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 ozarkguy
Joined: 11/15/2007
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^^^^I heard the other day that they interviewed Hugh Hefner's fiance and she said that they still have sex but they need some help. Hef uses Viagra and she uses a mask!!
 jayceehill
Joined: 1/11/2011
Msg: 374
ED over 45
Posted: 2/13/2011 7:58:53 AM
"...for the most part, just be patient. Men already feel bad about it, don't make it worse. It's his issue and he'll take care of it."

I highly disagree...an erectile issue is the "couples" issue. If you patientely wait for a man to "take care of it", sometimes an entire marriage goes by with no sex. You can have the understanding and supportive conversation, year after year, but if the man does not think its an issue? Then it means he is relegating you to a life of celibacy that you neither wanted or expected to happen.

All men experience some form of ED occasionally, but if he knows that he has an inability to have a normal sexual relationship with a woman, then he NEEDS to disclose the information and let the woman decide if she should become involved with him. It would be no different than a man becoming involved with a woman with severe pelvic inflammatory disease, which made sex exceptionally painful to the point where she could not have sex.

It's a relevant medical disclosure. Do you want only companionship in a relationship or do you want companionship and sex in a relationship.
 1carreraturbo
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 375
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Posted: 2/14/2011 6:17:32 AM
I have never seen this problem myself or with any of my friends in my age group. My father is 80 and doesn't have that problem either. And men with that problem have other alternatives and maybe should pursue them if they want to be sexually active.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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Posted: 2/14/2011 11:50:59 AM
article:

Erectile Dysfunction? What Might Be Causing Your Declining Libido

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jeffry-life-md-phd/fight-erectile-dysfunction-_b_822143.html?view=print

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Nothing really new here.

ED is known to be a symptom of, an indicator of CVD, sooner or later.
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 377
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Posted: 2/14/2011 1:03:15 PM
satx thanks, Interesting article, the author has a link followed it, amazing transformation.. even at our age exercise and diet can work miracles...
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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ED over 45
Posted: 2/16/2011 1:50:44 PM

Older single men should ask themselves, "are we not happy to have a few years of peaceful solitary contemplation as we wait for the chariot of the gods to take us home or do we prefer the foolishness and demands of yet another relationship?"

^^^Wow is about all I can muster up to that statement!


we must release ourselves from all earthly attachments, this includes sexual attachment.


Thank the good Lord I am not a budist!!!

 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 2/16/2011 4:47:30 PM
there were more press releases recently about some baldness medications possibly causing ed. apparently one drug in particular may cause sexual side effects, including impotency.
an affected user was quoted as saying..."it (the drug) worked well for my hair but i lost my sex life"...

if you're losing your hair?
maybe you should shave off the remaining and get on with your sex life...
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 380
ED over 45
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:01:39 PM
In response to Garry1949 - if I was just looking for friends I wouldn't care if they could "perform majestically" either. But most of us on this site seem to be looking for some sort of partnership/relationship/dating etc. and somewhere in there we, both men and women, hope to have it include imtimacy of a sexual nature. I don't think this is too much to ask.

If a couple is in a relationship and one of them has issues in the bedroom, it effects both involved. The one with the issue should seek some solution to the problem. I would hope that the partner would be sensitive and nonjudemental to the issue. But if the person with the issue ignores it, doesn't want to deal with it, doesn't seek a solution - this is a problem.

In the over 45 group both men and women can have problems in this area. Nothing to be ashamed of, just find out all you can to try and fix it. Sure as hell beats waiting around for god to fix it. Some would think that "waiting around for the chariots of the gods to take us home" is a pretty stupid way to spend the last 30 or more years of your life.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 2/16/2011 6:08:33 PM
Welsh hun? Not even sure why some of us are here if we have the attitude that has been portrayed here? I play in friendly fields, where both men and women enjoy each other. They have left their bitter baggage behind them. I find it amazing how at this age, we can speak about issues of E.D. with overall honesty. Try and work together to figure out a solution. I think it all boils down to communication and honesty. To be bitter only works against one on whole. jmho though!
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 382
ED over 45
Posted: 2/16/2011 6:42:34 PM
^^^Moonchild, I said on this thread once before that I commend the guys on here who have discussed this issue openly and honestly. It is not an easy conversation at the best of time let alone to have someone open up about their ongoing or previous problems on an open forum like this.

If we are in a relationship this all becomes a "couples" issue and hopefully is dealt with by the couple and you are correct in saying honesty and communication is the most important thing. Finding out all we can about this issue is important, knowledge is power. To ignore it, not so great.

A healthy sex life is a wonderful thing. It is a gift we give each other. With love and understanding hopefully we can figure out what works for us.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 2/17/2011 4:24:43 AM
Welsh? You misunderstood the intent of my last post. I wasn't accusing you of not understanding at all. I was referring to another post in this thread that clearly shows someone with issues, and they aren't all about E.D.!! I totally concur with what you have said on the topic!!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 385
ED over 45
Posted: 2/17/2011 1:56:30 PM
Older single men should ask themselves, "are we not happy to have a few years of peaceful solitary contemplation as we wait for the chariot of the gods to take us home or do we prefer the foolishness and demands of yet another relationship?"

