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 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 491
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It is a fact that if you have ED there are many options available for treatment. It is also a fact that if you are crass, stupid, make idiotic remarks and have no empathy for you fellow human beings - there is no treatment....you just go on making stupid, idiotic remarks and look like the fool you show yourself to be. Pathetic really.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 492
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Posted: 3/12/2012 9:01:20 AM

Darkbutcomely:
Viagra induce erections arent as good at the real ones. Trade him for a newer model.


Oh, really? Why is then that all the male porn stars use Viagra?
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 493
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Posted: 3/12/2012 10:57:59 AM
^ There is a switch on the topic.
My logical mind says they are young and don't need it to get hard, but probably need it for the 8 hours of shooting that produces 15 minutes of film.
 otterplay
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 494
ED over 45
Posted: 3/12/2012 2:02:22 PM
Yes, it is actually more than 1/2. And to imply in any way, under any circumstances, that a man who can't have sex is not an issue is mental illness. Men hide this illness. Many of us don't find out that they can't, when we are in bed with the men who can't. Then it is very uncomfortable.

No one warned us about this, that men entering their 40s would start to lose testosterone and not be capable of an erection. This is tremendous issue that men who are thusly afflicted, do not talk about. Not even when we are in bed with them.

The only way to avoid this very awkward lack of responsibility on the part of the afflicted (and this for many, is for life) is to date younger. Stick to 30s or 20s. They are ready, willing and able. And also, employed. Have vehicles, good incomes, tons of stamina, better looks, good credit, jobs and good educations.
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 495
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 2:17:28 PM
Last year I tried to date 5 different men, from age 44 to 56. They ALL had ED and didn't think to warn or discuss with me. It was hideously awkward and I will never do that again, ever.

Something seems seriously wrong with that anecdotal report...

Since ED supposedly affects approximately 10% of men over 30, just where are these men from, and what criteria have been used to pick them for that 100% result?

Methinks someones picker picker needs to be upgraded, or someones challenging attitude may need adjusting..

When there is a common denominator, acting the same way and expecting different results, then what did Uncle Albert say about that?
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 496
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Posted: 3/12/2012 2:30:52 PM

The only way to avoid this very awkward lack of responsibility on the part of the afflicted (and this for many, is for life) is to date younger. Stick to 30s or 20s. They are ready, willing and able. And also, employed. Have vehicles, good incomes, tons of stamina, better looks, good credit, jobs and good educations


All due respect, there is so much wrong with this statement. I have met many men my age who are employed with good incomes, cars, house, good looks/manners, credit and education. E.D. has absolutely nothing to do with what you just mentioned. And? Your profile indicates long term. You honestly think that a 25 year old is going to offer up a committment to a 46 year old? C'mon hun, we all know that won't happen anytime soon. They offer up stamina for sure and a hot bout of sex when required but nothing more than that. Not knocking you at all as I have been there and done that, but never carried expectations that it was more than what it was.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 497
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 2:50:06 PM
"All due respect, there is so much wrong with this statement. " No kidding, just so much wrong with all her posts with this tone. I'm thinking the common denominator would not be the 5 guys in question. And she turns me off so I can see how turned off a 50 year old man would be.

But, if she wants to keep going after the new factory edition of the young stud, have at it, but at some point...maybe not at 46 but in the near future - the young studs won't want the "old lady" cause she won't crank their tractor. A women can only attract a 30 year old for so long until she becomes obsolete, used up, burned up, screwed up and cast to the side.

It has not been my experience at all, I'm thinking closer to 10% like Tall-IQ mentioned.

I just for the life of me can't fathom the disrespect for our men folk - I don't care what issue they have. Obviously it's an issue the poster has. Pathetic, just pathetic.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 498
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 3:42:38 PM
Or maybe the older men are finding out about her track record with the younger men and have more self respect than to join in their folly. An older man (most) has a certain quality that only time and experience gives him...he can tell a nut job in 0.5 seconds and so if the plumbing isnt working it might not be a lack on his part but more that he isnt really that interested in being where so many other men have boldly gone before...ED makes a great excuse not to have to be worried about someone with an inflated ego who has to use sex for validation of who they are.

