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 My I
Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 214
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Honestly, I'd wish I had ED after reading some of the posts on this tiopic. Life would be so uncomplicated, peaceful and worry free. There's something very unappealling about a woman who posts as if life sucks if she doesn't have a hard penis stuffed in her.... especially this over 45 crowd.

I get the impression, for all intents and purposes, some women are dating penis... not men.
What a complicated way to live.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 215
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/3/2010 5:50:45 PM

I get the impression, for all intents and purposes, some women are dating penis... not men.


Dang you must have been on some of the dates I had...that was what they seemed to be :P

Sorry but that was just to good to resist...but seriously if someone has Ed and someone else can not find it in themselves to be charitible about it...I cant imagine how some poor woman with breast cancer would feel reading this thread...are people really so mean and bitter and cruel just cause they got old? Life happens...I have met a few men who had an issue but it was approached in a straight forward manner and it wasnt a real issue...I was smiling all day long the next day!
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 216
ED: as a serious topic
Posted: 2/4/2010 10:12:58 AM
If the man can't get an erection and give you a good bang, what good sex can that be?

Live and learn, Grasshopper. . . .

Hope you manage to find out before you die. (You're not even close, now.)

 lonelydavid77
Joined: 5/7/2007
Msg: 219
ED over 45
Posted: 2/6/2010 1:52:17 PM

...Are women like us being completely unrealistic about hoping to meet these sorts of men over 40?..


Being well past the age of 45, and having a few of the minor setbacks of ED, tho not as full blown as some, it is not unrealistic to hope to meet a man who can keep the excitement in the "romance" because of the ED. There are other ways, as have been shared above, the biggest thing I see as the problem is the man's ego. If handled in the right frame of mind, he can and will be as good as or even better than his younger years.

Truth is, as a man slowly develops this problem, if his partners are willing, he will discover ways of making it great for both. I know from what I have been told in my own situation, it is possible to have great sex at any age.
 smile9999
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 220
ED over 45
Posted: 2/6/2010 4:38:41 PM
Miss W, you sound like a great doctor, and a great woman
 landzi
Joined: 3/27/2009
Msg: 223
ED over 45
Posted: 2/17/2010 5:17:22 AM
i totaly agree with you on that note, furthermore i can testefy to that form of therapy and plus woman now adays is so commercial and lack human nature see we are human subject to the cruelty of time. we man should all proposition the creator and have him up grade our lonjevity . also i am sure if some of those men have better and capable woman in their lives mentaly nutritionly spiritualy or spend enough time taking care of the sex as they do bashing man for something god and wimen did. woman just selfish and dont give a shit about nothing but themselves.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 225
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ED over 45
Posted: 2/18/2010 7:33:21 PM
Since many bodily functions are directly related to the blood flow, EECP (Enhanced external counter-pulsation - typically used for heart-related complications) treatment can often help with this problem.
Unfortunately, Canadian health system doesn't cover this type of treatment, but many other other countries, including USA (approved by FDA and covered by most insurance companies) do.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 226
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Posted: 2/18/2010 11:55:17 PM
My buddy has a friend named Ed who was stricken with ED due to a car accident. We do feel sorry for him and his wife ... though the humor in that kills me.
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 228
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Posted: 2/19/2010 1:34:33 PM
Passion is the best cure for ED. And a passion for cardio exercise will AGGRESSIVELY cure ED, because cardio exercise gets the blood pumping. Since ED is related to poor blood circulation, nothing like getting the heart pumping like a metronome on high speed to get the stuff pumping again. Pumping into every part of the body...including that vital extremity! But, if the heart is frail, due to years of neglect or simply old age, well, can't expect an old-timer to have the stamina of a young buck.

At 45, ED isn't too much of a problem, but I have been depressed about not being able to make a living in this shitty economy, and depression will cause, among other things, a lack of interest in sex. However, sex is the very thing that can cure depression, so...it's a cycle.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 230
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Posted: 3/10/2010 6:22:14 PM
My buddy has a friend named Ed who was stricken with ED due to a car accident. We do feel sorry for him and his wife ... though the humor in that kills me


You would of had a field day had his name been****........

Uhmm?? Vixen ... had his name been *what*?? Because the system censored your reply, I'm scratching my head wondering what you meant?? Tried various combinations of male names that can be associated with ED. Nahdah.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
Msg: 231
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Posted: 3/10/2010 8:27:55 PM
As Forest Gump would say ...

"It happens".

Or

"Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get."

As long as man has no problem using the medication (some health issues do not allow the use of ED medications or manifest some really nasty side effects for the man) I see no reason to be concerned with ED. Personally, I've never been in such a rush that I don't have the time to "play" around until he feels he can do whatever he wants to do.

