weird stuff in it and puts the mustard right back where she found it)
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 311
ED over 45
Posted: 9/12/2010 6:37:58 AM

A couple of posts back someone wrote that the guy was friggin great...but, that he'd a hangup over making sure she was pleasured...OMG...a friggin great guy that wanted to make sure the woman was satisfied...shoot the bastyard...he's too dysfunctional to be a real candidate....
I do believe that was me.
YES, he was very "dysfunctional" sexually because all that "i want to please you.. i'll get my pleasure that way" was done very clinically.
I could explain more, but suffice to say "clinical" is not "love making", and the actual details are not important for sharing with the public.

Maybe it just takes another woman to pick up this line (highlighted) in that post you're talking about:
Went out with a man for 8-ish months.
Really liked him.
He had ED.
He was all uptight about that, (but would never admit that).
He kept trying to prove he was still manly by using fingers, etc.
Thing is, you could tell he was 'trying to prove'.
I got so tired of hearing "I get my pleasure from giving you pleasure".
Seriously, after a while that gets to you.
Got so I'd rather just skip all that.
We had so much fun and such a great connection in all other ways,
but to him (and probably 90% of men) sex just HAS to be in there,
even long afer the ding-a-long has stopped working.


I didn't want to go into bedroom details in that post.
If a man is in that "trying to prove" mode.. it becomes what I called "clinical" in this post.
No "love-making" vibes, just "trying to prove" vibes = clinical.

Some men, when they can't 'do' intercourse get extremely hung up on that fact,
and it CAN make them quite "dysfunctional" < (super hung up on trying to prove) with other bedroom activities.
And if they can't let go of either of those hangups.. it just isn't gonna go smooth at all at any time in the bedroom.
Most women would get tired/frustrated/whatever with that attitude being in the bedroom.
We can feel when it's a "trying to prove" something instead of "lovemaking".
"I'm still a man, I can make a woman cum". "I get pleasure in knowing I can still make a woman cum".
WHERE is the luvin' in those 2 sentences?




Oh forget it, why am I trying to explain to you of all people.
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 313
ED over 45
Posted: 12/16/2010 6:12:43 PM

If a man is in that "trying to prove" mode.. it becomes what I called "clinical" in this post.
No "love-making" vibes, just "trying to prove" vibes = clinical

It could also mean that you are not a very good lover and he's trying to do whatever he can to get you to be more responsive (opposite to a dead lay). In bed, some women are as exciting as a polyester belt laying in the sun... it takes a "clinical" approach... not to mention dead tastebuds.

We can feel when it's a "trying to prove" something instead of "lovemaking".

If you don't have love - you're not lovemaking..... I'm just sayin'
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 315
ED over 45
Posted: 12/17/2010 1:58:49 AM
I think compassion is much needed when it comes to this issue.. One of the reasons why a relationship should not be built just on sex.. There are so many toxins in the world today you do not know who is going to get ill with what.. So best be in it for better or worse especially when you are on your last chapter.. Meaningless sex is worse than having none at all in my books. To that end I remain celibate.. and happily so..

nativerock
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 318
ED over 45
Posted: 12/18/2010 10:46:13 AM

Its a myth that older men cant get hard

If you notice it's the pharmacuetical companies and the women who chase younger men who perpetuate the issue and make it appear as though it's a bigger problem than it really is...... go figure.

I'm still waiting for the first person to officially report that his penis remained erect for more than four hours - great marketing scheme, isn't it? Especially given the fact that "so many men" have erectile problems - you'd think at least one case would be reported by now.

As far as women seeking younger men in order to avoid all of these "softies" that's simple to deal with - they want the shaft - and they get it in more ways than one. God bless them, but keep the emotional letdowns to yourself.
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