I know Im not having trouble meeting men who have no issue with Ed, so I cant imagine why it would be an issue for a woman younger than me. I think men in the late 40's - 50's are extremely hot; it is just that male quality they have; the look, the confidence of who they are and what they NOW want out of life and Id say it is not to have an empty air head in their life.
 otterplay
Joined: 3/6/2012
Msg: 499
ED over 45
Posted: 3/12/2012 3:57:31 PM
When I worked in mental health, a plethora of male clients of all adult ages, complained of ED caused by their medications. It is a terrible choice to make, either mental balance or erectile function. Many other medications affect men to include, sinus medications, many painkillers, blood pressure meds, etc. etc. Also, the massive number of obese men in this culture also contributes to both the inability to achieve and maintian an erection, as well as the impossibility of any sexual position, other than woman on top, providing she can also hold the fat apron at bay (NOT attractive or compelling in any way, shape or form) long enough to complete the sex act. All in all, unwell men are not viable sexual partners.

For those of us dating, I use this simple investigation. If I see 5 or more perscription bottles on the counter in their bathroom, I know to let it go. They (men) are unwell, and as they age, are not going to get any better, only worse.

Again, the only and delightful solution is to date younger.
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 500
ED over 45
Posted: 3/12/2012 4:15:00 PM
Im thinking maybe a fake profile and it is a younger guy who is saying all of this...way to go on self promotion!!!

Again I have met several men in their 50's who have no issue...so it must be you!~
 URXO2
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 501
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Posted: 3/12/2012 4:19:56 PM
@ risingmist/otterplay :

Stick to 30s or 20s. They are ready, willing and able.


I really don’t know what your reincarnation was all about but if your so hot on the 20 to 30 year old guys why don’t you get off the 45 and over forum.. it’s obvious you’re not mature enough to be here with the adults.....

In another thread you claimed to have a boyfriend ( pity the fool ) so what are you doing whoring around troll???
 MJ Preston
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 502
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Posted: 3/12/2012 4:25:48 PM
it's all about testosterone......get your levels checked.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 503
ED over 45
Posted: 3/12/2012 4:55:42 PM

it's all about testosterone......get your levels checked


And not just test but free test.There is some evidence that older men have less free test.That said,it seems rather amusing that risingmist meets so many men on depression meds lol.

Anyhow,despite being very physically fit,both from my job and from visiting the gym on a regular basis forever, test levels will still drop with age.And test gets used,and used up repairing muscle tissue and other functions.If you are sedentary,you might be lucky and still be ok.But for most of us I firmly believe that replacement will make your life better.In the states there are doctors that advertise on the net who are specialists in that field,and will work with your doctor.In Canada you can seek out docs who know their stuff.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 504
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 4:59:00 PM

I know Im not having trouble meeting men who have no issue with Ed, so I cant imagine why it would be an issue for a woman younger than me.


Well it must be you....
 Masasi
Joined: 1/2/2012
Msg: 505
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Posted: 3/12/2012 6:41:20 PM
I dated a man over 45 and we did encounter the ED issue. He felt terrible, embarrassed....now, I am a very moral woman, and not inclined to cursing but I proceded to whisper some very blue and I do mean dirty! things (I'm blushing even now) in this dear man's ear, and I'm not sure if it's what I was saying, or the fact that I was saying them, but he rose to the occasion, thanked me and my response was 'that's what lovers are for' . Ladies, we know what makes men hot. Use it.
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 506
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:20:23 PM
"When I worked in mental health..." maybe you should have stayed longer and learned more. You show a great lack of empathy for your fellow human beings. I'm thinking troll, attention seeking, narcissist, blowhard, whiner - physician heal thyself. You contribute nothing to a serious discussiom thread.
 mike44tx
Joined: 10/28/2011
Msg: 507
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/12/2012 7:47:20 PM
Welsh474: I agree with you. I wouldn't be able to get it up with that woman at all. So cold and clinical.
 A_Forum_Lurker
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 508
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Posted: 3/12/2012 8:49:30 PM
F.Y.I.

For those of you who are interested in discussing the topic off Erectile Dysfunction, you may want to particpate in risingmist/otterplay new thread "Massive massive global ED in the US for the over 40's men - how is it here?" on the Ireland forum.

