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 Lisa!!!
Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 187
ED over 45Page 7 of 36    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36)
AMEN! At our age, what else do we need a man for?

Take note: my mother is 76, and so is her bf. No ED issues there (or so she says!)
 Lisa!!!
Joined: 5/28/2006
Msg: 188
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 1/13/2010 5:21:51 AM
no, no, no. Rub our feet, too! And we will recipricate in SO many ways!
 ItsJustMe1956
Joined: 9/27/2008
Msg: 192
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/14/2010 8:51:35 PM

Does anyone know of a drug that has the opposite effect of Calis and Viagara?


Marriage...
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 193
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/15/2010 6:52:13 AM
There are women in the world that literally taste sweet to me. Once you experience that, it is very hard to carry on with one that does not.

And, its not about painting the body or lips with sugar or maple syrup or some such mechanism. I used to think that expressions like "She is so sweet" referred to personality, but discovered that there are those for which the expression is literal at a very personal level.

Same kind of thing goes for smell, and here I refer not to poor hygene,but rather the harmony of a natural odour which one finds appealing in the opposite sex.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 194
ED over 45
Posted: 1/15/2010 11:08:29 AM
Not going to go google this, but I've read somewhere, recently, that women at least do not respond to the pheromones of those that resemble her own family (father, brothers, cousins). Just Ma Nature's protective mechanisms. I expect the same would be true for men, though the study didn't cover that.

And woe to us where the pheromones are right, but the life path is wrong. Dang! With all the roadblocks in place, it is a miracle that we *ever* find each other.

And yet, we duz!!
 1776or1984
Joined: 12/25/2009
Msg: 196
ED over 45
Posted: 1/15/2010 10:46:13 PM
Silly ladies, I said if it was a health problem related to an addiction, drugs, eating too much, drinking. If someone had cancer, that wouldn't reflect badly on the guy, it wouldn't be his fault.

Not worried about offending anyone on here. The lack of realistic expectations present is enormous but quite entertaining.

Why make apologies for a guy with a problem caused by his lifestyle choices, just pick a guy with his priorities straightened out, one that can push himself away from the bottle or dinner table?

And virility has always been part of being considered a man, it always will be. You guys can push your political correctness as hard as you want, you won't stamp out human nature, you will just be setting your movement up for a huge backlash.

Such is life.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 197
ED over 45
Posted: 1/18/2010 7:45:37 PM
And virility has always been part of being considered a man, it always will be. You guys can push your political correctness as hard as you want

Science ain't PC.
Half the Man His Father Was? | RHRealityCheck.org
Studies are showing dramatic drops in sperm counts and rising rates of ... sperm counts have dropped fifty percent over the last 50 years, and several new studies suggest that testosterone levels may have declined 1% per year for the past 40-50 .... A (BPA) is one of the highest volume chemicals produced worldwide. ...
www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2008/06/13/half-man-his-father-was


We've let major corporations poison our water, air, food all in the name of profit. Welcome to 1984.

 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 198
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/20/2010 6:30:05 AM
I thought while reading that joke that it was going to be funny right up until the punch line....
 Birkoboy
Joined: 9/6/2008
Msg: 199
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/21/2010 5:28:59 PM
I totally agree with your comments. A man should NOT be written off or sneered at just because he still prefers younger women. What the hell is wrong with that?

These older women should desist from sneering at older men. After all, they should remember that it works both ways - meaning that a lot of women over 50 still prefer younger men, or "toy boys."
 Yankee again
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 200
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 1/21/2010 5:37:23 PM
ED is a serious issue. In most cases the little blue pill works( Viagra). If it does not he needs to look at his life style and see a DR again. Drinking in men over 45 makes for ED. Men will not admit to that but it is a fact of life. Diabetics and blood pressure meds take a toll as well. ED can be over come. With the help of a medical prefessional. If your man won't go. Move on. It is not worth the aggravation. Sex should be enjoyed by both sexes, not one. And the frustration of ED is not on the male alone. It is frustrating for the female as well. Been there done that .....
 YourLightHouse
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 201
ED over 45
Posted: 1/21/2010 5:57:49 PM
Are you even trying to suggest that a lot of the men who have ED are bad people?? What kind of an idiotic presumption is that?

