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 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Thanks Brownlady. Can you please contact me? I try to contact you but get message that you only accept messages from people close by. I can understand why, but would like to chat.

Wish their was a block for men and women for: People who can't/won't enjoy full sexual contact during a relationship. (Would be nice if people would admit it.)

Think it is time to phrase a thread on how women cope with the stress put on them by the Ed over 45 that they run into in datingland, with comments from the men. Preferable comments that don't included "I will service you baby".
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 11/24/2009 2:52:05 PM
I do remember a man about 2 years ago.. he was trying to convince me to go on a cruise with him as the first time we meet. So he tells me how the last time he was on a cruise it was with a nurse and that she got upset that he couldnt perform...that she went ashore and used her being a nurse to get him "some blue pills" but he refused to take them and insisted that it was ALL her fault...he said when he and her had been engaged in foreplay that he wasnt even able to get his finger inside and that completely turned him off.

I had him repeat it and he was certain it was all her fault for being so tight that he couldnt get a finger inside that there was no way HE would fit. I asked if she had kids and he said two, and then I asked if it was natural and he said it was, not a C section. He firmly believed that he would not fit to the point that it prevented him from getting turned on enough. At the time I didnt know what to say but I do know that any woman that has had two kids naturally would not have a tightness issue.

Im not telling this for women to jump on men and say SEEE men do blame the women...Im hoping that again everyone will see that ED is real for some men and that some men do blame some women...no one needs to be pointing fingers, ...what we need to do is increase understanding and compassion so that situations like what happened between him and that nurse dont happen.

I couldnt imagine being stuck on a 7 day cruise with a man i just met...
 clockwork lime
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 53
ED over 45
Posted: 11/24/2009 3:11:51 PM
Perhaps men can fake ED to get out of very boring relationships.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
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Posted: 11/24/2009 3:16:15 PM
"what we need to do is increase understanding and compassion"

No, what we need to do is stay the h e ll away from these guys. WTF, the flip side is that "she" had too many children and is too big so he was turned off. Yes, it is all about him.

Man or women, there are some people in datingland who have issues, and I don't mean ED. These people just bring you down. I don't bother with these lifetimers, and I can't see why anyone else would.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 55
ED over 45
Posted: 11/24/2009 3:26:15 PM

Perhaps men can fake ED to get out of very boring relationships.


There was nothing at all boring about this man, he owned property in both places and wanted me to help him decorate both places, He sent me pictures of him in the property, one was very cool, it was in the downtown and the bottom was to be a restaurant and the top his loft home. He was well traveled, very intelligent, and had a good sense of humor...my reason for not acting on things was he had already without meeting me planned out our lives together to include where my 17 year old would go to college...and while I met him on match, his age on yahoo was 5 years older and then when he made up his myspace he put a completely different age and he gave me less than a week to decide and told me my college education was secondary to being involved with him....I guess controlling men arent my cup of tea.

However he was honest, in his way, about the ED. While he might have blamed the prior female in his life whom he said he really liked and they got along great outside of bed he was highly offended that she thought something was wrong with him and didnt understand it was her fault. If she had talked to him before insulting him by offering him the pills I dont think he would have felt so backed in a corner about things....good communications can solve lots of problems

I think when member of each sex use threads like this to poke fun of the other sex they are really showing how small minded they are....I am sure if something like this happens with someone you love at a later time in your lives you wont see the humor of your own jokes.
 clockwork lime
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 56
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Posted: 11/24/2009 4:02:42 PM
Haha, Saphireeyes, I wasn't suggesting that your relationship was boring. It was more of a general statement. I highly doubt that you would be capable of boring anybody.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 11/24/2009 4:37:38 PM
clockwork - msg 90

Perhaps men can fake ED to get out of very boring relationships.

