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 Ready_Real
Joined: 12/30/2010
Msg: 603
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….perhaps you need to buy some Viagra and slip it your friend’s oatmeal. You would be surprised at the difference it can make.




]Young men and men who don’t need Viagra who take it for ‘enhancement’ are probably gonna end up regretting it five or so years down the road when they are 40 – 45, whatever, and can no longer achieve erections without it. Messing with your blood pressure especially when you’re young seems to me to be a damn stupid thing to do.


The potential for serious side effects exists for 45+ men as well. And then there are those 45+ men who are in otherwise great physical fitness for whom neither viagara nor shots is effective. Perhaps (not that I'm an expert!) a man's losing his ability to maintain an erection is just another part of living at 45+: we begin to have knee problems and can no longer run long distances, shoulder problems making it harder to swim and lift, bursitis, osteoarthritis, tendinitis, all of which are apparently the "natural outcome" of years' worth of trying to live an active fit life -- according to both of my orthopedic surgeons. Who have also said, "The baby boomer generation is redefining aging as may simply refuse to give up their active lifestyles: hip, knee, replacements, rotator cuff surgeries, etc, are all dramatically increasing as this generation continues to age."
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 604
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Posted: 3/17/2012 11:47:01 AM
To the boob who advocated putting Viagra into the man's food, sub rosa, could very easily kill the man. Viagra should never be administered in combination with certain other drugs. The man may be taking these drugs on the hush-hush not wanting to bring up any health issues at that time. His discretion and her actions could have disastrous consequences.

Finally, this whole topic of assigning blame for erection difficulties is getting tedious. There are a lot of causes of ED. Many are not the man's fault. Many can be laid at the feet of women in how they treat their man. A lot come with the vagaries of age. For the past couple of weeks I have been fascinated reading up on a condition that has only recently been implicated in low testosterone production and levels in men: varicoceles. Think of it as varicose veins in the scrotum. It has also been implicated in male infertility.

A varicocele is a condition that a man has no control over, other than getting it corrected if necessary, and yet it's effects can be far reaching.

Diabetes, and other diseases that can impact the vascular system also cause ED.
None of these are the result of diet, lifestyle, or other controllable factors.

To be fair, why don't we start, or continue, a thread bashing women for age related conditions that may affect their ability to or enjoyment of intercourse.

Look, we are all suppose to be 45+ in this forum, let's respect that and recognize what that may encompass. Good grief, I can't run any more, well not suppose to, and my boy, on the cusp of manhood, is better than me in many physical arenas. But does that make me any less a man? I'll cut you some slack if you bless me with the same.

TK
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 605
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/17/2012 12:34:42 PM


To be fair, why don't we start, or continue, a thread bashing women for age related conditions that may affect their ability to or enjoyment of intercourse.

Look, we are all suppose to be 45+ in this forum, let's respect that and recognize what that may encompass. Good grief, I can't run any more, well not suppose to, and my boy, on the cusp of manhood, is better than me in many physical arenas. But does that make me any less a man? I'll cut you some slack if you bless me with the same.



Actually Im calling bullshit on 3/4 of this thread, I just ended a 3 1/2 year relationship with a 31 year old...so I know the difference between the AGES...

My first husband was 12 years older, he was 39 and I was 27...we were together for 10 years and never once did he have an issue with getting it up... we didn't have sex that often but when we did it wasn't an issue.

My second husband was 12 years younger...he never had an issue at all!

The last one had no issues but in the period of time I was dating before we met, I met quite a few men my age.

They were all exciting, they were all professional, they all had their shit together and knew the meaning of the word "Romance". A few told me that Ed might be an issue but I never actually experienced it but with one man who I was involved with for 4 months and even that one time we both got were we wanted...(I had a bit of lockjaw the next day but hey..it was worth it).

It isnt a MAN or a WOMAN issue ...it is a couple's issue...and that is why I don't have a problem with men with ED, cause Im not involving myself for hook-up sex. If you cant take the time to get to know the person you will be waking up beside of ...you dont deserve mind blowing sex; that goes for men and women!

For the women who are screaming men over a certain age aren't attractive, I am total awe of some of the men who are writing to me, seriously I go WTF ...that dude has it going on, they are the real deal and soooo totally MALE...Im an overweight college student ...where the connection??? They aren't even hitting on me for a hook-up ...they all want more ..they recognize the value of more..that isnt saying that each one of them and me can work...no that is a different story cause there is more to life and love than that...Im not who or what I need to be at this moment in my life so Im backing off but I am seriously overjoyed to find men of this caliber being interested in me!

If the constant negative posters would reexamine themselves and see the reason they are having the results they are...IT'S YOU!!!!! not the opposite sex that is the issue...it is your limited mental ability to see past your own nose...you are attracting the wrong person cause of the negative vibes you have coming off of you.

Sure some men will have health issues but nothing that we as a couple cant find a way around; but that takes honesty...it takes trust and it takes a positive winning attitude of YES, WE CAN (sorry obama but it seems to fit)!
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 606
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Posted: 3/17/2012 1:07:02 PM

...it takes trust and it takes a positive winning attitude of YES, WE CAN (sorry obama but it seems to fit)!

