Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Over 45  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 352
view profile
History
ED over 45Page 12 of 36    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36)

weak. my guess is that is almost never is.


So.... how many prostates have you examined Dr Internet?

Why on earth would you even suggest that prostate screening is not a good thing?

From the American Cancer Society site

Prostate cancer is the most common type of cancer found in American men, other than skin cancer. Prostate cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in men. (Lung cancer is the first.) One man in 6 will get prostate cancer during his lifetime. And one man in 35 will die of this disease. More than 2 million men in the United States who have had prostate cancer at some point are still alive today. The death rate for prostate cancer is going down, and the disease is being found earlier, too

since you like to guess......try guessing why the death rate is going down
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 353
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 1/19/2011 10:55:43 AM
"Why on earth would you even suggest that prostate screening is not a good thing"

When to start screening, how often to screen, what kind of treatment (cut, burn, poison, hormonal), if any, etc, are all controversial areas AMONG UROLOGISTS.

It is well known that OVER-AGGRESSIVE treatment of (suspected or actual) prostate cancer is common in America, compared with other industrial countries, with little if any postive difference in outcomes.

Medicine in America is overwhelming a greedy for-profit business. That's why
Americans pay almost double per capita versus "socialized" countries with not-for-profit national health care.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 354
ED over 45
Posted: 1/19/2011 11:31:41 PM
Satx, you are so right.

In Europe, so I have read, prostate screening is only done if the is a family history of such problems, or if there are risk factors.

Here in the US, it's claimed that all men over 50 should get it done. Why?

"We recommend men over 50 get screened for prostate health."
Translation: "I snorted up my last paycheck, and need money.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 355
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 1/20/2011 8:08:50 AM
Anytime you expose cancer cells to oxygen, you risk the cancer spreading.

The key to succesful cancer treatment is early detection.
The idea of waiting till you have a problem is why many cancer patients die....it
is too late to do anything about it.

It's your life, your more than welcome to risk your health in any way you desire.........
but I will continue to advocate for "screening" and annual exams because I have family and friends alive because of it.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 356
ED over 45
Posted: 1/20/2011 9:22:32 AM
"Translation: I snorted up my last paycheck, and need the money".

Please tell that to my 54 year old buddy who is in right now receiving chemo in the hopes that it will give him and extra 18 months to live - his prostate cancer is in both legs, his hips and his spine.

I had dinner with an old friend last night, she told me her 60 year old husband's colon cancer came back in his brain and lungs - he too is given the old "maybe a year, maybe a little more".

The point of all of this is: men don't like going to the doctor. I, and countless other women out there, have buried husbands because they either didn't seek medical treatment or didn't follow up on what was prescribed. I would rather pay for one "needless" test than suffer the alternative.

Prostate cancer treatment is varied - from "let's just wait and see" to surgery, medication and more and more options all the time.

The death of a spouse effects the entire family unit. Men need to be more aware of their bodies and quit the "I am a man, I am tough" attitude. And if you don't want to seek any sort of medical treatment at least increase your life insurance so your wife and children don't lose their home, can buy groceries and maybe pay for college.
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 357
ED over 45
Posted: 1/29/2011 2:39:34 PM
A decline in performance after age 45 is not erectile dysfunction, it's nature.
Complete inability to perform after age 45 is erectile dysfunction.

At a mature age I introduced an inexperienced young girl friend to the finer points and
suggested she find a fellow in his 20's to experience sustained performance.
Later I saw her with her young man. She was pushing him away, saying "NOT NOW!".
You get what you wish for. :)
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 358
ED over 45
Posted: 1/29/2011 6:19:57 PM
I had a female physician check me during my last prostate exam - I don't suffer from ED... but she has a black eye.

As a guy 50 years old, there aren't many men I know of who admitted to ED. Maybe it's because they don't want to admit it. Or, maybe it's because they don't have ED issues. Either way, they seem to find women who will date them for extended periods of time - I'm assuming it's because they are having sex, otherwise they wouldn't be all touchy-feely when we go out as a social group.... why would anyone want to work up a woman to let her leave to find a joy-boy at 1:00am?
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 359
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 1/31/2011 9:48:38 AM
^^^lol..reminds me of a physical appt I had with a male doc. He mentioned a
rectal exam should also be done on women and next thing I knew? My head was almost through the wall! I told him the least he could have done was gimme a glass of wine first?

