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 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Now if he took steroids to supplement the weight lifting, yes, definitely....


Have to disagree. Depo-Testosterone is what body builders use and testosterone doesn't cause ED.
 nativerock
Joined: 10/16/2010
Msg: 406
ED over 45
Posted: 7/26/2011 7:29:50 AM

Its possible males with ED are candidates for dementia or Alzheimer.


Never mind heart attacks since this has to do with proper blood flow..

nativerock
 Willy.Wonka
Joined: 1/21/2010
Msg: 408
ED over 45
Posted: 8/12/2011 2:54:14 PM
It's also highly probable that more attractive women inspire better wood. A woman in her 30's is likely more apt to get high grade oak. One in her 50's perhaps fortunate to elicit Balsa.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 8/12/2011 3:09:39 PM

One in her 50's perhaps fortunate to elicit Balsa


^^^Really? I am over 50 and you couldn't prove that by me!

I really don't know much about E.D. except that it must be one heck of a lot of pressure on a fellow to perform and then not be able. I sure wouldn't wanna do it!
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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ED over 45
Posted: 8/13/2011 2:14:48 AM

Its possible males with ED are candidates for dementia or Alzheimer

Actually, it works the other way. Since the dementia or Alzheimer patients don't remember what they did half an hour ago, their encumbered mind doesn't interfere with the unsatiated urge. They just keep looking for their next prey all day long. Ask any caretaker in nursing home.
 soicat
Joined: 3/3/2010
Msg: 411
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/13/2011 7:15:12 AM

Often times it is not physical, it is psychological.


This is the biggest myth out there. It's almost never psychological, especially with older guys who never had a problem when they were younger.

ED is typically caused by low testosterone. If guys don't have morning wood, they likely have low testosterone.

Low testosterone causes all kinds of health problems; ED is the least of them.

There are all kinds of ways to raise testosterone, but the first thing to do is to see a good endocrinologist.
 teddyoo1
Joined: 2/22/2011
Msg: 412
ED over 45
Posted: 8/15/2011 4:41:03 AM
familar ? lol i lived it and as others have posted love care and understanding goes a long way and your 100% right there more than enough ways to please each other apart from shall we say injection lol what ive read so far in this forem is some intekkigebt discussion on a sensitive subject from most interjected with some very silly coments and some outright selfish asses from both sexes
 teddyoo1
Joined: 2/22/2011
Msg: 413
ED over 45
Posted: 8/15/2011 4:46:36 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is a reply to post 546 by peppermint petunias
 jim1944
Joined: 3/19/2011
Msg: 414
ED over 45
Posted: 8/15/2011 8:52:50 AM
I think that everyone who is interested in this forum should read and head this message. From sapphireeyes who says it all
the way I see it ...ED isn't HIS problem... it's OUR problem

I have met many women who are very good about a man and his problems with ED and the ones that I have been intimate with are very happy thta even though I do have ED I am able to satisfy them fully in many ways not just with an erectrion. I do use Viagra and also penal injections for rigidity and they are very happy with my performance which by the way is better now that it ever was. The cause of my ED was prostrate surgury damage to the nerves and I have found from people I have talked to that I had one hell of a surgeon who did not do as much damage as other had done to them. So Girls, if a man tells you he suffers from ED do not count him dead, he may be the best thing you ever had in your life..
 Rain587
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 416
ED over 45
Posted: 8/17/2011 11:59:22 AM
I agree. A real relationship with two people will find ways of satisfaction. From what I've been reading - many here (in several threads) will write off someone that can't perform sexually. I think those need to just say they are looking for sex and not a relationship because later if they are in one and the person no longer can have sex, they will leave. Anything can cause ED - meds, surgery, high blood pressure and accidents.

It's good they say this though so it can help others decide to meet or not.

I usually don't put my "sexual" stuff out in public but I will say I enjoy a major romp like the rest but I also like "me" so will not be looking for casual encounters that not only can give me something I can't get rid of (condoms are not 100%) but also make me a ho. Not going to happen.
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 417
ED over 45
Posted: 8/17/2011 2:38:22 PM
Beckie, I'm curious. When you say 3X per week, is that for an hour, or two, or how many?
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 8/17/2011 6:11:56 PM

Recent studies (2008) indicate high levels of testorone to be a direct link to benign prostatic hyperplasia, or, BPH. It is a condition of enlargement of the male prostate gland. The symptoms may include a frequent urge for urination, incontinence, restricted urine flow or urine retention, urinary tract infections, hematuria (blood in the urine) and ED. Thus, taking testosterone supplements, can, directly, result in a condition that will cause more likelihood of ED.


BPH is caused by the conversion of testosterone to dehydrotestosterone by a process called 5α-reductase. Testosterone, itself, does not cause BPH. Avodart is a drug used to reduce the conversion of testosterone to dehydrotestosterone and thus reduce the problems of BPH. I was on Avodart for 4 years for this condition.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 8/17/2011 10:55:30 PM
Msg 707


ED is typically caused by low testosterone. If guys don't have morning wood, they likely have low testosterone.
Low testosterone causes all kinds of health problems; ED is the least of them.