Are you by any chance related to Rev. Pat Robertson?
 YourLightHouse
Joined: 1/15/2009
Msg: 202
ED over 45
Posted: 1/21/2010 5:59:33 PM
My previous comment was for Miss W btw.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 203
ED over 45
Posted: 1/21/2010 9:05:42 PM
Nope, Just4, you don't. It's not lack of wanting to, needing to, it's just lack of being *able* to. And it's no damn fun. For anyone.

 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 204
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Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 1/22/2010 5:09:31 AM
I am starting to think it has a lot to do with the dating choices older guys make... I've seen those addicted to compulsive variety, young hotties and other angles running into some serious kink..... which just may be coping strategies to get the soldier back at attention.... seems 'The Old Ways' aren't quite as effective as they once were... just an observation.

Maybe a personality type issue however... like what came first the emotion or the hard on or vice versa?

I suppose that there are those who never used their emotions or how to find satisfaction there and are desperately seeking a sexual gratification instead.... with any means possible.

It's complex how each man deals with the arrival of Ed and it's variations.

Kinda like us coming thru the other side of menopause... some of us are lucky and some not, in the whoopee department... and even that's either a blessing or a curse depending on your point of view of course !
 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
Msg: 205
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Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 1/22/2010 8:35:42 AM

It's complex how each man deals with the arrival of Ed and it's variations.


You mean its inevitable? That thought has ruined my week!

I wonder if their are specific exercises you can do to stave of the arrival? Choking the chicken regularly, perhaps?
 rustytraveler
Joined: 4/30/2007
Msg: 206
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/22/2010 9:06:55 AM
am happy to report that the little guy still stands at attention and salutes his commander every morning, unless it's a cold morning. Then he puts on a turtleneck and hibernates.


some are more blessed than others....... Just4-4ums and Rear excluded from the 'average'....of course ;)
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 207
ED over 45
Posted: 1/26/2010 9:43:50 PM
Can they not spell V I A G R A?????????

It's a myth that Viagra is going to fix everyone. Of the four men I've been with in the past 20 years who have had ED, Viagra and it's cousins worked for one of them. And that unreliably ~~ after a six to 12 hour lag time. Sometimes.

We keep thinking that pollution and plastics are just a part of our lives, and we can't change it, so we don't even try. But in fact, our males are being affected by it a great deal more than we are. But then we have to deal with it, too, don't we?

 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 208
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Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 1/26/2010 9:48:23 PM

I've seen those addicted to compulsive variety, young hotties and other angles

It's not just any angle. From the resting position to the lift-off point, it is about 135% angle.
 MAGIC_MARCO
Joined: 11/16/2007
Msg: 209
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ED over 45
Posted: 1/26/2010 9:58:01 PM
I kinda hate to e x t e n d this thread any l o n g e r but here it comes, anyway:



The body builder takes off his shirt (I think they were on their third or fourth POF date)
and the blonde says,
"What a Great chest you have!'



He tells her,
'That's 100 lbs. of dynamite, Baby.'

He takes off his pants and the blonde says,'
"What massive calves you have!'


The body builder tells her,
'That's 100 lbs. of dynamite, Baby..'

He then removes his underwear and
the blonde goes running out of the
apartment screaming in fear.

The body builder puts his clothes
back on and chases after her.
He catches up to her and asks why
she ran out of the apartment like that.