A lot of good reading in this thread. It has been my finding that a lot of fellows ignore the issue and when developing a new relationship, it isn't a good thing when the issue comes to a head so to speak. Nothing wrong with admitting we need a little help these days? High blood pressure, E.D., arthritis...chit happens right?
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
Msg: 360
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 1/31/2011 11:35:00 AM
Most men who have problems performing can contribute it to stress, anxiety, and expectations. The number of men that just can not get it up because of physical problems are far less then those that can not perform because of mental issues.

I can tell you from personal experience that when I was in my 20's and 30's the "act" was as much or some times even more important than the person, but once mature and understanding that getting laid is easy, but getting laid by the right person, oh so much harder, the person becomes the focus......

Now, if there are any problems that may arise, so to speak......all I need to do is look at the person, the situation, and myself, and I can figure out quickly, most of the why's. If one can eliminate physical reasons for all of it, then what you have left are the deep down real issues of why one just may not be in the right frame of mind to accomplish the goal.

Just as some women have a harder time when older staying wet and moist for the entire time of foreplay and copulation, many men will need more time and special attention to get the both of you to where you want to be. If it is physical for a woman, there are ways to correct it, and if it is physical for a man, there are ways to correct that as well......but more times than not......it encompasses much more than physical.

I find that women have told me for most of my life, that they need the mental side of sex to enjoy the physical side, and I for one believe that and know it well as I have matured. I need the mental side as much if not more now as well!!.....

cd.......
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 361
ED over 45
Posted: 1/31/2011 7:11:35 PM
^^^Great post.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 363
ED over 45
Posted: 2/5/2011 5:30:27 AM
"but take two 25 yo's and call in the morning, I know I felt better."
^^ and I have found that those who brag are usually full of full of ... talk.
 mingo88
Joined: 10/12/2010
Msg: 364
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/5/2011 9:38:25 AM
actually there's an easy solution to your problem. simply date younger men. they don't have ED and usually have more energy than an older man.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 365
ED over 45
Posted: 2/5/2011 3:38:36 PM
This is for Welsh:
"The aim of screening is to diagnose disease at an early stage, before symptoms start. This is when cancer is easier to treat and is more likely to be curable. Before screening can be carried out, there must be an accurate test to use. At the moment, there is no national screening programme for prostate cancer in the UK because trials have not yet shown clear evidence that screening will reduce deaths from this disease or help people live longer. If you ask your GP to check you for prostate cancer they will do the following

Examine your prostate by putting a gloved finger into your back passage and feeling the prostate gland
Take a blood test for PSA – prostate specific antigen
Generally speaking, the higher the PSA level, the more likely there is cancer present. But PSA can be raised for other reasons, such as infection or a non cancerous enlarged prostate.

PSA testing is not recommended for screening in the UK because

Men with prostate cancer may not have a raised PSA
2 out of 3 men with a raised PSA do not have prostate cancer
There is uncertainty about the best way to treat early prostate cancer
The treatments can cause unpleasant side effects and reduce quality of life
Clinical trials are still looking into prostate cancer screening."

I just had home IV antibiotics for a MRSA infection in my heel. The infection was deep - possibly in the bone. The Podiatrist I went to wanted to do a bone scan. The infectious diseases guy said it was pointless because the initial course of treatment was the same; IV antibiotics. The infection was cured and I saved the expense of an unnecessary test. So pardon me if I think some doctors are acting in their own financial self-interest.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 366
ED over 45
Posted: 2/5/2011 6:17:03 PM
Hippie: I agree with you totally, you'll get no argument from me. Treatment is a varied as "let's watch it for now" to full removal and everything in between. My big push is to get men of age 50 and up to go for their initial prostate exam - digital. Then go from there if necessary, if not necessary - keep up with your yearly digital exam. It still comes down to the earlier any kind of cancer is detected the better and the more options you have. I like options.

My province is basically the same as the UK, it pays for a PSA after age 50 unless there is a history of prostate cancer in your family. And PSA is questionable in accuracy. Research in this area is extensive and is less invasive treatment.

Men figure they are invincible. I just want men to get a yearly physical exam like most of us women do. And go to the doctor if something "is not right". I don't like being a widow.

I have a friend in Wales and they are doing the "watch it for now" approach and it seems to be working as his counts haven't changed in 4 years, in fact they have gone down. My friend here is on round 3 of chemotherapy and they haven't changed his prognosis - 18 months to 2 years as it's in his legs, hips and spine. So, prostate cancer can be not too bad or something horrible.
 skyball74
Joined: 8/27/2010
Msg: 367
ED over 45
Posted: 2/7/2011 9:21:07 AM
i like to start by giving oral sex untile climax during this time i get erect and can preform from behind jim
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 368
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 2/7/2011 6:50:28 PM

ED can also be a result of a certain masturbatory technique - one gets so used to particular things that penetrative sex with a partner is simply not satisfactory.