If the relationship gets that boring, you don't have even to fake ED. The chips will automatically fall down.
 Free-At-Last
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/24/2009 6:07:46 PM

There was nothing at all boring about this man, he owned property in both places and wanted me to help him decorate both places,

Sorry Sapphire but what has any of that shyt got to do with him projecting his ED problems onto someone else?
If this situation was ever to arise (or not rise in this case) I would want to deal with the situation asap. I'm sure I would/could handle a man's ED problems with compassion and understanding if we had in fact experienced a satisfying sex life at one time...BUT to have to deal with it right off the bat in a new relationship would be rather devastating...especially if the man blamed his ED problems on the woman for not being able to turn him on!
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 11/24/2009 6:36:41 PM
Perhaps, FFS, you should assemble a set of appropriately appealing pictures and make either a calendar or DVD, and market it as an alternative to little blue pills! Males with ED could order online. Tastefully packaged editions could also be offered to the partners of suffering males for Valentine's gifts, rugged packages for romantic getaways, discrete packages for men in denial. I can see an entire spectrum of marketing opportunities! Think of a boxed set including a racy teddy for her and a sampling of card sized photos for him. You would, of course, be the model for the female attire........

Later, you can expand into blow up dolls and possibly even special editions for niche markets like S&M, B&D, maybe even get into.....

Well, my other ideas would be best discussed off line, I suspect......
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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Posted: 11/24/2009 6:53:33 PM
Well, you could start with kennel club members, I suppose......but according to this thread there should be hordes of men with limp willies even down at the local mall. Look for guys with salt and pepper hair, or all grey, or white!

Be discrete, however. I recall that some places still find the sale of racy pics in mall parking lots to be not only disgusting, but illegal as well.....

I wonder if dogs have problems with ED as they get older.
 MondoVman
Joined: 4/26/2009
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Posted: 11/24/2009 8:09:24 PM
Thinking of changing my middle name to ED and never mentioning it...

Gotta find a way to stem the tide of sex-starved lady POF posters from inquiring
after my heat seeking moisture missile's stiffiness.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 62
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Posted: 11/24/2009 8:21:58 PM
Sorry Sapphire but what has any of that shyt got to do with him projecting his ED problems onto someone else?
If this situation was ever to arise (or not rise in this case) I would want to deal with the situation asap. I'm sure I would/could handle a man's ED problems with compassion and understanding if we had in fact experienced a satisfying sex life at one time...BUT to have to deal with it right off the bat in a new relationship would be rather devastating...especially if the man blamed his ED problems on the woman for not being able to turn him on!


In my early 20's, I dated a man in his early 30's who was the only man in my life who had ever had it and I blamed myself. I recently caught up with him many years later via a popular social site and found out that he had been seeing/doing another woman while seeing me. He is currently 62 and fessed up to prostate issues and after being a legend in his own mind, is alone.

It is one thing to nurture and support someone with whom you once had an incredible sex life, and another with someone whom you meet at midlife who "projects" his issues upon you.

Not to be insensitive but...the man had best own up to his problem and have an incredible personality and we both enhance each others lives in other ways for me to want to deal with that.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 63
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Posted: 11/24/2009 9:02:19 PM
Widows, *thank you!!* That sooooooooo needed saying!

 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 11/24/2009 9:11:43 PM
Since ED is related to blood circulation, CARDIO CARDIO CARDIO exercise. I'm pushing 45, and, while I can't fvck 4-5 times a day anymore, 1-2 times a day is still easy. All I have to do is rub against a woman or kiss her, and the thing is at full mast! But I'm still slender and exercise daily (thanks, Mom, for the lightning-speed metabolism). Can't speak for other guys who have a bit of a weight problem.

Vitamin E is also good for the libido as well as the heart. Omega 3/4 fish oil, same deal.

Just say "no" to drugs. They all have side effects that are way worse than the ED, and tax the liver.

Plus, not all 45+ men's hearts are up for sex, and even drug manufacturers warn against the use of their ED drugs if a person is taking nitrates for chest pain or other BP medications.

So, basically, take care of the heart and exercise to stimulate good blood circulation, and, chances are, the blood will pump down to that vital member. Beyond that, nature has to take its course.
 Free-At-Last
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 65
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Posted: 11/24/2009 9:20:42 PM

I just have to say I'm so sexy and hot that even dogs get excited when they pass me in the street

^^^FFS^^^you crack me up everytime!

Patience and manual or oral stimulation along with the medication result in erections satisfactory for penetration. If an erection is lost, you just go back to foreplay.