It seems that because ED is so "rampant" in the US for men over 40 that US women have to date younger men.
 RICH52NY
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 509
ED over 45
Posted: 3/13/2012 4:44:20 AM
ALL'S WORKING WELL HERE!
THANK GOD!
 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 510
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/13/2012 9:46:49 AM
Why anyone would be so malicious about something ultimately beyond the control of any couple, is unthinkable behavior for most 45+ adults (or any adults!).

Many things are unsettling, disturbing about these "otterplay/risingmist?" posts. One in particular has to do with her (his?) coldly calculating attitude toward what is for some 45+ couples a serious relationship challenge. Yes. Some women seek more from a romantic relationship than companionship, the caregiving connected to an SO with serious health issues, a "separated" marital status, a "smoker trying to quit," or relatively frequent physical intimacy minus sexual penetration. And for most of us, how are we to know sufficiently ahead of the time when that first intimate moment happens? (itself the topic of another thread tangential to this one).

So on the one hand, ED can pose significant challenges for some couples who ultimately decide that they are better off finding a mate with whom they are each more physically compatible. Just as anyone leading an "active" lifestyle might have concerns about someone who does not enjoy an active lifestyle and prefers more a more sedentary one.
On the other hand, at 45+ we can't always rise (double pun intended) to our own expectations. Some of us are former runners now frustrated that we can no longer run a 15K and learning to enjoy walking a few miles. Others are former swimmers who have had rotator cuff surgery and can no longer swim those 2 miles of freestyle as a way to enjoy being physical. It's just the way things are for most of us at 45+ ; thus the challenge to respect our limitations and embrace life as fully as each of us is capable.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 511
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Posted: 3/13/2012 10:18:17 AM

Darkbutcomely:
Viagra induce erections arent as good at the real ones. Trade him for a newer model


ohenryx:

Oh, really? Why is then that all the male porn stars use Viagra



Blue-Eyes-Shine:
My logical mind says they are young and don't need it to get hard, but probably need it for the 8 hours of shooting that produces 15 minutes of film.


Anecdotal story. A number of years ago, when Viagra was new on the market and was going for like $10 a pill, I was hanging out with some friends. One of my older friends was complaining about his nephew (who was also present) stealing his expensive Viagra pills. The nephew, who was about 25, referenced the Joseph Wambaugh novel, “The Choirboys”. For those of you unfamiliar with the novel, the cops in the book had a rating system for women. No, not the usual numeric scale. Instead, they talked about how good of an erection they got from just looking at the particular woman. I don’t remember all of the classifications, but the top two were “blue veiner” and “diamond cutter”. The nephew answered the implied question about why would a young man steal Viagra by explaining that Viagra could transform an average erection into a “diamond cutter”.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 512
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Posted: 3/13/2012 9:58:32 PM

the nephew answered the implied question about why would a young man steal Viagra by explaining that Viagra could transform an average erection into a “diamond cutter”.


OK you can keep telling that lie but from personal experience it aint diamonds that thing is cutting. We are just hoping it will get through soft butter.
 smilesall4u
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 513
ED over 45
Posted: 3/15/2012 8:57:27 PM
Hi Ed
Nice to meet you. I feel bad for the man because this is really hard on there ego. Ya us women say it is ok but it isn;t right girls. Sex is important to keep a loving reltaionship alive, the harder it is the better we both feel it , I think the more you use it the better it works. What is wrong with these men that can take the little blue pill but won't holly it really works , jump over your pride and get enjoying, your the only one stopping your love life and a happy relationship, love is free and beautiful has been proven to help people with pain management, good for the soul. Find someone to love and truly love them before you make love to them and let the bodies slide)




 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 514
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Posted: 3/16/2012 9:37:01 AM
Hmmm There is something terribly wrong with your photo monetfrench. If it is actually of you, perhaps you should post a different one.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 515
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/16/2012 6:34:32 PM

The name DEMI MOORE comes to my mind. Do I really need to say more???


Demi spent hundreds of thousands on the best plastic surgeons money could buy.Maybe more.Surgery stems the tide for awhile and then usually crashes rapidly.What is her physical and mental state now from all this nonsense?Find a fit man,and better yet,start working on it yourself or your ability to attract the younger men will vanish soon.
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