^^ That's a stupid question to ask, isn't it?
Really... if you're single you should be living a peaceful solitary life already. Waiting for the chariots of god to take us home is depressing.

Relationships are great with the right partner... especially if you can score the woman some wood. For those who can't throw a log into her fire, I guess they always resort to chariots of the gods and pretend relationships suck.... if that's what they choose

It's a serious enough concern - becoming morbid over the issue isn't the answer. Ya may as well have a sense of humour about it
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 Onemadkiwi
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 388
ED over 45
Posted: 2/18/2011 3:32:24 PM
No problems here lol
 Debs2763
Joined: 5/25/2011
Msg: 389
ED over 45
Posted: 6/19/2011 3:12:10 PM
MY late husband had ED problems and we just didnt have sex for 10 yrs. I just respected his wishes and live with it. I am not sure I know how to have sex anymore.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 390
ED over 45
Posted: 6/25/2011 9:11:43 AM
Boy, getting many dates with that cranky attitude? Seems to me that when a relationship/marriage dissolves both partners lose. I've sat across the dinner table with guys with the above attitude - sad and pathetic and who wants to listen to the rant about the ex and the lawyers and the custody.

Men have issues with ED for a multitude of physical and psycholigical reasons and I guess if you want to blame it on some "shrew" fvcking up your life, have at it. It just won't get you very far.
 MissingFunMD
Joined: 7/7/2010
Msg: 391
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 6/26/2011 11:39:06 AM
I have my doubts that half the men over 45 (or whatever) have ED issues. Then again, over half of Americans in that age group are overweight. There is a direct connection between good cardiovascular health and ED. One more reason to eat healthy, exercise, and watch your weight. Your health and sexual performance depend on it. For the record, I am 53 and have no issues. I am thankful for that.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 392
ED over 45
Posted: 7/7/2011 2:17:22 PM

Suprisingly enough for the men in their 70's it went down to 20%.


Now here is the real reason why the percentage goes down when they reach their 70's..
They are normally in good health for their age plain and simple.. A lot of men unfortunately pass away far too young due to coronary issues..

nativerock
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 7/10/2011 9:51:02 PM
Msg 678

I have my doubts that half the men over 45 (or whatever) have ED issues. Then again, over half of Americans in that age group are overweight. There is a direct connection between good cardiovascular health and ED. One more reason to eat healthy, exercise, and watch your weight. Your health and sexual performance depend on it. For the record, I am 53 and have no issues. I am thankful for that.


Half are overweight, then there are smokers, drug users, and drinkers. Some take too many pills with various side effects.
From what I hear, this leaves a very small functioning reservoir.
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 396
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Posted: 7/11/2011 6:13:50 PM
Horny, you have such a cute smile!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 397
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Posted: 7/11/2011 7:34:54 PM
Often times it is not physical, it is psychological. If you care about the person, patience goes a long way.
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 398
ED over 45
Posted: 7/12/2011 11:54:06 AM

"I saw on the Today show last week, that at least 30% of men in their 50's have this problem. The 40 age group is around 25%. Suprisingly enough for the men in their 70's it went down to 20%. I don't get that."

Most of the men with ED are not in the best of physical condition... they have various health problems that do not likely survive past the age of 70.

I've yet to encounter a physically active male in their 40-50-60's that has any issue whatsoever.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 7/14/2011 8:52:08 AM

Its possible males with ED are candidates for dementia or Alzheimer.

With all the time on their hands, they would be also good candidates for a political office.
 LonelyTeachrr
Joined: 6/22/2011
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Posted: 7/14/2011 1:43:57 PM
This condition is often caused by other medication men are on. I know Blood pressure and Depression medicines really can cause ED to be a major problem. There are ways to get around ED, but it takes time to find the right combination of medications to do it. Viagra and the like don't always work since those other drugs can interfere with it. The hard part is to keep at it. There are so many drugs out there to treat our maladies and all you guys have to do is find the right combination that will lessen the ED effect, or allow Viagra and that to work better. Just be patient....you will find it eventually. And you ladies be patient too. Nothing is more discouraging than to want to please your lady and just because the medications we are taking to keep us healthy are affecting our sex lives, just don't quit!!

Luckily, I don't have that problem...yet. Maybe it is because I have such a HIGH sex drive it overrides the ED! Yeah, I am a horny old fart! Oh, well, I can live with that...rather have too much than not enough.

So, ladies, encourage your man to seek medical assistance in this area. It is hard for a man to deal with this, but if you show a genuine concern, I am sure he will come around. If not, it is his loss! ROFLOL

Good luck!

D.
 sunny_in_therain
Joined: 7/4/2011
Msg: 401
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Posted: 7/14/2011 4:23:20 PM
My ex, 12 yrs ago suffered from ED. It didnt bother me as much as it did him. we tried herbals like horny goat weed..I guess it only works on goats. he was a big guy, body builder who built ponds. i always wondered if he sacrificed his libido for all those muscles.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 7/15/2011 9:42:44 AM
Lifting weights does not diminish the libido. Now if he took steroids to supplement the weight lifting, yes, definitely....
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