Very true. Some women make my organism generate a lot of testosterone.

Msg 713

A real relationship with two people will find ways of satisfaction. From what I've been reading - many here (in several threads) will write off someone that can't perform sexually

Exactly! If you can find two test subjects, one is bound to be better than the other.You keep the one who gives you the satisfaction, and write off the non-performing one.
 carolineb177
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 420
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/21/2011 5:43:18 AM
well i dont date any man older than myself .. the few men that i have dated are in there 40:S
and most of them have ed... so whats up with that >>

 carolineb177
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 421
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Posted: 8/21/2011 5:48:55 AM
i 've been dating men in there 40"s and a percentage of them have ed.... most of them i thinks its the excitement for them .some hasnt had a sexual relationship in awhile .and they have to get back into there game >>>
 sweetsoul61
Joined: 3/11/2011
Msg: 425
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/25/2011 6:11:36 PM
I just turned 50. The last guy i was with was younger, still in his early 40's and he had this issue. I talked to my doctor about it, and other than age other causes can be heavy drinking, drugs (esp cocaine) and smoking! It's up to the guy to try and compensate, i have a high sex drive so this can be an issue.
 smokincigars
Joined: 3/25/2010
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Posted: 8/26/2011 11:45:33 PM
I'll share my personal experience.

I went for years without a serious relationship, and a long time between less serious relationships. To be blunt, I was out of practice sexually, and it was a "use it or lose it" situation. I ended up seeing a urologist who prescribed one of the ED drugs.

The drug may have helped a little, but not much. What really helped me was getting into a serious relationship (which led to marriage) with a woman who excited me, enjoyed having me in bed with her, and made me feel good about myself. Before long, I was living that Toby Keith song: "I may not be as good as I once was, but I'm as good once as I ever was." I discontinued the ED drug, and discovered I didn't need it.

Now I'm facing the single life again, and my first time with a new lady may not be all that impressive. But there is more to sex than mere genital-on-genital friction, and I'm confident that when the time comes, I'll be able to keep her interested and happy until I'm "back in practice".

Do ED drugs work? No doubt, for those who really need them. Another possibility for some men is a testosterone patch; my doctor prescribed the patch for me, to my then-wife's amusement and disbelief, for reasons that had nothing to do with sexual ability. I don't think it made any difference in our sex life, except perhaps making me want it more, but it does seem to give me more energy (for everything, not just sex) and may slow aging a bit.
 Perigee123
Joined: 7/14/2009
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Posted: 8/27/2011 4:36:28 AM
...
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Am I the only one in here that maintains a vigorous, vigilant self testing in here? I even keep a log book...

...Well, it's a log sheet, actually. On a clipboard on the wall by my bed, with one of those pens on a chain attached. It's only a 'log book' when I add it to the maintenance archive book at the end of the month.

Flipping back the years here... memories, like the corners of my minnnd... oh - '93; a very good year... Ah. There we are - 1975: The Great Awakening. Lessee.

Ok, well, it sure looks like there's been some decrease in frequency per-diem - what a busy little devil I was back then. I'da hated to be someone who shook hands with me back then, I'll tell you. Of course, we've got the big storm out here on the coast today, so that's bound to bring the average up a bit...

Hose pressure seems OK; no calcium build-up in the pipes, I guess. The boys can still do a 4' long jump from the tube, which isn't bad at all, when you consider their size... still have to wear the ol' safety glasses - have them hanging there with the log sheets.

Now This is interesting: it does take significantly longer to prime the pump. Used to be that the wise old owl only needed three licks to get to the center of a tootsie-pop: "One.. to-whooo.. three. Three" Now... well, significantly more. 850, by last count. But that's been pretty steady since ... ahhh... 1999? No - 1998. April. Give or take 75, and the type of porn I was watching. I put that down to the nature of of repetition - after 30-40,000 nekkid women rolling their eyes with their tongues lolling out like a St. Bernard, it all gets rather routine, I guess. There was a hot period here around '05 when I discovered midget porn, but that peaked within two weeks, I see...

Ah well. That was fun. Thanks for taking the time to read about the health of my willy. It's been the study of a lifetime: I hope you enjoyed hearing about it as much as I enjoyed compiling the data.

Although, I'm guessing, that's not very likely.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 429
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/27/2011 5:42:43 PM
I agree with the above poster, we're not teenagers anymore. Hormone levels drop, illness, medications, weight and other issues add to the problem. But I've said this before - this is a couple's issue. Two people are involved and it's important to talk about this and seek a remedy. Also, the women on here that bash the men - us women have issues in the sex department as well. There are many women out there in their 40's, 50's and beyond that don't care for sex any more, don't want it, don't like it and don't seem to need it. Some have hormone issues too that contribute to the problem - our hormones are not like they were when we were younger. The thing is, we can "fake" it - we can pretend quite easily and it's easy to cover it up, we don't showour lack of desire by a lack of erection. I feel for men who desire a healthy and active sex life and their body seems to betray them. Women can go through the motions. The old "not tonight dear, I have a headache" can be used as an excuse for years and years. Many women are what they used to term as "figid" or cold. So don't just pick on the men. This issue has no gender.
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 430
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 8/29/2011 3:04:42 PM
You are correct. Joyce Bahyer (or however you spell it) had a physician on her show talking about older women. He said in the late 40's to early 50's, the clitoris begins to shrink in size, and sensation. the vaginal tissue gets thinner less elastic, and tears easier. Intercourse can be painful. The vagina doesn't lube like it did when younger adding to discomfort. Until they come up with a pill to correct all of this, I think older men got a better deal from mother nature!
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 432
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Posted: 9/2/2011 6:56:23 AM
Ladies, it's not always about YOU. Many times is just the (bio)chemistry