The blonde replies,
'I was afraid to be around all that dynamite
after I saw how short the fuse was!'
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 210
ED over 45
Posted: 1/31/2010 8:21:58 AM
Widows, I tend to agree, overall. None of the fellas had emotional issues that I could detect, and indeed we managed a satisfactory sex life. The one it worked for, kinda, was a colorectal cancer survivor with preexisting circulation problems (inferior vena cava occlusion), who was very proactive. The others: two diabetes (Type II, one insulin dependent, one not), and one prostate cancer survivor. Three were orgasmic, and the other one close. A different three were very into alternative medicine/OTC supplements. All, as nearly as I can tell worked with their doctors, tried different dosages and brands/types. Testosterone checked and supplemented, as needed (or possible). Age range -- 63 to 67. And none of the relationships ended because of the issue.

Trooth is, I really have no complaints; I just wanted to observe for the guys/gals who think they need do nothing and just hit their doctor for a script come the day are playing a very risky game.

 Heroness
Joined: 1/6/2010
Msg: 211
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 2/2/2010 5:55:14 PM
I am fairly new to POF, but not so new to ED. I have been reading this thread, skipping about, choosing a statement here and there. The man in my life had prostate cancer. He was left impotent. I hate that word. It's so negative!!!.
You, know what. IT DOESN'T MATTER! Yes, there is no fluid, but he can...YES, he can enjoy all the rest. Maybe that's not true for all men. How would you know though, if you never try? By the way when women lose rigidity, does that mean they cannot have a sex life? No!
My doctor and good friend let me in on a secret, early in my fellow's recovery. Her husband had the same surgery. She said, "Sex can still be good."
I get so angry, when I hear women (and men) talk as if there can never again be satisfying experiences. Stop making your men feel worthless. Get back in the game and find out just how much joy you can still have.
Even the media makes ED sound like the end of the world. It's not. It's just a change, a time to explore, to discover new, and renew old pleasures. Just do it!
If ED is a fact and a medication helps, great. If the medication is ineffective, make your own kind of love! Be a woman here!
 Heroness
Joined: 1/6/2010
Msg: 212
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/2/2010 6:14:33 PM
I wanna talk seriously to women about ED.
I am fairly new to POF, but not so new to ED. I have been reading this thread, skipping about, choosing a statement here and there. The man who blessed my life life had prostate cancer. He was left impotent. I hate that word. It's so negative!!!.
You, know what. IT DOESN'T MATTER! Yes, there is no fluid, but he can. YES, he can enjoy all the rest. Maybe that's not true for all men. How would you know though, if you never try? By the way when women lose rigidity, does that mean they cannot have a sex life? No!
My doctor and good friend let me in on a secret, early in my fellow's recovery. Her husband had the same surgery. She said, "Sex can still be good."
I get so angry, when I hear women (and men) talk as if there can never again be satisfying experiences. Stop making your men feel worthless. Get back in the game and find out just how much joy you can still have.
Even the media makes ED sound like the end of the world. It's not. It's just a change, a time to explore, to discover new, and renew old pleasures. Just do it!
If ED is a fact in your life and a medication helps, great. If the medication is ineffective, make your own kind of love! We did, and were VERY happy! Be a woman here!
 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 214
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:37:31 PM
Honestly, I'd wish I had ED after reading some of the posts on this tiopic. Life would be so uncomplicated, peaceful and worry free. There's something very unappealling about a woman who posts as if life sucks if she doesn't have a hard penis stuffed in her.... especially this over 45 crowd.

I get the impression, for all intents and purposes, some women are dating penis... not men.
What a complicated way to live.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 215
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:50:45 PM

I get the impression, for all intents and purposes, some women are dating penis... not men.


Dang you must have been on some of the dates I had...that was what they seemed to be :P

Sorry but that was just to good to resist...but seriously if someone has Ed and someone else can not find it in themselves to be charitible about it...I cant imagine how some poor woman with breast cancer would feel reading this thread...are people really so mean and bitter and cruel just cause they got old? Life happens...I have met a few men who had an issue but it was approached in a straight forward manner and it wasnt a real issue...I was smiling all day long the next day!
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 216
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/4/2010 10:12:58 AM
If the man can't get an erection and give you a good bang, what good sex can that be?

Live and learn, Grasshopper. . . .

Hope you manage to find out before you die. (You're not even close, now.)

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