Very true. If I may, can I reverse the question and ask if the same can happen to women who spend a lot of time with BOB?
 calhotspot
Joined: 3/16/2007
Msg: 370
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/9/2011 6:27:16 PM
I am 57 and yes I have ED. The bad part is that I am already depressed because of a blood disease (non-infectious) and to throw ED at me is making me more depressed. I love having sex, my only alternative is a strap-on, but what woman would go for that? I have a hard enough time as it is finding a gal and if I was them I would run also. Now throw Diabetes on top of all that and I have no chance of having sex. even safe sex by myself is rough. the fact that with out the ability to have a erection, it is dam near impossible to have a orgasm. nice life I ended up with. I have tried Viagra and Cialis with no success. Any body tried Lavitra ? I have seen ads on the internet for potency packages, but it sounds like a snake oil product. I am not going towaste good money on something off of the internet only too find I end up glowing in the dark.
Who ever finds a cure for all of us, is going to be a very rich person.
 Dateabledad61
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 371
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/10/2011 6:16:50 PM
If you have tried cialis and similar productsa and its not working, ,its because part of your problem is in your head. Depression is not a good friend.

If you thing you will fail, you will.


Get your head sorted and your****will love you again
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 372
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/10/2011 7:48:48 PM
Who ever finds a cure for all of us, is going to be a very rich person.

You've got to give up the smokes, google kegel exercises for men, but you need more,
walk walk walk exercise.. The amazing thing about the body it wants to heal itself if we give it what it needs...you've got some definite physiological challenges and the weight of those left you psychologically challenged as well..
If you're having nocturnal erections you're still in working order if not all is not lost, have faith go to work on your health, an erection should be your motivation, when the morning wood returns viagra will give you the edge you need...
Hugh is 84 and it works for him, let me quote him "viagra is the greatest recreational drug of the century" humor is good, meditation and positive affirmations can help too..
 ozarkguy
Joined: 11/15/2007
Msg: 373
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/11/2011 7:38:13 AM
^^^^I heard the other day that they interviewed Hugh Hefner's fiance and she said that they still have sex but they need some help. Hef uses Viagra and she uses a mask!!
 jayceehill
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 374
ED over 45
Posted: 2/13/2011 7:58:53 AM
"...for the most part, just be patient. Men already feel bad about it, don't make it worse. It's his issue and he'll take care of it."

I highly disagree...an erectile issue is the "couples" issue. If you patientely wait for a man to "take care of it", sometimes an entire marriage goes by with no sex. You can have the understanding and supportive conversation, year after year, but if the man does not think its an issue? Then it means he is relegating you to a life of celibacy that you neither wanted or expected to happen.

All men experience some form of ED occasionally, but if he knows that he has an inability to have a normal sexual relationship with a woman, then he NEEDS to disclose the information and let the woman decide if she should become involved with him. It would be no different than a man becoming involved with a woman with severe pelvic inflammatory disease, which made sex exceptionally painful to the point where she could not have sex.

It's a relevant medical disclosure. Do you want only companionship in a relationship or do you want companionship and sex in a relationship.
 1carreraturbo
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 375
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/14/2011 6:17:32 AM
I have never seen this problem myself or with any of my friends in my age group. My father is 80 and doesn't have that problem either. And men with that problem have other alternatives and maybe should pursue them if they want to be sexually active.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 376
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/14/2011 11:50:59 AM
article:

Erectile Dysfunction? What Might Be Causing Your Declining Libido

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jeffry-life-md-phd/fight-erectile-dysfunction-_b_822143.html?view=print

=====

Nothing really new here.

ED is known to be a symptom of, an indicator of CVD, sooner or later.
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 377
view profile
History
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/14/2011 1:03:15 PM
satx thanks, Interesting article, the author has a link followed it, amazing transformation.. even at our age exercise and diet can work miracles...
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 378
view profile
History
ED over 45
Posted: 2/16/2011 1:50:44 PM

Older single men should ask themselves, "are we not happy to have a few years of peaceful solitary contemplation as we wait for the chariot of the gods to take us home or do we prefer the foolishness and demands of yet another relationship?"

^^^Wow is about all I can muster up to that statement!


we must release ourselves from all earthly attachments, this includes sexual attachment.


Thank the good Lord I am not a budist!!!

Show ALL Forums  > Over 45  >