What's important is that intimate partners be honest with each other ... men and women alike.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 233
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/11/2010 1:22:49 PM
@ exquisite woman:
I do dig where you are comin' from. I have certain standards, too. I simply refuse to date any woman who has had a lobotomy, for instance. Odds are extremely high that, being without detectable cerebral activity, she'd just lay there, being nothing more than a receptacle for a Kielbasa, literal or figurative. That's much too close to necrophilia for my taste. (yes, yes, I know it's a big word. Sometimes we brainy guys need to exercise our intellects as much as we do the chorizo).

Yeppers, gots ta have standards, I does.
 Padawan61
Joined: 3/1/2008
Msg: 234
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Posted: 3/11/2010 11:00:09 PM
padawan..
it's D i c k

I'm afraid that Dic.k and/or Peter just doesn't seem to have that nice ring to it as someone named Ed strickened with ED.
 cotter
Joined: 10/17/2005
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Posted: 3/12/2010 8:46:11 PM
Message 421 ... At least you're up front about it and truthful. As is obvious in various different threads, there will be some women who cannot or will not deal with an ED problem.

But as mentioned, sometimes a man doesn't have a choice if there is a physical problem ... such as diabetes or as mentioned prostate problems or even a person might have cardiovascular problems or depression and using medications for those problems usually contributes to ED.
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 236
ED over 45
Posted: 3/13/2010 5:33:16 AM

....if the man can't get it going in the bedroom...i want nothing to do with him...the bedroom is one of the most important part of a relationship to me...if he has to take a pill for his manly-hood to get going...forget it...who wants to wait for that...what do you say...hunny is the pill working yet?

I simply can't imagine living for my genitals - but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

I also couldn't imagine being so narrow-minded about men with E.D. Over the last few years, I've dated a couple of men that needed Viagra due to circulatory problems. Big damned deal - so they had to pop a pill. I personally think it's wonderful that this medication is available. And I'm not so damned selfish that I couldn't wait 20 minutes or half an hour for it to kick in, either.

Sometimes I'm honestly embarrassed for my gender when I read ignorant, selfish garbage like this post I've quoted.
 soicat
Joined: 3/3/2010
Msg: 237
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/16/2010 5:23:19 PM

As a man who suffers from ED, let me tell you a few things. Emotions, whether a man will admit it or not, are tied into the act of sexual intercourse. Whether it's love, or just trying to make your partner feel good, emotions are involved. Personally, with a patient lover, I can achieve full erection. I just have a problem reaching orgasm.


Love has nothing to do with it. You need to see a good doctor. An endocrinologist who knows what he's doing may be able to get you back on track. Low testosterone is a common reason for ED, and it has causes a lot of problems even if you don't care much about sex.
 jackster121
Joined: 9/2/2008
Msg: 238
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Posted: 3/19/2010 7:36:01 PM
I am 55 with ED and the meds do not work. So I had a penile implant and can be hard at will for as long as I like. It's like being 18 all over again. lol
 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 240
ED over 45
Posted: 3/21/2010 9:09:54 PM
tallblondeswan:
Just because you see a younger woman with a much older man doesn't mean they are having sex. I worked with a young woman who was dating a man in his fifties. She said he was impotent but she didn't care because he gave her $500 every weekend to go shopping. Hush money?


Damn, why didn't I get me one of those impotent guys when I was in my 20's to supplement my shopping addiction...ummm... even now would work. J/K
 mahalo2010
Joined: 3/15/2010
Msg: 241
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/24/2010 12:59:49 PM
What curious crap! Last year, I had a scare, prostate cancer - maybe, and it kicked me off my game. Anyway, it can and does affect your abilities. The mind can do strange things to the body.

By the way, once I got out of my teens, I discovered that I wanted, no needed, an emotional connection to have worthwhile sex. Without that connection, I'd have to be drunk. This macho attitude "gets it up or he doesn't" shows just how ignorant and stupid some men can be...

Ladies, being patient in bed isn't pressure, its common sense. Fellas, it works both ways.
 calisto04
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 243
ED over 45
Posted: 3/25/2010 6:05:34 PM

I mean after all, you just have to spread your legs.
You're right, we don't have to care bout a man or want to be with him, all we have to do is spread our legs. But then you probably wouldn't get the more sensitive and understanding lady, just the one who spreads here legs.