Sorry Widowsdesire but this is where I start losing interest..Zzzzzzzzzzzzz
An erection SATISFACTORY ???? for penetration. Sounds like alot of work to me. This is when I would reach over to my bedside table and bring out my trustworthy friend B.O.B.


Love making sessions last hours and hours. If cialis is the medication of choice, often times a morning erection is present without additional stimulation, and is often the hardest erection of the day. This allows a more spontaneous encounter.

Really? Alrighty then...if that's the way it's gonna be ..how about you men take your cialis the night before and then give me a call first thing in the morning.

~ I know, I know...I'm just a cold-hearted, insensitive, shallow woman~
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 66
ED over 45
Posted: 11/25/2009 2:25:25 AM

Since men are mostly not eager to discuss this ... even with their best buds (Message 2) ... I seriously doubt that we'll ever really know how many men are affected by it.


I totally agree and think the numbers we are getting a far lower than what actually is.. Many men do not wish to even tell their doctor about it and keep it very secret. I know because some men I have helped lose weight will let me know when all of the sudden they are functioning again. Unfortunately that does not happen to often since most have been in this state a long time.

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 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 67
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Posted: 11/25/2009 2:50:10 AM

I wonder if dogs have problems with ED as they get older.


Have not met one yet that had a problem with it. However sperm concentration and motility is a problem in older dogs..

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 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
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Posted: 11/25/2009 3:07:11 AM
"sperm concentration and motility is a problem in older dogs"

both conditions, and overall sperm quality, go down with each decade in men. The risk of birth defects is not only due to the 40+ woman's contribution.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 11/25/2009 3:14:53 AM

the risk of birth defects is not only due to the 40+ woman's contribution.


Interesting in dogs what you see are no litters as a result or singleton litters..Same with cats by the way except we can't study their sperm under a microscope as we can with dogs.

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 rearguard*2
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Posted: 11/25/2009 5:07:16 AM
I am still stuck on the idea of a strap-on for dogs......

I guess reading all this stuff the thing I should do is wear a t-shirt that says "Hi, I don't need a little blue pill to perform in bed!"

I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all......
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 11/25/2009 5:12:46 AM
As far as "satisfactory for penetration" is concerned, I too was quite amazed when I first saw this criterion for determining whether someone had ED or not. However, on thinking a bit about it, I realized that its exactly correct. If you can achieve penetration you can reproduce, and after all, that is the biological necessity here. All of the pole dancing that can go on is, after all, incidental to the matter.

What is important biologically is that the man get up, get in and get off. The rest is just being polite!
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 72
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Posted: 11/25/2009 5:34:18 AM

I guess reading all this stuff the thing I should do is wear a t-shirt that says "Hi, I don't need a little blue pill to perform in bed!"
I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all..I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all.


I highly doubt that would improve anything and it could well work against you..

Nothing like viewing a walking advertisement..

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 rearguard*2
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Posted: 11/25/2009 5:59:56 AM

Nothing like viewing a walking advertisement..


Well, as far as I can tell, we are all walking advertisements. You can pretty much tell by looking at anybody just who they want you to think they are, and a good number tell you exactly who they are....
 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 74
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Posted: 11/25/2009 7:24:26 AM
I think...people who have that famous ED and want to be honest from the start of dating should have a nick name Eddie plus age number...
However...I'm not and I was never familiar with any ED...
But never say never...
 Pfilly08
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 75
ED over 45
Posted: 11/25/2009 8:25:09 AM

The best sexual relationship of my life has been with a man with ED. He told me about the issue before we became lovers, so I knew going in it was an issue. When we were at the point of becoming intimate, I viewed his ED, not at HIS problem, but as OUR problem. If we were to have a satisfying sexual relationship

we had to work together as a couple.

He needed more foreplay than men without this issue. Patience and manual or oral stimulation .


If two people brand new to a relationship have to "work" at romance from the very beginning of the relationship, it would make their chances of a relationship infinitely more difficult. Because for most women, oral sex is a far more "intimate" experience and takes time and trust to develop. I guess this is the challenge if what you say is true: romance should not be "work" :(
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