Is this chemical ruining your sex appeal?

Women want manly men -- and they can spot a sissy even if he's not waving a rainbow flag. All he needs is some extra estrogen.

The ladies can practically smell this feminizing hormone a mile away -- and believe me, it doesn't smell like Old Spice.

Researchers have uncovered evidence that men who have been exposed to one of today's leading sources of estrogen, the BPA used in plastic containers and can linings, are literally repulsive to women.

Researchers raised two sets of mice: One born to mothers exposed to BPA during pregnancy, and one born to mothers that were not. When the mice matured, researchers repeatedly placed one from each group together in a cage with a single female to see which one she'd pick.

Needless to say, she wanted nothing to do with the BPA sissy.

In fact, these mice were more than twice as likely to get flat-out rejected by females despite the fact that they looked just like the other mice and even had the same hormone levels.

Somehow, the females KNEW they were different -- and I'm guessing all the Old Spice in the world wouldn't be able to cover it up.

In another experiment, mice born to BPA-fed moms had trouble finding their way out of a maze -- a test that uses the same instincts mice need when they seek out a breeding partner. It's like the sexual compass had been thrown out of whack.

You know what's really amazing here? These mice weren't exposed to BPA after birth -- only in the womb.

If that little bit was enough to make a lifelong difference, imagine the impact of constant BPA exposure from conception to the grave.

Better yet, don't imagine -- just look at the research: Studies have found that BPA exposure can lead to serious reproductive problems in men and women alike, not to mention a host of other conditions ranging from obesity to heart disease.

The only way to protect yourself and your family is to skip this stuff in all its forms, starting today.

===

from a newsletter from www.douglassreport.com

estrogen analogues feminize male fetuses, as in shortening the genital-anus distance, etc, etc.
 Lance_in_Vista
Joined: 12/14/2010
Msg: 434
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/3/2011 12:26:45 AM
My last girlfriend of 10 years and I had a great sexual relationship when we first got together. I knew as time went by the horns would subside some but she flamed they never would. As time went on the frequency of our sex went from 3 or 4 times a day to 3 or 4 times a week , then to 3 or 4 times a month. One of the problems I had with her is that she just expected that we should always climax together. For me, the fact that we ever climaxed together was amazing. But when we didn't she would get on my case saying that if I were attracted to her I would be able to do that more often. I was attracted to her but the more I tried to convince her of that the more she believed that I wasn't. Then I gained some weight, started to have some ED problems and the problem only got worse. But she hated that I would want to use the little blue pill. on a few occasions I would take he pill.and not tell her. We had a good time but she got mad when she found out I used the pill. Then she started thinking I was cheating on her so she threw out those blue pills. We ended up separating because of her insecurities. Now I haven't been with a woman for about 2 years and wonder if the hydraulics work. Or if I'm going to have performance anxieties. I've lost some weight and feel pretty good. I have found that DHEA (100mg a day) makes me feel like my old younger self. I hope to find out soon.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 435
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 9/3/2011 8:45:44 AM
I find the whole ED and Viagra thing more than slightly ridiculous. Once men are past the point of their best reproducing age, it's NORMAL for the body to not be as active, reproduction wise, for much the same reason women over 40 shouldn't be having babies.

It's NORMAL. Loading your body up with drugs to do things it's no longer supposed to be doing seems just a bit...silly. At the age of 50 and above, it doesn't make a lick of sense to expect your body to work at the same level it did when you were 15 or even 25. One would think that at that age, both partners would be more interested in taking their time and developing their arousal levels, instead of having an Instadick.
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 9/3/2011 5:29:13 PM
Researchers have uncovered evidence that men who have been exposed to one of today's leading sources of estrogen, the BPA used in plastic containers and can linings, are literally repulsive to women.


One of the terms used to describe these are Xenoestrogens. It is truly amasing the effects these can have on people (men and women). Something that all of us should be aware of. Xenoestrogens, chemically, look like stereids but do not perform as they do. They fill hormonal receptors thus negating the effects of real estrogen and/or testosterone. As an example a man can have normal levels of testosterone but if he has high levels of xenoestrogens they can reside in his hormone receptors and he does not recieve the benefits of his testosterone.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 9/5/2011 1:12:38 AM

BPA used in plastic containers and can linings, are literally repulsive to women


Obviously written by a bunch of women who didn't like taking out the garbage....
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