I guess some men just have one thing on their mind and really don't want to have anything with a woman other than sex. That's despicable and if I had a man who treated me like that with his sexual wishes, he might want to pray for ED because he wouldn't get close to me.
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
Joined: 11/26/2008
Msg: 244
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Posted: 3/26/2010 1:16:51 PM

Again, just to reiterate, ED is psychological in most cases. That means that guy is not aroused. It is not anybody's fault. It is what it is. For guys like that, regular vanilla sex doesn't do it. That is why porn and/or masturbation usually produces wood, whereas the real vanilla thing does not. Men like that need to have more to achieve the same level of arousal that they might have had at 18 when anything sexual was enough to do the job. After awhile, the mind becomes accustomed to ordinary sex, and there isn't enough for arousal anymore. Thus the need for fetishes, S&M, B&D, threesomes, orgies, latex, PVC, leather, anything that puts a new spin on the old routine.

Women might experience the same thing, but they do not need to "perform" for intercourse to take place.


*Just threw up a lil bit*
I am thinking this attitude is exactly why women would prefer to not get involved with a man with ED. Hopefully this attitude is not prevalent in men.
 calisto04
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 245
ED over 45
Posted: 3/26/2010 1:50:26 PM

You will note that men with ED can get an erection with porn.
Again, just to reiterate, ED is psychological in most cases.
That's not true. Sounds like someone is getting their information from the inside of their eyeballs. If that were the case, then there would be no need for ED medications. Just throw a movie in the ole VCR or DVD player. While it may be true for a few men, most of the ED problems are not "psychological".

What is true is that men with ED can get orgasms but I can imagine it's just not as much fun to come to orgasm without the erection.

http://www.firstmed.co.uk/articles/erectile-dysfunction-and-psychology.php
Psychological Impotence (Erectile dysfunction)

In the past, most cases of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) were considered primarily psychological and/or psychiatric in origin. It is now well-recognized that organic, non-psychological causes of ED play a much more significant role in the development of ED. Most researchers agree that pure psychological (emotional) mechanisms cause 15% to 20% of cases, whereas physical causes are responsible for at least 80% of ED cases.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 246
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Posted: 3/26/2010 4:37:21 PM
Mr. Happy - msg 453

Why not ask the man to give you references from some of his past partners that his equipment is in good working order before you agree to date him? Make certain the references are recent.

Something like eBay feedback - you can dispense positive, negative or neutral assessments.
Originally, you got there only one point for each business partner (seller or buyer - regardless of how many transactions were made between each buyer and seller), but I think, now they count every encounter.
They even have a buyer protection plan - if you don't like the goods, you can get quickly out of the deal.
 calisto04
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 247
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/26/2010 6:45:19 PM

Since it's always a woman's fault that a man has ED and not due to a REAL medical condition like oh say diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity, medication side effects, etc., a referral from a woman whom he finds more or less attractive than me means shyte.
My mother is a nurse and she has told me all about that, and all about men who are all talk and no do and then want to blame it on the woman. It happens a lot with men over 50 and most of them will not tell you up front about it either. They just wait for an intimate moment and when things don't go good, they blame it on the woman.

Most men who have ED also have diabetes or heart problems or depression problems. There is no mistaking it if they have diabetes, it's all about the neuropathy and no fooling around, all diabetics get that. The penis is usually the first to be affected by it. With the depression, it's the medications that keep them from getting the erection and with the hight blood pressure it's the anti-hypertensives that cause the lack of erection.

Of course, when one considers that, it's clear that being stricken with all that could cause "psychological" problems.

LMAO, I think it's pretty much a given that if a man is on a dating site bragging of his sexual prowess, there's probably ED problems and getting on line to brag about himself or offer himself up is the only satisfaction he gets.


I am thinking this attitude is exactly why women would prefer to not get involved with a man with ED.

As I posted in post #406, that is exactly why I want nothing to do with a man with ED... where I was once open to the idea, the ignorance that I've seen on these threads has left me cold.
I know if I didn't have a partner and was wanting one that I would not have anything to do with a man with ED because of the attitudes and the ignorance.
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 248
ED over 45
Posted: 3/26/2010 11:49:51 PM

animallover68: Sure. In 70 year-olds. We are not talking about them. We are talking about younger men. The ED medications like viagra merely increase blood flow to the penis, to simulate greater arousal than is actually being experienced. A guy using viagra can have an erection reading the phone book. That is not a sign of arousal, but a merely a blood flow stimulate.

Sex is all in the brain. But when vanilla sex becomes passe, the mental stimulation is not there anymore.
"Younger men", Sonny? Like 41? (BTW, my math skills are a bit rusty, but last I checked, 41 was not 45) I'll be 57 come August. Why don't you talk to me about what I should or should not be experiencing, both psychologically and physiologically, when you have another 16 years of living under your belt? I can almost guarantee your ideas will have been revised.
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