Talking about presidential attitude, YES, Giggles for President!
 bcolliemom
Joined: 11/16/2010
Msg: 607
ED over 45
Posted: 3/17/2012 1:21:10 PM
Some blood pressure medicines can also cause this.
 statemachine500
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 608
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/17/2012 7:36:11 PM
On occasion I might use Cialis if I am expecting a big night.Keeping bodyfat down to abs at least somewhat visible and NOT loading yourself up with big carb meals(pasta)should lessen or eliminate any elevation of BP.Unless people are using huge doses...
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 609
ED over 45
Posted: 3/19/2012 2:39:58 PM
^^^You certainly seem fixated on penis's as well as ED or DE or whatever else your little mind calls it. Best to leave the real men for the real women - I find your continued posts regarding men and their penis's boring, trite, attention seeking, troll like, condescending and disrespectful.

And maybe do the men folk a favour and leave them alone - it sounds like you have had way too many men in your life, in your bed and in your body already.....just sayin.

Maybe contibute something meaningful or worthwhile to the thread instead of a constant need to bash both by this profile name and your other one.
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 610
ED over 45
Posted: 3/19/2012 2:52:02 PM
It is 50% for anyone over 45 and about 80% for over 50 and it gets worse.
Unless they are medicated. If they are already ill, they can't be medicated


Some of us who have never had that issue, take much more issue with obviously made-up statistics like those..

Unless you can reference a source besides personal anecdotes, we may feel free to disregard any and all further references made to that particular issue with that seeming envy of tissue...
 Plenty_of_FreeTime
Joined: 10/26/2011
Msg: 611
ED over 45
Posted: 3/19/2012 6:12:25 PM
Maybe "otterplay" just doesn't know how to turn a guy on,just sayin'!
She claims to have dated 5 men in a row with ED,that's pretty friggin hard to believe!
 The Waiting Knight
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 612
ED over 45
Posted: 3/19/2012 8:53:55 PM
Actually Viagra was invented for low blood pressure. Then a funny thing happened on the way to the forum.

Also diabetes and heart medications are overwhelmingly contributing to ED. It is just a side effect the meds have. Let's face it you fix one condition but create another. For otterface to be so insensitive really says a lot about her character as well as her bedside manner. I place her in the category that Redd Foxx put Eleanor Roosevelt ...... a perpetual soft-on. I have this issue because of the meds but it does not happen all the time. The main thing is to tell your partner. I was embarrassed at first but after some soul searching I felt she had a right to know. It makes your relationship stronger. I also have found that everyone has a "spot". ED or not if your partner directs her attention to it then everyone will be satisfied.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 613
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Posted: 3/23/2012 10:42:16 AM
You should count on most men over 50 having an ED problem, and if you find one that doesn't....well, good for you! But if you make his penis the focus of your relationship, 7 times out of 10, you will be sadly disappointed!
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 614
ED over 45
Posted: 3/23/2012 12:02:43 PM
@BlackLady

Bullshit...SOME men have an issue and SOME women have issues as well...to generalize ALL or MOST based on your personal experience or in an attempt to make yourself feel better at the expense of others shows who has the most issues.

Has anyone else noticed that the women with the bad attitudes are the ones who have the trouble with guys with ED? Maybe the guy is pretending cause he realized they werent worth a woody!
 Giggles10000
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 615
ED over 45
Posted: 3/23/2012 12:25:02 PM

You should count on most men over 50 having an ED problem, and if you find one that doesn't....well, good for you! But if you make his penis the focus of your relationship, 7 times out of 10, you will be sadly disappointed!

I am glad you could view that post in a better light than me but it just seemed that she was mocking men by saying SHOULD vs COULD; 7 out of 10, where did she get this stat from? Sadly disappointed; seriously do you really think the woman is more disappointed than the man? and the good for you, no actually is it good for both!

...I think this type of attitude is only adding to the issues vs being positive and coming up with solutions...maybe POF should add a box about under the "Do you have a car?" that says, "Do you have any sexual issues?"
 billdawg777
Joined: 1/22/2012
Msg: 616
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/24/2012 8:28:56 AM
Sometimes this disfunction,if you would is not physical at all, but mental,,,an emotional hang up,,such as an overwhelming inferiority complex,,or guilt,,i know some guys have physical problems,,but what ive seen its usually mental or emotional
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 617
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/24/2012 8:43:18 AM
^^^I understand this completely. I know that when it came to the first time after being widowed I had this mental block as I had been having sex with only my husband for 31 years (and I'm sure it's the same for men). We do the old - "am I still sexy, can I still turn someone on, can I give them pleasure, will I get turned on, what do they like, how do I ask for what I like", etc. and it even gets down to the old "will they think I'm too old, will they notice the ceasarian scar, my breasts aren't as perky as they used to be" and on and on. And with men they have the "will it rise to attention". Stressful for both genders.

I think patience, common sense and a sense of humour goes a long way. And if there are real medical issues just get them taken care of. I could care less if someone needed help with the little blue pill.

Again, both genders have issues in this area in our 50's and beyond, it's just a little easier for us women to hide them. A mature, understanding and loving partner will help both men and women enjoy life to the fullest.
 Krissie59
Joined: 10/15/2010
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Posted: 3/25/2012 5:46:56 PM
It's very unfortunate this happens. Women in general take better care of themselves and this really shows once you get older. Most ED I would guess is caused by "heart disease" and/or increased triglycerides in your blood. The clots form at the end of your appendages first, meaning your tallywacker. Lose weight, watch salt intake, drink less or give it up completely, watch your fat intake and exercise. ED is probably one of the first symptoms of heart disease.

Yes. It could be due to a "neurological" problem, but most people don't have "neurological problems." If you do have a "neurological problem" I would wonder if you did drugs because drugs cause brain injury.

How can you tell if the erections are because of the "little blue pill or not?" Because the erections are not consistent. One day, 3 inches and semi-soft, the next week rock hard and 7 inches. Not rocket science. Carry on.
 hugehank2
Joined: 10/19/2007
Msg: 619
ED over 45
Posted: 3/25/2012 6:36:11 PM
I'm liking G10000's attitude a whole lot; she gets it. Figuratively and more than likely physically too.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 3/25/2012 11:57:54 PM

Has anyone else noticed that the women with the bad attitudes are the ones who have the trouble with guys with ED? Maybe the guy is pretending cause he realized they werent worth a woody!

Good point! Women with bad attitude could deflate all kinds of things.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 621
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Posted: 3/26/2012 12:01:59 AM

It could be due to a "neurological" problem,

Also due to meteorological conditions. In cold weather, most hard objects contract to some degree.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 622
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Posted: 3/26/2012 7:24:56 PM
No. I have been with a man for over three years. He has prostate cancer but will do nothing about it. As he says he's "going to the grave with it". In the beginning it was absolutely fantastic. He was very well endowed and sex was wonderful. After a prostate biopsy he couldn't maintain an erection, even with Cialis. Now we don't have sex anymore. He tries with the drug but after so much uh, stimilation, he seems ready but it just goes soft. I still care about him though he can be very callous, but our sex life is over. What do I do?
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 623
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Posted: 3/26/2012 7:30:12 PM
After hardly encountering it at all, in the last two years I'm finding a large percentage of the men I encounter have ED. I'm getting a complex. Even the younger ones. I think there's a number of reasons. Some of the guys, it's age, though I've had an occasional lover in his 60s who does not have that problem. A lot of the guys are on antidepressants or haven't been with a woman in years. It's frustrating.


I still care about him though he can be very callous, but our sex life is over. What do I do?

Ask him to get a strap-on? And if he won't, tell him you're going to take a lover?
 TheRooster61
Joined: 3/27/2012
Msg: 624
ED over 45
Posted: 4/4/2012 1:28:58 PM
ED is not due to infrequent sex. There are many causes for this issue. Low testosterone, complications from diabetes, other circulatory ailments and conditions etc. What is important is that men who have the condition be upfront and honest about it with themselves and with their potential or actual partners. Even without full performance, or any performance, if you know your partner and take her needs and feelings into 1st priority, there are plenty of ways for both partners to have a satisfying sexual relationship.
mr. happy. pe you shouldn't have a "school of thought" on this issue if you've never experienced it. Your ideas only breed mis information about the issue. Get some education on the subject and be grateful that you havent experienced ED..
 goonerguy
Joined: 6/27/2007
Msg: 625
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Posted: 4/5/2012 6:03:02 PM
Sex is a physical activity and like all physical activities, you have to be in shape. If you are over weight, don't exercise, and expect to be able to enjoy sex, you are living in a dream world and no pill will ever help you.
 BlondeBeauty223
Joined: 3/20/2012
Msg: 626
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 4/9/2012 10:51:06 AM
I've run into this problem on more occasions than I thought I would. I would say that 85% of the men I've dated in the last year had this problem. What really bothered me was that it wasn't mentioned before we got the the point in the relationship where we were intimate; I understand it's a sensative subject, but before I spent weeks/months getting to know the man I would have liked a heads up to the problem. I'm still a young, passionate woman who needs that physical contact with a man so this is EXTREMELY important to me.

I was told by these men that we could do other "things" to satisfy me. After trying I say "no thanks" because I can take care of myself better than anyone else can. Guess I'm a D*** girl!
 Welsh474
Joined: 9/13/2010
Msg: 627
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 4/9/2012 1:12:36 PM
"I've run into this problem on more occasions than I thought I would. I would say that 85% of the men I've dated in the last year had this problem." So, back with a new name and same old message.

What makes me wonder is how many exactly is 85%. So, 85% of the 3 men you dated? 85% of the 25 men you dated? How many guys have you dated in the last year? And getting to the intimate stage with all of them?? Really.

Have you considered what the common denominator is?
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